₦airaland Forum

What a selfish, self-centered group of power hungry politicians who would do everything and anything to remain in power and have control, even when it cost not just their lives but the lives of the entire citizens!

COVIKK-1-9 no no the rich and d poor or even your social/political status. Las Las e dn enter and we all de 4 naija

NCDC calls on all Nigerians to take responsibility by staying at home. My question is, how do you expect the citizens to take responsibility when Nigerian govt has not? What would you tell families that depend on daily earnings for feeding to do? Or do you want them to go hungry and possibly die even before the COVIKK-1-9 itself gets to them?

Government should do the needful now before it becomes too late. Provide food/money let the masses self Isolate.

"...We are watching (working) with the Ministry of Healths (Health) on fortecting (protecting) our citizens from COVIK ONE NINE VIRUS..."

Aswear, Nigeria who do una?
That's what you get for voting lifelessness!

Where is the Dullard and Lifeless one in Aso rock, where is him? Is he suddenly dumb or has his incompetence finally catch up with him? We know he has never been good with words but what happens to reading from a script?

This is a time when the whole world in general is threatened. President Trump declared WAR against the deadly virus. He tweets 24/7 to reach out to his people on all platform and holds press meetings. He encourages their citizens, emphasizes on their strength and their unity at this time the world is on a blink of catastrophy.

But the lifeless one is in our Aso rock and has refused to address the nation after leaving the borders open to this deadly virus, knowing that Nigeria has no resources (personnel and equipments and infrastructures) to fight this.

So this is the guy most of us voted for? I remembered losing a very good friend (senior colleague) at my work place because we had a heated argument about the competence of this Dullard. He was for him while I was against him.

This is it! For those of us who caused and fought each other here on Nairaland because of the obvious, it's high time you sat and think about how your support would have made a difference if we had had the right person in.

Death and calamity and incompetence and evil leaders shall see this country no more!

Let's all be prepared for the worse and hope for the best!

Wash and sanitize your hands!

Be informed!

Be safe and keep our environment tidy!

Be guided!

We shall beat this Virus and emerge victorious!

I wish us well!

God save us all!!!

Send an irate customer's email to the customer care of the electricity distribution you are under.
Copy complaints@nerc.gov.ng and info@nerc.gov.ng.
Also attach proofs (current and previous bills) if possible.

Don't worry, the email has no unique format. Just make sure you pour out your anger. Ranting is also encouraged.

NextD18:
If as a man, in this generation, you don't know that marrying a virgin lady is the only way to avoid infidelity in your home, then be prepared to die young as a husband.

A woman who got married a VIRGIN can NEVER cheat so long as you are still sexually active as a husband, I keep saying this over and over again.

She will NEVER cheat! You don't expect a lady who has tasted all kinds and sizes of preeeq, styles of sex and other sexual related experiences to stick to your sexual prowess alone just like that. You don't!

Men should open their eyes and save themselves the stress and problems of infidelity. Go for virgin if you want to marry!

So childish �!

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No, I wouldn't marry if a 30k job was my only source of income.



PS:
Location plays a huge factor here. 100k in Lag = 65k in Aba/Onitsha = 30k in the Bauchi/Gombe.

U get the gist now?

External/Internal Support is there! Your 30k married friend might not bear all the responsibility to himself. Ask him to tell u the truth. Mother maybe supplying food stuffs. Village people maybe contributing offertory. Those are terribly important.

Side Hustle/Apriko/AkaAzu sometimes pay more than the actual salary. In my case, I would get my 1 month salarly in 2-3 days after expenses from...u get nw? Put that in consideration.

Living in family house/friend is a great deal here.

All in all...Choose wisely.


As 4 that Mr allegedly in his twenties, earning 10k monthly salary, and studying for his PHD with Zero teaching experience in our own Naija Fed Uni, and supporting the 30k marriage notion while citing himself as an example, hear this! You may think you have succeeded in deceiving the gullible but guess what, you failed!

COULD YOU PLEASE TELL US HOW MUCH IT COSTS YOU TO RUN A PHD IN NIGERIA?

This is the kind of person that tells u I married my wife when I was earning 10k salary (but I had 10million in my back account)

NONSENSE!

Paxie55:
Which integrity? The man that said he doesn't have money's for presidential form but his son crashed a 50+million motorcycle? Or the wife caught with 2bn scandal with her driver? The man that condemned foreign trip but has spent more days in foreign land than the country he is presiding? The man that spent billions in aso rock hospital yet, it was revealed through his daughter that there was nothing like a common paracetamol in the hospital? A man that has lied over the fulani agenda severally, ranging from they are from Liberia, to they are trained by gardiffi, to we should accommodate our killers or be killed In our land? A man who has made fulani cows as a prior issue in a country leading in poverty and 6th in the most miserable country in the world?

I can go on and on and on, but you Iz.l.ami.c extremists can support anything so long the person is evil and has the tendency of a terrorist.

I feel happy when I see people engage an argument with reasons and facts. I admire that a lot. Thank you.

Buhari is a big time scam! The most unfortunate scam that's ever happened to Nigerians.

Ugosample:
It's not fair putting this on women tho

We should have NEVER made it seem OK for men to be "irresponsible" or have a free pass btw.

Now the women have had enough, and everything don scatter.

The day a lot of men retrace their steps, things will turn out a whole lot better

bukatyne:
I would have taken your closing seriously if I did not read your whole post.

The earlier you realize that:

Irresponsible fathers + angelic mothers = awesome families and children

Is an unstable model, the better for you. Most of the women in that model were miserable and warned their daughters not to make the mistakes they did and this is the fallout today.

I know a woman who missed it in marriage and hounds the youths to never to do so. Quizzes the girls so hard that they know they can't fail her. Outside, you would see a loving wife to an irresponsible husband; inside, you would she is biting her fingers daily.

Instead of you to tell me to brace up (you pointed out their irresponsibility), you want women to continue enduring in pain.

We have passed that stage and like I always say, good husbands + good wives would make good homes irrespective of what the society is like.

Happy new year.

Seahawk:
Yea. The problem won’t marriahes today is that women are not willing to tolerate abuse and disrespect from their husbands. How dare they?

Your post is a whole load of bullshit that encourages male misbehavior and passes all the buck on the women to keep tolerating bullshit in order to keep their so called marriages.

Your post is disgusting to say the least.

"Wonderful piece by OP, if I may..." was the first statement I made and it would connote in this context, that as much as I concur in spades with that writer's idea which was chiefly about men, I however felt the need to add to it by balancing the view with women.

I'm surprised that we feel angered, even counterproductive by this post even after reading the original OP's post before mine. I acknowledge that this post would have been a load of bullshit if that first sentence was missing.

Irresponsibility is both seen in men and women alike and there's no justification for being so. I'm really shocked that we see that word "irresponsible" in this context to literally imply "physical abuse and pain".That's not irresponsibility at all but rather abuse, and I wouldn't dare trade one for another. Nobody should ever have to endure abuse/pain in marriage. God forbid, I can't campaign for madness!

Love should be given by both spouses, sacrifices and endurance paid together. That's how it should be. We must all learn to tolerate and forgive as much/soon as we can.

Thanks for your contribution/correction. I wish us a prosperous New Year!!!

Wonderful piece by OP, if I may...

One of the greatest reasons why we have broken homes I must say, is LACK OF TOLERANCE AND PASSION TO BECOME EVEN that is so prevalent amongst mothers. It has become a Pandora's box with cans of Worm inside that is so much eating up marriages and it seems everyone has failed to comprehend it.

Besides the terrible state of our country which I believe contributes to the rate of broken marriages, mothers on the other hand, seem to have forgotten how important they are to their Children. They have neglected the most important bond on earth, "mother-child-bond".

While I was growing up, I could point out so many irresponsible men that have had successful marriage because of the breed of awesome women(wives) they had. But today, the so called "responsible men" are having a hard time in making it to a successful five years in marriage, let alone the irresponsible ones. But why is that?

I spoke to a lady who the husband had accused of cheating and her response to me was in the light of this "yes he cheated on me with my best friend and I felt the need to become even, so I cheated on him with his best friend too". What the heck! What's even more annoying, was that she had with her, their four and six year old kids who were being cuddled by their father while she explained her part of the story to me. I was speechless. I felt ashamed, not to talk more, disturbed. This experience made me rethink in a heartbeat about those days as a child when I watched Mom and Dad argue(never about cheating) and I felt that Dad was always at fault, that there was no shred of guilt, whatsoever on mom. Was my discernment really fair on Dad at those moments? Or was I being sentimental because of this "mother-child-bond" that binds Mom and all of my Siblings together? Whether or not these were the right thoughts at that point in time was not my problem.

While the behaviors of the parents have an impact on their child(ren), mothers however, have been known to have the greatest impact. In fact, a family without a mother has had a hugh vacuum no one would ever fill for a very long time if not forever. Children tend to capitalize and act more on their mother's behavior so easily than they will with their father.

Irresponsibility among fathers have always been but what we see now is nothing close to being irresponsible. They are pure "proud fakeass efekefe ungrateful yawoyawo overstylish fathers" who find it so hard to say "thank you" to their wives after eating a meal prepared by them.

It pains me so much when I see many cute couples' pre-wedding and wedding photos on Nairaland/others just to realize that they may not live up to those "early love, trust, happiness and vow" in a few years to come. Weeping.... Someone please get me a hanky...hmmmm....wiping my nose, then eyes....

I am sad. I sometimes feel scared of what the future holds. Should I remain single? Should I join the click of men that are producing "babymamas upandown"? No way! I love kids and I can't stand the thought of them not enjoying both their parents simultaneously like I did. I still do. And if my Mum and Dad can do it, I sure as hail can, even better.

If you are reading this, this is challenge to you. Others have failed doesn't mean yours will. You can do better. You are far better than them. I wish us courage, real love, trust, "our significant rib". I wish us well.


PS. LETTER TO MY DEAR FUTURE WIFE!!!

Dear future wife,

If you are reading this, I promise to give you all the love and attention in the world that I can possibly give plus 100% of my vow.

Please kindly cross my path IF you are ready to give all to me.

Yours future Hubby,
Johnbosco

Olamsoh:
I am a very shy person and a very private person. My boyfriend introduced me to this page and we are both addicted but he made me make him a promise never to bring out matter here for any reason, but I am about to break that promise because I need help.

I have dated him for 6 years, 3 abortion and borrowed him 7 million naira all he has not accounted for. The last job I got for him with my dads contact I don’t know the drama that happened between him and a staff and he got fired, I had to give him money to start a business. He has engaged me already but I am getting uncomfortable. What got me worried was last night when I told him I was pregnant again and he asked me to abort it, I was so upset and he said that if he takes me to his parents with Pregnancy they will see me as a slut. I refused bluntly this time and he insisted by saying if I keep the baby he will dump me and marry another person and he swore on his life.

Pmm leaving him is not the issue, the issue, how do I get my money back. Over 7 million naira. I don’t have a salary, we do joint account and I can’t even brag of 50k of my own. I know he will read this message, so I want people to judge this matter. As for the baby I will keep it, but am scared of being a single mum.

You have already made a lot of bad and foolish choices and it would only be fair to say you ended up with a CON ARTIST
That being said, if you have any sort of evidence(written agreement of the loan you made to him, bank transactions, receipts of items purchased in your name, verbal agreement or any text message such as social media messages or call records where he assented that he borrowed this amount from you), then you may have to make an entry against him to the nearest police station and hope to get a reasonable percentage. If you have no proof of whatsoever that can collaborate your claim, then, FORGET IT! IT'S OVER!! YOU GET ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR BEING STUPID!!! MOVE ON!!!
Just accept the fact that you ended up with a looser and hopefully you'll be smart here after.
For most of you ladies that give money to men, thinking it will keep them, here's the hard truth that is easy to forget, IT DOESN'T ALWAYS WORK OUT!!! MOVE ON and be smart hopefully you will find another worthy fellow.

P.S If you were my sister/child, I'd say this exact same thing but with contempt.
By the way, I wouldn't wish my enemy that type of man. As for the dude, he will reap what he sow