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God bless you all for your kind advise and contribution

Since this lock down I've released that I can stay a month without sex and I won't die because I've stayed a month plus at home and again I'm broke too


I will try my possible best to discipline myself

From all the comments that's why I understand
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Dear Reader,

How are you doing?
Please take some time to answer this. Your emotions are valid.

With the lockdown extension and uncertainty of life during and after the pandemic, it's perfectly okay to be afraid, confused, indifferent and maybe excited.


The first step is ensuring that you're in touch with your inner self.

As you stock up on food, we wanted to share a few tips on staying mentally healthy this period. Some of the emotional issues that accompany seasons of uncertainty are:

Anxiety
Loneliness
Paranoia
Panic attacks

Anxiety

Anxiety is an intense, excessive,persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. You experience an increase in heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating and feeling tired may occur.

Solution: If you feel two or more of these symptoms. Try breathing exercises but when this lasts for a longer duration, please see a therapist.


Loneliness

Feeling sad and unhappy about being socially isolated this period is understandable. For a lot of people separated from loved ones during this lockdown, it can get increasingly lonely but don't be distraught, here's what you can do:

Solution: If you live alone, try to stay in touch with family and friends through phone calls, video calls, and text. Don't be shy to initiate conversations. You can play games over the phone and initiate online group activities. You can also jump on the #dontrushchallenge and #bopdaddychallenge, only remember to tag us and we'll be there cheering you on.



Paranoia

Paranoia is an unrealistic distrust of others or a feeling of being persecuted. In this period, you might feel panicky and hypersensitive especially with the news of unrest going round.

Solution: learn to separate facts from feelings, keep your living space well lighted and eat healthy meals as at when due to decrease agitation. Also, reduce the amount of unnecessary news content you consume per time.

Please Note: Extreme degrees of paranoia may be a sign of mental illness and the service of a mental health practitioner will be required.


Panic attacks

Panic attacks are sudden episode of intense fear or anxiety and exhibition of physical symptoms, based on perceived threat rather than imminent danger.

Solution: Breathing exercises; breathe out, breathe in, hold for 4 seconds, exhale through the mouth for 8 seconds and repeat 4 times.

Please note: that an extension of any of the above for a long period of time might be an indication of an underlying health issue that requires the service of a mental health practitioner.


We implore you to stay strong in this season of social distancing and self-isolation.

We will get through this

Also, remember to maintain personal hygiene, especially constant hand washing, drinking lots of water and staying indoors.


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Lalasticala

Once you're broke you will

Know that your babe is a liability
That most of your friends are not worth it
That you need to have multiple sources of income
Conji will be far from you
You will know the importance of piggy bank

pansophist:
The hallmark (amongst many) of a mature man is the ability to control his vice, his dark side, and limit its dangerous effect to a reasonable extent. You do not have to eliminate your vices, (because you can't) but you can control and chain-grip it that it doesn't destroy or negatively affect your life. For men, typical vices are philandering, gambling, aggression, greed, to name a few. Everyone has it, but few people can recognize, talk more about controlling it.

Firstly as a man, you should pursue a meaningful life. You should wake up every morning full of enthusiasm, to squeeze the best out of the day. Your purpose should burn like a furnace, that women will not be the main goal, but complimentary. If you wake up every day just working for money without a burning purpose, then you are doing it wrong. Money is a by-product of the goal, not the goal itself. Also, the rewarding thing is that if you assume your throne, you will actually not waste your money philandering, as women will find you attractive naturally. There is something particularly infectiously attractive about a man on a mission with confidence. Be that man. Also, a sure way to stop philandering is to actually find a woman that truly loves you, that you love as well, and to get such women, you should lead a purposeful life that is true to yourself. For it is better to be at the bottom of the mountain you want to climb, that at the zenith of the wrong mountain. Philandering also has negative effects, which are the inability to bond with one woman, seeing women purely as a means for your sexual gratification, messing-up your dopamine reward system that you can only be aroused and stimulated sexually with renewed partners, to name a few.

Most importantly, you should meticulously filter what goes into your mind. Your mind is like an engine, if you pour in the wrong fuel or oil, it won't work well until it finally knocks down. In practice, you should stop watching porn, mainstream music that shows mostly unclad women, and normalizes sex and hedonism. Stop clubbing (of course, I am not excluding having drinks at the bar with friends). You owe it to yourself to engage in activities that will enrich your soul, and not easily trigger situations that will make you lose control of handling your vices. Sometimes I do feel really bad for this our generation, we are the most distracted, confused, propagandized and brainwashed generation in all of human history. Your mobile phone even made it so easy to be part of the herd. Know this, and release yourself from it. It is not an easy journey, but with persistence, you will get there. If not, you will be a mindless consumer, bitter, and the proverbial avocado that appears soft and mushy outside, but hard and bitter inside, the very thing capitalistic society wants from you.

Thanks very much

The first time I tasted beer was on 25th December 2012 I got drunk and vomited on my uncles house after he talked to me I stopped taking beer till today, I'm not a gambler and have never been to club

I will work on myself
It has been very hard for me trying to stay away from woman

Harllaby:
[color=#000055]I don't know about your belief but sometimes, our problems doesn't need ritual or barbaric sacrifices. You know yourself better, reflect and turn a new leaf where necessary and don't let some spiritual Priests give your life unthinkable meanings. [/color]

Can such thing be from linage?

My dad is a womanizer, he smokes a lot, and he drinks a lot

I hate my dad though he is late

I don't drink, I don't smoke and I can't layy hand on a woman but I addicted to sex

Erediauwa:
This is "Set Back" and there's only one Man you need to talk to in your quiet, and that's GOD Almighty.


Have you talk to God?

But be sincere I'm not strong in prayers

Poorboy:
Some case maybe spiritual, so try and go for deliverance since you believe in God.

If after deliverance you are certified as not being under spiritual attack, then go to the hospital for mental examination...


If after mental examination you are certified to be mentally stable, then..... I will finish it later I am eating.

I should head to 3rd mainland bridge and do the needful

Shibaraba:
Last paragraph explains everything.
Hanty divorce that man that's how your kids will grow up with an addiction. If you had a father figure he probably would have corrected your excesses and given you salient advice.

BTW All of us get our own for body. Only say you sabi your own. My advice is do whatever makes you happy. By the time Wey bad std go touch you nobody go tell you. Your Preeq go see woman turn saint.

Sorry sir this not the kind of words I need this period
God bless you

I greet you all my reader

I will be open and truthful as I can

Please I'm not a good writer I wish I can send a voice note that's the only way I can explain the whole thing

Since this lock down I've been at home reflecting on my life journey so far there's nothing good to show for it, I've tried all my best to be a better some body for myself and my mom but it seems they tie my future put for kom kom, I'm the kind of guy that always advise everyone around me to be a better person
I'm a giver
I'm a good guy
I've never had police case before
No bad record
I always like everyone around me to be alright
All my male friends I always advise them on how to be successful and how to manage their money,
But in my own case it's always different I can't manage money
Money doesn't last with me and I don't invest
I don't smoke, I don't drink but I like women,
I hardly go a week without sleeping with a girl unless I don't have money and anytime I don't have money I will always respect myself
I remember very well a girl I met in D Dems in Okowonjo Lagos, I took her for a night after the job the next morning we talked, I advised her to leave the runs girl job and do something meaningful she adhered to it and today that lady is doing well in her business that assisted her in opening at idimu, I've done this to 2 other girls too and they're doing well, one married last December self she blocked me after I commented congrats on her fb post(maybe because she don't want to remember her old memories) I didn't bother her though I was happy I changed her though
But I'm finding it difficult to change myself, anytime I've money my mind always go to women, women, women nothing else, since this lock down I've been broke no money I can't believe I could stay up to 3 weeks without sleeping with a girl and I didn't die, I don't masturbate either.

My problem now is what can I do to stop my addiction to women

Why is it that I always change everyone around me life positively but my life is full of errors

I don't go to church due to personal experience I had in church since last year I've not been going to church but I do pray and I believe in God

I'm a very very hard working young man, but I've never made any meaningful thing with any money I worked for except sending money to my mom and my siblings

I started hustling since finished my primary 6 in 2006

Presently I'm not working I'm searching for work but I seriously need help on how to manage my life

A little background about me
I'm a 27 years old boy, I was born in a family of 7 my mom lost 3 of her kids we are just 4 boys now, I grew up in a family where my dad beat my mom like a kid, we grew up hating my dad until he died last year, because of my dad behavior my mom didn't allow us grow in our fathers house she sent us all out to go stay with people I left my mom at age of 10 that's when I started hustling I served an uncle for 9 years with story coming at the end of it


Lalasticala

They're still promising 36million here

While the science students are busy shouting marlians and titans

The lazy yoots fighting and insulting each other because of these people never near Aso rock before oh

Oh I saw them at national hospital today

The mortuary side a lot of grieved big men

If person de know future eeh

Imagine the odd they gave united to win Chelsea

Haniel18:
They have added it since december 2019.You can nw travel in peace

Yes sir

TroubleMaker47:
I want to believe you haven't tried GIG motors!

I travel a lot bro

GUO is my best option going from Abuja to Lagos I love them

While from my state to Lagos is Libra

I used Gigm, F. G. Onyewe, Chisco, ekeson

In all I prefer GUO and Libra

saintruky:
George Agofure Motors (GAM) got it already

Great

Vince77:
It's already on their fleet but just a few. That's why I hardly see it and you haven't seen it.

Wow

izzou:
[color=royalblue]They have it already. No jokes[/color]

Really I will check their Abuja terminal

Valnos:
Jeff, what the model

2019

I'm waiting for GUO to add this to their fleets so that I can travel for no reason

RIP Sir

It's inevitable

Wow

And Nigerians (NFF) refused to vote her during African women best

Una see say wahala deh this country

If I eat mango and drink coke, =Death

If I'm eating and one hand is on the grand = all the food I'm eating is going to the devil

That devil lives inside grand

If you're dating or married to a celebrity and you expect him or her to be happy

You're deceiving yourself

NobleAngell:
I attend Glory Dome but stay far away from there.

Me too oh
I stay as far as life camp oh

You mean you don't know how to delete number again

NobleAngell:
See You There Dear.

Oh you're a member also


Where in Abuja are you at

Uniqueteco:
Where can I download his messages please?

YouTube

CreekCommando:
It depends on your level of exposure and how developed your brain is. What he preaches may make sense to you but could sound didactic and mundane to another person. That's why religion is a big problem to society.

Yeah you're right bro

There are some prominent men of God I don't like their preaching too

If you want to listen to sweet word of God
Please listen to Pst.Dr. Paul Eneche

He got the word

On my way to Glory Dome