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uj_sizzle: Oh good. I need a husband to marry in 2014

I recommend obadiah the baptist

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Our flight landed again today at Anambra (Tender love charity home)

Special thanks goes out to the 3 super duper gorgeous ladies (Ujujoan, Cdamsel, Dutchess) that made the visit an eventful one.

You guys rock

Please feed your eyes with some of the pics

Okija_juju: Shey we don reach last bustop abi another one still dey?!

3 to go

Another flight in Anambra is scheduled for today

Okota's flight is scheduled for this weekend

Last flight would be a personal delivery of hearing aid to Mr XYZ

Here is a personal voice message from me y'all

Wishing you all a merry xmas and a happy new year

Thanks for all your wonderful support throughout the year

2014 is going to be bigger and better

Ok

Happy birthday hun.
Have a blast

naijababe: doing the needful as we speak

Thank you so much iyalaje

naijababe: see my life for outside, I completely forgot about this.......JB, is it too late for donations?

It's never too late ma'am

obinoral: In a family where the man is earning 150k per month and the wife is earning a million naira per month whereas their kids are suffering from parental care. Pls who should resign and take care of the kids?

How old are the kids?

It's still alien to Nigeria to have stay at home dads

Caracta:

Oops i let your cat out

uj_sizzle: Everything

Stop scaring me jor

green with a lil coat of white in the middle

SMH

uj_sizzle:

What's wrong?

Blackfinegirl: meeting his family, meeting my family (we have met each others family) talking about the future and the type of ring i like...bla bla....plenty things tho

That's the normal thing to do if and when one is in a relationship, No?

If he plans to engage you then he will simply go ahead and buy the ring as a sign of his commitment. Words are not usually golden, actions are so be wise.

Back to your phobia, what are you scared off?

Read and digest this:

There are people who cannot love someone outside of their immediate family. They may adore their children and parents, but they feel unstable when emotions for another person rise within their hearts. They may want a relationship, but they are too scared to make a commitment.

This commitment-phobia may be due to an earlier trauma. It could be from an abusive relationship with a relative. If this has happened to you, trusting again is something you may not be ready for.

When someone you love or are connected to betrays you, the healing process is a deep one and can take some time. There is a disconnect between your feelings and what you believe life is supposed to be like. When something devastating occurs, your ability to see the world as kind may be shattered and you find yourself always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

For some, the fear of being responsible for another person is overwhelming. They do not have the ability to take care of anyone else because they are too busy simply keeping their own world together. But just like goldfish, people grow according to the size of their bowl. If you keep your life very controlled and don’t make room for other people, you could be missing out on the one thing that can make it all worthwhile: love.


Commitment-phobia can also take the form of confusing excitement with anxiety. When this happens, many people wind up ending something before it even begins. You may feel nervous in the anticipation of meeting someone new, and then read that feeling as anxiousness when it is really one of exhilaration. This kind of confusion may mean you throw in the towel before you’ve even met the other person. Be aware that anxiety and excitement feel the same to the body.

There are many reasons to avoid getting emotionally involved with another person. You just need to ask yourself if your reasons are good ones and why you may be holding yourself back from allowing someone to touch your heart.

I know that you could get hurt, but don’t let that keep you from giving yourself the gift of love. Yes, you can avoid a bunch of pain that comes with every relationship, but you won’t get any of the goodies either.

Every time we open our hearts to a person, place, or thing, we take the risk of being let down. However, to stay closed off is only going to make your life smaller and seemingly safer. The truth is that you have the keys to make your world whatever you want it to be. It has been said that the gates to hell are locked from the inside. Let yourself be free—open your self-imposed prison and walk through this life with an open heart.

If you have been hurt, you can love again. Also trust that you have the good sense to walk away from someone with toxic behaviors and let a good person stroll into your life and heart.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-fitness/201304/understanding-and-dealing-commitment-phobia

Creamish: Hitting is a big risk sha....tho its a quick answer to ur curiousity. If ur attempt to hit gives u a red light, halt. If its green...carry go. Some ladies feel insulted when u hit first...FYI.

What did we do first again?

Blackfinegirl: Hey people I need your help, I really want to get engaged, but anytime my boyfriend takes a step closer to getting me engaged, I get really scared. BTW, he is the one I love and would love to spend the rest of my life with him.....the problem is I dont know why I get scared sometimes.

What specific steps is he taking?

What exactly are your fears?

Commitment phobia encompasses a lot of things so we need to know the specific issues so we can advice accordingly

All the posters that posted your picture without authorisation were duly banned prior to the commencement of your ban.

You got banned in the romance section for abusing other posters. Members are encouraged to report offensive posts not take laws into their own hands

You further got banned in the sexuality and dating & meet up section as a result of the hidden thread that you opened to call me names in response to your ban

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Our flight landed at Uyo (St Anthony's home for destitute) yesterday.

Special thanks goes out to (Gboliwe and Dutchess) for all their hard work.

Your efforts are very much appreciated by TeHN.

Thanks ever so much

Attached are some of the pics from the visit

@madam cc
I want to be served with the golden plate the next time i visit