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I am overjoyed by the turn of events today. The blunt ones are now aware that most people can also be blunt, insensitive and downright disrespectful if they choose. That people aren't parading the earth mouthing off at others is not because they can't, but because they consciously choose to filter their utterances and conduct themselves in a self-respecting way. I hope those claiming they cannot help their thoughtless outbursts will speak or write to the CEO at work in the same manner, that is when I will know that truly, their village people don open permanent site on top their head.

czaratwork:
Please what is the process for gaining admission into doctorate degree programme In Canada? Two of my friends were advised to go for a second masters because they will not admit them for doctorate degree in Canada and they said i should make enquiries for them.

Who said they would not admit them? The universities? If that's the case, they must have provided reasons for their stance. An admission refusal at the doctoral level could be for a variety of reasons. A major one being if one does not possess a thesis or research based Masters degree. Some schools would then recommend a second Masters by research degree as a prerequisite to admission into the doctorate program. However, before deciding on a course of action, it may behoove them to shop around and see if they can still find takers as different universities have different requirements and varying degrees of leniency.

For doctoral programs, admission processes at various universities will differ however, they usually follow the same rough guidelines below:
1.) Identify a school; read extensively about the school to ensure it is a good fit for you.
2.) Study their admission requirements to ensure your qualifications are a total or close match.
3.) Develop a research proposal or question and approach the supervisors (lecturers who have delegated supervisory roles) whose research interests are in alignment with your research proposal. Secure a supervisor who is willing to walk the often arduous road that is academia at the doctoral level.
4.) Apply for admission on the basis that you meet the stated requirements and have obtained a research supervisor at the university. Also, having published papers or works in respected journals will immensely help your case along.
5.) Wait for the admission decision.

Hope this helps.

XX01:
Don't forget that you guys will get along in real life.

Tufiakwa! Biko Chukwu juru aju! Yea, me and that entity will get along when pigs effing fly! Ha! That would be NEVER EVER in multiple lifetimes and then some! The mere thought of it alone gives me the creeps . I don't mess with folks like her who condone nasty behaviour especially in real life because I am liable to check the s**t out of her and her cronies. I don't play that! So I need to go back and delete that nonsense I wrote there before some upstanding people think I roll with her kind. So abeg XX01, don't even project that sort of loathsome notion into the universe; it is truly an odious thing to contemplate.

Somebody talking about ratchet; what's wrong with being ratchet? At least I am not out here supporting vile behaviour. A confirmed unrefined villager is here claiming classy! Hahahahaha! Classy has really suffered. Classy, but your life ethos is to actively encourage the erosion of good graces and manners; yet you are here besmirching classy's good name. I really doubt you know what classy means honey! Can't say I am surprised anyway, you don't appear to be very bright.

Anyway, I feel like I done sparred enough for one day....hahahaha! I believe I have sufficiently made my points and I'm out. However, if somebody invites me back via mentions, Imma be back because it is rude not honour invitations.

Carry on beautiful people!

Canadianfly:
Hahahaha see bullets flying up and down. Lmao


Kayla10 don't you reside in Australia? Why are you always here feeling like voltron defender of the universe? Please if you haven't read through, Honey86 has more than contributed on her knowledge of Manitoba on here. You shout people are rude, then come blazing like folks should bow down to you? No one attacked anyone's person or called anyone outside their name, till you landed. Please we don't need Aussies here with their very annoying accents Leave us to argue away about Canada.

In other news, Rainazoe, if your heart is resting with relocation, talk to the husband and y'all can try a soft landing. Whatever y'all decide, I hope y'all make the right decision for your family.

Mama look at how I made it! Folks be checking me out...hahahaha! So you don do research conclude sey I dey Australia? Hahahaha! I am famous y'all! On the real though, I could be in any part of the world for all we know; who says I am not in Canada? Again, it's a faceless forum. Location however, is quite inconsequential here as it does little to tell you why a person may or may not be interested in a topic/s or thread/s.

Yes, I have a massive issue with people being mean-spirited and disrespectful and I will say something whenever I feel it's the case; if that makes me Voltron, so be it. That is a title I will wear with pride. I have always wanted to be an Avenger (the Marvel ones oh abeg) sef so I am in mighty fine company. I would much rather be tagged a defender than one who is complicit in the perpetuation of spiteful deeds.

Furthermore, I ain't really call nobody out their name. You say rude, I say unequivocally forthright; saying it like it is, just the way you like. You know, we all being blunt and everything; I was just matching the prevalent level of bluntness...you know, zero chills just how you like it . I woulda thought that'd be your cuppa. This is an open forum, no one here has exclusive rights to write in an indelicate manner; we all can partake.

I really do not need anyone to bow to me because that s**t is played out and pays no bills. However, if somebody come at me sideways, they will get it, simples! If that comes across as me wanting to be worshipped, oh well, people will just have to deal.

@ bolded, you see how you typed that bit with sweetness and saccharine vibes, pray tell, was that so hard? Couldn't your blunt buddy do that? If he responded to people in that manner, will the designer Ogbono soup in his fridge go bad? People have to learn to conduct themselves with some decorum in civil society and all public spaces. If they, however, decide they are much too cool to be civil towards others, they have to be accepting of the fact that not everyone will tolerate their excesses.

salford1:
It's obvious that we are not reading the same thing

It is called selective reading

tee10:
It's ridiculous how a particular guy here make wide assumptions about people and there marriage

I know folks who are pushing this Canada thing just so they can have the best of both worlds in Nigerian and Canada, many of them are only trying to hedge there risk in case Nigeria falls apart

Folks should limit themselves to what they know and stop this over sabi attitude

Mucho Gracias! Why people think this type of behavior is tolerable is just beyond me. The mind totally boggles! Someone will just stay chomping at the bits, itching to be unnecessarily abrasive all in the name of "being blunt".

Anyway, na for online these blunt ones dey get plenty power. Internet Bruce Lee!

salford1:
The lady said the family is doing well by Nigerian standards. That is all that matters. Just as you mentioned yourself, doing well is relative to different people or family.

There are people who believe they are doing well and are not interested in leaving naija like the lady's husband. If migrating would make the husband unhappy, then the family might be better off staying back in Nigeria till the lady is able to convince her husband to migrate.

Simple as ABC.

No Salford1, how can it be simple? No, it is a very hard something oh. Based on the counsel of our "inhouse marriage, rudeness and happiness barometer Commissioner" (insert major eyeroll emoji), she should kuku powerlift the husband, carry him on the head like gala and march him into Canada...mtchewwww!

Rebarobyn:
Don't get me wrong, I'm not for rudeness.

My point was that the person who the post was directed at is not complaining and probably sees it differently hence the "thank you". And if its not a big deal to her, no one should make it a big deal.

And where have I made it a "big deal"? I only made an observation seeing as I genuinely thought it was mighty gracious of her. Also, you are actually making my point because as you say she "sees it differently"; that was the exact crux of my original comment. So what are you on about again?

Rebarobyn:
Some people see things differently and appreciate blunt tough-love type of feedback even when it appears rude. Its all perception.

Abeg, rude is rude! No need trying to explain it away. One can easily say what they need to say without being outrightly condescending. It is utterly unnecessary for anyone to belittle others in their bid to give subjective counsel. But anyway like I said in my initial post, she is very nice!

maternal:
Fear is an illusion. [s]The fact immigration is on your mind tells me that things aren't going well with your current situation. If so you wouldn't be on this thread.[/s] Your husband needs to lead his family and do what he needs to do, and stop making decisions based on emotions. Or in this case an illusion.

alt3r3g0:
Fixed.

You even try, e for better make you cancel the entire post sef....mtchewwww!!!!

rainazoe:
I'd show him this but we are doing okay by Nigerian living standards. I just want a different environment and a good learning environment for the kids. Thanks Maternal

Someone just directed a low-key barb your way and you thanked him/her? Hehe! You are very nice oh!

Vinsmuft:
For driving in Victoria, you need to pass three tests.
1. The learner's permit test
2. The hazard perception test
3. The drive test.

Everyone (both foreigner or Australian born) who wants to drive in Victoria must pass these tests. Even if you have driven for 20 years in your country and you want to drive in Victoria you must pass these tests . The first is the knowledge of the road laws in Victoria. The second tests how you would respond to various hazards while driving and the third is the practical drive test. But since you can drive with your naija licence for 6 months in Victoria, you have ample time to prepare for these tests. I've done the first two. E no hard. I can post the materials here if needed

The bolded is incorrect. If you have a valid licence from any one of the countries listed under recognised countries and jurisdictions on the Vicroads website and are over 21 or 25 (depending on the country and how long you have had your probationary licence), your licence is recognised in Victoria and you will not need to sit any of these tests. You will be issued a licence based on that.

tyosho:
Sending you a mail.kindly respond

Hi Tyosho,

Did not receive an email.

tyosho:
Thanks for bringing up my previous posts.i had even forgotten about it.

The aged care/disability matter didn't happen again as we both got other jobs.

Bellong is coming to Melbourne this month end so we are all planning to have a meet.We go get plenty pictures to upload then.
Please if we have any melbourne nairalanders that Bellong is yet to contact,please raise your hand so details can be sent to you for our groove

Hand raised. Please send the deets.

dupyshoo:
Like I said, circumstances change. I got Canada PR early last year when I was not sure of UK citizenship and was not too happy with my job. Now, things have changed for the best.

I can't complain of my situation in the UK currently. So, why won't I be afraid of the unknown?

This is the last time I will talk about this issue sha.

Don't let anyone run you off. Your concerns are just as valid as anyone else's. You are well within your right to comment however you deem fit. We should all try to be a bit more tolerant abeg.

I totally understand your dilemma. Truth is, it is often harder for someone in your position to migrate than say someone who is running away from the "heat" in Nigeria (figuratively and literally). And another truth is, other than getting a job you like prior to migrating, it is really difficult to devise a way of knowing if things will be better for you and yours in the new place. This is made even more complicated by the fact that you will most likely continuously compare your situation in Canada (if you migrate) to your current situation; this is great if Canada turns out better, but never a good idea, if it isn't better, talk about regret-palooza!

Bottomline is, you know yourself and family better than most people I'd say and you also know your propensity for risk-taking; so weigh this knowledge plus results gleaned from research keenly and make a decision. And if you feel like that isn't enough, keep asking as many questions as you feel the need to; this is a weighty decision and should not be taken with levity.

einsteino:
thanks alot for allaying my fears. Abandoning a child one brought into the world is cruelty, if i ever have kids, i would want them to be well looked after. so i have no problem with child support, would even rejoice if i could get custody.

to be clear, i am not planing to divorce/be dvorced even if i were to live in Nigeria for the rest of my life... but then again it is always best to prepare for any eventuality and not lazily handover things to optimism. Life has a way of sometimes putting people in situations they never thought they would ever be in. "had i known" is a brother to Bleep up.

I am in total agreement with you on this issue. I really struggle with people who use overt positivity, optimism and religious "higma-jigma" as a poor substitute for proper planning. Most people do not get married with the aim of getting divorced yet we see the divorce numbers rising steadily. This goes to show that one cannot just wish things into reality. Therefore, it is important to be ready for any eventuality.

No one should leave divorce proceedings feeling cheated. If a husband stopped his wife from working thereby denying her years of valuable experience which would help her continue to earn a living after the divorce, then yes, he is to pay some reparations for that. Also, if it was a mutual decision for her to stop working (for whatever reason), then divorce happens, again reparations. But, if both of y'all were working the entire time and earning, then she - during the divorce proceedings - is trying to claim what isn't hers for herself, oh boy, brace yourself and fight for what's yours! I repeat fight and get yours! No just dull yourself. If the marriage isn't working, everyone should go their separate ways amicably with the proviso that the kids (if any) are provided for. No one should be using a divorce as their get rich quick scheme abeg.

Canadianfly:
I don't know why anybody will be asking their fellow human being how was your night

That is a very intrusive question. I don't even answer people who ask me that here in Nigeria. So if I told you Oga loved me real good, what would you say? Very very intrusive question. Even for Naija

I was genuinely befuddled the first time someone asked me that question. I took it quite literally and couldn't quite figure out why they needed to know about my night. I didn't know how to answer and had to ask someone else about it as I didn't know when it became the norm to ask people about their after dark activities.

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Canadianfly:
Absolutely no phone in the work place ke? Except you work where you deal with customers....but my previous job encouraged phones sef. Whatsapp and IMs. The bit about most Canadian workplaces are scent free, I also disagree. Yes some people have health related issues with scents but it's not a National rule for companies to be scent free. Please don't scare people, different companies have different rules. It's not one rule for every work place.
My advice to anyone, get to your intended city and LEARN THE CULTURE THERE.

No two cities in Canada are the same. Neither are the people. From experience, Winnipeg folks are more friendly than say folks in Toronto. So you can't take your experience in Winnipeg and label it all of Canada. The first company I worked in Winnipeg was rigid as it was privately owned, so they were rules about scents, the second company was a company full of Mechanical and Design engineers. 90% male dominated and the work atmosphere was very relaxed. You can wear whatever you prefer to work and work with your laptop in any place you feel comfortable working from. As long as you met your productivity and deadlines.

I couldn't agree more! I read that piece and thought hian! which one be scent free again? I mean no one should regulate your smells (as long as it ain't foul though because you know some people be wearing that funky au naturelle musk with pride). I understand that people are anxious about the big move, truth is no one can really tell you what your experience will be. A lot will depend on your skills, education, personality, aptitude, place of employment, location and a host of other factors. Therefore, no one can tell you what it will be for you. A lot of people tend to extrapolate from their own experiences and pass it off as fact; and that is not evidence enough as it is quite subjective. For example, one cannot categorically say that your work friends won't become your real life buddies; there is no way to conclusively assert that because....variables.

Point is, regardless of what you read on these forums or glean from associates, keep an open mind. Your story may just differ and amaze you and yours.

folamingo:
In respect of Nicole's post, I believe everyone is right from their perspective. While I can understand she is looking out for herself (which is entirely human), there is someone else's life involved. This is someone that she claims she is planning to marry and suddenly the thought of relocating is bringing out doubts! That comes out "screaming at anyone", so which means circumstance will change how you see your spouse when you eventually get married. No condition is permanent. The poor man you see today, could be the richest man tomorrow.

Learn to trust your partner's struggle. Its really for better and for worse. You saw some qualities in him to date him, and eventually believed you could settle down with him. There is no perfect woman or man. You mould them by accepting their weaknesses and building on their strengths.

Let your foundation be LOVE and trust in God as circumstances change!

Drops mic.

The issue is y'all only get this philosophical when it's women involved. Men do this ALL THE TIME! Is it not women's lives involved when men conduct auditions in their bid to find a mate. Yes, that's what it is, auditions! Can she cook? Can she sex me well? Is she fertile? Is she pretty? Why is that acceptable and Nicole's isn't? Marriage is not a do or die affair; no one should be guilted into it. Even if the OP feels as though he doesn't match her hustle and leaves him, it is perfectly valid. He is free to continue searching for someone that may be better suited, simples! Y'all always find a way to make a simple thing complicated.

...And no, all perspectives on this issue are not right. Some of the earlier posters were being particularly condescending, disrespectul and judgemental and whenever one approaches an issue that way, their opinion becomes null and void. It's been said that if you know you have nothing constructive to add, then shut it! I think people should learn to do that more often.

...And frankly for the ones spewing all that sexist nonsense and nursing the obodo oyibo dream simultaneously, y'all might need to learn how to curate your more incendiary and insensitive thoughts and remarks because these places are not like Nigeria where you can go spouting off your unquantified assertions and projecting your biases on others. If you find that you cannot however, as the deity you worship has placed upon you the burden of being the wise sage (read aproko) that others need (but really do not want), please it may be time for you to enroll in a Bachelors in Minding your own Damn Business. Na help I dey help una because I can tell you for free right now, that such behavior will not be tolerated where una dey plan go.

Avalon316:
You women and gender wars... Clearly, everyone could see that she doesn't like the guy. Some of the women here feel that she is right. I see why most men cheat. These women don't love us. They are in their marriages for their gains. They can't stand the tough times with us.

LMAO!!!! Oh so that's why men cheat? Not because their unloyal behinds can't be trusted for s**t but because women want money. That's real rich (pun definitely intended), you hear me? So effing rich. I suppose the one you are cheating with is your true love that will stand the tough times with you yea? Hahahahahaha!

Keep lying to yourself inugo? I reckon it helps you sleep at night so please keep at it.

Blingyrie:
My dear somethings are better not said in the public domain; am afraid she brought it upon her. Like I've been married for close to 14 years, and would never allow such near my brothers. It's not just right!! She could have asked d same question without putting that part; it shows a negative part of her. Sorry that's my opinion. I ain't perfect but I didn't write down my darkest tots out in public n expect an ovation??!! Hell no

It is still her opinion and story however, and none of you have the right to censor her. I find that some men (especially Nigerian men) are bothered by women like her who expressly know what they want and refuse to settle. It is okay for men to all day errday choose to selectively court and woo beautiful women, but women are denied such luxuries as well. When a woman states what she unequivocally wants, all y'all start losing your s**t. E dey pain abi? Mtchewwwww!!!!!

....And I find it absolutely inane and immature that people always resort to the ridiculous "you will be 40 and unmarried line". So what if she is 40 and unmarried? Pray tell, would that mean she couldn't live a marvelous life? Why do some people insist on foisting silly expectations on women?!! Some of you won't be happy till women are cowering and existing as token handmaids.

@Nicoletheo, please DO YOU! You feel me, do whatever you think you need to do for yourself. These ones here flapping their gums won't come and live in your home with you. They won't be there when s**t get real; many people are only great at giving nonsense advice and opinions so feel free to ignore the heck outta them.

And finally una wey dey follow that Alikote talk na una make mistake; his english alone was a dead giveaway. Una for just know sey e no fit talk better something....mtchewwwwwww!!!

chidike:
Didn't get any request

Apologies, thought I did. Sent now.

chidike:
Its not easy oh, anyone going to Australia should know that you have to work hard oh, no be beans oh. I can relate to your story, my relative a medical doctor before he left naija got there and did menial jobs, not medicine related oh, correct menial job for almost a year. He studied , passed his exams and now he works as a Doctor in a hospital. God will crown our efforts. We dey come.

Hi Chidike,

I sent you a PM request. I am currently in Australia and have a request seeing as you are coming over soon. Could you please respond to the PM?

Thanks.

Junnaid:
My occupation is also in Adelaide and Sydney. However, that of Sydney is on visa sub class 489. So how can I assess their requirements.

What is your occupation? 489 requirements will be on the website; either google search or search on the website.