When a man loves and respects a woman ... that's how it is...

Marry a lady that's physically attracted to yhu and this will not be an issue...

Truthsoldier:
Please nairalanders is there any food,pills or things that can make one gain weight in a space of one to three months?

Banana ...oat...milk(full cream milk), soya beans (you can incorporate into yhur cereals)... peanut butter/Nutella...

Generally eat very well ...like more than 5 times a day.... Sleep well ....reduce stressful activities..

Trust me... in less than a month yhull be shocked...

Karlifate:


It is what it is

The rating scale ⚖️ for men & women in the sexual market are not the same.

Men are judged by their:
•• financial success 💰
•• status
•• future prospect &
•• personalities.

Women are judged by their:
•• appearance 💃
•• ability to bear children
•• their body counts
•• their past relationships &
•• submissiveness.




Women marry up financially.
Men marry up morally.

Be truthful to yourself, if you're in a position to choose between a rich non-virgin guy and a virgin guy that has nothing going on for him, which one would you choose?


*You being a virgin, and also getting married to a virgin guy of your dreams is just an example of an ideal situation, which rarely happens.*

*Also, aside from virginity, what other values do you have * (that will impact the life of your partner & strengthen your relationship?)

Go back and read my previous post ....it wasn't based on a personal point of view but an hypothetical one..... It was just my thoughts at that time...

Now back to yhur last paragraph..... don't yhu think this trend of asking women what they bring to the table is already sounding like a broken record?

I've being hoping to meet a guy personally that would ask me this question in real life.... fortunately/unfortunately I've not met one yet ... So I'll guess y'all only do this online.

That said I have nothing to prove to yhu or anyone else here .... so does any other lady here on NL ... hence I'll advice yhu to refrain from asking people such questions. If there's a certain quality yhure looking for in a woman go out there and find a woman with such qualities instead of asking such questions.

I hate typing epistles and yhure tempting me to type one ..

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Karlifate:


Men & Women are not the same in the sexual market.

Yhure right but it's not fair......if a woman should be judged for her past ...a man should too...

Looking at it the other way .....for instance...if I'm a virgin ...then I'm expecting my husband to be a virgin too...I cannot keep myself for him while he belongs to the streets...it's not fair...

Lool.....op take heart...

Silentgroper:
.. How did you not get creeped out by that.


I literally would've felt he was stalking me .. which is a big issue

My dear....at one point I was screened out ...even scared cause he likes drawing attention to me...
I'm a person that hates public attention... I'll go about my business without anybody noticing me....but anytime he sees me he'll call out to me so loudly and if I ignore he'll come to me....in a manner that everyone will be staring at me...and I hate it

maasoap:

He might have his own opportunity in the long run. Sometimes, failed relationship do throw opportunity in one's way.

Opportunity in what context? With me? Not possible ....with someone else ? Obviously yes

There's this day I was passing by ...I clearly saw him from a distance talking to this girl...his friends saw me and hinted him of my presence....omoh I don't know how he made that girl disappear 😂😂 but when I got closer she was not there and he quickly followed me....

I was just smiling...

Haymus007:
So you later agreed or wah happened afterwards?

No I didn't.... I'm a straight forward person.... if I like a guy I wouldn't put him through the stress of asking me out for years....

Black44:
you talked like a man
That’s why he reasoned with u as one

Talk like a man? This is new...

deyplay:
then if she "liked" him, why delay for two years? Girls don't delay their dream men

I think this question should be directed to the lady in question......

maasoap:

He knew what he saw in you. I once did four years too. Lol. But my wife, one month

I don't know for him o.....I clearly told him I wasn't interested but night has a whole relationship with me planned in his head....

advanceDNA:



Just read nairaland comment whenever this kinda topic come up..and u will get why i said so.........u are perhaps the only female moniker with an objective opinion on this kinda topic...

The rest always just say its bashing and hatred and all call men stingy for not giving them money they juat because they are women...

I'm sure not everyone think like that...so yhu don't have to generalize...

advanceDNA:


U have not confirmed if u are a lady....you are making too much sense and too sounding rarional...... i am sorry to say...women dont sound this rational and balanced in their opinion..especially on this kinda topic

I'm a lady and what do yhu mean by "women don't sound rational and balanced in their opinion"

advanceDNA:


Dont tell me you are a lady??

Women see this statement of urs as bashing and hatred agaisnt their genders.....and women never see their begging and demanding for money as entitlement and being ungrateful....they see it as their right once a man approach them

Exactly .... it's the sad reality.... sometimes I'm so appalled and irritated when I hear these young girls talk......
A young girl that should be in school focusing on her studies...is talking about milking one man or another...

If not for our present society ... people should be ashamed of saying some kind of things...

Rayban25:


Thank God say na woman talk this.

Mumu Men I hope you can see how foolish you look when you woo girls for years

That statement wasn't made from a feminine perspective but a masculine one....

A guy that has spent years wooing yhu especially when yhu rejected him badly ....will have a inner vendetta against yhu.....even if he doesn't admit it... When he finally has yhu...with time he'll be wondering why he stressed himself over this....


I dunno if yhu understand my point...

Nia69:
Interesting. My boyfriend spent 2 years and it's going well, I'm pretty sure it'll end well too.

Yhu obviously did like him that's why yhu accepted....

I'm talking about a scenario when yhuve told the guy yhure not interested and he remains persistent for "years" ....and yhu try to accept him ...either out of pity ....or so yhull rest.... That scenario never ends well

Nia69:
😂 The love is strong gan o.

A little advice sis...never date a man that have spent years wooing yhu...trust me it never ends well...

Nia69:
😂😂 One used 5 years. Since secondary school, he gave up this year.

This one is yet to give up totally o....he still follows me anytime he sees me...

A guy has spent 4 years to ask me out....I was surprised at how he never gave up...

Fahvvy:


As usual, blame anything/anyone other than the females involved ...

Everytime society this, society that ...
Since we're on the subject of society, did the African society also make women become feminist? ...

The answer is no, but are there feminist in Africa, the answer yes! ...

People are ungrateful and entitled simply because THEY WANT TO BE! - shikinah ...

@OP...
If a woman calls you broke or stingy, sincerely eh, see it as a compliment! ...

Don't allow their cheap emotional blackmail to make you path ways with your money ...

Since they're not broke why are they begging you for money? And since they're not stingy why aren't they going about feeding the poor?

Guy is a very long argument ....and we can go on and on about it...

Society has a certain stereotype about women...women have to be a certain way to achieve the "narrative"...

That aside....the society I was referring to in relation to my previous post is yhu and I....
Society I mean social media... pushing young to feel a certain way.... putting them under unnecessary pressure....
A young girl of 18-20 is already stressing about not having an iPhone ....not living the "dream life" (Instagram life) .... Making these girls feel entitled.... making them be like commodities selling their bodies to be among or feel among...to impress people that don't care about yhu...

I don't want to go further but I'll keep blaming society

Women can pretend...I pity any man that thinks he can judge a lady from her actions..

Reminderz:
ooh I have stories to tell...

first girl name - Peace.. mehn I really loved peace.. we were exchanging letters back then... this girl loved me with everything, she dey even help me write note back then.. when I'm not in school, this girl will give my friend letter to give me.. there was a time I had to visit her on a Saturday just to see her because I was missing her, funnily enough, I didn't see her haha lol... a time came, I started taking her for granted because I got fed up of the attachment some time, at a point I even insulted her through some of the letters I wrote... she didn't deserve that... maybe because I was somewhat naive back then, I'm sorry peace... we recently reconnected on Facebook anyways... she's good... sometimes I wonder what makes her feel attracted to be back then, maybe because I was kinda cute or very intelligent.. trust me, I knew I was very intelligent book wise back then.. secondary school love days is quite fun I tell you..

second girl name - Faith
faith was the girl I fell in love with after peace, but not quite as deep as Peace... she was the first person I got somehow intimate with also... she loved me, there were couple of times she visited me at home also.. guess what? I fvcked it up again .. I started behaving anyhow and she got fed up with my wahala and I didn't bother to apologize.. I get craze for head back then.. maybe because I know say I go still catch another fish.. and oh, lest I forget, Faith is very beautiful.. we still talk till today though...

third girl name - Fateemah
I wouldn't say I had anything to do with Fateemah, she's just a girl that had a crush on me due to how intelligent I was.. we became close but never for once declared our intentions towards one another.. we still talk till today though.. she's doing good as well, such a beautiful lady too...

fourth girl - aisha
Aisha wasn't in the same school as mine, but we were dating... we only get to see during the holidays... when preparing for jamb back then, we would go to the center together and come back home together also... there was another girl in the tutorial center that had a crush on me and Aisha knew this, sometimes she would stop the girl from getting close to me.. Aisha is a good lady though, she loved me, like she really loved me.. we got really intimate and did alot of things together.. we lost contact though and I heard she's out of the country for now..

these are just the notable stories in my secondary school adventures... man has moved on now and with another girl currently.. life happens... love is a great feeling, but one should be very mindful of the emotion..

Baba nah yhu o

Eweeehhh

Because of them 2 ladies will be single....

Shortcut2life:


It is no joke lol ..

So yhure willing to change religion because of a woman yhu just me

Some of these stories dey do me like Nigerian drama...

Society has made women so entitled and ungrateful.... It's pathetic

I'm gonna take this as a joke...

Rayban25:


Why are you putting words in his mouth and arguing against what he didn't say?

He insinuated it..and yhu know....

Some men just think a woman's life and destiny is tied to marriage....

VinnyBaba:


OP, because Guys are Thinking more of getting a Job, starting a Business and Securing their Future.

While Ladies, getting Married or Dating a Rich Man. 🤨

Because ladies don't have future to secure? Or do jobs or start a business? Their whole lives is tied to men ....this is 2023

Somebody summarize biko...