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harlos: If she is strong enough to fight the deactivating devil, she is strong enough to overcome every other NL temptation

You chick isn't matured enough?

Ogbeni why you dey Para now?

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Ur turn 'Sweetheart of Life' *Whoever gave you that name*

[quote author=sweet-tease]Goodmorning house! Even though am late for class, i read thru 7pages..... *See all nyt discussn*


Truth is, the deactivation spirit wanted to possess me also, but i overcame lol. I messed up big time with this account and like reine said, i hate looking at my mistakes, i prefer cleaning it, i wanted to disappear and open anoda account, start all over anonymously and the deactivation button came up(my own start b4 deactivation button seff). I thought about you guys, have grown really fond of y'all and the fact that i have to stay and deal with my mistake, no matter wat happens and looking at it now, its not so bad afterall. Am glad i didn't deactivate(how many more will i have to deactivate?). Am sure *most* of the ladies that deactivate their account(not all and not few of them) do it cos they have messed up one way or the other and wants to detach themselves from the mistake, jbluv, your analysis is so ryt..... Its an anger directed towards someone, i know i will say i got bored and NL is just an online site for fun if i got caught with a new account(no offense to reine, d fact that you turned in yourself immediately exempts you) but truth is, most of them are running from something.

I'll miss Br3nd4, a new account won't feel the same.[/quote]Bless you Sweet......you just rose above what I termed 'childishness'(no offense meant @all ). You have attained online maturity. I so wish I cud just seize you from harlos ryt now *evil grin* (I love ur wowness).

Time to get over it thoh. Jidegirl12(for those who knew her) mentioned she wud be leaving and she did. (if she came bck she wanted to do it without alerting ppl). Brendarl deactivated both accounts so she may come bck but maybe not immediately. She has to attain 'maturity' and then maybe she'll come bck with a different moniker.

RubyTheBlogger: must u ansa a kueshun with anoda? Nigerians sha

And you just answered my Q with a Q. Nigerians sha

Just confess you like her n i'll divert her towards ur syd

RubyTheBlogger: Anyway gud mawning JB.. Am ruby..

Anyway gud morning Ruby.....am JB

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RubyTheBlogger: Na so una go dey hype una xef.. Na same uni una attend?

Must ppl attend same uni to determine such tinz?

lalaboi: Na for your mouth! Like i didn't know!

That's why we are getting engaged . . and i will make sure you are not invited to parrry . .

.......you kno I dnt need an invite to such parries.......I just simply gate-crash.

lalaboi: To Brenda mata!.

I wonder what the reason was but i guess some people don't take things serious like some people. It can pain sha. I trust she will come back as a different moniker.

Bleep Nairaland for having a deactivate button. oh wait, its not NL's fault, its the muchachos that cried like babies to have it. It is being misused IMO.

If Brenda comes back with something else it would feel like you are speaking to someone else. just like its taking people time to adjust to Kaylize

@bolded I hope so but then she deactivated her 2nd moniker too so......
AllizWell

lalaboi: JB - No wahala i read through all of it, even the one you dey use style change . . but its cool man. . .

But it sounded like you guys were having a heart to heart >: with my own ReineVioli . . sege dangoroba, make i casssh u

Hehehehe ......ina za ka sameni?

Kay is a gud gal you kno.......n very intelligent.

Princeparix: yea man. D nyt was awwwww...u no wat i mean.

So wat are ur planz 4 d day?

Some stuffz to takia of I guess.

Princeparix: ¤swims out from River sleep¤

#yawns#

gudmrng peepz

Morning Broda. Hope you slept well.

Morning lalaboi...plenty to catch up with I guess?

Morning everyone .......AllizWell

Kaylize76: I wasn't? I'm sorry about that

Me to be un-nice? I can't remember a time I was un-nice...just wanted to be serious at least.

Okay okay, let me say the last and MOST IMPORTANT reason. It might sound silly but it is what I hold on to. I hate NL religion section. With a passion and I dont want any new account going there. For any reason. Unfortunately, I don not heed to my own warnings and then I crossed. So it had to go. Extremely drastic but there is a reason behind my reason

Awryt........taken
I betta tuck you in bed b4 somebody will say I

Kaylize76: Loooool The two powers are at war. But Seuns' always wins. Victory is always inevitable but the fight will be worth it

Just seek my assistance when ur ready.

Kaylize76: Dutty whyne But thanks anyway

As in, I started off too nice...and I wasn't feeling it anymore

Hmmm.........but did you really start off nice? I can't remember you ever bin nice to me sha........and let's asume ur start up was actually nice then how wud you seem lyk if you were to be un-nice?

Kaylize76: Ive had Twitter, Instagram, and other crap accounts that I wiped off, and Im not going back there...but NL seems to be a big problem for me. I really did not want to come back but I guess Seun's juju carry more power pass my own

Hmmm.........Sounds like an interesting movie to me. So have you surrendered to Sein's juju are do you nid more power added to urs?

Kaylize76: Carpe diem...Carpe tempus...Happiness is relative but when it comes, do you push it away? Like I said, it is impossible to be extremely generous to the point of perfection. Just like eating your most desired chocolate and you know how you would destroy your toilet when you do, but you REALLY want to, do you say no? Possibly you might say responsibility...integrity...but like you said experience would help them learn.

I know you want me to admit it is wrong, but I will have you know, I never said it was right. I just want you to realize that we know, but we want you to understand even if it is the size of a mustard seed.

Oh yes, lest I forget, Reine was looking like a mumu to me

OK(A man shud neva try to win an argument/discussion when it is with a lady-an intelligent one @ that)

Mumu in what sense?

Kaylize76: Yes, that was exactly how I felt. Probably, but I would be more considerate now by 'hibernating' and not hurting others.

Gud......that's the spirit.......
Am just imagining that there may come a time I wud choose to deactivate my facebook profile. But I'd I choose to do that it simply means am not going bck there. Not that I wud go bck there with a different profile.

Kaylize76: Well I know it is only you that can make yourself happy because if by making you happy she remains sad, what does she gain? If the account remained because of 'consideration' and she was still unhappy and you all being aware she is not happy at all with its existence, who is being selfish here? There will always be variations in life, and your reaction towards that shows whether you are considerate or not.

I hope you do know that happiness us an abstract word coz it is relative. Some happiness are short-lived(like deactivating ur account coz you soon realize you may need to create another) while some are not without hiccups(good attitude wud be dealing with the hiccups when they come not quitting only to realize it didn't help)

Kaylize76: Soooo this just says you all caused if we are to cancel Individualistic Freedom because I know you guys have lives to live right?

This just shows a lack in double coincidence of needs/wants. As you explained, she wants to be less bored but apparently you guys at the same time were not ready for it? Who acted first according to their next plan? Was the person at fault?

So is that how you also felt? And are you likely to feel like that again?

[quote author=isale_gan2] I'm gonna check your posts. You sound like trouble. Only registered in August, and already have 2k posts! Of course, it's easy to rack that up in Forum games.

Anything, as in, the thread is not about a specific event or news item. Use your discretion. lol. I can't tell you what to post.

BTW, (temporary) moderator, please un-hide my hidden post o. I wasn't responding to anyone. Spambot didn't like me editing a large photo out of the post.
Shukran, Mukinatudeen. [/quote]Trust me, my type of trouble is the type you'd love to invite so don't be in a hurry to run away from ur own thread just yet.
So as a newbie to ur corner don't you think courtesy demands you give me a comfy sit, maybe some Chinese food and some red wine?

Kaylize76: But men do create islands, because the need would arise one day. You cannot be completely non-self-centered in life. It is highly impossible to attain that perfection.

Whether you like it or not ppl always want to he happy. And Happiness can only be gotten when others are happy or sad(some ppl are lyk dat). So its either you depend on others or others depend on you. Either way you can't buy out others into consideration.

Kaylize76: i shall slot this into the relationship analogy. Not all has the courage to tell that you are messing up in order for the offender to ask for another chance. For the girls I know and me in particular, we just give it. No one likes a nagging old lady. We give it and give it till we decide enough is enough and then 'no more chances'.

But what if the fellow deserves nothing but you give that chance because you feel a change is on its way but it never comes? All these is planned you know.

True talk. That us where sensitivity comes in. People are usually insensitive and that's why bad feelings bottle up till the bottle us full and then it has to spill.

Take for instance, I knew Brendarl us the type that gets bored easily and likes good company. I cud have guessed she was feeling bored but not to the extent of deactivating her account. Now I know ladies like it when guys confess they've bin missed but lately dis room has bin dull and I& a numba of others had bin insensitive (I guess) and she felt her absence was nt felt.(just another theory)

Kaylize76: Then it would have been better if the discussion never happened and she did it her way.

Thank you. At least you see to an extent.

I like you for one thing, you just proved to me something that i've been thinking about for months, Individualistic freedom does not exist.

It shouldn't exist coz no man is an island. The feelings of others (in the real world & in a world that may become real) have to be minded lest you be seen as self-centred.

Kaylize76: The gravity of the situation depends if a chance is worth it or not. And then what the individual wants next.

Now that is where our philosophies differ. For me it depends only on if you request for another chance. I then asume ur still learning until am sure thatnyou can never learn. Then no more chances.

And even when you don't ask but its written all over you that you want another chance (I can read people) then I still give it. I just take out some time to cool off not act spontaneously.

Kaylize76: What if she doesnt want to offend you? You put her in this condition and then you blame her for acting that way ...a double blow if I should say.

But eventually I end up bin offended. So what's the point in not wanting to offend me?
Ladies just have this notion (IMO) 'when the desirable us not available, the available becomes desirable until the desirable arrivea' (some guys r lyk that too sha)

Kaylize76: I believe in seeing things objectively and not labeling some things I disagree with as wrong because I was hurt or affected negatively.

And if you still correct her, and she still does it, what happens next?

Different philosophies of life. I believe people deserve as many chances as you can afford until they no longer deserve it. But you must have given them those chances FIRST. Coz you may be the one that wud require chances the nxt.

Kaylize76: Discussion is not always the answer. Discussion might not take place if the result will be obvious and the result is not what the 'mature peep' wanted. And also, she might discuss with you and even agree with you but still follow her mind, because its what she has been planning to all along

Invariably you r saying ladies thrive on deception. So you may not also be completely truthful in saying it was just boredom that made you deactivate

Kaylize76: True, but then again, sometimes being inconsiderate is for the greater good and only the perpetrator of the act would understand...and a select few.

So you believe in tHis spontaneity in behavior?
Then I might have someone I was planning on just correcting b4 but now am changing ma mind courtesy you.

ReineViolette: Now now, dear.

Hmmm .....what you quoted has bin modified thoh.

Kaylize76: An Im sorry for not considering y'all. Its still Reine

But this Kaylize doesn't seem to throw kisses lyk Reine. And I think its more fun to have two monikers and interchange them during boredom than to kill one and reborn another.

Kaylize76: something went wrong= she became bored (either/and external and internal factors)
something went wrong= she was annoyed (either/and external and internal factors)
something wet wrong= anything contrary to the normal flow of being in that relationship. (either/and external and internal factors)


IT does not have to be ambiguous- something just went -'wrong'

And mature peeps discuss when tinz go wrong with the aim of preventing a re-occurrence not just 'do their will' like it depended solely n wholly on them

Princeparix: got 2 jet.


Busy day ahead.


Gudnyt Jb nd Reine Kay

Gnyt n Gmorn.