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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 43Ronin: 3:33pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
IamMobisola: you see, South easterners and South southerners are not like yoruba people. marriage is a big deal to those people and hence they can't just mind their biz when it comes to things like marriage and burial. There are customs and traditions that must be followed, and one of them is getting information or asking questions. I even heard that for akwa ibom there's a lot of spiritual stuffs involved in their marriage that could be detrimental to either couple. So stop littering the tread with baseless advice abi you also got daddy issues 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by vislabraye(m): 3:34pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: That's tradition, indeed. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Kobojunkie: 3:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
vislabraye:Tufiakwa! |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by mastermaestro(m): 3:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: All this you spewed here is indulging dereliction of fatherly responsibility. Your culture is a very faulty one created by a set of chauvinistic men who believed that men can do no wrong no matter the magnitude of wrongs they are caught in. A father is not a sperm donor. Otherwise, this sets societies back. Somebody makes a mess and yet receives an honour medal because culture dictates so. Get over this rubbish culture now! An irresponsible man must not be handed the honour badge of fatherhood. Fatherhood without responsibility is criminality. You have a criminal culture I must say. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by nevadahenz2014(m): 3:36pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
hmmmmm.......this matter go far ooooooooooooooooooo.......as long as the the lady said you should not bother yourself.....bros no just bother yourself ooo...go ahead with her decision..mother in law's are people you should not offend ooo..but when it turns the way round on the long run..u go just fold your arms and look away.... |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Micheal56: 3:36pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Femi8586:Watin be biological father ? Bro truth be told If person a abandon u wen u young u go remember am wen u start earning I need a yes or no 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Sermwell(m): 3:37pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Micheal56:The one who gave birth to you is your father!! Nothing can change that! You'll only be decieving yourself! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Everfrank(m): 3:40pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Mind your business and do the needful. After marriage you can follow up and reconcile the girl with her father. Her mother has surely poisoned her mind against the biological father. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Micheal56: 3:40pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Sermwell:Bro calm down all humans are diff I don't joke with case of been abandoned I know how it feel 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by bukatyne(f): 3:40pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
AmazonTopaz: 1. True 2. I don’t understand; he will look for a father (he doesn't know the whereabouts) and after the miracle of finding him introduce himself as what? What if the man has re-married and did not tell his new family that he is after 1? It even shows that the OP lacks critical thinking and what it takes to lead a home. The moment he knew that he was marrying the lady, he should have influenced her to see reason why her father should be engaged and implore her till she agrees. But no, he proposed and is at the point of list collection realised that he 'needs' the biological father. 3. Shame ke? You see them dancing like they did most of the work. Anyways, the mothers are always compensated; doing very well for themselves and enjoying the kids when they succeed. The fathers usually dissolve back to where they came from. Maybe just sending monthly upkeep money to them if required. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Edipet(m): 3:41pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Ufuka:You should say "A WISE WORD" you are truly knowledgeable about about tradition. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by gbogboija: 3:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Matters like this are thought provoking, and I will advise that you apply wisdom. Women can be funny at times, and whatever they tell you may not actually be true. Do your due diligence. Ire o. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Vboot1: 3:43pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
The step father didn't bring her into this world. You should, you MUST see her biological father before doing anything about her. Anything you aside that, you're on your own. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Staywithbina: 3:44pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Thereishel: 3:44pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
You definitely need to meet her biological father because of the future don't listen to all this immature people saying is unnecessary |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 123yes(m): 3:47pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
My brother any body who advised you to live the biological father aside in this issue don't know what he is saying. The dowry belongs to the biological father. If you do other wise the consequence that will come up one day, you will surely remember my talk |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Sermwell(m): 3:48pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Micheal56:How you feel about abandonment doesn't change a natural phenomenon!! You'll just find yourself in a conundrum!! What if the biological father goes after you both legally and even spiritually?? He will win you hands down especially when you didn't even get to hear both sides! It's unwise to hear only one side of a story and make a decision as serious as marriage! Haba |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by BigBen23(m): 3:50pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
If you don't want problems in your marriage, do the needful and meet the biological father. Hear form the two sides of the coin. Women can do all evil against men because they barely speak I have a girl I'm dating right now whom I wish to settle down with when the time comes. I have only known the mom. I have asked her about her dad, but she's not ready to talk yet, which I'm not in a hurry to know. But you see, if I finally wants to settle down with her or approaching to it, she doesn't even need to be the one to tell me about her father, because I go dig and dig from all angles. So, do all possible to know all about her father. They may be the ones who abandoned the said man and sugarcoat everything to you. Doing this is a tradition and a needful decision. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by thedarkened: 3:51pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Birthing a life is a process that does not fully guarantee nor complete what it takes to be called a father until an integral part (responsibility) is carried. Appreciate and respect that man that took it upon himself to look after your wife-to-be till now, by involving him in the introduction and bride price process as suggested by the mum and your fiancee. Along the line, prefferably before your wedding, you can meet the dad. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Tonnyray: 3:51pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Very deep but this is what I'll say in a nutshell: To prevent you being the side-lined father-in-law in another 25-30 years' time, (cos trust me these things come in cycles) tell your fiancee your parents insist on having a brief meeting with her biological father as your family tradition entails but assure her that all marriage rites and obligations will be to her step father. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by lomprico(m): 3:52pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: You wan go find trouble where e Sidon jeje. Na her papa train her? You as a man, lets assume your baby mama took your child away, won't you be making effort to be in the child's life? Unless you are an irresponsible father. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by silibaba: 3:53pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
satelliteDISH:what if the biological father come be say is already rich? How much is bride pride self wey you no want the man to reap. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by grandstar(m): 3:54pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband I can not have a daughter somewhere and not find her. Children experience a lot of ugly things when there's no father around. Many times, the stepfather sexually abuses the child. Are you a man if you've not contributed a dime to your child's upbringing?(Read 1 Tim 5:8 Search for the man after the wedding. Whatever his side of the story is immaterial if he can't show proof he searched for her. Will her stepfather not to reap for his care? Her dad was simply the sperm donor. Her stepfather was the one who scratched her back when she said "it's itching me." Toddlers and their wahala 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Souzin: 3:54pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Over sabi wan kill you so. To some of you, a man can do no wrong And the idea that a man can abandon his family (something we see every time) is outlandish and the mother must have done something terrible to the saint, that is her biological father. Mumu talk. Face your wife and the family she's shown you 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by lomprico(m): 3:54pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
123yes: If he paid bride price for her mother then he can claim that but if he did not marry or pay anything on her, he has no right to claim any bride price. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by jazzyking(m): 3:54pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Creamypie: You head is very correct, I recommend that you locate the biological father to get the real story and also that the same thing does not repeat itself in your life. The last part is coded, many of the young men will not understand the last part of the above statement. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by nams77: 3:57pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
sisisioge: I see a lot of childish comments here. it's clear most of you don't know your culture and tradition and don't go close to your elders. Traditional, the op needs to see the biological father. He need not do any financial aspect towards him but custom demands he see him Op, go and ask the elders from your family. You will hear exactly what I Just told you. Leave all these nairaland children alone. This is a matter for elders |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by jazzyking(m): 3:57pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: The discovery may turn out to be you in the future. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by IamAsiri: 3:58pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Hhansome: Were you there? Just sit down and be typing nonsense against women because of likes. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Vboot1: 4:09pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Smart dummy |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by chrisooblog: 4:10pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
The bold is all that matters. Why are you so bothered to hear from the biological dad when you don't know him from Adam. Abi is it the father you want to marry? Your wife to be and in-laws have told you who the significant people in their lives so why bring stress on yourself where there is non? Unless their is a red flag you've noticed in your fiancée relax and carry on with your preparations. Even if you are curious you can use style to ask her friends or family members what really happened but seriously whatever answer you get your woman has told you the man doesn't feature in her life. Respect that and move on with your wedding preparations. MetaBroadband: |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Ajalekoko76(m): 4:10pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Be Careful.... Marriage is beyond your view. The family your wife has issues and you will be automatically be party in that issue no matter what you do or how clever you are. ARE YOU PREPARED TO JOIN IN THE ISSUE / MATTER / CASE? You can't ignore the biological father. I will advise you don't rush marriage especially where biological and step fathers are involved, you and your family members must investigate the family you are about to marry from privately - marriage is beyond finance and finance, it involves families especially extended families. Let me say this to your mother in law is a reflection of your wife (character wise)😁 you will thank me later. Don't put the issue / matter of your mother in law and the biological father of your wife on top of your head, you are not to settle quarrel rather to inform the general public your father in-law inclusive that you intend to marry this lady, reasons for public announcement are many not limited to brouhaha between your mother in law and biological father of your would be wife. See, apply wisdom here, don't fence your family let them involve and advice you. You can claim that biological father of your lady call or stumble on you and you had talk on the marriage since the proposal is in the public domain. Remember, it important to know the history of family you're going just to guide against future occurrence. Above all, you have pray against curses , spell in your family and the lady's family- I do not suggest you begin to visit shrines or pastor's houses . Exercise FAITH in your life, give yourself fasting and prayer not any one. |
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