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Never said to burn bridges. Just said to not agree to being friends UNLESS you are ready to hear about other women in his life.

You dont have to say "to hell with you", just dont contact communicate til you know you are ready. and people tend to rush and think everything is fine yet when he starts talking about his new relationship they start to freak out

topup:
And why would that be? Being in a serious relationship is like being in a relationship with your best friend of opposite sex, except that the opposite sex means you can get close on a sexual level too ,

Now why would you want to lose a friend, there must have been a reason you went out with the guy in the first place, (well, unless the guy/girl was a jerk)

did you miss where I said "if you still have feelings". If one person still wants a relationship and the other do3snt, do you truly believe they can last as "friends"

Only time you can be friends with an ex is if he starts dating someone and you're completely fine with it to the point he can even talk to you about the relationship

Til then, people really shouldnt fool themselves.

People should never agree to being friends if there are still feelings involved from one side anyway topup

herpes doesnt leave so of course she's gonna be keep getting breakouts. It's a shame really

she can have kids just that she's gonna have to have them by C-section.

Old Radiohead is better

I'm confused. What exactly is the problem here?

what's with the old threads

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So how comes she speaks Yoruba Yoruba so well? [/quote]Most of them speak and understand it more than their own language.

what is she defending herself against in sleep?

she's edo

once again when a man is stressed or frustrated and doesnt talk about it, wives usually harp on it. Stop making excuses for men from doing the same

HCH3COO:
Women know that men have this big ego/pride that makes them frown when it comes to begging.

Who cares? You think women ENJOY begging? You think they dont have pride? Abeg come up with something better. That lame excuse of "men have ego" is tired.

I think it's funny that you mention how women should do "martial duty" yet I say as long as the men provide emotional support and now you are making up pitiful excuses.

Dont expect something if you cant do your own "duty" as well. It's that simple

HCH3COO:
what of providing him some emotional support when he asked for it?

Wives usually do. They usually sense things are wrong from the beginning and they try to get to the bottom of it. Most men dont care if they're wives are bothered by something until it gets to the point that she starts withdrawing sex.

teddy bear ko, spongebob ni

and his which is emotional support

All these so called Christians and their fake "fire on the mountain night vigils".

I guess his vigil didnt say anything about adultery. Bunch of pathetic people

If she hated divorce so much she would have stayed esp since the entire family was begging her. I dont see God condemning adultery then providing a "gem" so dream on

HCH3COO:
If he doesn't mind spending the money, dealing with the baby will be no issue to him. She, on the other hand, will be sad, hurt, emotionally violated, you name it . . . over what the man has done to her. He might even decide to marry the other woman, or welcome the kid into his home.

Um or she'll just leave the house for you while you deal with kid of a woman you just slept with just to satisfy sexual urges when you could have easily spoken to your wife. Abi you think all women are trapped or would just accept such a situation?

I assume you watched that Si GboGbo Obinrin movie. What happened to Moyo? Didnt she leave? She was offended by her husband's actions but she left. She admitted what she did wrong in the marriage but she still left and thankfully she didnt have a kid with the dude thus they wont be any problem for her to marry again

HCH3COO:
In that sense, if that's what she wants, i will start watching Indecency in front of her in the living room while I do the jerking.

Unfortunately for you, not every woman finds porn offensive. She'll probably even provide the chips and lube for you.

shuppie:
where there is love, respect, mutual understanding, then issues like am not interested for a month or more than that will not arise at all.

For once, I agree with you.

I guess some women KNOW the only way to get some guys to give a damn about their problems is by "closing shop". Mature men dont have to go theu that cos they would have been clever enough to notice her unhappiness long before she goes that route

HCH3COO:
he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

so? who's the one dealing with the baby?

Let's compare the price of "Honey you havent been yourself, is everything ok? Lets talk" vs sending illegitimate baby to school, clothes, shelter, blah blah blah, upkeep for the mother of the child, etc

dreeldee:
what after asking her and she still insists on the same reason " i'm not just in the mood" what do you expect the man to do?

depends on what he's insisting on. Is he insisting on knowing what's wrong or why she feels that way or he's just insisting on getting some.

There lies the answer

michelin while I agree with you, I think if a wife isnt giving it up, ask her what's going on and actually rectify the issue. Dont just jump on her in her sleep and expect everything to be fine. That's all it is

all these other people yarning sex is not food, Im not part of that one o.

HCH3COO:
i did not forget. it's bad both ways. with some delicious food the man will confess.

Not really. He can gooble the food and still go on with his moody sef. Dont make excuses.

Seems like acd has forgotten the many times when husbands are frustrated and annoyed over things and the women is the one following him around begging him to tell her what's going on

dreeldee:
TOH seriously i'm offended, i don't use swearwords on people and i don't like when people do it to me

You whining is worse than a female on her period.

shuppie:
of course marriage is a give and take thing, that is why if a man and a woman are in tune with each other, understand each others lows and highs, then am sure they would always come up tops of whatever issues they might be facing,

of course there re times a woman feels less excited, but not throughout the month, and not all round the months, what does the wife think will happen eventually if she keeps turning the husband away, if some men can't bring themselves to force their woman to open up, then they might be forced to look outside. is looking outside a better option the wife can bear

It says alot about a man when he senses that something is "wrong" with his wife and instead of him putting efforts in trying to find out what and rectifying it, he decides to just go outside instead.

Good thing I was raised in a home where men didnt reason like mentally damaged monkeys thus I expect better.

or what will happen? You'll rape me in my dreams?

You two are just making up lame excuses. I'm the first person to talk against abuse and all but shooting in the sleep is garbage

If it was done while the abuse was happening fine, Im all for it. Infcat I'd probably be her lawyer but anyhing other than that is bullshit

and yes she could leave and as for pushing family away, so what? If she runs back to the family, I highly doubt they'd kick her out. If anything they will thank GOD that she finally woke up.

dreeldee:
we're talking about when it becomes the chorus everyday

Then he's doing something wrong, innit?

Too many immature children on Nairaland sef. If a woman says "No" everyday, then how about you use your head to think perhaps something is wrong, perhaps se's pissed, perhaps he's not doing something right, perhaps she's too tired because he's not helping out so sjhe's always too tired. But God Forbid the rugrats of Nairaland think of such. the best excuse they can come up with is jumping on her in her sleep

nubila:
Naw, I doubt she would have lived to see the day he would let her walk away. She would be running for her life everyday of her life. I'm talking about dangerous men here.

This is not Nigeria where women dont have any hope.

She could easily get a restraining order. They are plenty of things that can be done. Even mafia wives can escape.

dreeldee:


shuppie is married

anyone can be married on NL

nubila:
Harmless while asleep but a ogre while awake. Perfect opportunity to kill the bastard that beats the hell out of you every day.

OR she could leave and make him pay alimony for the rest of his life which is a better punishment