₦airaland Forum

In the UK, they take money from your account monthly/yearly

I think I'll stick to withdrawl fees thanks.

I even thought say we dey talk betta country sef

Maybe I am

shut up. Im not advocating middle men. Olodo

Just saying alot of how they react to relationships is based on how they are raised so stop bitching about them. Just tell them what YOU wnat

Same people that will come back crying that Naija girls are becoming too 'westernized". cunfused loons

What the hell is Alarina?

If you as the guy expect the girl to be exclusive to you from day 1, done be surprised if she thinks it's gonna take it to the future.

In other words, both sexes shouldnt be expecting anything until you know it's what you both wnat

as for dropping traditions, tell that to the families of these people.

Sisi. You need help

You should have added The Story Of Scott Peterson: How I loved My Wife to DEATH.

stillwater, those people wash their yansh in their food. If you like keep patronizing them

Eldee while i agree with some points, you cant exactly blame just the women

Fine not every relationship is gonna end in mariage. Obviously but dont give the girl false HOPE.

You cant deny there are some guys that few days into the relationship they are going around screaming "Iyawo mi" blah blah, if you;re gonna be saying such rubbish so early why be surprised if she too goes around claiming husband after 2 dates?

Also I dont think any guy who doesnt believe the current relationshop is solide/worth it should be asking for the girl to be exclusive with them.

Of course you have to keep in mind that no matter what country you;re in , you're still Nigerians. These girls are Nigerians. Most with Naija parents. Naija mentality. No parent wnats to hear their daughter say "oh im just seeing some dude", they want to hear that it's serious, it's concrete, it's going somewhere

I really depise the fact that because some people have been smuggled aboard they fail to realize what we still have traditions that follow us. It's like you dont even try to put any effort into understanding what these girls have to go thru and why they think the way they do. blah blah the girls in blah blah do blah blah. Who gives a shit? If you have a problem with how they deal with certain situation, talk to them about it insread of just having outright disdain for them on the onset cos of how they were raised

there's quite a diference between going on a date/dates and being in a relationship.

many people dont know the difference

Well Canada has a ALOT of Igbos.

Almost freaky

So they should just say Yes without knowing you?

Is this trick question?

Lmao. You're crazy Sisi.

Not even going to reply the others.

Ice Cube = Boys In the Hood, Friday, Are We There Yet, etc. You know ALL those "masterpieces"

Ice T = L & O SVU

Mos Def = 16th Blocks, Something The Lord Made(great in this), Lakawanna Blues, The italian Job, Monster's Ball, The Woodsman(also great) and he also voices for The Boondocks.(hilarious)

Anything else?

Whatever. Go play with toyin or something.

davidylan:
You have a point, its probably safer that way. I suggested my mom, she just gave me a "you're not serious" look.

Dont mind her jare. I know she'll love it especially if you finally give her girls to care for

Abi ori e daru ni? Ta lon pe lode?

Seriously quite that nonsense, CH3COO

and Ice Cube is definitely NOT a better actor

look up Mos Def's work and compare it to Ice Cube.

This was a divorce though

not some kid out of wedlock

Lmao @ Ice Cube and LL

When there are people like Mos Def. You are talking about Ice Cube.

Na only Ice Cube, why not add Ice T sef

Family!

Boarding house ke? Nooo.

This is why alot of people reccomend you asking for the interviewer's card when you are done.

davidylan:
She doesnt like the idea of kids living away from their parents. To be honest i don't either . . . but it wont hurt to get the kids to spend at least their secondary school education in Nigerian boarding schools.

Ok I WAS with you until you mentioned boarding school

God Forbid.

No.

I help out in soup kitchens when I can. That doesnt make me a "woman" of anything.

when I say the ones here, here is referring to Nairaland, funmi

as for the ones I know, I live in NY so we have a decent size of the Igbo community.

as for Ibibo, plenty of threads with them syaing their language is dying out because kids of now think it's "razz" and "local" so they refus eto learn or speak it.

lol@ debo. If the English was even correctly used at least it wouldnt be such a dilemma, Ironically it's not.

Why was your mom against it?

They can learn both David. There were quite a number of half Romanian and Russian kids in my school. They could speak both parents languages. It's not that hard to do if you start them from young

Best thing my parens ever did was send us to Naija for secondary cos I sincerely hated being here around that time.

DeepZone:
arrive at this statistics? The only factual tale here is , some yoruba kids born abroad speak their mother tongue just like some Benin kids or hausa kids or ibo kids(putting their population ratio into perspective). You cannot claim that ibo kids born here speak their language more than Benin kids because their population ratio are not the same besides, an ibo person knows more ibo people than other tribes. Same goes for other tribes. So the issue is not how many that speak because it cannot be ascertained but how can you alleviate the issue of the non speakers and make them identify with you the more.

I know cos the Igbos I know and even the one here who live aboard complain about how the "generation of now" have forsaken their language or going as far as pretending that they cant speak it and go as far as comparing the plight to the Yorubas here.

I mentioned marriage cos of this

Liase them with every Yoruba social/cultural group around you to help them know each other. Ibo people do that a lot,that's why they marry each other more here

I agree with some of what you wrote but I and others have always found the whole "apologizing to those who OFFEND YOU" to be wrong. Doesnt give you self worth. Of course when I offend my parents, I apologize immediately but when they offend me they do the same, of course that started to happen when I got older.
Im not syaing kids or whoemever should go around screaming and looking for apologies but for elders to believe they are above apologies esp if they are DEFINITELY in the wrong is well. . .wrong. You dont have to be old to be respected.
It's one thing if whatever was done was done cos eventually it will show that the ends justify the means but when the act was just done for their own benefit then there's a problem.

anyway s this cos of the "my son is a lion" thing?

Yes it's very good.

The only time I dont do it is when it's a job that I ended up not wnating to be part of due to the interview

If it's a job you really wnat, i suggest a thank you email, make sure you thank every one you met with and once again lay emphasisi on why you believe you are fit for the job.

Um if anything Yoruba children are MORE likely to still speak their language aboard than any other tribe.

Also there's quite a surge of Yourba/Igbo intertribal marriages esp aboard so im confused

how come[b] you[/b] will believe other churches are doing miracles but when it comes to the man,

That's why I question your "you"

Anyway

Guru gives out "charity" more often but he's 'head of Zombie United" but TB Joshua is a real man of God?

Quite the double standard dont you think?

na wa for we naijas and double standards,how about other men of GOD?are they better than him?from what you have said of the man,i don't see anything different from what he does and what other men of GOD does,he reads more than one verse from the bible o,i still watched it on ait internat last sunday, how come you will believe other churches are doing miracles but when it comes to the man,he has to be giving the white people money,i personally met a group of british white girls in heathrow going to naija,they live in the man's church and they were carrying boxes of biscuits and others stuffs they were trying to check in at heathrow,

What double standard? Care to quote where you EVER seen me fawning over any "man of God". Pope sef, i have disdain for. Where did I say I believe in other churches performing miracles? Im well aware of the false garbage that populates naija churches, which is why I dont attend them so stop making foolish assumptions.

Lmao you saw a bunch of naive white females giving some lunatic biscuit and that's why he's a "great man", lol

The irony is Guru's own act of charity wasnt just a birthday thing, his was done WEEKLY so according to you that makes him a demi-god. Rofl.