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Oladayo5631:
She is a Nigerian. She said they were talking about her Mom in Nigeria

drnoel:
Then the set of Nigerian men you know are a sorry bunch. Best you don't associate with those cos one needs people that would help one grow around them not people that would pull you down to their level. You better run

sharone21:
The 'illegal' stresses men give themselves eg cheating, womanizing, keeping unnecessary secrets,gambling etc apart from what could actually stress them: village people due to envy, politics, lifestylechoices: drinking, smoking etc

The woman carries pregnancy for 9 months and pushes out baby ALONE..... Does house chores, some will even fetch water ( pregnant/ not) in homes where they have wells while their able bodied men are alive, do home work/ breast feed/ cook almost at same time, chase higher degrees like men, chase money.....

And the only thing men can do to show they are REAL MEN which is looking for money, they still beg for support from women... They turn cry babies and say: they need support from women.....looking for money is not for only one person( I wonder the day men will help women carry pregnancy and push out babies)..... Men will not die of stress chasing money( lol.... Thing wen women dey do and not crying, just that when married at least there should be VALUE added to a woman's life by her King.... Women may talk to their men inside the house so they live up to expectations but women try not to spread this outside to preserve the dignity of their 'ogas'....

I think the men are physically stronger but women have inner strength and resilience besides from birth women have been going through PAINS and thus are stronger... Pains like: ear piercing, making their hair, seeing their period, carrying pregnancy, pushing out babies unlike men that the major pain they had was circumcision which some girls also do.

Anyway, I thank God that despite being tagged the weaker gender and ladened with more work especially in Africa, women still live longer.

drnoel:
What you say is true but you are looking at it in line of the Nigerian setting, where you have family around and can employ a house help or a cleaning person.
Speak to Nigerians in diaspora and you will understand another point of view. For most families as long as the children are still young someone may have to either work shorter hours or stay at home

quickly:
Read to understand and not to respond my friend. Obviously u are not well versed in what is going on inthe world. In world war 2 and after millions of men died

U have heard of Boko Haram, is that not a war. Do you know how many casualties on both sides , majority been men. underline majority
What of Sierra Leone, Liberia


Israel-Palestine crisis


Yemeni Civil War


Libyan War



Iraq War

War on Terrorism

War in Afghanistan

The price men have to pay to be the head - thats y they dont sleep like women with no care in the world

KEY FACTS
Every day, approximately 830 women die from preventable causes related to pregnancy and childbirth.
99% of all maternal deaths occur in developing countries.
Maternal mortality is higher in women living in rural areas and among poorer communities.
Young adolescents face a higher risk of complications and death as a result of pregnancy than other women.
Skilled care before, during and after childbirth can save the lives of women and newborn babies.
Between 1990 and 2015, maternal mortality worldwide dropped by about 44%.
Between 2016 and 2030, as part of the Sustainable Development Goals, the target is to reduce the global maternal mortality ratio to less than 70 per 100 000 live births.


Why do women die?
Women die as a result of complications during and following pregnancy and childbirth. Most of these complications develop during pregnancy and most are preventable or treatable. Other complications may exist before pregnancy but are worsened during pregnancy, especially if not managed as part of the woman’s care. The major complications that account for nearly 75% of all maternal deaths are:4

severe bleeding (mostly bleeding after childbirth)
infections (usually after childbirth)
high blood pressure during pregnancy (pre-eclampsia and eclampsia)
complications from delivery
unsafe abortion.

drnoel:
Apart of the act that women are the stronger specie. You can't imagine what men have to go through to meet ends. Men work like donkeys and have to go home t please their wives and continue the next day.

AwesomeDuru:
This has to be Kobojunkie

Guys note and avoid this moniker.

She's very argumentative and it doesn't end.

She argues even when she's not supposed to.

Take note everyone.

AwesomeDuru:


[s]I had a verbal showdown with a woman in the bus recently. It was in a bus from Victoria Island to Iyanoba after the day's very difficult work. I had been silently contemplating how much it was costing me daily to transport myself to and from these two locations when a woman, probably in her late 40s began shouting in the bus, just right at the top of my head, bathing me with an impressively generous amount of sputum in the process. It was a Preacher Woman.

So with my anger at Buhari's already failed government boiling inside me, I spun round and lashed out at her. I asked her why she was making so much noise with her stupid sermons when she would have been better off putting her brain to better use by thinking her way out of her sad menopausal life.

The silence that greeted these words was very real. Even passengers that had earlier seemed distant and inattentive now turned their attention towards this potentially entertaining showdown. The woman herself looked horrendously(¿) stupefied. Her reaction suggested that it was either the first time anyone questioned her religion and even stood against it or that she had in fact, come across with a physical devil (she was mostly used to spiritual ones).

Unfazed, I continued my speech. Leaving in my wake inquisitive faces of numerous passengers beaming down at me and the Preacher Woman's priceless horrifying look.

I told her her problem was that she was doing the right thing at the wrong time thereby disturbing everyone with her plain foolhardiness. That it was silly to even think of preaching her religion in a bus as this where everyone there had surely just gone through the typically rigorous Lagos daily life and needn't be hearing about some God who is very powerless and can do little to nothing to help the Nigerian situation.

It took moments before her replies, nay, *curses* came. They came in all their glories, very disturbing to behold especially when the fellow who was now uttering them was the same person preaching Love, Peace, and Tolerance moments ago.

I was calm and composed. Heck, a passenger even had to ask me later on if I had taken classes in the Art of Tranquility. Lol. I was ready for her, I'm always ready whenever these religious nutter heads and self-denying fanatics are involved. The trick is always to irk them a little and then watch them shatter the very foundations of the same virtues they claim to hold dear. Yeah, and you wonder why my favorite word is 'hypocrites'.

I didn't take in most of what she said though. I was more busy trying desperately to get away from her sputum which were now pouring uncontrollably from her mouth. Still, I heard her mention things like devils, end time and how the mini demons dwelling inside me needed to be urgently exorcised. It made me momentarily wonder whether I in fact had mini demons dwelling inside me because the way I have been eating these days surprises me very much. I immediately made a mental note to check my demonometer when I got home to see if truly there were mini demons dwelling inside me, and if indeed there were, to immediately do away with them because the prices of foodstuffs in the market is no longer funny. I can't coman be feeding mini useless demons for free, no fa.

I digress. Back to the showdown, to this peculiar battle between God and Satan, White and Black, what is Sinless and what isn't, I told the woman to leave preachings to those buildings they call churches and quit causing noise pollutions in public buses.

Surprisingly, just as she was about to retaliate with freshly laid out curses, the Conductor intervened and told her that she was in fact disturbing everyone in his bus and that she had better left the preachings to be done in Churches. Most of the passengers even murmured in agreement to this.

So like a wounded Lion, greatly outnumbered, amidst fresh curses, fuming, and hisses, the great god-hand finally quieted down.

Somewhere in the record keeping section of my mind I wrote "On this day, in this epic battle between God and the Devil, the Devil has emerged triumphant"[/s]

casualobserver:
Only an unwise man argues with a woman, talk less a woman like you.

Read your post again it’s all about you you you! Your entire post is about your personal business. You made your personal business a public matter….No one gives a sh1t. No wonder nobody marry you!!!


Expert ko, expert ni! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know, you are not married or divorced because no man will put up with you and your nonsense man’s be happy. Men want peace!!
Argue with your keyboard!!!

To young women reading this don’t take relationship or marriage advise from women who themselves can’t find or can’t keep a husband. If you want relationship advise seek it from those who have visible marriages you admire not faceless bitter old spinsters on the internet. Someone who doesn’t t know what it takes to find a man, to keep a man, to maintain a household, to raise children, to raise a happy home and marriage is not a mentor!!! All they will do is lead you to where they are old lonely bitter and unwanted. This woman is clearly old, read her post above…she clearly could not get a man to marry or could not keep her marriage together!!! This is not the sort you take advice from!!!

casualobserver:
Life works in cycles. Just like I said pre 30 the woman has the upper hand and after that the man has the upper hand. However a successful man can never be alone unless he wants to be alone. If you are abandoned in your old age as a woman or a man it is because you have nothing to offer. Same for a man or woman who no one wants to marry.

As a man your job in life is to be successful, if you are successful you will get the best women and you will not be lonely in your old age.

Please dont come hear giving examples of lesser men, whose problems in life is their lack of success or failure to think ahead and plan for old age, they probably married a woman who settled for them because the type of men she wanted didn’t want a woman like her to begin with. Such women tend to abandon their average husbands once they have kids. The key here is the woman has gotten all she wants from you. In the same way as the job of a woman is to be needed as a wife, your job as a man is to be needed until you die.

Success has many fathers, failure is an orphan. Same principle applies to both sexes. Men and women need to be desirable to the opposite sex. For a man, the no1 criteria for desirability is success. For a woman it is youth, purity (low body count) and submissiveness. People who end up alone usually do because they don’t posses these qualities. The game has always been the same and always will be.

If you are youthful, able to give a man children and submissive, you will be able to choose the best men to marry. By definition the best men are good men with a conscience and good values. Such men will never abandon their wives come rain come sunshine. Similarly if you have done your job as a man and you are successful, Nobody is going to leave you …be it wife /wives, side chicks, children, friends associates. Everybody wants a piece of you!!! Nobody abandons success!!!!!! If you see a man abandoned chances are he is not successful or lost his fortune. It has nothing to do with you, even if you are the nicest man on earth, even your children won’t have your time if you have nothing to give them in your will!!!

KanwuliaExtra:
I am not gonna stay here and indulge you with your 'supra-archaic and misogynist' views on human relatioships.
Please, you are derailing the thread.
Your views have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH THE SUBJECT MATTER AT HAND.
Thanks!

Rollexgbenga:
Stop spoiling the name of man God is a big sin

Tycyborg:
Women don't raise a child single handedly... Husband and wife raised them together with each one of them doing the duty... Are you now telling me men always abado their children to just focus on work only? I don't get your point... You make it seems like men are nothing... Even after a lady dlivers I have seen couples that take turns to make the baby sleep at night not one not two not even ten that do that... So should we say the men abandon their children?

InvertedHammer:
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I hope you know that the statistics said "on average".

So don't toot your horn. Not all women are outliving men.

Ireti divorced her husband? Watch the glow on Patrick going forward. He should go and do Thanksgiving in the nearest church.

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casualobserver:
This is the problem with narcissistic modern women like you. You give but you can’t take….again another reason men run away from women like you. By the time a man gets to a certain age he can smell problem women a mile off. Who came on Nairaland talking about themselves? You made your “personal” business a public matter? If you do t want your personal business to be an issue then STFU about your personal business.

Single Moms vs. Single Dads: Examining the Double Standards of Single Parenthood
While society's commitment to promoting equality for all parents is only getting stronger, social perceptions of single moms and single dads still vary greatly. Let's investigate the disparities and pinpoint how we can do better to support all solo parents.

. . . . . continued

REPORT JULY 2, 2013
The Rise of Single Fathers A Ninefold Increase Since 1960
BY GRETCHEN LIVINGSTON



A record 8% of households with minor children in the United States are headed by a single father, up from just over 1% in 1960, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of Decennial Census and American Community Survey data.

SDT-2013-07-single-fathers-01The number of single father households has increased about ninefold since 1960, from less than 300,000 to more than 2.6 million in 2011.1 In comparison, the number of single mother households increased more than fourfold during that time period, up to 8.6 million in 2011, from 1.9 million in 1960.

. . . . . continued.

BEING A SINGLE DAD CAN SHORTEN YOUR LIFE – STUDY
By AFP
15 February 2018 | 12:40 pm

The risk of dying prematurely more than doubles for single fathers compared to single mothers or paired-up dads, according to a study of Canadian families published Thursday.

“Our research highlights that single fathers have higher mortality, and demonstrates the need for public health policies to help identify and support these men,” said lead author Maria Chiu, a scientist at the University of Toronto.

The findings, published in The Lancet Public Health, may apply to wealthy nations with similar ratios of single-parent families to Canada, the researchers said.

Chiu and colleagues tracked nearly 40,500 people across Canada over 11 years. The subjects — who included 4,590 single moms and 871 single dads — were, on average, in their early 40s when the study began.

Nearly 700 died by the end of the monitoring period.

Compared to partnered fathers or single moms, the death rate was three times higher among single fathers.
Factoring in that solo dads tended to be older, had higher cancer rates, and were more prone to heart disease, the researchers concluded their mortality risk was still twice as high.

Likely culprits include poor lifestyle choices and stress, Chiu said.

“We did find that single fathers tended to have unhealthier lifestyles,” which could include poor diet, lack of exercise, or excessive drinking, she said.

Men parenting on their own were more likely to be separated, divorced or widowed than single mothers — a larger proportion of whom raise babies conceived outside of a relationship, the team found.

Having experienced a breakup is a risk factor for mental ill health.

“These results show that single fathers might be a particularly vulnerable group,” Rachel Simpson, an epidemiologist at the University of Oxford, commented in the same journal.

Making matters worse, a 2016 study showed that go-it-alone dads — even if they acknowledge being in poor shape, physically and mentally — are less likely to seek professional help than women.

– A stiff drink –
Single-parent households have become more common across the developed world in recent decades.


In the United States, for example, the percentage of children living with single mothers nearly tripled from eight percent in 1960 to 23 percent in 2016, according to the US Census.

The percentage living with single fathers increased from one to four over the same period.

In Europe, Denmark tops the list of single-parent households which make up 30 percent of the total.

Of those, 23 percent are headed by women and seven percent by men, according to the OECD rich country grouping.

The corresponding percentages are 19 and four for France; 14 and five for Sweden, 17 and two for Germany; 16 and three for Canada.

Rates of single-parenthood are even higher in many low-income nations, especially in Africa, according to Joseph Chamie, former director of the UN Population Division.

Close to 40 percent of children in South Africa, for example, have their mother as the sole parent, and four percent have only a dad.

Other countries with a large share of single-parent households include Mozambique (36 percent), Dominican Republic (35 percent), Liberia (31 percent), and Kenya (30 percent), he noted in a 2016 report.

“Of the world’s 2.3 billion children, 14 percent — or 320 million — are living in a single-parent household,” he calculated.

In at least two categories, single fathers hold a slight edge over solo moms.

Researchers at the University of Illinois found that moms on their own make about two-thirds of what their male counterparts earn.

And a study in South Korea, published in PLOS ONE, showed single mothers were three times more likely to become alcohol dependent.

InvertedHammer:
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If you are looking for partnership, go and start a business. Partnership is the reason many couples are stuck in divorce courts waiting for the judge to dissolve the limited liability company called marriage.

You need someone with leadership qualities whose ideas can compliment yours based on mutual respect.

By the way, na so una mouth dey sweet before marriage. Talk is cheap. Once the man tie the knot, you go carry all your life frustrations heap on his head. Patapata 15 years he gives up and join his ancestors.

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InvertedHammer:
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They are everywhere around you but you are not noticing them....

and that adds to their stress.

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KingOfAmebo:
You skipped the part the report said it wasn't so centuries ago, I think it is some sort of evolution...

OvertheTop:
A woman will say:
Babe, that your Job is Not Paying well o , why Not Change it!
....We Don't still have a car after all these Years.... Papa Ebuka our Neighbor Just Bought a BIG CAR



A man Cannot Sleep when he has the following in his mind:
He Still has to Think about:

House Rent 300k/Year
Transportation to Work/School 50k/Month ===> 600k/Year
Feeding the Family Monthly(H W+2kids) 70k/Year ====> 840k/Year
School fee (2kids) like 250k/Year

TOTAL like : 1.9 Million Per Year

and you want to Save to build a House of Like N 20 Million for the family
and you want to Buy a Luxury Car for the family of like N 4 to 5 Million


How will the Man Sleep at Night??
Especially when he knows His Job/ Source of income is NOT STABLE

casualobserver:
No wonder you were talking crap earlier on. You clearly wasted your youth and are now alone.

As for the boldened. If you were married, why would you feel a need to state no2.?

Like I said to you earlier good successful men don’t marry women with your mindset. If they do it ends in an unhappy marriage. Instead of you as a mature woman who missed the boat to reflect and advise the younger women on the errors and poor choices you made, you come here spewing crap in the other thread reinforcing the exact mindset that has left women like you on the shelf and alone in your advancing years.

Trust me being old sucks even if you have a partner and it is to the advantage of men that we tend to die 1st. If you have a parent usually mother who is alive but husband dead you know they (mothers) are very lonely.