Once the money is very large, put some of it in a high yield savings or mutual funds account and use the interest earned to settle black tax regularly.
But after a while, tie remittance to projects that will help them start earning for themselves eg Education, skills training, business funding
Samantha125: A family that doesn't believe in tradition, because I'm from a strong traditional background and last thing I've ever wanted was for the other family to be judging my family by assuming that they're diabolical for being traditionalists.
Because many people associate African spirituality with evil, which is not always the case... In every religious denomination, there'll always good and evil people... And African spirituality raised and shaped me into the person I am today, no matter how much some people might demonize it, I'll forever be grateful of it even if I become a full blown Christian... So if my partner and his family weren't going to accept my background for the way it is, there was no way we'd have worked out.
AngelSlay: **HONOR YOUR PARENTS WHILE YOU STILL HAVE THEM**
One of the greatest signs of character is not how you treat strangers or people in authority, but how you treat the people who gave you life.
It's heartbreaking that today, some people insult their parents, call them names, send abusive messages, or even raise their hands against them. No matter the disagreements, these are lines that should never be crossed.
Your parents may not be perfect. They may have made mistakes. They may not always understand you. But there is always a way to disagree without being disrespectful. There is always a way to express your feelings without dishonor.
Remember, respect is not the same as agreement. You can set boundaries, speak your truth, and make your own decisions while still treating your parents with dignity.
If God has blessed you and you're able to support them, do so with a willing heart. Many people who have lost their parents would give anything to have one more opportunity to show them love and appreciation.
The Bible reminds us:
*"Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you."* — Exodus 20:12
Let's be intentional about showing kindness, gratitude, patience, and respect to our parents while they are still here. One day, the opportunity to say "thank you," "I'm sorry," or "I love you" may no longer be available.
Honor them. Pray for them. Care for them. And where there are differences, let wisdom, grace, and respect guide your response.
May we all leave a legacy of honor that the next generation will be proud to follow. Enjoy your weekend
Say this again when you've experienced having narcissistic parents but still valid points where the parents are very normal
Jman06: I noticed that there have been lots of open doors for me since my fiancee and soon-to-be wife came into my life. Things have just been happening magically. The jobs I had been expecting since clicked without stress. Now I'm transitioning from the private sector to a good job in a public institution. This something I had waited for since going to 3years.
Also, there has been influx of funds from debtors to those making donations and so on. My wedding is around the corner and I was hitherto worried about funds to cover all the things I needed to do for the event but honestly, things have just been taking shape in a way that seems magical.
I am beginning to agree with the saying that he who finds a woman findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from God. Please, let the blessings continue to flow even after the marriage...Amen
I was a church boy, redeemed, and my dad was a a pastor.
I was shy too and didn't start saying hi or hello to girls till I reached 23.
I was always busy with my dads building materials shop, and didn't have much 1 on 1 conversations with girls.
No girlfriend.
At 25 my friends were mocking me and wanted me to follow them to olosho house, but I was a pastor som.
Then after graduation life became tough and I still didn't have time for relationship, but I had my own apartment single room I pay rent.
Friends were trying to convince me to carry hook up come house since I now have my place.
But I wanted my first experience to be with someone I had a rapport with, even though not my girlfriend, even though I just met her and we started talking.
I didn't want it to be with someone openly selling her body to men.
So i held on and tried.
Now I'm 42, and have found a girl that we became friends at my place of work.
I'm still wondering how to go about it because I don't want to come off inexperienced or shy.
Should I forget everything and practice with a hookcusp girl or continue trying to see if I get a girl.
I'm almost 45.
propose and marry her then you can nack freely. Watch wholesome sexuality YouTube channel for tips on how to nack
pappilo: My Kenyan babe is a ride or die but I still no fit trust woman fully again.
She earns well and in 7 years has never asked me for 1 penny. Stayed by my side throughout my trial in the crown court (found not guilty) and my cancer treatment.
Even during my court case this lady offered to pay for my defence but I refused because I no want any woman to talk say na she save me. Instead I pick overnight shift in a factory after my full time job to fund my defence. 9am to 5pm day job, 6.30pm to 5 am in factory for 1 whole year.
If no be wetin my ex wife show me I for don marry am but I no fit marry again. The girl too real. God bless your Juma. Na woman you be!
How you did not die running that kind of shift is a mystery that should be studied in all universities worldwide
Poverty mindset is a curse. What happened to parents and siblings having investment or business mindset/mentality to support themselves with what they have received in the past from their work. Or did they never work? Smh
Babatunjo: The irony is plain for those who can see it. The men who chase rarely get the woman. The men who are simply too busy building themselves to chase are the ones women find a way to reach.
They know it's the truth but are just being mischievous
Haven't done it in ages (years). But when I did, I got some secret insights. Didn't go to extremes while doing it though. Less than 12 hours is a safe limit
Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.
In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.
To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.
She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am. Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.
I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.
And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.
Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?
You too draw up your own list of questions and send to her
Samantha125: In my language there's a proverb which says "tšhwene ga e ipone makopo", meaning it's easier to spot other people's flaws while rarely noticing your own.
There are some things that are so beyond your control as men that you might rarely even notice them while we ladies do, because tell me why the tone of a typical man's voice generally changes from when he's talking to his fellow men to when talking to women? It doesn't matter whether the discussion is work based or just general... Someone would just be talking to you in his bedroom voice for no particular reason...😒😒😒
And if a man is not seeking validation from his girlfriend, wife or FWB, he's seeking it from either his mother or sisters.
There are some of us men that through fasting learnt this secret and regulate it as necessary
There's even the pull women feel when an aroused man is near her. We've learnt to regulate this as well
Truvelisback: Good day, fellas. A time is coming when women would be the ones doing the chasing or hunting for men, and not the other way round. You see most of these ladies saying that they don't need any man are only deceiving themselves. Their ego, beauty(which they claimed they have and have prided in) and their achievements, won't let them admit it.
Even if that time comes, men without game will still be at a disadvantage in getting their desired woman
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