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She lost her virginity the first day she had sex... presence of hymen does not assert virginity...

Not everyone even has hymen...

shekauvsbuhari:
She had this her boss's daughter that "liked" her a lot and never allowed her to concentrate in the relationship. Wont say the lady was a lesbian. No.She later moved her to work in her own office and never allowed her a life of her own. I was also a friend to de lady's elder bro. My girl was torn between loyalty to me n her n could not make her own decision. I told to leav de job 4 me to set up a biz 4 her cos we were talkin marrg, but she was afraid of failin in biz.So in order not to cause a crisis, I took a walk. Very painful thing to do then.Lady later abandoned my girl n went abroad. She came back but I was already in another serious rltnship.

Eyah...I was already rooting for her...

Hope yhure happy in.this yhur new relationship?

MiddleDimension:
i got hugely turned off by that post. he even said you should push him away when he holds you from behind, what's nonsense! that's frustration and a huge turn off. also at this time of ''no means no'', i will seriously advice against that.

Some people like stress in this life
... I'm a major advocate of a stress free life....

If yhu want something go get it.....Chinekah


We're not in.1972

ubunja:
then what did he say? Since you understood him. Explain it for me.

He said he likes bold women with guts and her demanding for.sex turns him on....

Yhu asked him if he buys her gifts....and he said YES ...

Chikenah

ubunja:
Buying her gifts turns you on?

Stop twisting his replies ...he didn't say that
..

People no longer subscribe to that yhur philosophy again...

shekauvsbuhari:
Yeaaah. You just hit the nail for me. "seducing him is more sexy". I like that. I once dated a girl who would grab my dicck once she enterd my house. Yet she remains the most loyal n faithful girl I ever met. She loves sex so much but she is still not wayward. She demands it from me whenever she wants it. I loved her guts.

What happened...why did yhu guys part ways?

Michellekabod2:
i think I agree with ubunja here. Sex is the only power a woman have over a man, that puts him in her control,if you are in charge of it(and not it being in charge of you) ,you have some power to yourself. When you sexual drive equates his,them you are no more a master or the one in charge of the sex,you are both slaves then.


The op used the word "husband" but I believe the chasing of a woman should continue after marriage.

PS:this is from my own lens,don't apply to everyone though. Things are really evolving fast. But I think you should heed to this if you aren't sure your spouse has evolved

Lool sex is not war...which one is power and control.... on top sex

shekauvsbuhari:
I am with U dear. I like a woman being bold to demand sex when she needs it. I give it n still respect her. I only hate promiscuity. A woman demanding sex or loving sex a lot does not make her a LovePeddler. She is just being human.I prefer such ladies. That is for me.

Exactly...I personally hate pretence ....

ubunja:
you are Masculine. Ladies don't demand for sex. No matter how long they've been with a man. You need to reconnect with your femininity.

There's nothing masculine about wanting something and asking for it.... I'm just a very straight forward person...

Men like women that can take the bull by the horn
...

Gone are the days when women act like logs of wood... that'll wait for a man to initiate sex...and lie down like fire wood and do nothing...

ubunja:
men don't marry nymphs. They marry chaste women. Go read about the Madonna/Wh0re complex.

Demanding sex from one's husband makes her unchaste ?

"Men don't marry nymphs" ... Please speak for yhurself alone...

MiVida:
J.odha... Prayer is the only key. Most men will lose that love so fast once they get into your pants a few times. Trust me I know what I'm saying.

Heaven help those who help themselves....

Yhull pray YES....all I'm saying is use yhur head after yhu pray....

Until yhu wear the shoes....yhu wouldn't know how bad they hurt...

Don't judge..

I'd advise yhu to keep calm till yhu find that special one....If yhu rush now ... it'll end in tears...


What attracted me?
His height...his smile..

It ended in tears

She's pathetic ....this one don pass be careful...

Cobwebs nai go don full there....

It's either she masturbates or she has a medical condition...

MyVILLAGEpeople:
I think am too nice in this context.. I normally tell her, I do love her so much. She then told me to prove it. I replied with how I cherish, adore her and all dat. She then finally made that statement.

Don't mind her .... there's nothing weak in what yhu did...

Some women prefer guys that treat them like trash...

Yhu don't have to change anything about yhu... because of her

ubunja:
"men do it all the time". That's why you must never do it. Leave the chasing for the men.

Sex is your only leverage over a man. Always control it. Even when you want it, make it appear like the man is the one who wants it, as if you're doing him a favour. Even in marriage, Keep the chase alive. Its how you keep a man's attention.

I see yhur point now....

Although i don't subscribe to this yhur philosophy...

I can demand for sex...and still make him want me like never before...

Talkwisdom:
,Love can be deceptive, always know that.

True love is not deceptive ...

Huawei101:
Contraceptive didn't work for her.

Condoms nkorr?...why didn't he withdraw...
Why would she even allow him have sex with her again...

That's a lame excuse..

I'm sorry but yhure very foolish dearie...

There are so many cheap contraceptives out there ..if yhu don't like condoms...

There's no decision here to make....for yhu to allow yhurself get pregnant again it means yhure ready for motherhood...
If he doesn't pick his calls...go to his house..
If he refuses in the long run...brace up and get ready to carter for yhur child..
Find a job or something...if yhu don't have one..

I wouldn't advice yhu to commit murder again
..for yhur own good..

MyVILLAGEpeople:
Never had sexx with her. And I don't downgrade myself.

Then she might feel yhure too nice...


What did yhu do before she made the statement?

ubunja:
The best way a woman can demand/ask for sex from her man is to drop hints. Being direct in sex is very Masculine. Men must be the only ones chasing sex never the women.

The same way a man asking for money from his woman is feminine/weak/effeminate (cause a man must have money already), so a woman asking for sex from her man is masculine/strong [read: WRONG].
Take for example a slut, a woman who loves sex: A slut is a woman with the sexual appetite of a man. So she's Masculine or Manish when it comes to sex. Which is wrong.

Its wrong because men have ego and any hint that his woman loves sex will make him believe she's either cheap or hard to satisfy. And the scariest woman any man will ever deal with is a woman who cant be sexually satisfied. That's why female sexuality has been curtailed, throttled, suppressed throughout the ages. A Woman is not supposed to like sex. It scares men. Especially men who want to marry her.

So to demand sex, a woman must invite. Not request. That is, dress to seduce. Instead of asking for sex cause you're turned on, dress in such a way to TURN HIM ON AS WELL, so you both get on the same page. That is, dress provocatively (maybe that bumshort you put when you're alone) then instead of approaching him for sex, appear to ignore him and get busy with chores, but in front of him. Until you feel him hug you from behind, overcome with desire. Even then pretend you're busy and try to push him away. He must not realise its a set up. Although a perceptive man will see what's up when he removes your panties and already you're wet.

If in bed and you want sex while he's busy with the phone or something, pretend to be fast asleep, but keep tossing and turning kicking away the blankets revealing that ass and those thighs. Even "unwittingly" placing your leg over his groin. While "asleep". In no time you'll feel his hands on you. And it's game time.

But whatever you do. NEVER ASK FOR SEX FROM YOUR MAN. When it comes to sex, always make the man believe he's leading. Even if you're leading from behind.

This is not the 1900's please
... ain't nothing wrong in a woman asking her " husband" for sex...

Personally i feel seducing him is more sexy... because he'll get in the mood too...
But it's not wrong for a woman to demand for sex....men do it all the time...

Yes nah....

Touch him in the right places....seduce him

95% of smokers do so because of depression..

MyVILLAGEpeople:
In what aspect exactly??

Buh am not a weakling.

It depends on what yhu did that made her make such comment....

It might be bedically or the way yhu respond to issues...like the way yhu carry yhurself generally...

Lashist:
Wicked girl. You didnt even like it once . You are such a deceitful person

No too shout am...

Realmenlovetruly:
I love meeting and knowing someone online before taking it to outside world

Surely i can meet one here

It'll be better for yhu....if yhu meet someone outside...yhull know the person better...

This means yhure using will end in tears...

DanDeeBoss:
Single men and those who don't patronize brothels don't pay, so??

How can i like this again and again?

Men should control their libido
...

They'll keep paying until they learn self....and realize that sex is just a momentary illusion..

Men doesn't pay anything in marriage....he only takes care of the family....and a sensible woman will support him accordingly..

Why are yhu searching here
....don't yhu meet ladies outside here?

Walk up to one and ask her out nah....

It means yhure acting like a weakling...

tunize:
By other-wise u mean??

Mentally... educationally... spirituality .. the list is endless

tunize:
Oooh anty if the nigga nor come get fincance to ivest on you nkor??

I said financially or otherwise...