Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

You are a very stupid man. You better send that lady out. She didn't come when you had no one with good invention. She came because she saw you are weak and vulnerable. Like u said u married her because of your daughter. Since she's not fulfilling the deal send her out and look for someone else cus this woman is heartless n you will see shege banza in Jesus name if you are still with her. The mother is dead for God's sake. What's are gain for maltreating the girl, its not like the mother will come back one day to claim her wifey post. Ladies are just always selfish. Like I always say ladies don't love men.
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First thing first. Please I beg you in the name of God. Dump that girlfriend now o .

If not your eye go see wen .

Lemme ask you this question if you run into trouble with your finances n there is no place to stay. Would your family leave you to sleep on the road even when they don't have enough money to set you back up at that moment?

I know you will want to say that for ppl are more dre for you than your family. And some bonds are better than the family which is not the case of gf.

She is practically being selfish even to your face. Please note this 90% of ladies are only there for their skin. That's why she's altering such a statement.

And yes she is 100% manipulative. She's trying to isolate you from your family. That way she's totally in charge of what you think, how you act, and your steps. .

Try this so you can see her true nature. Tell her because of what she said. That if you end up marrying her that you swear to God who made you that non of her siblings will sleep in your house and not even her parents n see how she will fight you.

Baba no let Bleep cover your eyes o. A lady that is not nice is not going to be nice in the future. She will soon try to disconnect you from your friends the moment she sees you value their opinion on some subject matters more than hers.

In the end, there is no perfect way to do these things. Na you know wetin you dey see to fit make you talk this one. But baba follow your gut. It is mostly right 100% of the time.

If your gut says she's manipulative. Believe she is. Because that is not the only case your subconscious mind has seen recorded before giving you this submission.

Ignore at your own risk.

aisha1314:



What she's done by asking you for money for Christmas after you've just lost your dad is not right at all. It shows selfishness and callousness on her part and that's not a good sign. You should consider this to be a major red flag.
I think you need to have a serious conversation with her about this and tell her that you don't approve of her behavior. If she sees the wrong in what she's done and she apologies sincerely then you can let it go. But if she just acts like she did nothing wrong the you should think about ending the relationship.
I can't imagine asking someone for money immediately after they've just lost a family member.

Make God punish you for this useless advice when you know totally well that people will never change. This are attitude is are primal attitude, very innate to are DNA structure she can only pretend to be sorry n act like she has changed but she will still do it again. This I promise you. So baba you never see woman o just move on. And turn her to just pleasure buddy. And always use protection cus she go wan pin you down with pregnancy threat so. No go loose guard because of pussy.

Am interested but can only do February?. As we have already closed investment portfolio for the year.

Now I can confidently go and buy land. I use to think this construction stuff is rocket science and will eat too much money before with the way those real estate company use to over price things. Thank you for this boost for the coming new year.

bokondogi:
Hello Nairalanders, I will appreciate your comments and advice on this post
I have been married with 2 grown up kids for more than 2 and half decades, 2 months ago my wife got in contact with one of her secondary school classmate, someone she has lost contact with since they left school 3 decades ago.
So they started calling each other, though my wife told me about him and sometimes they talked on phone in my presence but later my wife will go to her room to talk with the guy, most times in the night.
This calls always excite my wife that I could hear her laughing and I begin to get jealous and I decided to get to know what they usually talk about.
They later moved to chatting on WhatsApp and will be doing call at night. I noticed my wife started making sure her phone isn't within my reach, making sure she didn't leave her phone carelessly. We both know each others phone password, One day I get access to her phone and I open her whatsapp. I noticed that my wife is flirting with the guy, the guy wil be refering to my wife as his wife but my wife usually won't respond to this,
They were exchanging pictures, and admiring each others pictures. The guy was proffesing love to my wife but wiffy won't reciprocate to this advances.
Once a while I use to check wiffy's phone for any new development, and I find out wiffy use to send both money and airtime for data to the guy (my wife is into a lucrative business and money isn't her problem). So one day a friend of mine send me a short porn video which I showed to my wife, she requested me to forward it to her, (I was surprised by this her request because she usually frown at porn), I sent it to her on her Facebook messenger instantly, but I was suspicious of what she wanted to do with the porn video. 2 days later she called me that she wanted to send the video to a female friend of her on WhatsApp but she didn't know how to forward the video from messenger platform to whatsapp.
I now forwarded the porn video to her on WhatsApp because I was curious what she wanted to do with the porn video, lol and behold my wife forwarded the video to this guy with a vulgar comment. I can't imagine my wife using the word 'toto', I have never heard this word from her
I now find out that this guy has earlier sent to my wife a porn video which she later deleted. I was shocked by these discoveries. My wife that frowns at obscene words is now using one in a chat with a man and even exchanging porn with him.
Even some gift items I kept in the house, I discovered my wife gifted them to this guy.
After these discoveries, I confront my wife with the evidence but she find it hard to deny and she said that she didn't know what she was doing with the guy was wrong that she didn't know the implications,
She told me she did not have any sexual contact with the guy and she swear about this, but I find it hard to believe, though I didn't find any evidence of this in their chats,
I am heart broken, this is a woman I trust so much,
Though she begged me and told me she won't have contact with the guy again, but I find it hard to believe.
I plan to throw her out. Is this the best decision?

Please throw her out. .

Where is it located!?

1.9

tsnoop:


I don over try for you sir..if anything comot for that #2M he go affect almost everyone

I guess this is not for me then. Thank you very much

Baba no be say anything na wet in dey alkannt I tell you so. 1.8 m if he commort my. Balance na zero

Engine picture. I have 1.9 cash.. Tomorrow morning pick up.

Best I can do is 1.8 cash ready tomorrow morning pick up

2m cash ready. Buyer

1.9/2m

1.6 cash ready buyer. Is the car still available.?

1.7 cash ready buyer. Is the car still available.?

Engine pic. Is it 4plugs or 6

berakahroyals:
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berakahroyals:
Tomorrow Morning Deal Distress Sales Toyota Rav 4 2007 Ac Gear and Engine Perfect Buy and Drive Price 2.3mlast settle 50k
Location: Ikotun Egbe Lagos
Call/WhatsApp: 08023970954

Is it 4plug or 6

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fyzaila:
Op pretend to loose your job and you're broke and see her reaction. Then you'll know if it your money that is attracting her or otherwise

N keep this up for a year. Then you will see

BRATISLAVA:


Go to the FP and stop your nonsense permutations.

He suddenly lost his livelihood, because it's impossible for men to never have had a livelihood. One-sided narrative always. There are many young women marrying jobless, useless men everyday. There are many men with useless standards, and many others who are gigolos and kpokogris of the world who leech on women.

It's only on this forum that there is the delusion that women are lazy and men do so much. After all, your sisters and mothers are all jobless and should have no standards.

Maybe we should talk about what women are going through in the hands of men, because men aren't the only ones going through anything.

At this point I leave u to yourself. Cus am still wondering why you had to put my sisters and mothers into this discussion.

Me I no dey follow ppl like you talk. Ppl that can't keep things clean without insults.

BRATISLAVA:


Do women marry men, or men marry women? And is a woman marrying a substandard man anything new? Even fruit selling women are catering to able bodied jobless men they look forward to marrying.

Baba stop this nonsense talk. Go n check well. Why did the fruit seller marry the man at first?
I'm sure she wasn't a fruit seller to begin with.
And am very certain that the jobless man wasn't jobless when they married.

N the only reason she doesn't leave is the kids.

N if u analyse deeply you would find out what the man has gone through in the hands of the woman for losing his source of living.

Then for him to now give up totally means the woman has over done something for him to just throw everything away n give up.

No respect anymore and more things. That follow suit after losing his source of lively hood.

So no lady ever in this world lower their standards for a man. Unless they are evening newspaper..

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

If tables were turned will a lady lower her standard for the guy. If he is the NCE holder from a poor family, n. Hard working?

I just want to know. Let's all keep the same energy.

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Never lower your standards for any lady. Remember she will not lower hers for you. If tables were turned. She would rather trash you.

Ladies are always loyal to their true emotions. And they will never do anything not beneficial to them. Hence the selfish attitude.

You yourself knows exactly why she's interested in you. Remove all those benefits that comes with you. She won't want to be around any longer.

No o
Na you say no wan keep car for anyone sha

To say u fit keep am for me I m ready to pick it up next month. Inshalla so far all this things are fixable on a permanent note.

Is there a permanent fix to everything.

Which one is adjuster...

And what part underneath is leaking is it the engine or what exactly.

I have a feeling I know this person

Am interested. Can I edit the user name to what I want.