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@ sisisioge MetaBroadband, Biglittlelois, mrmislim

Bride price/wedding stuffs, are all "just a formality.."

Just do whatever you think is right to balance all sides to fulfill all righteousness and after everything, a few days, it's all over.

You don't owe anybody any explanation again

Any how the bride want to handle her family side relations thereafter, is her headache.

It doesn't concern the husband again.

So just a few days, close eyes and clear everything. Nothing bad in that.

If the bride or her mother are insisting on not contacting the biological father, its a sign of toxicity/bitterness, Its better to leave the relationship because that toxicity/bitterness can be served to the husband in the future.

If the bride in particular and her mom cannot accept to relate with her biological father for a few days just for the purpose of wedding, then it means after marriage they cannot tolerate/will be rigid and uncompromising ... It's big red flag.

The kind of home, you will call wife, sit down let's talk... She no go hear word dey form strong head

May God continue to increase you in wisdom and understanding. Many in our world today lack wisdom and understanding, so they make decisions out of emotionalism, their own faulty upbring and programing.

God bless you plenty, I pray that the op receives the needed wisdom, clarity and boldness to deal with this issue for the sake of his marriage in future.

MetaBroadband:
Thank you all for your excellent contributions. Please note the following:

1. They said the man abandoned them, but what if it's not actually what happened, so let's not be emotional.

2. I'm not paying the bride price to the biological father, but there should be an understanding between both fathers at this point. because if the child was taken away from the man or if he had acted as a child then, both parents can come to an understanding so that my wife won't hurt any part of the tradition in the course of our marriage.

3. I know that my mother inlaw would be angry, but I still feel it's my right to know. What if something bad happens to my wife because she married in a way that violates her tradition (give Caeser things to Caesar)

4. I'm doing this for my fiancee not me, because as far as I've paid my bride price nothing can come to me, but if anything comes to my wife, it automatically affects me. So it's not just her and her mum's business.

Thank you as you put this thoughts into consideration as well.

Please excuse typos

The discovery may turn out to be you in the future.

Creamypie:
Oga, try locate him, u weren't there when their fight started, don't be caught in d middle, no matter their explanation. Irrespective of his short comings. Tell them your family must acknowledge him. You will understand later. You have to hear from both sides. Your family have full right to meet him and his people. u may be surprised that she deliberately kept her father away from their lives after she met her husband, and us am to pepper the man when she's grown up.na so one wedding we attended in ogwashi uku, delta state, the girl mama no want us to meet her dad people ( dad is dead from stroke, cos of her mum wahala) even the man people were scared when we eventually went to meet them. Her mum made sure she isolated and seperated her late husband from his family, after which she frustrated him to b.p, stroke and eventual death. women. Them go still carry grudges face you and sandwich u as a married man, isolating you from ur family.

You head is very correct, I recommend that you locate the biological father to get the real story and also that the same thing does not repeat itself in your life. The last part is coded, many of the young men will not understand the last part of the above statement.

Can you still get this?

Do you know how to check and confirm that you're buying pure Boer and kalahari goat?

Or even the level of mixture?

I will suggest that you should find someone who knows the goats very well and pay them if possible to help you during purchase so that you don't loose money, the goats that you have mentioned are not rice and beans O.

They are very expensive.

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Deeprooted:
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Used to absorb moisture and keep things dry.

He got me two boys who have been on my farm close to Abeokuta for one month and a few weeks now and there has been no issues.

Please send me your whatsapp number, I was expecting your reply.

I may be interested, but I need the total picture.

Would you mind stating all the costs individually here, so one can make an informed decision?

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Where are you based?

If you're a guinea fowl farmer, please I contact me, I need some sourcing information and more.

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I am interested in buying some Alfafa and Brachiara grass seeds, please let me know if you any for sale and how you sell.

Do you still have the Boer goats?

If you do, let me know the age(s) of the males and females as we as the prices.

Where is your farm located?

I will come and inspect, make payment and pick up.

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Young man, you better stay away from abortion. Many will tell you that it is alright because you can't take care of the child, but the short, medium and long term consequences of abortion are too dangerous for you and the girl.

You are better off facing the consequences from yours and her parents rather than face consequences that will last you a life time and may jeopardize your destinies, don't be deceived that abortion has no consequences.

That child may be the glory of your family and your own future, be very careful with the decision you make.

I pray that you find the courage as a man to face the consequences of yours and her parents without aborting a child and face your future.

You must be a man and face whatever comes your way, but not a coward, who will kill to cover up what he has done, wrongly or rightly.

I pray that you both fear God, do what his right and get on with the rest of your life. It may be difficult to face people and bringing up a child while still in school, with a very young mother, but it will be easier later on in life.

I know that you won't understand know until you're maybe in your mid 30s, 40;s or even 50s, I pray that your ask God for strength and wisdom in this time.

Those who will or are encourage you to abort will not be there when the consequences come, you will bear it yourself.

God bless you

Look Mr man,

I get your point and I also get hers, there is nothing wrong with her wanting to further her studies inspite of the fact that the first degree seems useless at the moment. What is very clear is that both of you don't have common vision, maybe because you have not discussed it at a very deep level to clarify the following:

Who she wants to become in life.
What she wants to achieve in life.
Where she is going in life.
How she want to get there (values, i.e. is she willing to steal or sleep with any man or animal or do juju or join a cult to get all the above).

All of the above goes for you.

The major reasons for marital and a mismatch in the above, many of you young people are fascinated by so called beauty/good looking, make up, six pack, car, money, good sex and all sorts of things that have no significant on the fulfilment of your purpose in life.

The main issue here is her lack of maturity in tabling her plan before you long before making the decision and so that you can work her plan into your future together, which will give you the assurance that you seek, which is why you're unhappy.

The second issue is where she is getting the money to further her studies from, this is the questions you should be asking her or what she should have told you, this is a very crucial issue since you have both been struggling financially, I don't mean any disrespect here.

The amount of money you both make from your business will not be able to fund her masters degree, so I suspect that someone with better financial prospect is in the picture and she has not told you - Please forgive me if I am wrong, but it begs the questions******

You can either sit her down and ask her about five questions of which the answers will help you to make the necessary decisions that will not be emotionally driven or you can just let her go and carry on with your life.

My advice to you is to try and sit her down, ask her 5 pertinent questions.

The source of the funds****

When did she start thinking about going back to school and why the sudden decision.

Are you part of her future plan?

And the three points I made above - Who she wants to become in life. What she wants to achieve in life. Where she is going in life - Many people don't know where they're going in life, they just things like, "I want to be rich", "I want to get married", "I want to do this and I want to have that", without a clear purpose of what it will take to get there and it affects their life purpose.

You cannot control anyone's life or decision, but your own.

If you can't plan and sort out simple issues like this one at this stage of your life, then big trouble may be brewing in the future that may waste your time and bring pain. One of the indices of success in life/marriage is the ability to be able to work out issues amicably with your partner, even when you don't see things the same way.

My advice to you is to find a wise and God fearing adult to mentor you and seek God's plan for your life, you should get a vision for your life and take this your business to the next level or use the proceeds from this business to start or build another one, let your destiny/purpose become your pre-occupation.

Marriage can make or mar your destiny, pay attention to your spiritual, emotional and psychological growth.

The ability to discern people is extremely important for progress in life and destiny fulfilment, please pay attention to your growth in all aspect of life and pray that God will guide to meet the person that you both build your future together.

Reflect7:


Yes they do breakdown EVERY DAY.

I am not going to argue with you because I've lived there and have known this since before you were born.

Are you alright at all? Where exactly have you been in Europe of North America, that you're arguing blindly that trains breakdown daily?

Metuh:


Where and when did Nigeria rise by 10 places?



Stop showing your ignorance to the public.

The answer is below, google is your friend and stop abusing people as ignorance.

https://tradingeconomics.com/nigeria/competitiveness-index

Please show us a link to an authenic information that proves Obi`s claim.

Thanks

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Viperman,
Thank you the prompt response, I'm after a DOUBLE CAB manufactured between YEAR 2000 & 2002. Appreciate your help!

It's very possible for a MARRIED MAN to be TOTALLY FAITHFUL to his wife, I've been married 14 YEARS this august and I've been faithful all the time. Trust me I played the field in my younger days, but by the grace of GOD I was changed. I have about 3 other friends who are faithful to their wives and we go on boys outting together, watching out for each other. The fact is that there are temptations every now and then, but the consequences of the fling/affair whatever you want to call it might cost you more than you bargain for. I'm not claiming to be so strong in my own strength to remain faithful, but with the HELP of the HOLY SPIRIT, there has been times when I'm away on a business trip and one has been chased by the opposite sex. Brothers, you need to know that infidelity will costs you more than you're willing to pay, I have a very close friend who had a brief fling(did it twice) and there's no a baby and a broken marriage! Women should also do their utmost best to satisfy their husbands sexually, PLEASE SISTERS, stop using SEX as a WEAPON and pray continuously for your husbands that they will not fall prey to SHARKS! Enough said, will continue another time.

I am looking for TOYOTA TACOMA OR ANY DOUBLE CAB PICKUP FROM ABOUT YEAR 2000 - 2002, it should be here in Nigeria.

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