EIGHT12VE:
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pocohantas:
It's not wrong for you to desire marriage at your age, we all have how we want our life plan. I fault you for dating a 25yrs old guy when you know you want a relationship that will lead to marriage in few years time. The young man also has his own plans, just as you have yours.


Maybe you've been out of Nigeria for long, that's why you don't know that the average Nigerian guy isn't ready for marriage, financially, emotionally and mentally... at 26. The country is hard.

It's good that you guys have discussed the future, but nothing is sure for you both as it is now.

...Please, don't marry against your parent's wish. I would never do that, definitely not in Nigeria where women bear the brunt of marital failure. Try to talk your parents into liking him, they'll come around...

SirMichael1:


I knew you'd have an answer.

Lmao at the emboldened

Anyways, from what she wrote about the guy's family not desiring for their son an Igbo lady shows that the guy has probably spoken to his parent about her or his parent have seen a commitment that might instigate marriage.

MrBrownJay1:


then you would have had a FANTASTIC experience with a great person; you would have spent time to DISCOVER who your future partner truly is; figure out what they like/dislike; gotten to know them deeply; created an unbreakable bond that your parents CANT undo etc. these are the things that only "time" can show you.

i have to question your supposed "love" for this man, if you'd rather break up with him than spend 2 WONDERFUL years by that person's side. its like you are saying:" i love you, but i'd rather focus on another person than spend 2 yrs with you, and possibly breaking up"... it makes NO DAMN SENSE (if you truly loved that person)!

Jaqenhghar:

You are not that old nah.
How long have U beem dating BTW?
and how has the relationship been going on?
those are some of the things that should influence your next steps

Kondomatic:
My brother, a lot of things are unclear in her story.

I mean there is no little hint that the guy is thinking the same way as she is. It appears she's the only one making marriage plans and all. Love is a beautiful thing that is worth fighting for but it is horrible when you're fighting alone.

How committed is the guy in the relationship? We need to know that.
Why is she talking about marriage, did he propose??

MrBrownJay1:


so either drop that man or drop your narrow minded parents.



just because you COMMUNICATE about marriage does not mean you guys are gonna get hitched... but its good for both you guys to know where you are heading, so tell him how you feel.




I really like your answer, truth be told we know where we're going and we're making plans toward it...i know its bot set in stone that we end up together o but every action we're taking now is toward our future together

i smell desperation in the air.... if you definitely believe that 2 yrs is TOO long, then yes, desperate you are.

I'm not desperate I tbh, I'm just worried fort future id you understand what I mean, like what will happen if after waiting and fighting my parents don't budge or we split for some reason.

you hope to find a husband and have a marriage without issue (aka enemies)? stop dreaming as it comes with the territory, and if you cant handle such issues then you have no business getting married... (unless you marry some unattractive unwanted man).



if you start running, then be ready to ALWAYS run in your life. nothing comes easy in LIFE.

This makes sense sha

maksteve:


I also did d interview at dia head office in VI some weeks back after passing d test @workforce;but havent heard anything since den