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[quote author=vani86 post=39211498]Will a wealthy guy even want you when a broke guy did not.

It still comes down to d fact that you will also be used and dumped [/quote

Till den, i have it all.
I dont see dat happening again because when it did happen, i was still a kid of 15. Now am wiser and more mature no one has and never will. If at all i get dumped i have nothing to lose because i have gotten all the money i want,that is all that matters!

[quote author=IamLEGEND1 post=39211962][i] [b] o.k you've made ur point

you became a harlót because some guy broke ur heart when you were younger....

at least other prostitutès can give u a solid reason why they are into that kind and of life

but you.....

You act diffrently from your moniker. I aint a slut i only date for money. And it is a world where people date for what they can benefit so dont judge me. When a man marries a woman because she can cook no one blames him or when he dates a girl because she is intelligent or he likes girls that are fair no one blames him for making his CHOICE. But when i date a guy because he has money, i hve become a slut?

StepTwo:
Diary of a tired and frusterated black woman

btw,
https://i58.tinypic.com/e6sn6d.jpg

Aside gibberish nothing can disgorge from your filthy lips. You think i am frustared? Gray your wack! I have it all! Luxury,friends and family...you are as broke as hell that was why you spewed rubbish. My thread aint for paupers like you

I know this post would provoke many Nls but i dont care.
When i was younger i dated a guy for three months he left me for my friend because i was not perfect and quiet immature. For two years the sore remained.
It was an inception of a new ideology ;that people who claim they are in love Stick with you when the grasses are in green and when they have something to gain.
I decided to follow that thread,date only wealthy guys. Yes, i was rejected because i had no perfection so i decided to use the same standard used on me by the guy who broke my heart on other fellows.
God understands my past pain so he is no furious with me for sapping guys financially and dumping them. My reason? I was hurt so i have to hurt.

MrsChima:
Do you agree ladies?

Chop chop our toto men!

I suppose you are married,your likes should be going through your child assignment instead of spewing gibberish on a forum
Dont desecrate the true meaning of womanhood

Can a man love two women at the same time?

Wow...the pain would have been lesser if you didn't trust him wholeheartedly. I am not trying to encourage ladies to have no trust for their men but there should draw a margin between trust and understand the major content of mortals is uncertainty.
The is like a shock absorber to me that have lessened the pain I should have felt during my heartbreaks.
Deep inside me,before the relationship started,i told myself that life is full of uncertainties and humans can change. I prepared for the worst and hoped for the best. So the day it came, it was not all painful as i had prepared for it


Op you should be grateful to God he even gave you a second thought...

Hi Nairalanders

I have always been a lover of this wonderful forum for the past years and i can remember i registered an account her around 2008 but i forgot the whole details i used in registering the account back then and since then, I've always been visiting as a guest but I decided to create another that account today just for a reason which I'm sure you will all love to help.

The main reason why I've opened this thread is just to seek advice from you guys on the easiest and painless way to die. It sounds crazy right? Yea, i know it sounds crazy but i have my reasons.

You know what? I've come to realize that this world is not meant for everybody to dwell in, maybe to me alone though, i can say, but I'm sure this world is not my meant for me. I have suffered countless ignominy, I'm a stigma of disgrace, I'm a disgrace to human kinds, I'm a curse, I've always lived a solitary life, i have no friends nor enemy, my life has been derailed and futile, I'm a failure and i have no other option than to go back to where i belong either the so called heaven or hell.

Enough of the predicaments I've faced on earth, i really need to die or i have to die rather. But i don't want my families to be in the blues also even though they all know I'm just a bird of passage to this earth, i still love them but i just have to do it.

Please friends, prescribe any drugs or chemicals which can act as a catalyst to this suicide mission of mine and i will really appreciate it.

Nb- insults are allowed though, they will only encourage me on what I'm about to do lol. Thanks famz

i suppose you have experienced traumatic events in your life. What if i tell you that i have been through times ten of what you have?what if i tell you that as i type,i am in a cobweb of miseries?

By showing love i feel love. That has kept me going on.
I am sure you need routine counselling to tame your depression.
I want to ask you for two favors: please change your moniker and drop your number. I want to be your friend,and i want to help you

Incorruptible:
Good evening everyone. Something just happened this evening. Have seen here like a family. So, I have no second thought running here for advise
Met a girl in March. We started going out. It was kul and awesome. We love each other. Hey, I can swear she love me.
You know , she is still a virgin, so sex was rule out(not a condition for the relationship, but cos I don't want to force her into it)
While together, we have talked countless time on how we gonna get married. Mehn, it seems to be the best relationship I have had so far
Well, this night, she came to my house. She started crying. She said she want to focus. She don't want commitment. She wants to end the relationship. She went on telling me she don't know why she is doing it. That maybe she is scared of heartbreak cos of her past experience in relationship. Her past experience seems to have been playing on her.
Dear Nairalander, is certain she is done. Am heartbroken. Pls tell me how to handle this. How can one position his mind to stay away from love till one is ready to settle down.
She is right now in my house, while I have gone to work. Just talk to me.
She is 21( year 1) am 27 (year 2)

you are not the first or the last to experience a heartbreak. Many people have been heartbroken over four times, it is part of growing...rejection.you should be grately it is only barely six months of your life she wasted because they are guys who after 6,7 or even 8 years of investing in a girl they end of leaving them.
You should focus on moving on and getting over her not winning her back.time does heal wounds. Give it time,she would be history.

It is tempting to start wondering the real reason she left, but remind yourself that there is no excuse for real love. I am 99% convinced she left because she has seen someone

lots of love...love yourself

justified19:
I am guilty of no 7. and it did cost me ma last relationship.

there is no flame without a fire. If i were her, i would weigh things and see what i did that made me deserve a threat. I strongly believe in #teamnoeveryonedeservesopmeonewhowouldlovethemfortheirweaknesses.....but u see dear,people are in relationships for their interest and would leave when the relationship stops favoring them that is why i put the list for those who are dating partners that claom to love em but would leave them when the green grass wilt....i wouldnt leave no one for any of the reasons listed...perhaps the no 10 only..

1. Poor hygiene-it is suprising to know some ladies urinate without cleaning there. Imagine sitting with someone with a bad breathe,or think of having someone with a bad odor kiss you.
2.Nagging: i would prefer my boyfriend dump me because of my flaws than to be the object of his nagging.
3. Becoming a watchdog: telling people to watch over your partner and monitor them to find out if they are cheating.
4. Telling lies: this is self explanatry.
5. Keeping malice: my little sister in kindergarten would condemn this.
6. Kissing and telling.
7. Issuing threats to your partner when they offend you
8. Bringing back past issues.
9.Comparing them with others
10. Disrespecting your partner

Please how feasible is it for a christian and muslim to get married?

rattlesnake:
Please when u guys are chasing a lady that all you want is just her punnani. ..do u consider her parents feelings ?

dearie, i am sorry i have to comment as i am a female.
But,if i were A BOY.
I would ask myself these questions:
1. How would i feel if the daughter i brought to this world,groomed,nurtured and paraded as my pride is not given love she deserves but is used for self gratification?
2. How would i feel if my mother told me she loved a guy who used her for sexual gratification?
3.how would i feel if my sister was used for this?
4.how would i feel if I myself is used for such and not love truly?


Stop thinking up such evil things! Occupy your mind with noble things that would add value to your life, and the world.

I think you need help my dearpsycologically because it is only SADDIST that conceives plans on how to exploit people...lots of love

Thank you for your contributions...i kno i have problems,but the question is what are my problems?
I am open to your criticisms

[quote author=BUTCHCASSIDY post=36178880][/quote]in your mind you created a joke,try better

This is from my cousin who doesnt use an internet enabled fone. I gave her the phone to type this:
good evening,i thank those that would have time to read my post because it is long. Kasi told me that sometimes you pple here use to insult those that bring topic,please domnt insult ,me because a prob shared is a prob solved.
My first bf left me because false rumours spread.my second bf left me because he said i like attention.my third bf i met online left me for another girl because i was immature by then and lied.my fourth bf was also online,he left me because of my imperfection.my fifth too left me because of my imperfections.my 6th was in for a one night stand and left me.my 7th left me for my own friend,i cried my eyes out.my 8th left me because we quarreled too much.my 9th left me because i used to shout.
This is just the few escapades i mentioned. I would not be doing myself any favour by lying on a facelesas forum,it wouldnt add money to my account. So it is not cooked up.
All this heartbreaks had a great traumatic effect on me as i have a low esteem of myself, i always live in fear. Any guy that approaches me, i get scared and i get tired of a relationship easily: after two weeks in a relationship,i get tired.
I am physically attractive, i am quiet intelligent and industrous so i have many admirers but each time i fall in love, my whole life would be filled with FEAR and UNCERTAINTIES and TIREDNESS of the relationship that is barely a week.

Recently, a guy approached me, he chased me for long and i finally accepted. He is from diffrent religion with me, and he is from a state people fear alot. I sent his sister to act as a friend in my house and when she came, my parents were so angry that i befriended a girl from that state and religion and dont wanna ever see her in our house. Imagine what would happen if they know i am dating someone from that state and a different religion, they would drop dead. But the boys parent like me alot, they dont care of my religion,his mother is fond of me, and i feel free with his parents. The relationship is one month old and i feel TiRED already
My problems are: how do i heal from the past trauma?how do i get self esteem ?how do i stay in a relationship for a month without feeling tired? Would my parents ever like my bf?would my bf turn out to be like the others that have hurt me before or not?

Sweetheart i mean no harm,i actually needed a tecno charger urgently. I sincerely apologise fir derailing. So how has your day been?

Jollyjoy:
gurl abeg e don do,haba you nor dey let go?

Abeg who get tecno charger for her?my ba3 wan flat

Monicaa:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-289891.0.html

i have been writing some posts about still having feelings 4 my ex though it has been so long nd he did treat not so well in terms of honestly nd fidelity but he never laid his hands on me. i keep telling my self i deserve better nd since i am a good woman, i would meet someone better though i did, but had to end it because of feelings for my ex.

After i told my ex, i was moving on, nd hopefully, i meet some1 better, it is not happening. Instead i'm meeting worse people that r still the same, lying nd others. He doesn't know, im sure if he did, he would be laughing nd see me as d loser here.

There is a guy that has been disturbing me since only 4 me to find out yesterday he had a girl friend nd he is still denying it. Honestly im scared of being in a relationship now or sumwhat. It makes me feel that though my ex wasn't all that good 2 me, i'm still on the losing side, meeting some jerks nd some others, i have no real feelings. My ex has really spoilt my emotional life 4 me. pls any advice?

cutiepie,i tis tempting to call you pathetic.
First, for expecting perfection from mere humans-that are dust. You should learn to accept people for who they are. If you read my thread on love versus infatuation,i wrote love accepts a person wholeheartedly not minding what he or she is gaining in a relationship or the other flaws.you have nver loved,you have only been a naive desperate girl who looks for the ideal man.
2. Dont blame your ex for your misery,you wanted him out of your love life, he is gone,stop making references to him or comparing him or using him as a standard. You are accountable for yourself.
Make yourself whole,love yourself, then love thers as well

Joanne00:
Hello All,

I have a lady which i dated for 4yrs before may this year 2015 all times together was fight and argument and moreso she is the type that love to go with guyz(friendz) and suddenly she brought her two EX into the house differently but she told me one of them is just frend not until i find out on her phone that she has dated d guy before,when i ask her she told me (THEN)..so i forget and let go...

But, now frustration made me go have an introduction with another girl instead of her (MAY 2015) without me informing her....I KEPT IT WITHIN MYSELF AND KEEP MOVING WITH HER, BECOS OF THE LOVE BTW US WAS SO DEEP. ON A SUDDEN DAY I SAW HER INSIDE A MAN CAR AT D BACK OF THE HOUSE WHILE COMING BACK FROM WORK, BUT WHAT SUPRISED ME WAS SHE SNUPED ME AND WENT AWAY WITH THE MAN COMING BACK I ASK HER AND SHE TOLD ME THE MAN IS HER GUY I FELT (SHOCKED)!!.I BEGGED HER ALL THRU THE NYT BECOS I LOVED HER BUT SHE STILL TOLD ME SHE DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY ABT THAT.

Now she find out have done an introduction with a lady, she was nt herself, she keep crying and crying and she has really lien down ,not happy anymore we love ourself and she keep telling me why?? with deep tears...she loves me and i still loves her........PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO/??/??/ AM CONFUSED, I still loves her

i aint gonna stress on who went wrong because the both of you displayed immaturity. Young man you made a grave mistake by introducing a girl u dont love,that is very deep and painful.

Do you want to marry the girl you dont love because you introduced her?can you spend the rest of your life with the girl you dont love?

Do you want to leave the girl you introduced heartbrken to be with the girl you love and later the girl you love leaves you for one of her exes or for another guy as she did?how would you beg tthe girl you introduced and left heartbroken to take you back?

If you can honestly chose the right option,your problems are solved

my dear,employ bith your brain and heart in this decision..lots of love!

ChiSun27:
We already know...try harder with good topics....no be everything u go dey post for here...and moreover....stale topics like this hardly FP....except Lalasticlala who sends all and all to FP...

my statemeny would be divided into two: concerning my post and concerning you.
For the former,i dont post for the sake of getting to FP.I post for the sake on those that are not on Nls that need advice,i post what i learn,or i post random silly posts for trivia.i dont google the internet to look for post that would make FP,nah,i am myself,i never give a damn about what others think of my post.I am young and still growing,so are my posts. I must not be like lalasticlala,ireneony or ishilove for me to be satisfied.But i must be the better version of me.i am in no competition to make FP.So never you in your God forsaken life rebuke me.

Yes,you know already,but some dont know.Even the ones that know need to be reminded of the difference between love and infatuation.
For the later, as days goes by,i get more mature,i become less abusive.if it were when i was much younger,would have called you names,but i wouldnt...

Infatuation is defined as the emotional impulse of love untested by time and circumstance.
Love is the unconditional acceptance of an imperfect person.
1.infatuation is a fairytale whilst love is realistic.
2.infatuation happens almost immediately whilst love takes time to grow
3.infatuation fades with time whilst love deepens with time.
4.infatuation wants sex now whilst love can wait for sex.
5.infatuation is up and down emotionally whilst love is consistent.
6.infatuation means in love with love whilst love means in love with someone.
7.infatuation is unfaithful whilst love is faithful.
8.infatuation is hostile,it breakups after arguements,or when one finds out the partner cheated whilst love wouldnt breakup.
9.Infatuation emphasizes on beauty whilst love emphasizes on character.
10.infatuation gives up easily when things get tough,but love is always willing to stay.

NLjona:
I really need your help on this!!! We've dated for 5 months (Long Distance Relationship but we see each other often) At first it was all love in the air, well for the first 3 months. Things started changing after that.. She changed. Stopped calling,texting,caring and behaves non challant and even tlk abt her ex with me.. when I talk to her about it she turns it back to me like am acting too possesive. She made a lot of excuses about things and I felt like I was the one making efforts alone . On the fifth month,we had a major disagreement nd days later she used the "I wanna be alone" breakup line on me and I felt used. It hurts a lot.. Weeks gone by.. She occasionally text me bt I'm too angry to respond. She later asked for us to meet nd we talked things out and I accepted her back and right away she switched feelings cos she saw a friends (females) photos on my phone more than hers. I tried explaining things to her but she left at once and that day I tried texing her on social media and we chatted normally. But for weeks now we havnt texts or call and I'm confused cos one part of me wants to let go of her because it feels she's using me and the other still wants to try. She told a friend of ours that she wants to settle but I aint helping matters, which I don't understand cos she's to make efforts to make up if she really wants to...I'm so confused and sad about the whole issue.. Please I need ur advice on this.. Thanks!!

when i was much younger,i would hve called you names but i can sense you are naive'
love takes time to grow,sorry to say,infatuation lasts up to two years in a relationship before love comes.
She does not know what she wants,she is controlled by her feelings n not controlling her feelings.Love is a choice,it is a decision to commit to one person,she has no choice or will of hers.When the butterfly feelings comes,she crawls to you,when it fades,she says she wants to be alone'

you are a human being that deserve to be respected and not a THING that should be used to fufil her emotions desire when she desires.

Even though you dont wanna treat yourself nice by letting that raven go,thhink of your parents,how would they feel if they know their sonn is being used?

God gave u guts n instincts,use them....lots of love dear