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The one he disvirgined

I heard that If you go to the gym, be mindful of your hygiene. Does anyone know how this can be done?

Ladies should recommend their hot friends to men if they don't want to be with those men. Ladies what are your thoughts on this? I want to hear you out

This looks seriouser than I thought

essentialone:
*“Men wey put woman for house” – real talk from experience wey I don see/hear from brothers.*

First, “put woman for house” no be small thing. You’ve gone from single to “Oga landlord + therapist + provider + roommate” overnight. The experience fit sweet, fit stress. Depends on the woman, depends on YOU.

*Wetin men dey experience – the real gist*

1. *Bills become your middle name*
NEPA, food, hair, data, “babe I need small 5k” – all now na standing order. If you dey on ₦200k salary and she no work, you go feel am by week 2. Love no dey pay DSTV.
2. *Privacy don die*
Your bachelor pad wey you fit waka with boxers? Gone. Your phone, your guys, your FIFA time – everything now get “permission settings.” Some women cool, some go police your soul.
3. *Sex dey plenty first, then…*
Month 1–3: Everyday na Valentine. Month 6: “I dey tired,” “My head dey pain me.” Not because she bad. Familiarity + stress + no more chase = frequency drop. Normal, but shocks men.
4. *You see her REAL character*
Dating na trailer. Cohabitation na full movie. How she handles anger, mess, money, your mother – all go show. Some men marry after, some run.
5. *Peace or War – no middle*
Good woman: House dey smell good, food ready, you dey reason better, your money even last.
Wrong woman: Every day na court case. You go start to dey late for office just to avoid house.

*Advice for single men before we carry woman enter house*

*1. Do 6-month “audition” first*
No move in after 2 months of butterflies. Do weekends, then 1 week straight, then holidays. See her vex, see her broke, see her on period with no makeup. If you still like her, proceed.

*2. Money talk BEFORE keys*
Who pays what? 50/50? You 100%? She cook you pay? If you earn ₦300k and she earns 0, saying “we go manage” is how resentment starts. Agree on numbers when love still dey sweet.

*3. Test her under stress*
Lose your job for 1 month [even as prank] or say “business no pay.” Woman wey be wife material go plan with you. Woman wey be liability go package and go. Better know now.

*4. Her family na your new in-laws*
You put woman for house = you don marry her mama spiritually. If her mama dey call her 10 times/day for billing, your house don turn branch office. Check the family pattern.

*5. Keep YOUR money + YOUR space*
Joint account? No. Joint apartment? Yes. Keep one bank account she no know about. Keep one chair for your room wey na only you sit. Total merge = total wahala when e scatter.

*6. If she no fit stay with her friends, she no go stay with you*
Ask her: “How long you don live with roommate?” If she dey fight everybody, na you be next. Cohabitation na skill. Some babes no get am.

*7. Sex go reduce – prepare your mind*
Don’t move her in just for 24/7 sex. Move her in because you want partnership. If not, month 4 you go dey look outside and call yourself “dog” when you’re just human.

*8. Exit plan dey important*
As you get key to enter, get understanding of how to comot. “Babe, if this no work, we go separate as adults.” Sounds harsh, but men wey no talk am dey pay 6 months rent for ghost.

*Red flags wey men talk say make dem regret*

1. *Entitled from day 1* – “You’re the man, you must provide.” No effort, no contribution, just billing.
2. *No boundaries with phone* – She dey scroll your WhatsApp while you dey shit. Next level na tracking app.
3. *Dirty/hygiene wahala* – You discover she no dey flush, or house dey smell but she fine outside. Cohabitation go expose am.
4. *Zero peace* – Every small thing na malice 3 days. You go start to hate your own house.
5. *She no get source* – No job, no skill, no plan. You don become daddy + boyfriend + government.

*Green flags wey make men say “I go marry am”*

1. *She dey add, not just take* – She cooks, she cleans, OR she pays a bill, OR she dey support your hustle. Energy dey balance.
2. *You still get peace* – You fit watch ball, see guys, no drama. House na rest, not ring.
3. *She covers you when you short* – Month wey salary delay, she sort food no make noise. That’s partner energy.
4. *Fights end same day* – Una go quarrel, but una go sleep same bed. No 1-week malice.

*Last word:*
Putting woman for house no be achievement. Putting _right_ woman for house na upgrade. Wrong one na subscription to premium stress.

Single men: Don’t use cohabitation to test if you like her. _Like her first_, then use cohabitation to test if una fit live together.

And abeg, if you’re earning ₦200k and thinking of carrying slay queen wey her wig alone na 150k, don’t ask “what’s your experience?” You already know the ending.

Beautiful

Toolegit123:
Hey my Nairaland fam.

There's this neighbor of mine,a girl in her early 20's who's still living with her parents. Recently,I got to know that that took jamb and had even written the exam. So,this morning she came to me to advise her on the next step to take since her result came out and she scored 173. First,this is someone whom I know who doesn't have any skill or handwork. Secondly,her parents aren't that well-to-do type that can see a child through any university at this moment considering how expensive the Nigerian higher institutions have become.

I told her openly that she should go and learn a skill from now till next year and can retake the jamb next year. Though she agreed to what I told her but since then,she has been behaving so cold towards me. Someone who used to respond to me jokes before no longer talks to me. And I've been wondering if what I did was wrong. Or perhaps,I should have just mind my business and let her continue with what she intended on doing.

Nlfpmod obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun Dominique nlfpmod.

She may be going through depression about the result. Usually women want you to commiserate with their issues and not always solve them as they already know the solution

Samantha125:
There's no such a thing as a beautiful marriage, all marriages have their own ups and downs, it's how you settle your differences that matters.

Your preference in the opposite sex can also determine the type of marriage you'll have... This past Sunday I was just talking to my sister, the one whose husband attempted to unalive my husband and I and she was telling me how relieved she was when her husband was sentenced because according to her, he was too controlling, went around making a lot of enemies, and how she feared that one day he might eventually use his gun on her, she had even considered the idea of leaving him... I had to remind her of how the red flags had always been there even before they got married, coz me and the man constantly clashed during the time when they were still dating as I just didn't like his energy, but I had to accept him since she loved him and was too blinded by love to see the narcissistic traits in him... Even when I heard that he had acquired a licensed gun, I told everyone in my family of how I had a feeling that that gun was gonna end up shooting someone innocent, not knowing that it was gonna be my husband and his niece.

Would advise you move very far away from your sister so that when he returns you won't be anywhere near their line of sight for silly mistakes to happen. Sorry about the whole thing

Nice thread. Male and female elders (longtime and not so long ago wedded) over to you

Gargling coconut oil kills oral bacteria. But... spit into a tissue when done, and bin it so it doesn't block the toilet

Samantha125:
I don't understand...🤔🤔🤔

He's saying the guy used fetish means to acquire the wealth. Here it is called yahoo plus

Yahoo yahoo is using fraud to get wealth whereas, yahoo plus is the use of voodoo to make wealth

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Still on the matter.


U might not be able to change the structure of your face as a man but from the neck downwards can be reconstructed with "iron" and "good food".🤔🤔

Going to the gym will beautify a man's physique

Naya261:
I am planning of travelling to the UK for my Msc programme. My main purpose of travelling is as a means of jakpa not that I really need the Msc. I sold the land i bought in Asaba in 2018 for N22m. I plan to use the money for the tuition fee deposit ( £5,000) and other travel expenses. The complete tuition fee is £15,330. I will study and work in other to pay the remaining balance.

My plan is to remain in the UK and work after my study. Please I need your advice.

Another angle could be to do a masters in nigeria along with your business. If the business doesn't succeed, you jakpa later

Massivedick:
I also want to add something important that I didn’t initially include: I intentionally asked both Lady M and Lady H about their views on prenups, because I believe it’s a practical way to understand alignment around responsibility, conflict, and fairness.

Initially, neither of them fully understood what a prenup was. After I explained it clearly—
that it simply means each person leaves the marriage with what they came in with,
and that anything built together (e.g. a house) would be shared based on actual contribution,
as a form of insurance, not an expectation of failure—their responses were very different.

Lady H was calm about it. She said she hopes to stay married for a long time, but she understands that life is unpredictable and that a prenup is not a big issue for her. She was open, practical, and didn’t see it as a lack of commitment.

Lady M, however, strongly opposed it. She said a prenup means you’re entering marriage without full commitment, that it shows you’re already planning for the marriage to fail, and that the children would suffer. I tried to explain that it’s like insurance,you don’t buy insurance because you want something bad to happen, but because you understand risk. I even pointed out that she herself has sold insurance in the past.

Despite this, she said our beliefs are not aligned and that she could not accept it. She then involved her pastor, who sent voice notes saying that any man who asks for a prenup is not truly born again, doesn’t trust God, and is planning for divorce. According to him, marriage assurance should come only from faith and the Holy Spirit.

While I respect faith, what concerned me was how quickly a personal marriage discussion turned into external control and absolute judgment, rather than dialogue and compromise. For me, this highlighted a deeper issue of values alignment, conflict resolution, and decision-making in marriage.

This, combined with past statements like “If I ever marry you, I’ll divorce you”( though she has apologized and said I have said worst things to her ) ,has made me pause and question long-term compatibility and emotional safety.

I’m not against marriage. I’m trying to enter it with clarity, responsibility, and fairness, especially as someone living overseas with more structural and financial exposure.

Have you asked God to guide and give you wisdom?

You seem to have the red flags popping up in front of you though. What you said about lady M just now doesn't sound like a relationship alignment someone should proceed with

Go for tooth scaling and polishing every 6 months

Looks like Julian alvarez is going elsewhere

Kanufootsoldier:
Most Women I approach do reject me I can tell you that 30 years of my life I have only bedded 3 women,not like I am counting but I am just telling you my reality,I think I am average In looks and I am not doing bad financially.no matter how hard I have tried women reject me I try being a bad boy It doesn't work I try being a good boy it still doesn't work, I feel.

Maybe I have a poor personality naturally that is not attractive because from childhood I have being abused and talked down on by both my parents and guardians and it took a toll on my self esteem and confidence even till date.i still struggle with insecurities.

However this is where it gets tricky, most of my friends girlfriend and wives do make advances on me but I avoid them even though it can be very tempting, I don't like betraying my friends even though some of them have betrayed me in the past with women but my conscience wouldnt allow me do such.

Currently a yoruba friend of mine who happens to be a nice friend to me is dating an igbo girl, since this girl knew I am igbo she doesn't let me rest, she will always speak igbo to me and flirt, to avoid trouble I always reply her with English, so my friend will not think I am secretly doing something with her, she doesn't hide it, and she is not the only one, she will view my WhatsApp status anytime I post and comment on them and like the posts, call me bad boy when I post big freaky pix.

I begin to wonder why normal single ladies do not make advances on me like that but ladies in relationships and marriages, lately I am having bad reconsiderations maybe I should start having affairs with these my friends babes because konji is killing me..

Get your friends gfs to hook you up with their friends or do online dating

Very important to not simp

Eat clean vegetables fruits nuts seeds lean proteins, non complex carbs, etc

In this hot weather if your armpit starts smelling, wash it with soap in the office restroom

He hopped on the monkey's back

Goodlady:
Abi o

smh

Peacecore:
E sure me die say na man u be

could be hahahaha 😂

Silentgroper:
Oga dey turn am your self ...


Hang the leg if she no wan hang an
Bend am if she no wan bend am

lol very funny stuff

there is hope for single ladies if they pay it forward

Love800:
Guy, do you know what is called experience!
I have been around these things.
My workplace is near a popular mama-put restaurant.
Even if i dont buy food, i do go there to just sit and chill during break-times at work.

I see these women alot!

Nawa

SpencerForbes:
If there’s sexual immorality, then definitely there’s sexual morality (opposite) and our preachers always divert from that.

So OP what’s sexual morality
🚶‍♂️

Here it is my brother. Delivered hot and steamy from the oven
https://youtube.com/@wholesomesexuality?si=gSKl1TtXgfHxdH3D

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

Let her stroke you with her hand

Some food is poisonous to dogs e.g. onions but the discernment part is valid sha

zenburster:
See stomach!!!

I realized that like 7 of the female housemates are single mothers.

These are the ones who even publicly disclosed it.

Gradually, the single-motherhood syndrome that destroyed the African American society is now deemed acceptable by Africans.


Clap hand for Jesus for all those involved.

Is Tracy a single mom?


Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone

Ilamina:


They are truly the queens of the Caribbean

Caribbean kwenu

Post pictures to show examples when you make these threads

Samantha125:
And this is why you should never rely on Google for everything, what the hell is this?

Hahahaha 😂 😂 😂