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bisiswag:
Assuming she did,dont you think 7years is too long a time to have abandoned a woman you truly love and her kids?

bisiswag:
The man never loved her! Plain and simple'

Sollkayz:
true or not true, a wise person would take something from diz post........whether fabricated or not there are ladies who acts this way and shouldn't be.......pride doesn't build a home humility does.....

byvan03:
Another fake asse*d story specially prepared to console the afflicted .

FlawlesRebirth02:
.abi I lie? I dated one guy like that (last year) mehn this guy waz so lame when it comes to sex(long tiny diCcK,u can imagine(he dosnt know how to dowit very well••but he always want to hear me moan••watin I go do naw?naso I go de shout untop my voice for nothing mtwsssshhh

vizkiz:
Baby, I am not a chicken. Watin I wan use corn do?

Godmother:
Senseless thread and you took your time to comment Says a lot about your level of reasoning.

squarelead:
Do these and your Family will be peaceful.

annnikky:
Silly woman

missyadorable:
Lol..a weak man makes the best husband
He won't beat u,wont abuse you,wont use bad words with u,respects your feelings,he won't destroy ur career,wont deny you finance unlike his strong counterpart who can treat u anyhow,even beat u to death and walk away.

And when he cheats on u(he keeps it a top secret) and when u catch him,he vehemently denies instead of saying "and so what?"am a man,and flaunts it in your face like his strong counterparts do

#teamWeakmen

ogemore:
I still use my father's name bcus he is a very popular man, well known and respected. I feel good using my father's name.

ify84:
My wife never even add my own name to her surname... She still go with the name from secondary school.

We are going to two years.

Who surname don epp... Fighting over it is useless.

Joy1706:
Look at them. Small men suffering from small peniss syndrome. There's nothing to permit. It's MY decision if I decide to keep the surname I've been known with all my life.

EgunMogaji:
Respecting the fact that OP shared a financial concern which is admirable but I can only relate my own personal opinions based on my builds.

I have in at least two occasions refered the OP to professional builders of which I am none.

What I did on my personal build soothed me perfectly and was signed on by pros on my site.

We'll have to disagree that pillars are not necessary on small buildings.

There are two elements that I don't screw around with on buildings and they are foundation and roofing.

TheArchangel:
Why is your Dad involving you as if your Mom is into polyandrous union with both of you?



Let your Dad and Mum handle their issue and leave you out of it. You are to you for this burden abeg.

EgunMogaji:
The best decision maker is actually your local guys on site on the ground.

I cannot stress this enough.

PS: If it were me, I would at least do pillars for the foundation and terminate them at german floor level.

EgunMogaji:
Yes. I'm shocked that you asked this question actually.
Go and look at a Spyder880s build that the ground looked okay but they hit water very quickly as they dug the footings.

Soil test is not only about load carrying capacity but also about the consistency.

I'm not the educator on this but I ask you to do proper research so that you can be better informed. If you care.

EgunMogaji:
I'm not an engineer but recently built two bungalows.

I used pillars on my foundations because even though my land is rocky it is on a slope.

A local bricklayer that is familiar with the area can help ascertain what is needed.

Please note that I am not saying that you should not consult a soil expert , this depends on your risk aversion. I did not consult a soil expert and simply trusted those with knowledge of the area but added pillars.

Picture of your blueprint may help.

larryblack007:
Thanks a lot egunmogaji,really appreciate your advice. Does it mean i can just use pillars for the foundation only?that would be okay so far the land is a solid and no sloppy land though.I'll attach the pix of the land in due course.

Curdlebug:
call them a clique, mean set of whatever they think they are, the cococandy or whatever lives overseas and they probably have lived good lives. Yet when a struggling orphan came, they came to judge, how can they when they have never been in her shoes.

LesbianBoy:
Nairaland is becoming a stoopid site

semitunde:
Well I've said something reasonable even if I say so myself, so I guess that takes care of the "sharap" part.


You dont need to bring in the personality of cococandy or infact anyone else save for their thought as put down on this thread. The issue brought up is what should be faced. Again that knocks off your second point.

You are asking what I meant by economic abuse? You should have just asked nicely. What I meant was that as a married man, op didn't tell us if his bro has any child, what kind of job he does, if its enough in this present economic situation. We don't know if they are just married and just settling in and now have two siblings lumped on them - and they are not complaining, just adjusting.

Has anyone asked how they are coping financially? How from the ops post can you infer that his bro is rich enough to take care of them? You're not considering his situation. He might be a victim economically given the responsibility he's carrying while still being lampooned here by his sis.

Are you married?

galantjoe:
Don't commit suicide. We had enough suicide for this buhari period.
Seek your help elsewhere.

People can help.

semitunde:
Despite the emotional hues and cries on this thread, cococandy ( and some like her) have made the most realistic sense.

Many are just wailing here ( some referring to their stories as if a lot of ppl viewing don't have worse); point is, op is here for advise, what would be yours? Pet her like a good child crying, form a pity party around her? Lambast the brother and tell her sibling is the real family ( am sure peter square is eyeing somewhere)?

Let's assume the bro is under a trance and the wife is a witch, what should op do? Come to Nairaland and look for who would lambasted the bro with her? To what purpose. I'm not saying she can't be emotional for her state but this isn't the time for tears, its not a nolywood movie; she should get a grip of her situation ( no mater how bad it is) and work her way out.

P.s. The fact that op brought the issue here doesn't mean that the brother, or in fact the wife, isn't the real victim here. I'm talking emotional and psychological victim, economic victim etc.

Too many naive emotional comments.

K9blunt:
Oya now, single and ready ladies should show joor!



Its not easy to come out reveal what is in ones mind... Op good luck!

tayo60:
See ur life! People like u r d one wey dey help ladies carry handbag and wash their pants, and come dey form for ds forum. Get a life!!!