₦airaland Forum

You operated a small cafe 3 years ago, I am kind of interested in knowing how well your finance has improved. That should be your major concern sef not dating a girl with a boyfriend abroad. She will hurt you o

Ok let me start, I joined Nairaland in 2006 though at a point I couldn't access my account but with my present account, I joined Aug 2012 and have spent 3 months and 4 days online. It's being fun all through. I have learnt a lot from this great forum and I am willing to invest more of my time next year. Happy Christmas all

Insist on her giving you your money back unless if she has a good reason to keep it

So true even after 7 years

Lawalemi:
I trained a girl through OND albeit that she's a relation. Not even a Christmas message from her to me yesterday.

I've learnt to focus on my family

were you expecting something from her?

iamsea:
is she the woman that acted as the lead actress in the movie "love don't cost a thing"?

she sang the song

My love don't cost a thing

TheGiftedOne:
I know you're his roommate...Please don't bite me for voicing the obvious. #DirtyPeople

lol, roommate ke? The ceiling is just old and not dirty and you know that. Can you even snap your own ceiling. I can't quarrel with you today, not possible

They are heading for more serious ventures now

An average man spends 10k monthly on airtime and data without knowing it making it the fastest money generating company in the world

Wow, i love that curtains. So adorable

TheGiftedOne:
These wall gekos would get infected from that dirty environment. OP if that is the ceiling of your house, I shake my head in Yoruba language. #Dirty

over sabi, is he suppose to wash the ceiling with hypo? Abi, you see any cobweb for the ceiling

dosht:
I'm telling you the dad nearly run mad because he had the child in his 50s and his first child for that matter.

o merciful Jesus

ogbonti:
So when you are the master in a relationship, or a slave in a marriage, you don’t know? If you don’t, then you deserve that relationship or marriage.. no need to complain na

I mean before the marriage

thatthing111:
From the way OP described how his wife talks to him it is clear she is riding him...taking his kindness for weakness. Some women sometimes do that to gently men. If he doesn't stand his ground she will never give him sex again. I've been there.

I perfectly understand that. I have also experience being in bondage in the name of I house and feed you so you must obey my command anytime. All I am saying is that something is not right. We women love sex so much, so why should we deny ourselves such endless pleasure to hurt the man

maasoap:
When you said that there is no excuse for cheating instead of advising him not to cheat, that statement of yours is referred to as a "simplistic approach".
You made it look like @op is not getting one thing or the other right, what if the problem is from the wife and has nothing to do with husband's shortcoming? Have you considered that possibility? What if the op tries all these trials and errors tips of yours and the situation doesn't change? What next? Every man or woman deserves to be in a relationship.

op didn't mention that he offered the above solutions. He only told us how he gives her 60k for upkeep and buys food stuffs. Op didn't mention when this problem started or any good attribute of his wife. Op painted himself as a responsible man and his wife as a selfish nagging partner, that refuse him sex. Before I judge a case, I always want to find out how cordial is that relationship before now. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship yes and the op is in one. How well does he build it depends mainly on him being the head. What I deduct from his story is that, I feed and house you, so when I want sex you give it to me or else it's trouble. I might be wrong though but that is what I perceived. The wife is not right by denying him sex but maybe that is her only weapon which is pure ignorance.

Parenting is team work, why send the mother away? This should serve as a lesson to all of us. Both the father and the mother has a role to play in ensuring that their children don't drift away. Now the little girl is dead

Vividly I say unto you

ogbonti:
Then don’t marry the person

If this is happening after marriage, then DIVORCE

It’s as simple as ABCD!

sometimes my friend, you don't know

Sofistcatdmoron:
and does her wife carry him along during love making

still my point on communication

maasoap:
This statement is selfish

how selfish

DenreleDave:
So there is more to the story because na man dey post the issue.. Had it been it was a lady dt posted that her husband is denying her of sex , u feminist wunt know that there is more to the story, u will start supporting the lady that posted it...

Anyway, whether man or woman, there is always another side of the story

don't be that sentimental. Grow up

oldtruth:
All this children. So, if she didn't like the way he is having sex with her, she can't tell him what he is not doing right? The next thing is for her to deny him sex?

Sometimes, you can't stop wondering who are the kids behind all this monikers

adult I greet you.

ogbonti:
if that was the case, was there no courtship before the marriage? why did the relationship lead to marriage if sex was awful?

even if there was no pre-marital sex between them, why cant she be open enough to tell her man the reason she is denying him sex so he can adjust?

guy - like someone said here, another man dey nack her kpekus - discover the real koko and send her away before she gives you HIV or bring home a bastard as your child - be smart!

not everyone creates a effective medium for communication in marriage. Haven't you see a slave-master relationship in marriage.

frubben:
so even if the partner na devil is sex a punishment. Come on why punish the poor man

the man is not poor Jo. I'm just saying every woman appreciates love. Maybe the op hasn't mention other weak side of his

Kirinwa:
She should have opened up to him instead of frustrating him with no sex. You see food, sex and respect, men don't joke with it. So if you, as a woman is hurt in any way, better open up.

This situation is enough to cause divorce if not well handled.
Its the woman that will suffer it more, suitors hardly come for them except well mannered ones married by rich men for their aged widower fathers.

I didn't say she is right but attitude is everything sometimes. What if op don't give room for that kind of communication

jagaban002:
That’s how most woman turn there husband to cheaters , I won’t even ask her again once she denied me sex for a month I won’t even near her again for a year . I will do my duties and go find a better fine small girl outside that will satisfy me outside . Aside kids marriage is a scam

there is more to every story. Op painted himself as a saint here. Do you carry your wife along during love making or are you the open your legs let me enter man. How do you treat her? Yes you provide upkeep but what about respect? Is she your partner or just sex mate. There is no excuse for cheating. It is wrong in every ramifications. So don't crate a crack on the wall of your home

MiVida:
it's at night, not 1 girl alone, I use protection, it's complicated bro, I'm still a student... Uurgh! You won't understand!

one word, disgusting

These babes don upgrade o. They look good though. I can differentiate, one is fatter and more shapy than the other