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InvertedHammer:
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I hope you know that the statistics said "on average".

So don't toot your horn. Not all women are outliving men.

Ireti divorced her husband? Watch the glow on Patrick going forward. He should go and do Thanksgiving in the nearest church.

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casualobserver:
This is the problem with narcissistic modern women like you. You give but you can’t take….again another reason men run away from women like you. By the time a man gets to a certain age he can smell problem women a mile off. Who came on Nairaland talking about themselves? You made your “personal” business a public matter? If you do t want your personal business to be an issue then STFU about your personal business.

Single Moms vs. Single Dads: Examining the Double Standards of Single Parenthood
While society's commitment to promoting equality for all parents is only getting stronger, social perceptions of single moms and single dads still vary greatly. Let's investigate the disparities and pinpoint how we can do better to support all solo parents.

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REPORT JULY 2, 2013
The Rise of Single Fathers A Ninefold Increase Since 1960
BY GRETCHEN LIVINGSTON



A record 8% of households with minor children in the United States are headed by a single father, up from just over 1% in 1960, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of Decennial Census and American Community Survey data.

SDT-2013-07-single-fathers-01The number of single father households has increased about ninefold since 1960, from less than 300,000 to more than 2.6 million in 2011.1 In comparison, the number of single mother households increased more than fourfold during that time period, up to 8.6 million in 2011, from 1.9 million in 1960.

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BEING A SINGLE DAD CAN SHORTEN YOUR LIFE – STUDY
By AFP
15 February 2018 | 12:40 pm

The risk of dying prematurely more than doubles for single fathers compared to single mothers or paired-up dads, according to a study of Canadian families published Thursday.

“Our research highlights that single fathers have higher mortality, and demonstrates the need for public health policies to help identify and support these men,” said lead author Maria Chiu, a scientist at the University of Toronto.

The findings, published in The Lancet Public Health, may apply to wealthy nations with similar ratios of single-parent families to Canada, the researchers said.

Chiu and colleagues tracked nearly 40,500 people across Canada over 11 years. The subjects — who included 4,590 single moms and 871 single dads — were, on average, in their early 40s when the study began.

Nearly 700 died by the end of the monitoring period.

Compared to partnered fathers or single moms, the death rate was three times higher among single fathers.
Factoring in that solo dads tended to be older, had higher cancer rates, and were more prone to heart disease, the researchers concluded their mortality risk was still twice as high.

Likely culprits include poor lifestyle choices and stress, Chiu said.

“We did find that single fathers tended to have unhealthier lifestyles,” which could include poor diet, lack of exercise, or excessive drinking, she said.

Men parenting on their own were more likely to be separated, divorced or widowed than single mothers — a larger proportion of whom raise babies conceived outside of a relationship, the team found.

Having experienced a breakup is a risk factor for mental ill health.

“These results show that single fathers might be a particularly vulnerable group,” Rachel Simpson, an epidemiologist at the University of Oxford, commented in the same journal.

Making matters worse, a 2016 study showed that go-it-alone dads — even if they acknowledge being in poor shape, physically and mentally — are less likely to seek professional help than women.

– A stiff drink –
Single-parent households have become more common across the developed world in recent decades.


In the United States, for example, the percentage of children living with single mothers nearly tripled from eight percent in 1960 to 23 percent in 2016, according to the US Census.

The percentage living with single fathers increased from one to four over the same period.

In Europe, Denmark tops the list of single-parent households which make up 30 percent of the total.

Of those, 23 percent are headed by women and seven percent by men, according to the OECD rich country grouping.

The corresponding percentages are 19 and four for France; 14 and five for Sweden, 17 and two for Germany; 16 and three for Canada.

Rates of single-parenthood are even higher in many low-income nations, especially in Africa, according to Joseph Chamie, former director of the UN Population Division.

Close to 40 percent of children in South Africa, for example, have their mother as the sole parent, and four percent have only a dad.

Other countries with a large share of single-parent households include Mozambique (36 percent), Dominican Republic (35 percent), Liberia (31 percent), and Kenya (30 percent), he noted in a 2016 report.

“Of the world’s 2.3 billion children, 14 percent — or 320 million — are living in a single-parent household,” he calculated.

In at least two categories, single fathers hold a slight edge over solo moms.

Researchers at the University of Illinois found that moms on their own make about two-thirds of what their male counterparts earn.

And a study in South Korea, published in PLOS ONE, showed single mothers were three times more likely to become alcohol dependent.

InvertedHammer:
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If you are looking for partnership, go and start a business. Partnership is the reason many couples are stuck in divorce courts waiting for the judge to dissolve the limited liability company called marriage.

You need someone with leadership qualities whose ideas can compliment yours based on mutual respect.

By the way, na so una mouth dey sweet before marriage. Talk is cheap. Once the man tie the knot, you go carry all your life frustrations heap on his head. Patapata 15 years he gives up and join his ancestors.

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InvertedHammer:
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They are everywhere around you but you are not noticing them....

and that adds to their stress.

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KingOfAmebo:
You skipped the part the report said it wasn't so centuries ago, I think it is some sort of evolution...

OvertheTop:
A woman will say:
Babe, that your Job is Not Paying well o , why Not Change it!
....We Don't still have a car after all these Years.... Papa Ebuka our Neighbor Just Bought a BIG CAR



A man Cannot Sleep when he has the following in his mind:
He Still has to Think about:

House Rent 300k/Year
Transportation to Work/School 50k/Month ===> 600k/Year
Feeding the Family Monthly(H W+2kids) 70k/Year ====> 840k/Year
School fee (2kids) like 250k/Year

TOTAL like : 1.9 Million Per Year

and you want to Save to build a House of Like N 20 Million for the family
and you want to Buy a Luxury Car for the family of like N 4 to 5 Million


How will the Man Sleep at Night??
Especially when he knows His Job/ Source of income is NOT STABLE

casualobserver:
No wonder you were talking crap earlier on. You clearly wasted your youth and are now alone.

As for the boldened. If you were married, why would you feel a need to state no2.?

Like I said to you earlier good successful men don’t marry women with your mindset. If they do it ends in an unhappy marriage. Instead of you as a mature woman who missed the boat to reflect and advise the younger women on the errors and poor choices you made, you come here spewing crap in the other thread reinforcing the exact mindset that has left women like you on the shelf and alone in your advancing years.

Trust me being old sucks even if you have a partner and it is to the advantage of men that we tend to die 1st. If you have a parent usually mother who is alive but husband dead you know they (mothers) are very lonely.

InvertedHammer:
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Because most men are stupid enough to continue stressing themselves trying to impress women.

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DaddyCK:
ok so now u sayin u a 100% feminine male lookin for space only?..bro i swaaar u are confuse u neeed medication plus help.. bro how can u create thread sayin woman live longer to kill u? who talks that kinda statement in 2023?..bro find a doctore quick & drink medication tablets! (no ofeisne)

quickly:
its not about how long but how well. You can keep your estrogen.

Men have been dieing in Millions in Wars and other activities.

for example Jesus lived till 33 but made a huge impact on the world.

Women and sleep , have you ever seen a chicken when 7pm reach. they fall asleep soundlyly until like 6am. Thats how women are

brainint:
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From my little understanding,men die earlier than woman due to high energy expenditure.

2)
Look at Tortoise,elephant etc.They move & do things slowly,thereby conserving a lot of energy for future. These animals live up to 400 years+ especially tortoise.

3)
Over-stress takes a toll on men hence depleting their stored energy level.

Remedy
1)
Take it slow.
A man given an award for being the oldest man on Earth shared his secret.

-Take It Easy

2)
Reduce sex to once a week
I was in a public bus one day,elderly men were discussing reasons why men grow/look old quick.

They concluded that the frequency of semen discharge is responsible.

Do you know the vitamins & mineral content in semen? Think about it.

3)
Be happy from within. Do things/listen to music,shows that make you happy.

You are a reflection of your internal status

There are more to say

DaddyCK:
son u said by women kill men who die fast (READ YOR OWN POST) so i ask, .....did woman kill you? did u die ywt?
please use brain & please answer the questions or stop talkin rubbbish sir!!(no oofeinse)

quickly:
At a minimum 2 things

Firstly biological estrogen which is a female hormone has a protective effect over the heart compared to testosterone. Testosterone leads men to put their lives more at risk than women. It’s also what makes men to be daring and leaders. Ur heart is more most important organ of it stops working it’s game over. Women have a protective hormone over the heart.

2ndly look at the women in your lives and she how they sleep. Women sleep like babies. They don’t like stress at all. Compare the way your father sleep compared to your mother. Women go to bed early and sleep deeper I find. Sleeping good is very good for your health.

womenareapezz:
what did you expect when Simps are getting married to orphans as wife

You will marry those useless piece of shiit called naija women and started taking care of her and her family members

All what she bring to the table is her smelly vagina and nagging while you go out, work yourself out and still come back home to meet that baboons nagging your life out!

DaddyCK:
bro did u die? (no ofeinse)

ejimatic:
. 1. Only God knows when a man or woman will die. The bible says nobody can add one cubitvro his life span. Many men suffer today yet they live long. Many men enjoy today yet they don't live long. We can do our best but God sees everything.(Awa eda le se tiwa,gbogbo e lo ye Olorun.2. Traditionally men want their wives to outlive men. But it may not be so for God knows who will die first. 3Men takes more risk than women and they expose thier lives to danger everyday 4.The occupation of some men expose their lives to death like palmwine tapping 2,driving 3night gaurds etc 5 . Men don't always have time to pay attention to their health. 6 Men think about a lot of things in their lives food ,housing , protection etc The pressure makes them develop high BP Diabetes etc 7 Some men are maltreated by their wives and fully abandoned which leads to their untimely death. Given all these factors and many others women usually live longer than men.

Mindlog:
One of the reasons and also men are less likely to go for testing and when results comes back positive, poor medication adherence in men (women are more likely to religously take their medications) and men find it difficult to readjust their lifestyles to the reality of their health status and of note, men find it difficult discussing their health issues both physical and mental with those around as it tends to make some of them feel weak or effeminate as against most women who don't feel embarrassed discussing what is ailing them as they don't feel judged

Talking has been normalized by women and it has been one of their survival skills.

That is Health Psychology 101.🤣🤣🤣

oz4real83:
do women go through labour everyday? Men worry everyday of their lives, especially when such a man is married to a lady that is never satisfied. Yahoo boys and Nigerian politicians have even created more problems for honest, hard working men. An average Nigerian lady will compare what she receives from her partner with what other ladies are receiving from their partners, when it doesn't measure up, such a man will have his lifespan reduce furthermore , even when such a lady has nothing to offer.

kaima
8 months ago
The reasons men has a reduced lifespan compared to the women is as follows:

1) In Nigeria, a lot of woman kill their husband with juju put inside their food
2) Some women will use their bad mouth to silently kill their husband even causing them to commit suicide or being hit by moving vehicles
3) Too much responsibilities is placed on the man especially when you marry a lazy woman
4) Men engages in war front that have psychological effect on them.

However, old days in the Bible where men married many wives and live long. Nothing like any of the wives being jealous. But nowadays that men marry one wife, the men seen to die early because some of these wives will not give them peace of mind.

Sex hormones

The differences in sex hormones are one such advantage. Women produce more estrogen and less testosterone. Estrogen is a female sex hormone that provides protection against cardiovascular diseases, while high levels of testosterone have been linked to an increased risk of diseases, such as endometrial and breast cancer in women and prostate cancer in men. Nature has endowed women with natural advantages over men and from studies, women have additional years of life, on average when exposed to the same conditions as men.

The “X-Factor”

There’s also a genetic component at play. Every human being has two sex chromosomes. Normal females have two X chromosomes, while normal men have an X chromosome and a Y chromosome. Essentially, unlike the X chromosome, the Y chromosome is almost “genetically empty”. Scientists say what this translates into is that women with their double X chromosome possess extra genetic material which gives them the advantage to “backup” if there is a bad mutation on one of the two X chromosomes.


Women are thus able to cope with certain genetically transmitted. Men, with just a single X chromosome, lack this advantage. This biological advantage gives women, on average, just under a year of longer life expectancy when they are young adults compared with men. Even among infants in settings with particularly high mortality rates, such as famines and epidemics, baby girls have higher survival rates than baby boys.

Social factors

Men are generally more risk takers. Men smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol more often than women, and are often engaged in competitive, reckle]ss, and dangerous activities more than women, hence accidental death rate is higher in men. Young men due to fights and wars, are more likely to be killed, lowering their chances to survive into old age than women. The World Bank data shows that 35 percent of men in the world smoke compared with 6 percent of women.

Healthier habits

A woman is 33 percent more likely to visit a doctor, excluding pregnancy-related care, than a man. Also women are more hygienic than men. A woman is more likely to wash her hands after using the toilet, and before eating.

But women don’t have all the biological advantages, because they experience high blood pressure earlier and at a faster rate than men, according to Susan Cheng, a cardiologist at the Smidt Heart Institute at Cedars-Sinai. Women’s blood vessels also age faster than men’s. More so, women often died during childbirth. Quite surprisingly, men do not necessarily age faster than women, just that the average man grows weaker at every age than the woman.


More widows than widowers

There are more widows than widowers because women have a slower death rate, meaning that more women survive into advanced years. It is also arguable that women tend to be younger than their husbands at the time of marriage, and this increases the probability that they would survive their spouses even without the differences in longevity.

According to the Widowhood – Demography Of The Widowed – Gender, Women, and Five, a publication by Jrank, widows have been outdistancing widowers by a continually widening margin. There are no statistics for Nigeria, but, for instance, in the United States, in 1940 there were twice as many widows as widowers, but by 1990, the ratio of widows to widowers had climbed to more than 4 to 1 and the ratio has widened today. While several factors may explain the imbalanced gender ratio among the widowed, the greater longevity experienced by women than men plays a significant role.

Healthy aging

People do not die from “healthy” aging, as assumed, rather people die from age-related diseases such as cancer, atherosclerosis, hypertension, heart failure, osteoporosis, and type II diabetes. When aging is accelerated, age-related diseases occur earlier in life too.


So healthy aging is best described as the late onset of diseases and is associated with longevity, and aging is an increase in the probability of death. From the records, a man usually has a higher chance to die faster than a woman of the same age under similar circumstances. However, while men become grey and wrinkled faster than women, they can reproduce longer. Menopause cuts off a woman’s natural reproductive ability several years (even decades) before a man’s.

The logic is that people that age slower are healthier. A school of thought posits that women age slower than men because age-related diseases are delayed in women compared to men. Women also live more years than men free of these diseases and do not readily die from the age-related diseases before menopause. The later onset of diseases in women compared with men suggests that women age slower than men.


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Mindlog:
That is it. Just like HIV, more women get infected by it than men but more men die from its complications than women.

Mindlog:
That is the reality on ground, which is evidence-based.

Then adding the poor health seeking behaviours prevalent in men, gone too soon
is inevitable.

Mindlog:
Biologically from the onset, the XX make up of females gives them a protective advantage when it comes to survival, reason boys are more likely to be stillborn than girls and under 5 infant mortality is more prevalent in boys.

So from conception, childhood, adolescenthood, adulthood to old age.....males die earlier.

oz4real83:
A man already has a lot of personal pressures added to other family pressures. That same man falls in love and the girl he falls in love with suddenly becomes an "orphan" without family and dumps all her life worries and pressures on that same man. When they become married, children pressure becomes added to an already overstressed man, how will such a man live long 🙄🙄

Experts’ views

Even the experts agree when it comes to why women live longer than men. Marcia Stefanick, a professor at Stanford University School of Medicine, agreed that even though researchers know “men and women age differently,” they are still “kind of guessing how.”

A publication in the Wall Street Journal points out that some of the factors could be behavioral. Women are more health-seeking than men, even into old age. David Sinclair, co-director of Harvard Medical School’s Paul F. Glenn Centre for Biology of Aging Research notes that genetic and biological differences are significant.

When the blood of men and women between the ages of 65 and 95, was examined, NirBarzilai, director of the Institute for Aging Research at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, found that men’s protein levels changed significantly at higher rates than women’s did, indicating that the female biology seems to be more stable than men’s.

A neuroscience professor at Georgetown University, Michael Ullman also found that a person’s sex might influence the ability to recall basic things such as events or where they left their car keys. Ullman posited that both men and women scored comparably on a memory test involving image recollection—until age 70 when a “significant female advantage emerged.”