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EuroMeko:
Fela would be restless in his grave. So many years later we're still surfering and smiling.

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This is a portrait of apathy. Who is caring or listening in Nigeria? So much potential just to go to waste, not the guys in the picture, but the country. The common man just gets overwhelmed and sits down. But it will take the effort of the common man to change Nigeria.

And this is just the heavy rain and the flood we are talking about. If it is really trash before that caused this, just imagine the the trash afterwards with all the condemned cars and things people will throw away. Not to mention what is hidden in all that standing water now. What will happen after the water recedes? All this stagnant water and trash and the loss of life. Malaria and cholera as well as other water-borne diseases are of concern. Lord have mercy!

alaper:
Are you really serious?  His own wealth      So all the tithes and offerings go to his pocket !!   I thought the money was for God

Isn't building a Cancer hospital a godly cause? Helping the least of those in need. I've seen the devastation of cancer in my family and I can vouch that cancer in any form is a challenge. Nigeria needs such hospitals.

@ alaper: What I meant was out of the wealth he has control over of. I know he doesn't own it. Of course tithes come from the congregation and such. The money belongs to God to use for the people. Building a hospital is for the people. As if God has an account at Diamond or Oceanic bank . God doesn't need our money, but we give it to Him as worship for all the wonderful things He does for us and who He is. God works through people to fulfill His plans. The pastors are supposed to be responsible and put it to good use, which does not always happen (particularly in Naija). Why not encourage something good that is being done. If you had read my post with insight you would have understood what I was saying.

God is the creator of all things, including medicine. He holds ALL knowledge. Read the book of Leviticus (and throughout the bible) and it is full of medical and health related information in a wide range of topics including: diet, childbirth, infectious disease, environmental cleanliness, etc. For all the utterly silly comments before mine, some of you guys think medicine is created exclusively by man and thus is not of God, or what? Medicine does not equate to atheism or ungodliness. Some people have prayed and then were healed. Some people prayed and went to the hospital and were treated and cured. Some people prayed and went to the hospital, but they died. Death is a 100% for every human being, and healing is possible for anyone.

Many hospitals around the world have been started by missionaries and people of faith. Healing and health is a ministry if some of you don't know. Jesus spent most of his time ministering and healing, so it is important to God. I think what Pastor Adeboye did was exemplary, and YES when you give to a purpose that is close to God's heart, He will return the blessing to you. God will bless Him. Some of you who can afford it prefer to travel to India or other countries with modernized medical technology for treatment of diseases. After all Yar'Adua traveled abroad for his treatment given the poor condition of many of Nigeria's hospitals and their limited scope of treatment. The health infrastructure in Nigeria is a joke and nobody cares to do anything about it. Then someone who out of his own wealth tried to make an improvement, and people still have mouth to complain. Enemies of progress to the nth degree . Typical backward village mentality. Money, jealousy, and corruption have hardened this country.

@ trae z: Glad to be of assistance! I've been natural for over two years, so I know quite a bit about natural hair . I had a TWA, which is just the stage when your hair is growing out, for a while. I also wore Okocha's style too.

I like to use raw black soap (not dudu osun type, but the real, raw kind) to wash my hair. As for conditioner (typically anything that makes my hair soft is the one I use). Try out the stuff that works best for your hair, doesn't have to be expensive. Then you need a good moisturizer to keep your hair healthy and from breaking. Try Shea butter or olive oil and any good cream-based moisturizer. I'm not really familiar with the products there in naija. Anyway, once you have washed, conditioned your hair, and added your moisturizer, take a very soft bristled brush (if it's not soft, it could break your hair) and rub you hair in circular motion, like you are drawing O's all over your head. This will make coils form all over. Depending on how long you rub you hair, you can have the coils really tight or kinda loose like Okocha's. Then use your fingers to shape it and make it how you want it to look. Perhaps a barber can clean up the edges. I'm not sure how long your hair is but you could comb your hair every once in a while to detangle, and then use the brush to make the coily style. Any length longer than his hair, and this method may not work as well. This style will last a while! Okocha is wearing a coiled style, not locs by the way.

Here is a video on how a girl did hers (but men can too, obviously):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6peuHWPPhFA . It's very easy!

Let me know how it goes for you!

It's not an issue of whether you want to or don't want to associate with whatever country, in this case Nigeria. It's about your upbringing and where you feel most comfortable. It's about where you know. Some people born abroad can "associate" with Nigeria if they have strong ties and can identify with the culture. Others may not have the same experiences and hence they take what they know to be their home. Just because you have the name  and ancestry doesn't automatically mean that you are bound to Nigeria, or any place for that matter. It's funny how Nigerians want to claim all the good things but we can never own up to the problems. We should ask our selves if we have more to be proud of or to be ashamed of. Abroad and within Nigeria, the few (or many depending on how you see it) rotten apples in the bunch have given the whole a bad image. It makes it hard want to "associate" with Nigeria. And incessant tribalism doesn't help these problems too.

ekt_bear:
For me, the goal over the next 50-100 years for Nigeria is rapid economic growth. 100 years from now, we can worry about going green. Let the USA and China which pollute the most focus on going green, since they are most responsible for the damage to the environment.

As for us, we need to catch up economically as quickly as possible. So we cannot really afford expensive energy sources like solar on a large scale.

I see your point. Nigeria should really catch up. Sustainability is still good to consider, which is part of going green, not just about pollution. Nigeria is a naturally endowed country with many resources. If they could just solve the energy problem, everything else would start coming into place. But I guess one issue at a time.

ekt_bear:
Solar isn't a cheap way to generate electricity. Too much $/kWh.

See this article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cost_of_electricity_by_source

For Nigeria, natural gas is likely to be the best bet.

I still think Nigeria should consider solar. It is expensive, but in the future it will be a cleaner and more sustainable form of energy. I don't think "green" or environmentally conscious initiatives are being considered, but I think they should be. Green initiatives could be implemented in combination with the finite natural resources (i.e. natural gas), which over time could be phased out. It would be so forward if Nigeria could lead Africa in environmentally conscious and efficient production of energy. Natural gas is a strong contender though, better than coal.

donspony:
Not a bad initiative.
Government should aspire to pursue other forms of power generation
Wind power can be utilised especially in some Northern states where wind speeds exceeds 3.5m/s

Yes! And they should consider solar power all over too. There is plenty of sun in Nigeria. This may be expensive to set up in the beginning, but in the long run it will pay off. The government should start putting the money to good use.

49cents:
Ok. Fine. Its been here for long but is it to this degree? Remember the custom of the stained bird sheet! But thats besides the point. People fornicated only out of lust but not its for 'skill ' acquisition since they know they will be celebrated later especially the males. This has given to the high level of men-whores who dance around like cocks and are not ashamed of their state. This really is a culture of death if you look closely. Sex for many is usually initiated by the hormones like in the lower animals; whereas in a mature human it should be initiated by love which stems from the will. Hormones should be a catalyst here not initiator.

I totally agree. There does not seem to be any moral standard anymore. Everything has gone to the dogs and no one cares about it. It's difficult to find people (both men and women) who still honor their bodies. "If you can't beat them, join them" seems to be what the world is doing, but it's not the answer. It's quite disgusting that promiscuity is so celebrated and flaunted around. People are just so used up and its funny that when it comes to marriage, those same people are looking for saints. They are already damaged goods.

The simplest form of government is self governance. The individual makes up the fabric of society. Politicians can be bad, but the masses should be the ones to protest and bring forth better leadership. However, everyday in the streets, market places, churches, and places where people meet, individuals have the choice of how to behave. Whether to act justly or to serve themselves first. No society is perfect, but some are better than others. In Nigeria, corruption seems to be a way of life, no matter where your are in the social hierarchy (politics aside) and this needs to change. The love of money is the root of all evil--Nigeria, case and point.

^ I love that dress! Really beautiful! I wish I could be Rhea and just tag along with Sonam without having to do any of the work. Just to have fun! Sisters with benefits!

rokiatu:
Too much bronze

I agree, she had on too much bronzer. I would have like to have seen her hair in another style. It reminds me of when I was a kid! Perhaps opened, but it may have overwhelmed the dress. I also like the dress from the front, not so much from the side. Maybe if the waist was cinched to make it a bit more fitted, it would have been better. But she looks sweet .

@ isale_gan2: I agree with what you said and I see your point. Sometimes, I just feel like the general trend is so unfavorable. But I guess those that are close to you and sincerely care will always tell you the truth and consider the natural you most beautiful. There seems to be a difference between women that men will marry and those they'll date. I just don't like the finger pointing and calling women fake when they are doing what men respond to most. The older generation does seem to value true beauty more, but its difficult to find among the younger group and my peers. One must do a lot of sifting to find genuine people these days, both men and women. But it seems that men will pick the flashy looking women over the more reserved ones more often, even when it comes to marriage.

Calling women that wear weaves fake doesn't solve the problem. There has to be a general change in perception by black/ Nigerian men. As a Nigerian myself, I think we can do more to promote healthier interactions between men and women. It's funny because in the U.S. there seems to be a growing number of women wearing their natural hair. Blacks there often assume that African women are natural, thus Nigerians in Nigeria as well. That is a great misconception and it's laughable too, but that is a whole different debate.

But men, if no extensions/ attachments/ weaves, what do you want black women to do and how will you work to accept their change? At the end of the day, every woman wants to look and feel beautiful and she wants the men in her life to acknowledge that.

rokiatu:
Ok I don't know about ya all, but I've been waiting to see Sonam Kapoor at Cannes. I never look forward to seeing Aishwarya Ria at Cannes cuz she has nothing to offer apart from her beautiful face, flabby skin and bad sense of fashion. Don't get me wrong, I am a huge fan of Aish, but she need to seriously get into shape. She has a beautiful face, the world knows. But her body shape is just getting uglier by the day. If only she could work on keeping her body tone guess you can't have it all. Ok enough abt Aish.


We all know Sonam is a fashionista. So when I heard that she was attending this year Cannes, I was excited beyond words. Sonam being a risk taker and style diva that she is, I knew she wouldn't disappoint. I mean someone who look great and super stylish even after boarding a plane should not disappoint at Cannes right?

WRONG!!!! SHE DISAPPOINT BIG TIME. I know being a fashionista come with a lot of expectations but she shouldn't wear anthing awkward and well atrocious.

Ok maybe I am exaggerating here but this is SONAM KAPOOR WE ARE TALKING ABOUT.


The style diva. My style icon Anyway I forgive her. This was her first appearance at Cannes. We all know how Aish's begining years were like.


She look super beautiful though lovely make up

Rokiatu, I was waiting to see your opinion of Sonam at Cannes! I actually liked what she wore. It's reflective of her age. Very young, fresh, and contemporary. It is her first time at Cannes, so I didn't have any expectations. I think she pulled off what she wore quite well, or at least no one could wear it like her. The hair and make-up was fabulous. I agree with what you said about Aish! She has a beautiful face, but she could have hit the gym a little before the event. Not to loose loads of weight, but at least to tone up a bit. She looked tired and over-posed in all her pics. Neck lines, arms, back flab, just looked terrible. Her casual pics were much better, but she should have been in better shape . It's just a once a year event.

I have worn my hair natural for two years now and it has been a great experience. But to do so, a woman has to re-learn her hair in a way. It takes time and effort, but with these two your hair can thrive. I have never worn weave, but I had relaxed hair all my life. Black women all over the world, not just in Naija, are conditioned to believe that they need to add something to themselves to feel beautiful, both by older women (i.e. mothers, aunts, etc), society, and to impress men. It is almost a rite of passage. Young girls wear their hair natural until a certain age, then modern culture starts changing them from the inside outward. Then once they are changed, everyone is calling them fake, with fake this and that. It's not fair. It's not easy for women to wear their natural hair and many feel like if they do, it will detract from their beauty and appeal to men, particularly black men. Black/ Nigerian men are not the ones championing natural beauty at all! Other men from other groups are doing that quite well.

Personally, I hate weave. It is obviously unnatural and can look terrible when done poorly. Hygiene is an issue for some weave-wearers who choose not to wash their hair to maintain the style. When I went to Naija last year, I was amazed at the amount of weave. I'm sure it is a million dollar business. Almost every woman I saw had some sort of attachment in her hair. But who can blame them. As Africans we should appreciate our natural beauty, but there are issues within out society that hinder us from doing so.

@ OP Bad breath in children could also come from sinusitis or pharyngitis (throat infection). Has your baby has been sick with some kind of cough or cold, particularly with stuffy and runny nose, recently? That could be the cause.

The following link may be of help to you: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/kids-bad-breath .

Taking the baby for a full medical check up would be a good idea. The doctor could check the baby's nose, throat, and mouth to see what the issue is. I hope everything turns out fine.

I like Sonam's too, but I feel like Preity and Kangna are naturally stylish. Sonam's style can be a bit forced at times, like she's trying to hard be fashion forward. But at least she's trying not to be a clone of all the others BW actresses. She brings freshness to the scene .

Preity always has great fashion sense! Very classy and sophisticated. I like that her styling is not overly trendy, but classic. But she could wear a garbage bag and still look flawless! I like Kangna's fashion after her, but if she could just get her hair right. I'm not liking the orange/ dark brown thing she's has going on currently.

Just a guy who looks neat! No matter what style he wears, if he looks clean and smells nice and if his hairstyle suits him, that's all that matters concerning his hair. Some guys can carry off locs very very well. Others, short style suits them best and the look handsome. Waves are nice too. I'm not a big fan of braids on grown men though. I think it looks cute on children, but it doesn't really work on adults, just my opinion. Though, there are always exceptions to the rule . Just keep it neat and fresh guys!

@ OP: Try raw black soap! Not the dudu osun kind, but the pure, raw black soap. I use it with a face brush (or you could you and exfoliating cloth) to scrub my face every morning. I wash with very warm water to open my pores up and allow the soap to get in. Then I rinse with ice cold water to squeeze my pores closed. This has done wonders for my skin. Then I follow with a good moisturizer. Since you have oily skin, maybe you should try a water based moisturizer, not an oil-based one. I hope this helps!

Beyonce's new video for Michelle Obama's Let's Move campaign to get children to exercise and eat healthy here in the US!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYP4MgxDV2U

No one can do it like she does! I love watching the children in this video! Great job and positive message.

@ chyke27 Preach! Na true talk!

Nekai:
It is important for both men and women to remain virgins.

Practice makes perfect and a man and his wife can practice together. Sex is an experience that binds two people together. Imagine the intimacy level a couple has with each other knowing that they have an intimacy that no other person on earth has experienced. How many marriages are broken over the issue of sex?

If you get married to a woman that is a sexual professional, how can you be so sure your wife won't crave and fantasize about the man/men who taught her all those skills?

Mr med doc, the man digging the woman's urethra for 5 years is a unique case. Nobody taught a dog to have sex and yet dogs haven't became extinct yet. This man obviously is intellectually challenged and you cannot expect someone with the IQ of a rock to know what he is doing, even if he had been having sex for 10 years with 30 different women. Also it seems he has found his perfect life partner because she is equally as daft.

I completely agree with what you said! I think societies would even be better and healthier if people didn't sleep around before marriage. Marriage offers so much security to enjoy love exclusively, given both husband and wife are committed to the relationship. If they are virgins, marriage is a way to grow and learn in real love. The world's version is cheap and no matter how one argues it, promiscuity and sex pre-marriage distorts how love was supposed to be.

jaephoenix:
@inked,y dont u answer solbil.he has just told u dat women,not society as a whole,deride him.
So dont blame d world,blame your sex.most dont want virgin guys.i ve even taken a poll of 10 girls i know n guess,they all wanted guys that know wat they re doing
Sorry, u cant b a virgin n b sexually savvy.what happened 2 'practice makes perfect'
I know a Deeper Life couple That came 2 my clinic(am a med doc) as a case of infertility.turned out d guy has been digging her urethra(pee hole)for 5 Deadly years.N d woman has been bearing d pain.Damn.a case of virgo intacta.
So pls,maybe u like them fumbly(coined it)dont wish 4 virgin dudes.B careful what u wish for ,
Me i prefer my girls non virgins

This is something that common sex education would have fixed. As a doctor, especially one dealing with fertility and sexual reproduction issues, I would presume that you would vouch for educating your patients from a professional standpoint, not laughing at them. I don't know which kind of doctor would put forward such a statement, but perhaps education and helping patients is not part of the medical curriculum in whatever medical program you attended. Or maybe you were asleep the day they covered this in class

Kudos to men that remain virgins! Really such men a rare, especially among Nigerian men, which may be non-existent. I don't understand promoting virginity for women and the men go free. Unless all those men are gays and are sleeping with each other to save the virginity of women, who do people think they are with? Women, right? Then when it comes time for marriage, these same guys want women who are virgins. I too as a woman would prefer a man who hasn't slept with so many women he's not sure how many. Yet this is double standard exists world-wide, not just in Nigeria or Africa as a whole.

I completely understand this post. I last went to Naija for the funeral of a close relative. I was beyond myself with grief. This guy I had never met came to the funeral because he was the son of the family friend and stayed with all the guests that had come for the funeral. I am always making new friends so I talked with him a few times, which helped keep my mind in a positive place during the funeral. What did we speak of? Very general and obtuse things you discuss with people you first meet. Nothing special! 3 days later, this guy had called his father all the way down to the village (without my knowledge) and told him he loved me and was ready to marry me! I was telling this guy and his father I was not interested at all, especially in someone who was a stranger to me! They wouldn't listen. Luckily, I went back home and didn't have to talk to him again. No friendship. He just went from A to Z! I was disgusted and terribly upset. I came for a funeral and this joker had other plans. Is this commonplace in Naija? Seriously, is this the norm? I have been trying to make sense of this myself

Na waoh! Well Jesus came to save the world, Naija included. This is very interesting!