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A pastor has told women that it is an abomination for them to call their husbands by his name or a pet name.
Pastor Chris Ojigbani, who calls himself a marriage and relationship expert, said a man is a woman's Lord and as such, she should never call him by his name or by a pet name. He said names such as "sweetheart, darling, even baby" should never be uttered by women in relation to their husbands. He was especially opposed to the use of "baby" and said it belittles a man. Lol. What an archaic man!
Pastor Ojigbani advised the female members of his congregation to refer to their husbands as "My King" and "My Lord". The use of ordinary names and pet names, he said, are as a result of wrong teachings.
As he preached, the female members of his congregation were seen nodding their head in agreement. After the video was shared online, a lot of people expressed support for his teaching but some pointed out that he calls Jesus by name though he is his Lord.
The pastor has now replied to those opposing his teaching.
He wrote:
It's amazing how many wives and unmarried women refused to accept the simple teaching in the video above where I taught wives how to become queen in their marriage.
In the video, I simply asked wives to make their husbands king if they want to become queen. And to do that, I explained you must respect him by calling him King or lord and by serving him food like a king. But it's so unfortunate that some of the women are arguing the teaching and insulting me as well.
After much consideration, I decided to ignore the insults and help you with further explanations. And I will like to start by asking a question. Is there anything wrong in asking a wife to respect her husband? Any woman who doesn't respect the husband is actually disobeying the word of God, which says that wives should respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). It's also interesting to note that any disobedience of the Word of God is a sin. If your husband doesn't treat you well, he has committed a sin and will have a question to answer before God on the judgement day.
So, if you disrespect your husband because he doesn't treat you well, you will also have a question to answer on the judgement day. It's also important you note that you should respect your husband unconditionally. You don 't respect your husband because he treats you well. In Christianity, respect is not reciprocal. In the world, respect is reciprocal but in Christianity, respect is sacrificial.
I also noticed that many wives commented they would never call their husbands lord. But the Bible tells us that Sarah called Abraham lord (1Peter 3:6). If Sarah called her husband lord, what makes you feel you are too big to call your husband lord? Apart from the fact that Sarah called Abraham lord, is there any other scripture that says the husband is the lord of his wife? Yes, Ephesians 5:22 says that you should respect your husband as lord. Verse 23 of the same chapter also says that your husband is your head just as Christ is the head of the church.
So, my teaching is scriptural! And I didn't write the Bible. The teaching is very clear and simple. Apart from the fact that the teaching in the video is scriptural, what wrong have I done to ask you to respect your husband? I didn't ask you to respect me, but to respect your husband. Some of you respect pastors so much but have no respect for your husband. Some of you don't call your pastors by their names but call your husband by his name. One lady even commented that she must call her husband by his name because she calls Jesus by His name.
Kindly check the scripture and you will find out that no disciple of Christ called Him Jesus Christ. Some may have referred to Him as Jesus when talking about Him to people, but when talking to Him directly, they called Him Master, Rabbi, Son of David, etc.
The previous week, I published a video, where I rebuked only husbands and many women applauded the teaching. But because the teaching in this video advises wives, the same women are angry. One of the women even commented that my teaching is an African teaching. Please note that there is nothing African about the teaching.
The teaching is directly based on scripture, and the scriptural references are Ephesians 5:22-25 and 1Peter 3:1-6. It will interest you to note that the teaching that supports equality of husband and wife is based on western culture. The Bible does not support equality of a husband and wife. It, however, supports equality of a man and woman, but not a husband and wife. It's different in marriage. A woman may be the head of a big organisation but her husband is still her head.
The Bible clearly says that the husband is the head (Ephesians 5:23). You can't be equal with your head. There is no scripture that supports equality of husband and wife. Rather western culture supports it. Unfortunately, there is a mixup of western culture and scriptural doctrines. Many people practise western cultures, thinking they are practising scriptural doctrines.
Having said this, I want you to know that I don't support the maltreatment of wives. God forbid! The teaching in the video was just to help wives become queen in their marriages. If you listen to the full message, you will see how I rebuked husbands. I actually rebuke husbands more because wives are weaker vessels. But I want you to know there is no other way of becoming a queen in your marriage apart from making your husband the king.
For you to become a queen, your husband must first become the king. The message has been tested and proven. It works! From the comments I read, it's obvious that some of the ladies are bitter against their husbands. And I will like to beg you to take it easy with husband. He may be maltreating you, but you are also not treating him well. If you give him his due respect, you will be happy. The problem is usually who will become nice first.
I know that some people wrongly teach you that you are equal with your husband. They are deceiving you. Such teaching makes so much sense but cannot be found in the Bible. Apart from the fact that the Bible says wives should respect their husbands, it's clearly better to respect than to disrespect a person. Do not see me as your opponent. God called me to help Christians, irrespective of one's church or denomination. That explains why I don't pastor a church. W
Ives, I beg you to be respectful to your husbands. Be submissive to your husband as the Bible teaches us. You can't be disrespectful to your husband and still pray to God. Any wife who disrespects the husband has no relationship with God. A man, on the other hand, who maltreats the wife has no relationship with God.
My teaching may be hard but it's the truth. We live in a time that people have itchy ears but I teach only what you should know. I don't teach what you want to hear but what you should hear. If your husband has annoyed you so much, please forgive him and have a fresh start with him. Put into practice my teaching, and your husband will make you his queen. You can't be happy in the marriage if your husband is not happy. Make him happy and become the happiest wife on earth. When I teach husbands, I rebuke them as well. But now, I am speaking to wives.
Respecting your husband does not mean you are a slave. Rather, it cements your relationship better. I also want you to know that you cannot modernise marriage.
Marriage is an old-fashioned institution and must be practised in an old-fashioned way. Any attempt to modernise it will destroy it. Jesus Christ said that if you put a new wine into an old wineskin, it will bust.
The marriage system has “busted” because we are attempting to practise it with new marriage doctrines. We must go back to the scripture and practise only scriptural doctrines if we want to restore our marriage system. I would have explained further to you but I feel that I have already said enough.
Watch the viral video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNikk-X-O7E&feature=youtu.be. https://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2018/05/its-abomination-to-call-your-husband-by.html?m=0

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obaataaokpaewu:
Kogi state and Benue State play the same kind of politics(Tiv dominating for ages) . It was just by the death of Audu that an Ebira man was able to become a governor. Infact a goat owned by an Igala man stand a better chance wining any election than any candidates from the other tribes

majorly, kogi state was separated from benue state. according to history, igala people came from benue state. so I expect domination. and also from my findings, they are educated too. but that doesn't says that they will not support other zones to contest for the governorship election. ever since the creation of kogi state, they are the first tribe to votes in for the governorship seat. it's time for okun people to contest for that position among other senatorial zone too. igala people will love to votes for okun governorship candidate because of the hatred they have for the ebira people.

ages2020:
Watch as things unfold....
The igalas are sending Bello back....
Governorship is coming back to KOGI EAST....

but I hope you know that the okuns too aren't fools. Infact with the love of Dino melaye in kogi west senatorial zone, in the east they will love him if he contest for the governorship election . Dino melaye is still the best man for the job to remove Yahaya Bello from that seat.

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ages2020:
Election is about numbers....
Votes from Kogi east alone it almost equal that of Kogi west and Central.....
The Igalas are like the typical hausas when it come to politics...
Their number will make them dictate what happens...

I don't subscribe to that. Infact Igala people have already tasted Yahaya Bello government and they are not enjoying his government. they will rather votes for okun man to contest for governorship seat against Yahaya Bello which came from ebira -ikenne land.

madridguy:
Quote me back after the election. Till then, stay bless.

just try to safe this thread OK. you will come back and analyze your party Apc defeat. the likes of you argue blindly with me last year senatorial bye election. now it's this year governorship election and you are still arguing. pdp winning in landslide victory. the voice of God is the voice of the voiceless.

ages2020:
The next governor of Kogi state will come from kogi east...(igala)
Dino can decamp to PDP and go back to senate....
As for the failed Bellohari, you failure is already confirmed...
You lost in Dino recall...
You just lost in the APC congress....
Audu/Faleke faction won almost All the election....
You can't win the APC primaries if things stands the way it is now....

how could you say that Igala people will produce the next governor. what of the okun people too Hmmmmmmm. they have never produced any governor since the creation of kogi state. why can't they be chanced and nominate Dino melaye for that seat.

madridguy:
Laughing in Tapa, wake up from your slumber, PDP cannot win any gubernatorial election in SW again. Not this era my brother.

you haven't make any point here. thank God twitter and other platform are there to see more results. you have not see nothing yet, by July, all the political parties will be conducting their governorship primaries. so we will know who Apc and Ogbeni aregbe will anoint for his party.

madridguy:
This is clear example you know nothing about politics. APC shot themselves in the senatorial election since everybody want the late Adeleke to be honored and APC want otherwise. Let the dancing senator contest for governor and see the real game.

this is the song you have been singing since Apc defeat in last year osun west senatorial bye election. upon the millions of naira the governor spent, why can't he helped his candidate? the same scenario is repeating itself in this year gubernatorial election. we only have 4 months to go. you will see the outcome of the election. in osun central, osun west and osun east, pdp is winning massively and convincely in landslide victory.

yemimajid:
do all german school accept letter of proficiency as substitute for TOEFL and ielts

yes, but always try to ask the admission officer of the school you applied to.

no doubt at all, pdp will win massively and convincely in osun and ekiti state in July and September governorship election. people are tired of Apc government.

madridguy:
Laughing at you in osogbo voice Ancient man what do you know about the state of Osun? Nothing just to rant her after pictures as if na today we dey see picture.

Someone like you said more than this during Ondo state election and after election he hide

can you please tell me the final results of osun west senatorial zone election. Hmmmm. out of 10 local government, Pdp won 9 while Apc won only ejigbo local government where the candidate came from. you don't understand politics here in osun state. if you don't know the people of osun state are always ever ready to cast their votes for their choice. upon the spending of state resources and funds Ogbeni government spent during the last year election period, please what's the outcome. the same scenario is repeating itself in this year gubernatorial election. Infact out of the 30 states in osun state, pdp winning 25 states while Apc winning only 5 states. osun state people will tell you that they will not votes for you and they will stand by their words. you haven't see anything yet.

umasoyeoche:
NA SO..... WE ARE WAITING. ITS NOT FAR AGAIN

it's just 4 months to go . so we will see the outcome of the poll. pdp winning massively and convincely at the poll .

laudate:
Oga, Kogi is a big state that has produced several eminent people. So what if Dino Melaye has been treated badly? So because of that, Melaye should be dashed the governorship ticket even though there is no proof that he will perform better than Bello?

I do not have a particular candidate in mind, but I am sure there are other people who can perform much better than Bello, or Melaye or Smart Adeyemi. Okun people do not need to recycle such mediocre politicians, to represent them. Let them look far and wide for a good candidate.

Before BRF became governor of Lagos and transformed the state, how many people knew him? Before Donald Duke became governor of Cross River and improved the state, who put forward his name? Before Akpabio clinched the governorship ticket of Akwa Ibom and upgraded the entire state, did you hear his name anywhere?

All those people I mentioned are performers, who left their state far better than they met it. If their people had decided to recycle old politicians and failures, would their states have witnessed such transformation?

currently, Yahaya Bello still has Apc structure in kogi state, and definitely Apc will give him the governorship ticket back in 2019. what I'm saying is that Dino melaye is good for the job to contest against Yahaya Bello. people have hate Yahaya Bello because of his bad leadership. infact if inec conduct election today, the good people of kogi state will votes out Yahaya Bello out of government. Dino melaye is still the preferred governorship candidate for that job. he will beat Yahaya Bello in the next year governorship election. I think alot of kogi stakeholders are all taking notes of it.

Euouae:
Scam

when chip are down, APC will win

analyze it here in what aspect Hmmmm. in all the senatorial zone, pdp is winning massively and convincely. don't even talk about osun west and osun central that always have the bulk votes for the election. pdp is winning back to back in the upcoming governorship election. people are no more fools, people are no more ready to be taken for granted. if you failed woefully, they will votes both the candidates and the party out. Apc party failed the masses in both lies and propaganda.

madridguy:
When PDP dey Abuja self dey no win wake up oga

you are only good to rant here on nairaland. I don't even know maybe you have cast any votes in your life. you are not even a grassroots politician. you are just online pay per post bmc crew. so I don't have to argue with you. you are still a kid in terms of osun state politics. not only talking of south west politics too. Infact as it stand, pdp are winning massively and convincely in the grassroots. the people are tired of Apc government in osun state. currently two serving state house of assembly members decamped to pdp today and also over 8000 decamp to pdp too. pdp is winning massively and convincely in the next governorship election.

laudate:
Dino Melaye, Smart Adeyemi and Yahaya Bello are all birds of the same clueless and corrupt feather. God will not allow any of them smell power again in Kogi State. Kogi people deserve an articulate, visionary, progressive and hardworking leader, who will pay salaries promptly and transform the entire state, like BRF transformed Lagos.

so who are you preferring now. as it stand, Dino melaye has been treated badly in Apc. Infact he ought to have announced his resignation letter from Apc party. the truth of the matter is that Apc doesn't want Dino melaye no more. Dino melaye should contest against Yahaya Bello in the next year governorship election. the best thing Dino melaye should do is to decamp back to pdp and contest for the next governorship election. so far so good, Okun people from kogi west senatorial zone has never produced any governor since the creation of kogi state. this is very bad. I think there's a particular woman too that's eyeing the post of Dino melaye in kogi west senatorial zone. smart Adeyemi has served the Senate for two terms. I don't even expect him to contest again. Dino melaye should contest against Yahaya Bello in the next year governorship election.

this is massive, really pdp will win osun state governorship election in landslide victory. Infact they are winning massively and convincely. the will of God and the masses will prevail.

oga oooooo, it shows that Apc can never hold peaceful congress and governorship primary.

SalamRushdie:
something tells me the momentum is ripe for Dino to contest for Governor of Kogi state ..this is the best moment for him

exactly comrade salam, this is the best time senator Dino melaye should contest against Yahaya Bello. Yahaya Bello should contest under Apc while Dino melaye should contest under pdp. senator smart Adeyemi should be given the ticket back or anyone else. I strongly believe that Dino melaye will win massively and convincely against Yahaya Bello.

papoudaupolos:
The video and audio ain't from same source.

hear the people that's shouting Yahaya Bello thieves. they are shouting thief(ole) in Yoruba language. the youths in kogi state are tired of Yahaya Bello style of government.

Breaking: Angry Kogi Youths Shouting “ Yaya Bello Ole” at All Progressives Congress (APC) Congress in Iyamoye (Video)

Kogi State Youths Mocking Gov. Yahaya Bello as “Ole” – meaning “Thieves”

Things are now becoming harder and unbearable to Kogites. video credit : kogi politics today. watch the video below :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8pVH88auHc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdA7dp1bnew

Ologogoro:
Gerrarahere

lol you are very funny, you can hear Fayose loudly in the video. it shows that Fayose is a grassroots politician. he worked with what he says to his people.

Ologogoro:
Just watch the video and quote me later

your moniker says it all that you are a drunkard. why drinking in this rainy season. I hope you know that you will be catching cold. hmmmm

Ologogoro:
Surprisingly those viewers above failed to watch the video.
Fayose is a Clown and before you quote m try watch the video

why do you have to judge Fayose that way Hmmmmmmmmm. Fayose I know is a grassroots politician that will win his state for pdp back to back.

Waoooooooo this rally is massive really come September 22, pdp is taking over power from Apc government in osun. enough of dictatorship in governance.

AntiWailer:
Yes u are right.


Take the fried garri to another level. Like packaging it

lol well you have make a point here. packaging isn't bad at all.

redcliff:
you mean continue from the frying garri part? lmao!

lol who told you that it is frying gaari? Are you gaari seller? Are you selling it locally Hmmmmm.