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The spite against fathers and husbands, if not addressed as some daughters are doing, would break whatever remains of the African culture most of us still cherish. There was a time when mothers said they tolerated some slights from their husbands only because they wanted their children to grow up with a man at home. Well, the children are grown now and the mothers are free to fly off like birds, stay or pay their husbands back in kind.

Is this fact or pure fiction?
Why daughters only and not children in general?

FYI. . . .No trying father or husband is villified by his wife and children unless he was/is a MUNGO PARK!
If you neglect your family when you think you have all the aces in a relationship and treat them without love and respect, what is to be expected?

I have a family friend whose wife abandoned him with their young children and he cared for them till they were grown. The son was 7 years and the daughter was ONLY EIGHT MONTHS OLD. The children still went to live with their mom after he did all he could for them. Reason. . . they did not like their dad's highly disciplined approach to life. He is Nigerian and his wife is Black American. Their mother allowed them a more free hand and they could do drugs with her as 'buddies'.

The man has re-married and adopted a baby girl with his new Nigerian wife(his FOURTH MARRIAGE!). . . . He has tried everything to love and care for his children, but they are selfish and only come around when they want money. He has built a block of 6 flats in Nigeria and has a very healthy retirement portfolio here in the US after working over 35 years at his job. . . and is still working! He has less than 5 years to retirement.

The matter is not as simple as you make it to be.

But I agree. . . . Men should make sure they put aside some retirement benefits to fall back on. However, they would still need a designated family member to take charge of such affair when estranged from their own families for various reasons.

Broobembem:
Hello ma, I sent a pm. Thou I don’t know if you accept pms,I want to reach out to you please 🙏🏽

Sorry dear, I don't do PMs. I try to keep my private life totally separate from my social media life. Too many distractions. You should do the same.

Before I am accused of male-bashing. . . .and propagating a feminist agenda, let me go searching for 'Aunty Patricia' Syndrome too.

NoToPile:
Pheww fear almost caught me ke

I hope the derailers don't spoil your thread ooo, they are coming.

Have no fear.
I always try to create thought-provoking fun threads on my days off. Derailers will alway show up and I put them in their places where they belong for sure.

The first time I ever heard the term MUNGO PARK man from OBODO OYINBO TV. . . I knew it was going to be an epic label with many connotations. Now, I see it all over social media describing the emotionally-challanged male in the AFRICAN SOCIETY.

NoToPile:
Haa I am female ooo

Apologies. . . .I was referring to the above post from the thread I posted. Not directed at you.

Another one. . . Who raised these kinds of 'TOXIC-MINDED' men as children?

https://www.nairaland.com/7555527/husband-not-friend-he-lord

EBMedia:
A Nigerian businessman, Darlington Onyelike, has advised women not to let social media deceive them into believing that there is equality in marriage, IGBERETV reports.

Onyelike, who stated this in a post on Tuesday, January 31, also told married women that their husbands are not their friends but their lord.

He wrote on Facebook;

"There is no equality in marriage, stop confusing yourself, there are no two heads in a home, just one and that is your husband. Your husband is the head of the family just like God is the head of the church.

Your Husband is not your friend, he is your Lord (1 Peter 3:6). Majority of those that claimed to have married their friend have divorced the marriages. And there is no way your husband can give you 24hours attention, wont he go to work and make money for the family? that means he Will stay with you from morning till night? It's not possible, let's stop deceiving ourselves on social media. Even a jobless man can never give a woman 24hours attention."

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0qvGL2WH8WCmTCCvDNKBvLShXa2Cj8rA6y6GFymokCtVjLD44M24ULfTA4Mrft3eHl&id=100002251770965

https://igberetvnews.com/1438333/husband-friend-lord-nigerian-man-tells-women/

NoToPile:
Immediately I read the first two posts I felt I had an idea of the post that triggered madam kanwulia to open this thread.

I scrolled down and I was not wrong, na real mungopark syndrome.

Mungo Park syndrome is for men only o.

I don't have "Aunty Patty" syndrome either! I escaped. I would have been the most dangerous 'AUNTY PATTY-PATTY' I swear.

I thank my God. . . .for a fulfilled life. I have achieved most of my life-time goals and very happy in all my relationships.

Now the above post shows the mind of a man that has absolutely no regards to the differences in the constitutions of males and females. Women are emotional creatures. . . .men are logical creatures. Where did he miss the memo?
Women are from Venus. . . .Men are from Mars.
Most people who are successful in relationships understand this basic concept. Failure to do so will make you a 'social misfit' at best and a socio-psychopath at worst.

I found this thread on NL this morning and it got me inspired to start this thread.

THIS IS A TYPICAL MUNGO PARK SYNDROME! I am glad he recognizes it sooner so he can be aware he is not a candidate to be in any relationship with the opposite sex till he gets the much needed therapy.
The responses from NL females were quite interesting.

https://www.nairaland.com/7555050/gradually-becoming-misogynist

KlausMichaelson:
Honestly this has been bothering me for a while now. And I think that this is what is referred to as Misogyny
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I hate the to hear or see the opinion of a female gender cos most times if not all the time, it doesn't make sense. And this realization could make me end up angry for the rest of that day. Whenever I apply logic to actually understand why they make such opinion, I find out that it's always out of emotion and not logic. They also always act before thinking (even when they think, their opinion still doesn't make sense). This is applied to all of them. None is excluded.

A typical example is the Nekede school girl who made a video saying it's the god of my pussy

I just see them as though they have no thinking faculty that is founded on logic. From the posts on social media, Whatsapp and everything. When you look at the motive and the reasoning behind it you will understand that the female gender has this shallow mindset. This is totally different from the male gender, exception to a very few. Majority of the male gender tend to have logical opinions about something.

Maybe I am too much of an observer, I really do not know. Or maybe because I am very sensitive. Sometimes I think to myself that if not that I was born by a woman, I don't see how useful they are, cos they are irritating when it comes to being logical. Try and engage them in a very intricate discussion, you will understand what I mean. The best they can do to appear intelligent is to be good at subjects in school which is always limited to the book they carry around in their school bags. And this is not intelligence.

Now my worry is that, it's affecting the way I act towards them. The worst punishment I can do to myself is to try withstand an opinion from them during arguments. That's the worst. This is giving me a second thought on whether to get married or not, as a matter of seriousness. Cos this is mentally draining to live with people like that for the rest of one's life.

It's really worrisome. Am I the only one?

Appologies if you are not ok with this. But it's just an observation I have come to learn so far so good about that gender.

Modified
One other thing I'd like to point out is that, it's not every male gender that your butts or your body (you shamelessly post on every social media page) will trigger some sort of unnecessary obsession with you. Until then, your weapon is just like a toy gun, absolutely useless. And you are probably useless if you have no logical thinking faculty.

Any one or both combinations in any relationship or marriage is DOOMED to fail.
We have many examples of MUNGO PARK MEN on NL and very few AUNTY PATRICIAS on NL.
Let’s dive in. . . .by their threads and posts, you shall definitely know them. I am not putting any NL ID or poster on the spot. Just my observation and the comments from posters who responded to the original OP.

"The Aunty Patty Patty" woman. . . . .
Defined as the older spinster or woman of 'AMA' -advanced matenal age - in the where "what God cannot do does not exist" phase of he life. She has earned the honorary badge of 'the proverbial woman scorned'. The fury from her hellish spirit has no second level or subsequent levels o.😄 All men are scum. Her past disappointments and emotional roller-coaster relationships have taken a toll on her spiiritual and reproductive wellbeing.

"The Mungo Park" Man. . . .
Defined as a older bachelor or man with anger management issues. Life has not been kind to this concept of a man and he is often given to misogyny and anti-feminist concepts. He often sees women as the enemy. Even when he finally gets to be in a relationship or marriage, the home is pure HELL for the woman and children. There is no joy or peace in the home because the man has a sadistic spirituality does not feel anyone should be happy around him because he is miserable.

I have been pondering on the concepts of the "Mungo Park" and the "Aunty Patricia" woman recently.
I have listened to Korede Bello's song "Mungo Park" with "Patty Patty" women as old bachelors and spinsters who go into marriage with excess baggage. The baggage is sooooooo heavy it often interfers with success of the relationship or marriage.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il7vIMecTaI

TheBTCinvestor:
Nawa o..what do I do? How do I satisfy her..I'm thinking of using burantashi

YES!

Seek medical advice.
It could be hormonal or a disease process like diabetes.
If you get erection with other women, then burantashi will not help you. The woman is the problem not your equipment.

When you cannot get aroused by your wife. . . . it means sexuality in your marriage is dead or you are one of those men that never found satisfaction in a monogamous relationship. Let's face it. The reason men indulge in polygamy is because they see women like cars that can be upgraded when the 'mileage' gets higher and the 'chasis' gets weakened.

Find out what your problem really is and work on it. What exactly is the problem. You must be honest with yourself.

Your husband was NEVER built to satisfy you.
Husbands and wives can only satisfy eachother for a while. . .the reason relationships and marriages have 'PHASES'.

I have news for you. You will still get tired of the next man.
Only a jobless man or woman will make 'sexual satisfaction' a main priority in a relationship or marriage.

Please, grow up fast!

Extremely IRRESPONSIBLE man with 14 children. . . . ?
An old man that keeps getting married and breeding children he cannot take care of.
To complicate matters, he keeps getting married to 'unlimited liabilities' as wives.
None of the children has sound education or meaningful legacy from him.
They are all hustling to fend for themselves.

To make matters worse. . . he has unhealthy lifestyles and medical issues.
Who will take care of those young children if he departs this earth in an untimely fashion?

Very normal. The reason FRIENDSHIP takes over SEXUALITY in marriage to succeed in any relationship.
Spouses often become like siblings, and "Agape Love" sets in.
You must work harder to be attractive to each other. IT IS WORK!
If you want to succeed, you must work HARDER to be romantic.
It will not come naturally. Very difficult.

Unless you use 'biblical jazz'!

Once you lose that part of you relationship. . . .YOU CAN NEVER GET IT BACK!
You will suffer in silence and frustration in your marriage or relationship if you don't find ways to manage that critical stage of 'disaffection' and lack of 'sexual fulfillment'.

The bad news? It does not get any better with the next relationship. Familiarity breeds contempt. . . .even in sexuality!

Unfortunately, you are with a man that is WEAK-MINDED.
Your husband does not know boundaries. . . . But you must set your own boundaries.
No one can advise you on what to do.

That woman will continue to use the children against you.
The children deserve to spend time with their dad, but not with the other woman constantly interferring.

I know what I would have done, but you must fix your own mess!

You go gal!
People don look totto finish go masturbate go sleep. Your 'tape' cured a lot of impotence for many Nigerian dudes.
Your market still dey sell.
Congratulation, . . .Nothing do you.
HBD!!!!

Stale news of defection and more defections.
Nigerians will decide. . . . not 'DEFECTIONS'.

Is it easy to get accquainted with someone without a child?
It is not easy for a woman or man to accept a child in any relationship.
My take? RAISE YOUR CHILD or CHILDREN FRIST before you start looking for a relationship.
The children never asked to be born or deprived from a home with both parents to raise them.
After you have raised your children and they are independent, then YOU CAN GO AND SEARCH FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

The children deserve your undivided attention. Your child does not need a 'replacement mother or father' because you want to be 'happy' and irresponsibly put your selfish needs before those of your child or children.

Too many 'MUNGO PARKS' and 'AUNTY PATRICIAS' all over Nigeria/africa who have no business getting married or re-married.

Thank God for men like my father who NEVER REMARRIED as a single parent! He just could not see himself givng his children another mother, especially when their own mother was still alive. He had a few girlfriends and 'side' chicks. . . .but he NEVER BROUGHT THEM HOME and we NEVER KNEW THEM. He sacrifiiced all. . . . .and we reaped the benefits

Lies!
SSS that can’t find who sponsors Boko Haram.
Is IPOB a “terrorist” group?

Because he is desparate to be president so he can use Nigeria's coffers to finish Eko Atlantic!

Yes ke!

After favoring the Daura DUNCE. . . .electoral reforms were passed while Nigeria rotted for EIGHT YEARS!

descarado:
Kanwulia, did you buy the ogiri and dawadawa online?
Link please.

I bought the OGIRI OKPEI from Nigeria.
You can order OGIRI OKPEI from Amazon or Walmart.✅

But the other one (Fermented Sesame seed, NINA brand) I bought from a Nigerian store near my house. Also found online.✅

https://theafricanmarket.com/products/ogiri-processed-sesame-seed

All tucked away. . , . No “NEPA” or epileptic power supply palava!👍

Finally in bed! Good Lord!
At least, no heave cooking for 1 month!🎉🎉🎉

I cleaned.my Egusi and Ogbonor pots with a lil’ eba.

I can go “ghetto” sometimes.

The soups!

Egusi and Ogbonor.✅

Nothing dey waste o. . .
I use rice to clean my stew and vegetable stew pots to make emergency “jollof”!

My grand mama train me wella!

Vegetable Stew don CAST!✅

Stew is packed!✅

No, I did not forget my seafood Okra.
The easiest and least messy of the lot.✅