Victoria938:
I get irritated by women who present such absurd attitude. You'll be a mother in-law tomorrow and you want to destroy the bond your husband has with his mum.
Even if your mother in-law is a witch, don't you dare come in between her and her son.
Some women ehhh, really need brain reset surgery.

A wife can be replaced, but a mother can't be replaced.let her go very fast,they are ladies out there waiting for that opportunity.

And na woman talk this one o

bukatyne:


The fault started from the husband. He has 90% of the fault in this scenario.

If the MIL considered herself a mother to the DIL, she would not accept the gift.

I blame the DIL for marrying such a man out of all the 3.5 billion men in the world.

@Summary: True. I know someone who had two terrible marriages (MIL issues) and is a very terrible MIL today. To think they claim to be Christians beats me. I am sooooooooooooo disappointed in them (mother & son).

Lol

LutanFyah:
Why should a man consult some wife before buying a gift for his mother?

The wife is never family, she can go anytime she wants (especially when the man is broke and sick) but a mother will stick with her children no matter what.

Na wa ooo

adanny01:


The problem with responsibility is that the decisions you make today affect tomorrow.

So being a playboy now and choosing to settle and have kids far later in your life is an irresponsible decision. This is because having kids at 50 doesn't give the best for your children. Believe me or not, time is part of responsibility. So to be responsible, you have to decide early if you will marry or not. Delaying that decision alone is irresponsibility.

Responsibility is also bravery, imagine knowing you like women but you chose to have a stable family against your personal desires. That means you have made a sacrifice. That sacrifice is an act of responsibility to the wife and children you have.

If you have decided not to have a wife or children, it means you have chosen not to be responsible for anyone other than yourself. Don't forget that you still have a responsibility towards your old parents and relatives.

If you choose to have a wife and children, you are required to be responsible for them.

It is always looked at as irresponsibility if you have no responsibility towards a person other than yourself.

You have simply avoided any kind of responsibility so you can be said to be irresponsible.

Any woman who dates you is dating an irresponsible man because you have no intention of assuming any responsibility in her life.

In contrast, you are being responsible for using protection so that you will not become a full blown irresponsible man. The only thing here is that you are still only being responsible to yourself.

For me, responsibility is relative

I would say at this point, you cannot be judged as an irresponsible man, but if you let yourself reach 50 before deciding to have kids, you can be said to have lived an irresponsible life.

This I strongly disagree.

MrNipplesLover:


My lil sister is married.

My lil bro is planning his as well, go take place early next year.

I no get any plans to marry cos na only coded runs girls i dey stack...

If I'm to start pro creating, I go just find one fine babe put prick in her toto make she dey born my babies and I go dey take care of her (baby mama shiit), and nobody go question my decision... It's my life... Not anyone's.
So, bro, live ur life the way it pleases you.
What dey say no dey concern me... Be like say u feel more concerned.
I hail u, gee.

Yeah... Our choices, we're free to make them. Yes. But let's remember that our choices have serious consequences especially as to how these children will live either in a good home with both parents or single homes with single parents.

scrolldown88:


Lol, I am responsible enough to know that I don't want that for myself...at least not yet. I am responsible enough not to let the pressure of you lot get to me forcing me go into something at the wrong time. I'm responsible enough to have other responsibilities and seeing to them

Yes bro, you are very right. And I support you.

But if I'm to give an unsolicited advice, if you really desire to have and raise kids, please have them on time. It may not be when you're ready....because truly, we are never ever ready.

Oshokalo:
true, I have heard this nonsense before, somebody told me am still a boy because am not married yet

Sorry he called you a boy.

You're a man.

CryptoRepublic1:
Don't jump into marriage, marriage ain't worth it anymore.

I won't get married if I can change back the time.

There's nothing in it for men.

For you. And you only.

litaninja:
There is no right time. The right time is when he chooses. Simple.

Until he lives the consequences of what time he chose, then can he say it was the right time....or not.

2kurupt:

Words on marble.

This is what people forming woke and always copying the West would fail to tell you. They only copy the negative aspect of things

Don't you think we have people like the op, same thinking, same mentality in the West too?

LiveLifeHub:



Marriage is actually a choice.
But you being a playboy is criminal, is either you are married or a celibate.
You might think you are a smart playboy, but nah your destiny and glory the devil dey use play.

Criminal?

To be a playboy?

Jorge91:
This our nigeria mentality that a man must marry, if the man dies tomorrow leaving the wife and kids with nothing, those that pressurized you to marry will not do shit for your family. Marriage you have to be mentally and financially ready.

Is it really an Nigerian mentality?

rayvelez:
Nothing person no go read on dis green app oo, man build 3 flats house not 3bedrooms flat her mother live in one flat man want to marry he his here asking for advice if its wise for him and new bride to live in the same compound with MIL.
Now they are advising him to leave the house with new bride and be a tenant outside. The marriage already end in tears bfr it start.

Is it wrong, bad or not good?

Kondomatic:
It's actually different.

Son inlaws rarely have issues with mother inlaws.

Daughter in laws rarely have issues with father in laws.

Son in laws don't have issues with father in laws but mother in laws and daughter in laws are always in the news.

There's a reason.

Mother thinks another woman is taking her son from her and wife thinks a married man should leave his mother and cling to his wife.

Who else in man's life will feel this way? Please this daughter inlaw and mother in law fight is different and will always be.

It's not for me to decide for the Op but if I have a house of 3 flats and the woman I want to marry says that I should move out of the house because of my mother who is living in one, I will leave her.

Any friend that advises me to do such will be unfriended too.

Women don't really leave their family after marriage the way they expect men to do. Most women are okay with their siblings visiting or even living with them, especially their last born.

Their mother can visit and stay for months but once the man's siblings or even mother stays for one week, she will start complaining.

SMH.

Marriage cannot make me a tenant when I am a landlord abeg.

You I strongly believe is still very very young. But if you think otherwise, then you really have not seen the world and should wait a bit more before you think of having a gf first....

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

Please never make a mistake of marrying anyone out if pity. You got her pregnant and so what? It's not a must you have to marry her. If you do not want to marry her, then don't. If you really do, you'll continue to regret it all the days of your life.

Rather be a man, accept responsibility for now, agree to give monthly stipends and if you have the money please go for a DNA test.

Visit the family with some of your friends and uncles or cousins. Never accept to marry her. Just insist on you paying for child support.

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well

Please for the sake of the kids, have your wife and kid stay in the house, have the rent extended to at least a year from now while you find your own accommodation as soon as possible.

As adults you can choose to stay together or separately but please when kids are involved, please put their interest first before yours. Please I beg you. I really beg you.

Oluwaseun2020:


We cant choose where God should place us as human. ... He is supreme and calls that order.
I know you may wish for a better family but know this...
God could put you in Nigeria or Russia or Germany...
If we get to choose. ..everyone will probably be in America the strongest country in the world....
Which is only a tiny part of the world. ..then who will fill the rest.?
if we all choose the best then who will be in Cuba or brazil or south africa or congo.. or benin

All God wants from us is to make the best of whatever he gives us.

He puts Moses in Egypt Strategically to help stubborn and demon worshiping Israelites. .

God is saying everything I have made is Good...
But if it appears bad...then someone is not standing to make it what it should.

he wants us to fight till its perfect.

As sinful as Isreal was... God said I will never turn away from isreal...never.
They kept the sins and he kept working at making them better.... from one city to another he sent his prophets


He send Jesus to sinners

if you think im small....
David was small...but he killed Goliat.
1 Samuel 17:33
And Saul said to David, Thou art not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him: for thou art but a youth, and he a man of war from his youth.

God can use anybody. ..even a donkey was used to stop balam from the edge of destruction. ...

I think you need to be liberated.

Oluwaseun2020:

I know you have made up your mind and only seeking validation from people in here. ive been there done that.
But i promise you...one day you will wake up to realize that blood is thick...and the level of thickness.

Why do you think Americans come back to Africa as poor as it is to seek their roots

Validation?

Just relax because you're taking in the nonsense.

Go check the moniker. You were probably running around with pants when I started using this platform.

And lastly, spend your time learning. Will save us the stress of reading rubbish each time we open this platform.

ibedun:


You obviously don’t have sense.

Lol.

I thought I was the only one who noticed...

maximunimpact:



Don't let English language derail you bud. You can have many things double in this life, but your mother isn't one of them. Fucckers like you are the type that likes taking selfie with their mothers every mothers day to show off, but behind the camera you treat her like shit

Well you don't know me.

And I think you're the better Fu.cckkk.er than myself.

Just go make good use of your time and white making income, get sense..

BRATISLAVA:


You didn't sound like you were making good use of yours.

Alright. Thanks. So go make good use of yours

BRATISLAVA:


To be stingy, married, or what?

Go back and read the entire conversation. So you'll make very good productive use of your brain.

silento:


people like this dont have up to 30k in there account me am like the back bone of my family omo some months i dey spend up to 200k without buying cloth for my self , still most of them dey complain say i dey stingy , na only my mum dey most time pity for me based on she know say e no easy to be caring care of others while no one is looking after you

Nor mind them.

Forgetting that you have to stay strong so you can still support.

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Oluwaseun2020:
Foolish people like you... if you didn't have anything now... you will be finding family up and down... You will tell all your friends how they didn't help you.. is that not the same family that raised you up and sent you to school to get a good job and help them? bro nothing like family. God has made the family line so strong that you cant do without them. Where is thy brother? God asked Cane... Am i my brother keeper? he reply.
Genesis 4:10
The LORD said, "What have you done? Listen! Your brother's blood cries out to me from the ground.

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Please just keep quiet.

maximunimpact:


OP is stingy and selfish along with anyone sympathizing with him. I will give everything for my mother and family without thinking about it

I WILL GIVE...Well let's wait until you have.

You do not know what it feels like...

maximunimpact:


Lols... i can change your life in a heartbeat. We are all anom here doesn't mean real men don't hang around here

You should first change yourself. Because you need the uplifting even more than the op.

lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything

S.he.male...use your sense

maximunimpact:


You are selfish and stingy. I know someone who have never gotten any free money in life but he shares all his wealth with family and friends and he's happy doing it. Common to take care of your mother a grown man is whining on social media.

Seems you don't have sense.

As if you're a cheerful giver. I understand that you're passing through difficulties in life that you think you're the only one suffering and that's why you can't reason properly.

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

As if you send half of your entire monthly income to your mom, sister, brothers, father and other relatives.

Or maybe you do not have a job or a steady source of income and so you don't know what it takes to earn income.

Please you must not advice or speak. Some times just read or listen.

able20:
OP you are a greedy boy, you have been sleeping with that girl for ages and you mistakenly paid a token 100k to the daddy's account you are making noise

Mumu.

grossintel:
So one of my clients wanted to transfer 100k to me for a subscription fee, for some reasons I didn't want him to send it to my main account so I told him I'll send him an account to send the money to.

My girlfriend was with me, so I asked if I could use her account and she agreed. (PS: I use her account number a lot and we've been dating for a long time so I trust her with such amount) . So I told her to send me her account number, but she was watching a movie and requested I check my bank app beneficiaries. I checked and reluctantly copied the account number without checking properly seeing the account name had her surname on it, I didn't check the rest.

My client transferred the money and almost 24hrs my girlfriend still didn't receive the money so I contacted him and he sent a screenshot of the transfer which I forwarded to her. Immediately she saw it she shouted! That's her dads account number, I know I used to send her money through he's account some years back so I saved he's account details. She quickly called him and that's when she heard the shocker.

He said he thought it was he's friend abroad, so they used the money to buy food stuff and what is left is 40k or less, her mom was even pleading if they can send the 40k. My GF has been crying and begging that I should give them time to raise the money or I should sell her phone. Her entire family members have been calling me and I refused to pick, I just want my money back complete.

How can you use money you didn't verify the source in less than 24hrs? Her Mom is a pastor and Father is an elder but this is stealing! Did you call your friend abroad to ask before using the money? Her dad is retired without pention so I know for sure they don't have a way of raising the money.

After much pleading I asked her to tell them to send the 40k and send the rest before the week runs out, that's when they told her they can't do transfer and it has to be on Tuesday. At this stage, I just concluded they spent all that money, I'm trying to stay calm but at the same time not be foolish. My friend is asking me to involve the police but this will certainly hurt my relationship. Please how should I follow this matter, I need mature advice please. 100k is not something I can dash anyone right now.

Lol. This kine story sef.

My advice, just let it go from your own end. You really need to let it go. Then if your gf family wants to refund, let them do it at their own convenience. That should give you enough info about your prospective inlaws that's if you decide to take the relationship a step further.

Iamafinegirl:


I don’t keep screenshots of years ago like you because love forgives and don’t hold to offense of years
Where you have equally called me “demonic”, stupid, very stupid etc, in need of psychatric etc. But heaven witnesses those ones and you too you know so I am not bothered.
Did you tell them I don’t care but I wash your underwears? your boxers as I should for a husband? Your inner wears too regularly?

Did you tell them the day I said “what is my business”. You said you won’t eat the stew at home it’s affecting you and out of immediate concern. I said “how” and you squeezed your face like I was stressing you to answer or something n I was wondering why you should be angry I asked how. When you said it’s causing ulcer or stomach pain, I said ah ah is that why you squeezed your face like it’s a big deal to answer something that simple and you said “you don’t want me to have a different opinion” without you even telling me what the problem is first before u would see whether I had another viewpoint to share. Is it wrong to share viewpoints ?
I tire ooooo
At best I would have said ah...d stew has so much pepper like Dt? Or ah are you sure it’s the stew really causing it” or maybe it’s something else?
I was hurt so I said is it not out of care or love, I am asking you how stew is affecting you. Like if not for love care togetherness is it not just going to be “your business”?
The Person wey have ulcer still go dey chop fried akara and I was telling him in addition you have ulcer and you are eating fried things haba....who doesn’t know fried things increase ulcer too but me I don’t fight on opinions since he was enjoying it, I also didn’t stop him becuase if I did it would be fight ooo that I am stopping him from eating d akara.

Be telling stories fully pls. You have been lying to me from beginning of relationship and it’s sad you would still cover the full process of an event for you to feel good or to blame me as it would make you happy.
This is the same person who has never bothered about your health?

Those are the things uncle would see as arguement ooooo....haaa....I never knew comments simple so far it’s different from what he feels is an offense ooo.
The thing d weak me
All you picked from that discussion is that I said it’s “your business”. You refused to look at the whole story that lead to comment. You just pick something n hold to it as a way of avoiding the real problems and it’s toxic to be honest.

Did you also tell that that for about a year in the relationship you earned 67-73% more than me and that was even roughly the one year you invited me to stay with you Or you suddenly forgot and decided to just be throwing blames on me or you forgot you did because you are feeling so bitter.
You got so angry you couldn’t manage your finances and you were angry I had better financial management because you give money to side chicks as I later learnt so you would get angry and started looking for ways I could lessen your original bills you were paying / had before I came sef like pay part of ur dstv etc. Tv I rarely watch. And the one I was doing was never enough, I would go market spend and write down my spending so u see everything and amount since you complain. When you started seeing I was making account on the cost you started saying I am altering the figures? Alter how much for what for God sake?
Why do you like fight so much like this.

My take, you really should be conscious of your words. You really insulted him. If you can't be in a relationship just say no. If he's too petty, just leave him. Tell him it's over and walk away. Were you forced? You can't change anyone. Words said can't be unsaid.

I always tell women (and men), stop the insult especially someone you call a lover. Even if you get sharp mouth, never insult. If you can't tolerate it, tell your spouse its over. Its a form of abuse.

For me, your bf sounds petty, totaling and sharing things like 500 naira and 300 naira....well maybe he feels you have to contribute in a way and you're not so he's ready to go down with you.

Honestly you both need some serious thinking to do....not as a couple but as individuals.

And for your future relationships, try to contribute without being asked. That 300 naira banana of goat meat pepper soup or fruit you got when returning without even asking your partner for cash especially when you have it will be so sweet and earn you more cash and goodies.

I wish you guys the best