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I am a Man. A graduate of Harvard University so with these, you could estimate my age.

I noticed too that some nairalander girls are turning this forum to something else.

Thanks everyone but let me put this straight, we have been friends. I met her through a friend and she liked me. I am a young man looking to settle. She has been nice but I was not attracted to her physically. She has had her own flaws too, but she is a good person and maybe more of pressure or more like her asking me out, i agreed adn she has been nice but i sometimes wonder if this is the right decision or am I pressured or would i hurt her? These are issues I have to think about.

Diva1, I read ur story and you seem like a very nice, sweet person. I am in the US, located in Manhattan, if you don't mind, we could exchange contact infos, as friends. It hurts to see you go through this because I have been there myself.

My ex girlfriend was far worse, hers were constant insults, cheating and much more but did not want to let go of me. On top of that, she was too proud to even apologise, I would have considered if she showed remorse with humility but she didn't and had to let her go.

Diva1:
It is very understandable 'cause I'm there too, even if you know the relationship is as good as bad and worthless, it's still hard to accept it and in this case not because of low self esteem or no self value but just because you LOVED this person.

U r very beautiful and there r a lot of men that would be dying to have and keep you. If you don't mind, where in the US r u located? and if u don't mind me getting your email add. Would appreciate it.

The outcome now is that I have asked for space to evaluate everything on my own.

We men get heartbroken too just that we find it easier to pick up ourselves and move on.

It is hard to love someone you cannot trust.

I still remember mine even though we have been broken up for many years, she is still in my memory.

Facially, not so great, bodywise, ok.

P.S. Diva1, that's what I will do. Thank you. Do you mind sending me your email or number or can I give you mine? So we may talk more. I would love to.

Bros na true you talk but still this beauty no matter how small the issue is also matters. Let my kids be happy they are fine.

Not easy bro, some of this people are just criticising me like they do not want their kids to be beautiful. I will think about it.

This even gets harder, she lost her virginity to me. I just don't know what to do.

I never said i am the most handsome dude, some of you r just talking like u wouldnt do worst.

thoniaslim, thats funny,it will b degrading to take her 4 such.

thank you all once again

Thank you everyone for your advice both the good ones and the ones that criticised me.

Ebila she may be the one but i sometimes wonder, would God give me something that is not really my heart's desire?

Yes sistawoman, though we have known for about a year but it was clear there was no relationship until 3 months ago.

Thank you fxmaxony, i should live by my signature. God help me to make a wise decision.

MrBrownJay, c'mon how can i tell someone i cannot be with you because you are ugly. She was actually the one that initiated the relationship, 3months ago. I did not go so deep yet but she has been very good to me that i would have loved to return the favor but i know soon, she will be expecting marriage and would not see any reason why i cannot marry her but this is the only reason.

Thank you Gentlelady and I would also turn to God for help and answers so i don't regret anything.

LadyT, i had mentioned earlier there is no guarantee that the next lady though beautiful would be as good as the girl.

Charminme, i would not want to cheat on her or any woman for that matter but my kids. This will be irreversible. I guess I will turn to prayers. God knows my thoughts and intentions no matter how bad they are. The truth even those of you criticising me, not one of you would want ugly kids.

I would turn to God, we actually started dating seriously about 3months ago, we have been friends more like hanging out and trying to get to know. She told my friend she likes me and I am not the person that likes to hurt anyone.

Sistawoman, you sound more matured and understandable. I agree with you, sometimes i beat myself to it, to stop all these thoughts if i love her but i cannot help it, maybe i will go into prayers.

It is very easy for others to just jump into conclusion without knowing anything, if i wanted to opt out, why would i be here online looking for advice?

Luxoire- sex? what is sex? are women now scarce? she even knows my ex girlfriend that is still begging me back since so leave sex out of this matter.

I am ok. I cannot judge myself whether i am ugly or not. I stood my her even when others did not and friends tease because she is a good person but of late, i've been thinking what my kids will look like. That is just the issue or maybe she is being this way because she knows it will be hard for her to find another man or I'm confused. I don't know why all these thoughts

Luxoire, like i said I am not a child that cannot differ what is ugly or not and i did not claim i am very handsome. We should face reality too, we know when someone is ugly physically, we can see and tell. I am not being shallow here. I'm just scared my kids might not look good.

That is what I thought of doing but I feel very bad. I'm sure no body wants ugly children. There is no guarantee the next woman, though beautiful would be good or be like her but my kids, my generation. It is very hard to just tell her off for no reasonable reason.

I have a very good girl, everything you want in a woman but the problem is she is very ugly, physically. I met her through a friend and we have been together for 1 year. Initially, I tried to avoid her and all, but she is a very good person. I plan on settling down but thinking what my kids would look like?
I want a good woman but i do not want very ugly kids. How can i tell her i like her but i'm worried about my future generations or my kids having problems here and there that people tease them because they look ugly. I am not a child, i know there are more important qualities but this issue is killing me. Please advise on what i can do. Thank you.