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Are u a paid dog or something? Or are u him?

kelvinginzie:
How is he using laser on you?
And what is the issue?

He called me a witch, said they'll perform exorcism. They were using laser on me all night, to cast out "none existent" demon. I nearly died. I'm feeling somuch pains on my back, my neck. I've taken picks of my bruised back and neck.

Now that I found out he's fake, he threatened my life.

I was one of those that defended him during the OTOBO saga. Little did I know that he is a pro at deceiving, manipulating, threatening people and covering his deeds in the Cloak of being a man of God. Can you believe that?

He fail under anointing, was rebuked by God for his untold evil ways. Instead of taking correction. He rather vowed to destroy me, because I happened to be a witness. Was it my fault that he fail? Or that he's the greatest "fake" of all time?
Now he wants me dead. He's using laser on me!!!

This is someone I've called "Papa" for 5yrs now. Little did I know that he's a wolf in sheep clothing. He threatened to destroy me, thinking a was "small potatoes" but he would learn the hard way.

There's no justification for such cold-blooded murder. May he rot in jail. Ladies, stay out of abusive relationships/marriages, it never ends well.

Theblackstalln:
Why is she being interviewed naked for Godsakes

A very insensitive interviewer. How could he/she- probably a he, interview a lady stripped naked in that state? Not bothering to cover her a bit first, even if with a shirt or something.

soberdrunk:
Is there any part of the 'Nigerian constitution' that says when you are caught stealing you must be stripped 'unclad'??

I wonder ooo.

Hi nairalanders,
Is love enough reason to tie the knots? These days we watch helplessly as couples we assumed were a perfect match become sworn enemies, even those that truly loved each other.
what's your thoughts on this? Here're mine- http://kareninspirational.com/2017/05/08/is-love-enough/

OP, the hypocrisy is getting out of hand. You all speak against girls parading half naked yet secretly admire them. Men are moved mostly by what they see. Ladies are like marketers, they constantly explore to know what's trendy. What would give them an edge over others. If they sensed trashy dressing is ignored out there, none would dress that way. Maybe men should practice what they preach more. If you detest indecently dressed women, then ignore them.

You want to "woo"? Hmm...mm? Here I thought you all were wailing about them playing "hard to get." OK. No wahala, we've heard.

I concur. Some people just bare themselves on Facebook not realizing it's a public domain. These informations could lead to unforeseen troubles.

Hello Nairalanders...

Cheating on a partner is becoming a norm in our society. The perpetrators always have flimsy excuses handy- on why they cheated. Why is this relationship and marriage slayer treated so casually in our midst? Despite STDs and other destructive effects it has on relationships and marriages?

Men now claim "polygamous in nature" while the ladies often cite negligence as their reason. Are these reasonable excuses? Or is it rampant because there 're no swift repercussions in our society?
Here's my thoughts on this issue- http://kareninspirational.com/2017/03/07/the-delusions-about-cheating/

Ajinoride:
a lot of them, are suffering from the STOCKHOLM syndrome. a situation where the captive begins to see his/her captor helping them to 'achieve' and maintain a sense of belonging.
also,the cultural burden is there as well.

You made a valid point. At times I see someone hanging on when letting go should be the obvious sensible action. It doesn't just make sense.

Hello Nairalanders...


I have a burdensome question to ask those in a lousy relationship.

why do we hang on to toxic relationship? Anyone in a toxic relationship knows it already. For a relationship to become unhealthy, it doesn't happen overnight. Why hold on relationship that has turned you into a shell of your old self? That has turned you into an insecure and depressed being.

Here's my thought- http://kareninspirational.com/2017/05/01/why-do-we-hang-on-to-toxic-relationships/

Fadamant:
Well, for me I don't care or worry about anyone using whatever he or she is told against me.

My position is that, if my partner cannot handle our issues herself and must talk to her friends and others each time she has something about her relationship to worry about, then she is not up to scratch in the first place. Even if I have to talk to someone concerning my relationship/marriage, it should not be my friend or her friend. If you do that you will gradually destroy your relationship. Don't trust any friend completely.

I see your point. I guess individually we're all built differently. Some probably use that means to vent their frustrations, letting out steam. It may be harsh to breakup with a girl you're dating based on something as trivial as that...instead like you said. If she must confide in someone, it should be someone older and mature. Who would never use it against her.

Fadamant:
I am an independent thinker. I hardly seek advice and listen to other opinions, though I speak to a few mature friends if I am in a crisis situation. So I've already decided not to marry any woman who has to discuss all relationship or marriage issues with friends, mom, siblings and even pastor. When we need to talk to someone, we would know the person or pastor it should be.

Your view on this issue is quite similar to mine. I never really see the need but then I don't trust easily. I want to find out if my view is wrong. I'd like to know the advantages because from where I stand, I only see people using what they were told in confidence against the person maybe during a fight or just gisting with other friends.

Modragon:
We actually need ppl thinking with their brains, when ladies make demands from guys I blame their parents who failed in their duties and then their unborn children that will pass thru dat birth canal, I weep for them... dont be like them oooooo forming advocate for women stand for d truth, if a guy messes up I wud spit venom too

Lol. Not all women do that, you know? But aren't guys confused? You don't want independent ladies, you don't want docile ones, neither do you want those that rely on you.

As for forming advocate. Lol. A lot of women 're being messed up because they truly believe they don't have a choice or a say in matters concerning them. That's totally false and there's need for creating that awareness.

Talking of unnecessary demands- SMH. Guys were the initiators. Go investigate. When some with low self-esteem would be wooing girls with gift items, they won't think of the repercussions. How do you expect a girl you wooed with gifts to act? If you didn't give at first, she will either go find her type or change her mind-set and stay with you. If she truly cares for you.

[quote author=Modragon post=55972297]Well said baby

ikp120:
I hate it with passion. Once I find out, na breakup be that o.

I hate it too. I don't see the need but who knows, maybe there 're benefits/advantages to it. I just don't see it.

If the relationship is toxic, why not move on. Are you in chains? Unnecessary demands is a turnoff besides- some young ladies needs to learn to cut their coat according to their size. If you can't afford an iphone6, then forget about it. I'm sure they made those phones for those that can afford them comfortably.

babyfaceafrica:
Yes and no...which kain friends do you have?..some friends are better than family,pastor and doctors..some are worse than the devil himself...again I ask which kind of friends do you roll with?

You've got an interesting point there. If you actually test their loyalty, how would you decipher what their action meant? Especially if you can't discern actions beyond face value.

lilmaydee:
I don't think it is wise but sometimes you just need second opinion. I do it with my best friend and he does same with me.

Maybe you trust your best friend wholeheartedly. Have you ever considered the advise not being well intended?

Hello Nairalanders...

There's this act that bothers me a great deal. I know what I believe in my heart to be the right route but is it the best? I would love others contributions too. No man is an island they say...

Must we discuss it with our "best" friend? Must we talk about it with our pals? Does discussing this hurdles ever sprouts a sound solution to the matter?
Here's my opinion - http://kareninspirational.com/2016/12/16/is-it-wise-to-discuss-every-little-hurdle-you-encounter-in-your-relationship-with-friends/
I will appreciate yours though.

sats:
pedophile spotted

I was about saying the same thing. Paedophile still in the closet.

Op- I don't understand you. You wanted your wife to be nice to your dad. She accepted, obviously made an effort, from being distant to being nicer to your dad probably because she has come to know him better as an easy going man. Yet here you are, with your very dirty imagination running wild. What do you truly want?

Doctorfitz:
If it took u 30yrs to find Mr Right and u still haven't found him, don't rush yourself u still have another 25yrs to do that.. Buh until u realise there's no Mr Right anywhere then u'd be wiser, no one is perfect in its entirety... Have you asked yourself if u might actually be the problem?


The truth is you are what you attract. Deal with it.

Lol. Easy man...do you know there're people who actually dread sharing their personal space with others, no matter how they like you? when a relationship gets intense, they deliberately cool it.

Are you also aware such personality exist(loners to be specific)? People afraid to commit- and 've to let someone else into their life?

The thing is once one realizes that marriage isn't a "do or die" affair. It becomes easy to ignore societal pressure and just live one's life. If it's destined to be- it will happen when you aren't even searching. But if one starts running around like a headless chicken. Of course she might achieve her dream...it could be the nightmare version due to desperation.

lollypeezle:
Judge, if i may ask you, is it your death?
Is it your suicide?
She doesn't want embarrassment, now you are embarrassing her.

On another note, she knows where to go to seek help "her pastor" who she has been giving seeds to, but no help.
Men will always be men

Honestly that judge is heartless, so harsh. The woman's in debt and depressed already. Instead of referring her to a psychiatrist for treatment, the judge is rather compounding her problems.

SINZ:
Crop it

Maybe some other time. This way everyone can contribute without me imposing my view on anyone.

SINZ:
You could make FP if you post the full story.

It's quite long...u know?

SINZ:
Yea you're right

I'm glad we're on the same page finally.

lefulefu:
there are some ladies who go on dreaming about marrying davido or flavour and they believe such a union will be feasible.like linda ikeji who still day dreams about getting married to tyler perry even though perry is already married with a kid and lives in faraway america.

Well...you 've a point. What I'm against is the generalizing. Some would be shallow of course but don't forget some married ladies 're awfully shallow as well.