Saffi:
One thing you men dont understand is that women have it easier. A broke woman is far better than a wretched broke man. Who wants a broke man? He is at the bottom of the bottom and seen as shittt. Calling me broke can never pain me but las las you will still cry yourself to sleep because of your condition. It is well.

Jeferious:
I still have her Me sef no wan own anybody. My own life is hard enough....why would I want to add more burden to myself by seeking for whom to control? Did I create her?

Guy, your priorities are different from mine. Maybe you have too much time and resources to spare. Me no get time for myself. Where I come see time to impress babe? Ask around, I never send pm to any female N'lander since I joined . Any lady here wey fit prove me wrong, I go wire am #20k instantly.

In conclusion, my brother, many matter dey give me headache as I dey so, but woman matter no be one of them. Whether she goes or she stays, that's not my problem.

chikk:


You'd be surprised...

Anyway, it all depends,

First off, most of my friends are out of town, hence the boredom.
Secondly, I have been to some places around me already, some others will be super boring if I go alone and the rest, down right expensive.

PrimadonnaO:


They are really just deceiving him, when in actual fact they do otherwise in their own relationship.
The girl in the OP's story is quite annoying...her matter-of-factly entitlement.

The truth is that the things that happen in a relationship are all unwritten codes, but we operate by them. Y'all are deceiving yourselves if you feel you can be in a relationship and not spend money... It's nothing about a woman being lazy, far from it, because even working class ladies and business women have expectations of their man, too. It's one of the ways women feel cared for. We've from time immemorial come to see men as primary providers. While women, on the other hand, are primary caregivers. But it doesn't mean that a woman doesn't assist, too. As a matter of fact, a woman usually goes the extra mile for a man she loves and who in return makes her feel loved. Trust me on this one.

All of these guys whining, they are either broke or badly bruised... not anybody's business, neither does it change the fact.

What I do have an issue with is a woman who won't do anything for herself... and would in fact, be in a pathetic state without a man giving her money.

I work and I earn, and can sort out my basic needs and a bit of indulgences for myself, but no, I won't be with a man who's tight-fisted, a man who doesn't understand that he should be supportive and occasionally do random stuff for his woman whether or not such was requested.

I mean, that would stifle my natural inclinations of goodwill. I'd feel stupid if I cooked such a man a sumptuous dish as a treat with my money...I'd feel silly if I saw that nice shirt and got it for him because I felt it would look great on him. I'd feel overzealous if I arranged a surprise for his birthday. Nahh...can't be with a man like that.

What I won't do however, is tell a man I expect a portion of his salary. Lol. It's actually laughable... Neither would I ourightly be slamming him with bills. I'm a lil too proud to do that.

For y'all vile men all over Nairaland, slamming ladies and selling out wack ideologies, I hope you find a solution to your problems pretty soon.

merahki:


I am glad someone sees good on here
Cos I see a lot of hatred, bandwagon-ism, negativity and stinginess on display here. That’s the pervading spirit here for me.- being little in spirit (I am glad for the small bursts of humour, positivity and goodness I have to say)
Well I hope I am being hormonal and imagining things. If not, we have a huge problem on our collective hands. Cos we need minds focused on bringing freedom, development and wealth to Africa, not expending energy on gender warring!

merahki:


I am glad someone sees good on here
Cos I see a lot of hatred, bandwagon-ism, negativity and stinginess on display here. That’s the pervading spirit here for me.- being little in spirit (I am glad for the small bursts of humour, positivity and goodness I have to say)
Well I hope I am being hormonal and imagining things. If not, we have a huge problem on our collective hands. Cos we need minds focused on bringing freedom, development and wealth to Africa, not expending energy on gender warring!

rame18:
Then you are not entitled to her commitment or faithfulness. Nobody should be entitled to anything in your situation ship.

Jeferious:
Abeg where my brothers dey see this kind girls... because to me they don't exist. Abi na brothel op go find this im girlfriend?

The thing is that most men are so poor that the only thing they have is money. It's the only thing they can use to impress a lady. But the thing is, women value great sex more than money. I've been with mainstream prostitutes so I know what I'm talking about. They often have lots of money, mostly running into millions, that they don't know what to do with. But funny enough dem go still collect maximum payment from the next client. And intelligence is another trait that women admire a lot. Strength, eloquence, good looks are also capable of capturing a lady's heart.

From a personal point, I've a gf who I kept under my spell not with money(she has not even begged me money before in the first place), but with so many other qualities. And I can't remember her denying me anything before. The only bad thing is that I don't want to marry her, or anybody else. I just want her to give me children, preferably males.

4Ken:


Who virgin help. Women with two kids or even four kids can remarry and stay happily married. Get out of the box you are encasing yourself in and give a lucky man another try.

Pilotdmdod:
congratulations.

Eberechi24:

That's it, sometimes, we meet people that inspires us indirectly. Those girls were in your life for a reason. Will it be OK to say we draw inspiration from negativity sometimes?

DanDeeBoss:
Success bro.. That's the best way to payback

phorget:
My worst fear is poverty. Can't just imagine myself living in penury.

SillyeRabbit:
Sincerely alot of guys have that disgusting attitude. A girl will tell you she's already in a committed relationship yet you'll keep disturbing her. Why wasting your time beating a dead horse.

Xisnin:

That is nonsense. No time in history has a man without means being able to get married.
In fact, it is even easier for men without any source of income getting married nowadays.
Do you think your grandfathers handed their daughters to broke men?
Broke aint even in the equation.

Dapsonemmanuel:
but when they use for ritual .. no come here dey yarn dust on.. e go shock you