Do you love with intention and purpose? Or are you like many people, loving when you receive what you want and unloving when you don't? Have you ever loved with full intention to love, no matter how the other person responded?

Loving with a sense of full intention, with no holds-barred, can be a totally freeing experience. If you really feel so good about yourself that you don't NEED to receive anything from your partner for you to feel okay, love can be an amazing experience. If you KNOW that no matter what happens, you are okay and you can still love yourself, then your sense of confidence and love will certainly rub off on your partner.

Why do intimate relationships often become breeding grounds for intense emotional pain and suffering? At first, when our hormones are flooding our system in the early phases of attraction and lust, we may be totally focused on and mesmerized by our new partner. We may do everything we can to please and satisfy him or her. We provide unconditional, intentional love - compassion, attention, caring, focus and highest regard.

Gradually, however, real life, the real person behind our illusory image, the real difference between what we want and what we have, comes into our awareness. We may feel disappointed, betrayed and baffled by the way this person seems to change right before our eyes. That totally loving, totally receptive, totally attentive, and totally giving partner we fell in love with may begin to back away, withhold affection or sex, disagree and behave in an unsupportive or even abusive way.

Intentional loving on your part, not waiting to receive that from your partner, is the way back to intimate love. When you do something pleasing for your partner, serotonin is released in their brain, helping them to feel relaxed and happy. But it is not enough for you to take action. It is important for you to find a way to elicit that same caring action from your partner toward you.

Giving is more powerful than receiving. When you give and nurture another person, you also tend to feel more attached and more loving toward him or her. When you receive nurturing, you may appreciate it and feel loved, but that may not translate into loving feelings toward that other person.

Just for today, become the lover you are desiring. Love with intention. Love with the purpose of serving and healing. Love and honor your partner. And don't forget to love yourself with that same intentional loving that you offer to your partner. Bring out the love that is available within both of you.

Don't let go of your current relationship until you are sure you have really loved with intention. Only allow yourself to let go when you are convinced it is a losing battle. Intentional loving will quickly reveal what is possible, what is probable and what may be a lost cause. But even some of the most hopeless situations can be turned around when at least one person loves with full intention.

Do you believe you can actually create love in your relationships - or - do you believe you just have to be lucky? And what does being lucky mean to you? Does it mean you have to choose the right partner who is a naturally loving person that knows how to treat you - or - does it mean you have to be born into the proper family with the proper upbringing to learn proper love skills?

Love is a natural inborn instinct, a natural emotion, a feeling, a thought, an experience, an attitude, and even a belief. One of the reasons most of us are so touched by a baby's smile is that we sense the pure love emanating from such an innocent being. A baby is pure love, even though it is completely dependent and demanding and needy. Because we know how dependent they are, most of us easily forgive babies for crying, screaming and making demands upon us. We know they need something and we do whatever we can to find out what it is they need so that we can give it to them.

Household pets are also pure love. Yes, they make certain demands. They need to be fed and they need to be walked. Sometimes they make a terrible mess. We forgive our beloved pets for being so needy and so demanding and for messing things up when we least expect it. They look at us with those sad sweet loving eyes, and we melt in forgiveness and acceptance.

Most of us adults, even though we may look mature and even very old, we still want to be loved and accepted and forgiven in the same way that we wanted that as babies. We are only grown up versions of those needy, dependent and demanding babies that most of us shower with love and attention and forgiveness.

Have you ever looked at the adults in your life, beyond, behind and beneath their apparent adult personalities? Have you ever seen the needy, dependent and demanding baby lurking within everybody you meet? Imagine thinking that way when your boss is criticizing you at work or your spouse is screaming at you at home.

A screaming adult is just a child acting out, acting as if they are strong and powerful when, in fact, they are feeling weak and helpless. If they felt strong, why would they have any need to scream? Likewise, a demanding and self-centered adult is behaving like a needy and self-absorbed infant, not realizing that other people exist and have their own needs.

So, if you are in a relationship (friendship, business, family, or intimate love) with someone who is not loving you, not treating you in a loving way, not showing they are a loving person, not feeling love and not behaving in a way that enhances your relationship, what can you do about it? Well, your instinct is probably to respond in kind, that is, if they are being unloving then you should become unloving, if they are screaming, then you should scream back, etc. Or, perhaps you have taken some relationship courses that have told you not to react. So, you give them the silent treatment, you walk away, you abandon them, or you berate and belittle them for behaving so badly, so childlike, so unproductively.

I am offering a new approach to handling people and situations that do not feel loving to you. Look at the person who appears to be causing you some upset feelings and see that little needy baby, a baby just yearning for love and attention and acceptance, a baby who has been left alone to cry and is literally screaming for attention. What might you say to such a needy, frightened little baby? How might you respond that would be completely different from your natural instinct with this unruly adult in front of you?

If you actually do this little experiment, you will have taken the first step toward creating love in your life. Imagine having such a perspective every day, in all sorts of interactive experiences with other adults. Imagine focusing on the needs of all the people you meet rather than merely being concerned with satisfying your own pressing current desires. Imagine really being this way in your most intimate relationships.

Taking this perspective does not mean you have to become close and intimate with someone who is truly behaving like an infant. The goal is to be able to see that person and their behavior, clearly, exactly as it is, so that it no longer has to affect your own emotional equilibrium - and - you can continue to hold loving feelings for them no matter how they behave and no matter what they seem to be feeling. You can also walk away, regardless of what you have previously experienced together, retaining loving feelings for your own self as well.

If you want to know how to succeed with women, then here are three golden rules for success. So if you need some help in the dating department, make sure you read these tips and then start putting them into action.

1. Be A Mysterious Stranger

Women love bad boys and a touch of mystery. So if you're always played being a nice guy, then try to bring out a little of the bad boy in you when you're meeting women.

Women enjoy having mystery, magic and romance in their lives. Although they might say they want to meet a nice guy and settle down, they'll usually choose a bad boy over a nice guy.

And when you're flirting with a woman, make sure you don't ask for her phone number right away. Would a mysterious stranger ask for a woman's number right away? Or would he enjoy being mysterious for as long as possible, making sure he's got the woman hooked on his every word, and then ask for her number? Remember, it's all about the way you present yourself.

2. Be Natural

If you want to know how to succeed with women, then you have to remember to act natural. You may be used to rehearsing pick up lines in the privacy of your own home, only to stammer and stutter when you're actually trying them out on a woman in the real world. If this sounds like you, then obviously that approach isn't working for you and you need to try something else.

This is where being natural comes in. Women just want guys to talk to them naturally, even if they're bad boys. So practice your small talk with your friends, neighbors or even work colleagues. That way, you won't be tongue-tied when you try to have a conversation with a beautiful woman. And you'll be doing her a favor, because she won't have to listen to you trip over your own tongue when you try to say hello to her.

3. Don't Be Her Personal Slave

A lot of guys fall into the trap of becoming her personal slave, thinking they're pleasing her. They couldn't be more wrong. If a woman wanted a lapdog, she'd buy one from the pet store. So if you want to know how to succeed with women, then you have to act like a man.

That means refusing her ridiculous requests to pick up a pizza at 2am or help her with her quilting when you're ready to go and meet the guys. These kinds of requests are tests. She wants to know how far she can push you. And if you give in and accede to these kind of requests, she's going to lose all respect for you, because she'll think you're weak. And women don't like dating weak men. Before you know it, you'll be hearing the "let's just be friends" speech.

So stand up for yourself and say no to her silly demands. She'll have a new found respect for you and will want to keep on dating you.

If you follow the three strategies above for how to succeed with women, your love life will certainly improve. So the next time you're out meeting girls, try these techniques - you'll be amazed at the results!

You should talk to women just as you would talk to anyone else. That's because women actually are anyone else. They are just people like you and me. Even the most beautiful woman is just a regular person with the same basic wants and needs as everyone else. Usually the problem with talking to women is that we clam up, or that we put them on such a pedestal that we make ourselves look subservient and weak. If you have had trouble talking to women this article will cover a few things to keep in mind so that you don't make the mistake of talking yourself out of a good situation.

Be unconcerned with approval. In general women are attracted to men who have some clear goals and know that they are on the road to achieving them. One way to signal this type of attitude is to abandon approval-seeking conversation in favor of bold, confident talk. This does not mean to be boorish, ignoring the other people in the conversation and hogging the speaking time. Rather, you should speak your mind confidently and clearly. If people laugh at you don't suddenly change your tune to agree with them. Also, avoid sycophantic confirmation of the statements of other people. If someone (especially the woman you want to attract) says something you disagree with, just say so. Not in a rude way, but as any well-adjusted adult should be able to do.

Express romantic interest. Keeping in line with the idea of being confident and goal-directed, if you are romantically interested in a woman (and that's what this is all about, right?) don't be afraid to tell her about it. Hiding behind platitudes and feigned friendliness is obvious falsity; you didn't approach a woman in a nightclub because you want someone to play checkers with. She will respect your honesty. If she is not interested in you she will just say so, freeing you up to move along to a more receptive woman. Again, this does not mean you should use crass or blunt language, just that you should clearly express you interest with your words.

Point out positives along with the negatives. While you are talking to a woman there is sometimes the urge to shower her with compliments. She may well deserve them, but chances are she has been bombarded with this type of conversation since she was a teenager. It's fine to compliment her, but you can also point out some of her faults, too. If she has an ugly dress on, tell her. Just make sure to phrase it in a joking, playful manner. Let her know you dislike her clothes, but that you aren't pointing it out just to be a jerk. Again, she will respect your honest.

The best way to talk to a woman is with honest, directness, and confidence. Tell her what you really think and she will be able to accept or reject you based on who you actually are. And if you talk to her that way, chances are it will be the former.

You've had a crush on this guy for quite some time now and it seems that he hasn't noticed you at all. You are pining on him and you are praying he would look your way one day and he would fall in love with you. Well, I hate to burst your bubble but that scenario only happens in the movies unless you look like Jennifer Aniston or Miranda Kerr. Stop relying on destiny to make the man of your dreams fall in love with you. If you want something to happen, you simply go for it. Now, first things first; if you want to know how to get him to ask you out, you must first learn the art of flirting.

Some women are just so good with it that they consider it an innate talent. If you are not part of that group, don't despair because you can always pick up a few tricks here and there to make a guy notice you.

1.) Dress Attractively

Men are visual creatures and this tip has been mentioned a million times. There's a reason why it tops the list of things you can do to attract a guy and make him ask you out on a date. If you fail to catch his attention with the way you look, it's a little harder to move on to the next level of flirting. Dressing yourself up in attractive clothes does not always mean showing off some skin. If you are looking for a serious relationship, I wouldn't suggest wearing revealing clothes. Pick clothes that accentuate your curves but always leave something to the imagination. Being modest will enhance your self-image and then confidence will follow.

2.) Be Pleasant

Nobody wants to be around a person who is full of negativity. Smiling a lot and being approachable will make any man in the room take notice of you. Don't fake your smile because people can tell when you're giving out a phony smile. You have to forget about what other experts say that you have to play mysterious and aloof so you'll appear sexier. That will never work!

When having conversations, it's important to be polite all the time. Arrogance is a big turn-off. An intelligent woman knows how to make her point without insulting other people. You can definitely take your sarcasm else where. It's actually pretty simple; a woman with an infectiously likable personality begets the same vibe from the people around her.

3.) Let Him Know You are Available

The most common reason why sexy, gorgeous women don't get asked out is because men automatically assume they are already taken. They are always thinking that there is no way a hot woman is available. You can't just blurt out that you are looking though because this might turn him off. Let him know subtly by mentioning something about the single girls' night you and your friends had recently. Don't go out with male pals because this might confuse the guy you have your eyes on.

4.) If you are tired of waiting around for a guy to ask you out then maybe it's about time that you take control. Take the initiative! Some men find it sexy when a woman makes the first move. While there are more ways on how to get him to ask you out, there's nothing wrong with asking a guy out as long as it's done tastefully which means that you don't have to make it too obvious.

Find a common interest that you both enjoy. If you are a huge basketball fan and you know for a fact that he is a die-hard fan then tell him you have tickets for the game tomorrow night.

Dozens of men approach beautiful women every day. In fact, even a woman of average beauty is bound to be hit on by a fair number of guys. Women are constantly approached and told how pretty they are, how their eyes shine, how they light up a room. Bombarded by all these compliments, it is no wonder that they have become a bit jaded by the whole thing.

That doesn't mean that they don't like it. On some level, they need this type of attention. If it were all to stop suddenly, they would likely go into a world of anxiety and depression. What does all this mean for the man who wants to approach a beautiful woman?

For starters it means that you almost never have to worry about a woman being offended by your approaching her. The more beautiful she is, the more used to being chatted up she is. Along with this comes a kind of patience for the whole process, which she has at this point realized is unending. As long as you don't bore her terribly or take up too much of her time, you will probably be received cordially, if not warmly.

Even if she does blow you off, it will likely be in a straightforward, polite manner. So the key thing to remember is that approaches may not end up with you getting anywhere, but neither will they likely end with a beautiful woman emasculating you in front of the crowd.

It is best to make as many approaches as possible, and to do them in many different sorts of environments. If you see a beautiful woman at the bookstore, walk up to her and comment on something. Ask her opinion of some author or book or use a pre-scripted line. Women are likely to have their guard down a bit during the day. You can be a little more direct with them once you have initiated contact.

Another thing to remember is that when you approach a woman, you want to do so respectfully and obviously. Never approach a woman from behind and tap on her shoulder or call to her. This triggers her survival instincts and makes it feel as if you were chasing her down. Instead, walk past attractive women and then turn around to look back at them. If you are moving a bit faster than they are, so that they may have to actually speed up to stay with you, this is even better.

Approach women right away. Don't stop to think about what to say or try to recite your canned lines in your head. Go right up to them and say something, say anything. The more experience you get talking to them the easier it will become.

There is no secret to approaching beautiful women, except for this: they expect you to do it. You won't offend them or get blown off. You have absolutely nothing to lose, so you might as well get to it.

They tackle a guy 50 pounds heavier without a thought to the amount of aspirin they will be popping later. They engage in such educational sports as tractor pulls, outrunning charging bulls, blowing up anything that looks like fun, and wrecking old cars. They will jump off a 50-foot cliff if their buddy dares them, repel down a mountain, and shoot Class 5 rapids while whooping at the top of their lungs. Who are they? Men. The same men, who when faced with asking a woman out for a date, turn to liquid Jello.

I asked over 2,000 men the same question. "How hard is it for a man to ask for a first date?" The answers were eye-opening. These brawny cave men of the 21st Century admitted they would rather get a root canal than cross a room and talk to a woman they found attractive. They would rather have a tooth extraction than ask her for a date.

Why? The fear of rejection. Based on how often that answer appeared, you may as well color it in neon and put a spotlight on it. If people were watching him get shot down, it was the equivalent of being fired from your job in front of the entire office.

"For a guy to get up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start up a conversation is really, really hard," said Jeff R. from Atlanta. "With one withering look, she can reduce a guy to a pile of sand. She holds in her hands at that moment every bit of a guy's ego. If she is receptive, he's on Cloud 9, but if she looks him up and down and judges him inferior, it's gonna take a whole lot of beers and your buddies saying, "You wasn't so hot, Dude. Don't worry about it," to get over it."

This same type of response came from 90% of the men I surveyed, and some were CEO's, actors, male models and men who, quite frankly, had "it all goin' on." Yet the fear of being judged by a beautiful woman and tossed back into the fish bowl sent shivers down them. There is an old adage that says the reason most men need a drink to approach a woman is to have the added element of "liquid courage." It seems the task of talking to a woman and asking for a date requires a little help. Basically, these men said it was a terrifying experience because it was so personal. "Your ego is on the line," was a statement that came up time and again.

It would appear that this carries as much weight as it does for a woman to hand over her phone number to a man who approaches her, and then never receive a phone call. Don't we then feel judged and deemed inferior? It's a vicious cycle. When it comes to the dating world, egos are fragile on both fronts. Just be aware that from a man's point of view, it took all he had to ask you out. Go easy on him. Women hold a lot more power in this tricky realm of romance than they know.

Unconsciously, everybody sends signals to each other with their bodies. The older you get, the more important it is to understand the messages that are being sent. When trying to assess if a woman is interested in you or not, watch her body language. Whether she means to or not, she is sending you a very clear message. If you can decipher the messages you are being sent, you will be able to tell whether a woman is interested or not without her having to say a word. You just have to know what to look for, and this is where I can help you!

The eyes are the windows to the soul, and that is no lie. Did you ever wonder why people insist you look them in the eye when they are requesting the truth from you? Eye contact is a dead give away. When it comes to whether or not a woman is interested in you, look for eye contact. If you are sitting across the room from a woman, and she makes eye contact with you, and then looks away more than two or three times, she is interested. If it only happens once, then she was just scanning the room. If when you approach her to talk to her, she maintains steady eye contact, she is definitely interested. If she starts breaking her eye contact, and starts looking off in other directions, cut your losses and move on.

One sure fire way to know that woman is interested in you, is if she is playing with her hair. It's unconscious primitive thing, we all do when we see something we like. In the wild, many types of animals start preening when they want the attention of a potential mate. Women do it too. Watch for the slow hair flip. She is trying to draw your attention to her face. If she flips her hair quickly, however, that is a definite sign of irritation. If she slowly moves her hair behind one of her ears, exposing it she is unknowingly trying to draw your attention to one of the body's most erogenous zones, and that is a very positive sign.

You should also keep an eye on what she does with her arms and her hands. The hands are another big give away. Touching something or someone automatically forms a connection. If she subtly touches your arm or hand, she is attracted to you. If she was not, her hands would not come anywhere near you. If her arms are relaxed, and at her sides or resting on the table, she does not feel like you are a threat. If, however, she crosses her arms across her chest, you have screwed the pooch, and you should probably leave.

All of us as human beings are constantly giving each other nonverbal signals. If you pay attention to what someone's body is doing, you can determine their feelings about you, and won't have to wonder about it later. Now that you know what to look for if a woman is interested and when she is not, go and see if you can observe it in person. You will find that it is so obvious, it is almost comical. You will have to ability to know right away whether or not a woman is interested in you, and you will not have to waste your time picking up a lady who is not giving you the green light.

If you want to become an alpha male, then there are certain tips and tricks you need to know. Beautiful women are attracted to this kind of man because of the confidence he exudes. So if you want to improve your love life or you just want to know what to do so you don't come across as a desperate loser when you're out meeting women, then follow the tips below.

1. Have A High Social Value

Women are attracted to men who have a high social value. Having a high social value basically means the opposite of being a loser. A guy with a high social value will have many friends and plenty of things going on in his life. He won't be hanging around a woman who plainly doesn't want to be near him because he's got nothing else to do.

Beautiful women also have a high social value. They are admired from near and afar and are used to people wanting to be with them. A person with a high social value wants to be around the same kind of people. So if you suspect your low social value is one of the reasons why your love life needs help, start getting out there and making new friends and even take up a new hobby or sport. When you have a high social value, onlookers instinctively know it.

2. Become An Expert Flirt

If you want to become an alpha male, then you need to become an expert flirt. Women love flirting; it's one of the ways they communicate with men.

Don't be scared to enter her personal space while you're making conversation, but don't get so close that you're totally in her face and freaking her out. Be close enough so you can touch her hand easily. You may want to start off by admiring her jewelery and gently touching it, before progressing to flirty touches on her arm or hand. You may find that she wants to touch you back!

3. Let Her Be The Seductress

We all know that guys love to seduce women, but if you want to become an alpha male, then let her be the seductress. Women love it when they get to take the lead in the bedroom. One reason is that they may be tired of guys pressing them for sex all the time.

That doesn't mean you can't kiss or hold her. But after every kiss, draw back. Let her initiate the next kiss or hug. If you're out on a date, hold her hand, then take your hand away. Let her reach for your hand next.

If you let her set the pace, she'll probably be ready to rip your clothes off at the end of the night!

If you have the desire to become an alpha male, then get ready to have incredible success with women. You'll need to practice the above skills, but once you've mastered them, you'll be amazed by your improved love life.

If you have problems attracting women (let alone beautiful women), then your body language (or lack of it) may be to blame. For instance, did you know that approximately 90% of our interactions with others is based on non-verbal communication? So if you're not using attractive body language in your dealings with women, then you're way behind the rest of the guys who are.

So what can you do about it?

First, you need to get rid of any gestures that scream, "I'm insecure!" Stand up straight instead of slumping, stop fidgeting and stop looking like you don't know what you're doing there.

Guys who seem to attract beautiful women effortlessly don't show any insecure gestures. So if you want to be like them, start acting and feeling confident when you're out and about. You may be surprised at what happens next!

Don't Apologize For Your Existence

The second thing you need to do in order to use attractive body language is not to apologize for your existence. You see, insecure guys try to take up as little space as possible, while confident guys take up all the space they need and then some. Confident guys look comfortable wherever they are, and don't try to get out of people's way because they think they're taking up too much room.

Confident guys also have slower movements. They seem decisive and look as if they can handle any situation. Take a look at movie or TV stars and watch how they move and interact with others.

Women love confident guys. Women also like to feel safe and secure when they're with a guy. Do you think they'd rather be with an insecure guy who apologizes for taking up space or with a confident guy who seems as if he can handle any situation? Who do you think will make her feel safer?

Up Close And Personal

Another tip for using attractive body language is to get up close and personal with her. Enter her space, but don't get so close to her that she feels uncomfortable. You want to be close enough to be able to reach out a hand to lightly touch her on her shoulder without intimidating her.

Once you've been talking for a few minutes, you can start off by lightly touching her bag or a piece of jewelery she's wearing. Then you can graduate to touching her shoulder, arm, or back of her hand. All the while, make sure you're still talking or joking with her. Try to be as flirtatious as possible.

If you want to use attractive body language to snag beautiful women, then make sure you follow the three tips above. If you have the dedication and desire to let your body language do the talking for you, then you have a great chance of going home with a gorgeous babe on your arm. All it takes is a bit of practice and persistence before you, too, will be seen as a cool, confident guy!

If you've been dating a guy exclusively for a couple of months but you've never heard him address you as his girlfriend it simply means that he is enjoying whatever you have right now. He probably wants the relationship where it is exactly at the moment and he will not take it to the next level unless he is stirred to. It doesn't seem fair, does it? You think about him 24/7, you have this unbelievable connection and you are dying to tell the world that he is your man and yet you don't know where you stand in his life. Don't give up just yet because there are ways on how to get him to ask you to be his girlfriend without him thinking that you are needy and desperate.

If you must bring it up, do it once and that's it. Most guys have the tendency to back out a little bit when all the fun and thrills start to wear off. They try to avoid drama in as much as they can so if you keep badgering him about this issue, he is going to walk away and this is especially true if the guy is not sure about his feelings yet. Don't bring it up more than when you have to because you are going to ruin every joy you share in the relationship. Then your relationship suddenly becomes a big battle of wills and then it becomes less likely for a guy to commit. A guy wouldn't want to stay if it doesn't feel good anymore because he is going to think that he is bound to face all these drama in the coming weeks or months of the relationship. He is probably thinking that it's only going to get worse. If you brought it up and he refuses to talk about it, it either means that he wants to stay right where you are in the relationship or he doesn't see himself sticking around longer. If you are not satisfied with his answer then it's up to you if you still want to stay or move on.

The most important thing you can do is to realize your self-worth. Don't turn into one of those clingy, insecure women that are too desperate to call someone their boyfriend. Men love women who know what they are made of. Confidence is sexy. If you show a guy that you are the type of woman who goes after what she wants and you would not settle for anything less than what you deserve, he is going to fall in love with you even more. Of course you can't just switch to this kind of thinking. It will take time but once you drive to that road, there is no stopping you. Focus more on being interesting and fun so the guy would want more of you. Enjoy whatever you have with the guy now. The more you stress out about it the less fun it becomes for the two of you. Your world does not need to revolve around one guy. Go out with your girl friends and start new hobbies that do not include him. Don't give him more than what he is giving in the relationship.

When it comes to how to get him to ask you to be his girlfriend, it's also critical that you establish friendship and subtle romance. Show him that you see him more than a friend. Use understated flirting so he'll get your message. Touch him and lean in close to him when you are sitting together on the couch or at the movie. Give him a shoulder massage when you notice he's tired. All these tiny acts of flirting will assure your place out of the "friend zone".

You've been seeing a guy for weeks now, you text each other constantly and you share good laughs together but the only problem is you don't know if he is really into you. The beginning stages of the relationship is a little knotty especially if the guy you are seeing is not a big talker. You continue with the guess work and you patiently wait until he blurts out that he likes you and he wants you two to be exclusive. There are various ways on how to get him to admit he likes you but everything will depend on the kind of guy you are dating. Some men don't mind it when the woman makes the first move but others see this as a major turn-off. You have to gauge your feelings about someone before you actually take the plunge and take whatever steps necessary to get what you want.

If everything is going well at the moment, you don't have to ruin it by bombarding the guy with some fatal questions. This will not only terrify him but it will make him feel uncomfortable. Use humor and tease him a little bit, be playful. You can definitely ask questions but make sure you do it in a flirty way. Make some jokes that are appropriate for the conversation you two are having.

How do you know if a guy likes you? It's actually pretty simple- he communicates with you everyday, he goes the extra mile just to see you or make you happy, he is interested in your hobbies, he can't take his eyes off of you and he is going to mark his territory. Guys are competitive by nature and if the guy you are seeing likes you a lot, he will let you know that he doesn't want you seeing other guys anymore. If you want him to admit he likes you, don't flirt with other guys and reassure him that you only have your eyes on him.

If being patient is not an option, one very important thing you can do when it comes to how to get him to admit he likes you is to take the lead. How? By showing him you like him. Some guys are too shy to tell you about what they feel because they are scared of rejection. If it's really obvious that he likes you and is crazy about you (he tells you all the time how beautiful you are, he texts you that he misses you, etc.), sometimes all it takes is for you to put matters into your own hands.

If you want a guy to know that you are into him, you can use flirting to get the message across. Don't overdo it because you might end up turning him off and worst he may not see the real "you". Use flirting for what it is- make him realize that you are fun, interesting, funny, approachable and exciting. Show him what kind of potential girlfriend you will be. Touch him once in a while and hug him occasionally. A guy has to be really oblivious for him not to notice that you like him too. Just be patient, if he feels the same way for you, things will somehow work out on their own.

If the guy still doesn't get it, you can come right out and tell him in his face that you like him. I know this sounds intimidating and scary but in life, it's all about taking chances, right? Sure it will put him off guard and he will either tell you he has feelings for you too or he will run as fast as he can. If the latter is the result of your decision to tell him, don't feel bad because it is better knowing than keep waiting for something that will never happen. At least then, you can move on and stop wasting your time.

Are you looking for love? Do you want someone to find you attractive, to like your personality, to enjoy talking with you, to have a good time doing activities with you and to miss you when you are not there? Do you want someone to love you and care about you, nurture you, take care of you and devote their life to pleasing you?

Don't we all want that? Who wouldn't want someone else to think you are beautiful or handsome, to love your personality, to enjoy your conversations, to enjoy spending time with you and to long to be with you? But there is an important piece missing when we expect this to come from outside of our own self.

That piece is confidence, self-esteem, self-regard, self-acknowledgment and self-love. Put this piece into your life and you will not have to worry ever again about finding love. People will want to be with you. People will want to discover what you have that they are missing. People will naturally be drawn to you and like you and want to spend time with you.

Focus on your own self. Give to yourself whatever it is you would love to receive from someone else. Just doing that will take the burden off your most intimate partners. If they cannot provide you with the affection, kind words, understanding and love that you crave, the more you demand it and expect it from them, the less you will receive. The more you want to receive it from that other person, the more you will feel deprived and needy and inadequate.

Take your attention off the other person. Bring your awareness back to yourself, your thoughts, your emotions, your desires, your beliefs. Discover what is underneath your emotion when you feel upset because someone else is not providing for you in the way you think you need in this moment. Pay attention to your own personal responses all the time.

The more you are able to step back, self-reflect, and give your partner room to express his or her self, the more love you allow to blossom and grow between you. It is often not easy because love brings up anything unlike itself for the purpose of healing and release. So your beloved partner may act cold, angry, unloving, indifferent and you may become resentful, hurting and even depressed. Stop, self-reflect, examine your feelings and what is underneath your feelings, and what is underneath that. Then, when you have explored your own internal life more clearly, offer yourself all the love you wish this other person would provide for you.

Then, coming from a state of abundant and overflowing love, discover what your partner wants and needs in the moment. As you provide love from an overflowing state, you can express, gently, calmly and without expectation, the way you would like to feel with this person. Becoming the love you are looking for if a long term process of letting go, letting be, and allowing love to unfold.

In order to have a good relationship you need to be good to yourself. You have to think about the things that you need and want in order to make someone else happy.

Think about the pampering that you like to have and what you need to have on a regular basis. You will want to continue these things throughout your relationship. You may want to think about what is important to you and what you have to have in order to have a healthy lifestyle.

If there are certain things that you like to do, you should continue to do them. After all you want to be happy and the best thing that you can do to make this happen is to keep doing the same things. When you are used to certain rituals for pampering and taking care of yourself, you want to do them so that you can feel good.

Feeling good is the key to having a happy and healthy relationship for a long time. Keeping your relationship strong is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself. You want to think of different things that you can do to make this happen. Once you have achieved your goals and came to a conclusion, you will be able to make your life better in your relationship and on your own.

1) How to keep happy

Your happiness is a great goal for you to achieve. You have to find happiness in your life so that you are able to stay fulfilled. When you are ready to take on a relationship, you have to make sure that you have taken care of yourself first so that you can make this happen.

There is nothing more important than keeping your own happiness above others. No one else is going to do this for you so you have to be in control.

2) Do what you like

When you are in a relationship, you need to stay positive. You have to be in control of the things that are happening around you. When you have control over them, you will see that you will have a happier and healthier relationship that will benefit the both of you. There is no point in being unhappy and negative about things that are going on in your life. When you are open to making positive goals, you will see a better response from those around you as well.

3) Take time out for your mind

Clearing your mind is very important to staying focused. When you are feeling like you are losing control, you need to set some time away for yourself so that you can get relaxed. You need to stay calm and keep your mind free from clutter. This will help you think well and keep your goals in sight for your relationship. You will have a better outcome with your love life as well as keeping in good spirits and having happy feelings.

4) Staying fit and healthy

Using a good form of exercise is something that will do a lot of good for your relationship as well. When you are physically staying fit, you are giving yourself a better outlook on life. You will be happier and able to express how you are feeling easier. You will not have to be self-conscious and working out is a way to release chemicals that make you feel bad about yourself.

This will in return help your relationship and keep you on the right path to success with your partner or even your friends.

Being good to yourself is one way to make sure that you are doing what you can to make your relationship better and to let you both stay happy. Being sure of the things that you want in life is going to be another way to stay focused and on track.

When you are using good judgments doing what is best for you, any relationship that you are in will be better and keep getting stronger as you move on. Do not be afraid to go for it. Taking chances and doing what makes you happy will give you a greater feeling inside. You will have a better chance at improving your own life skills as well as showing others how they can be happier too.

If you are single and wishing you were in a relationship, there may be things you are doing that are hampering your progress. Not everyone desires sharing their sock drawer or entertaining someone else's opinion on where to dine. But the vast majority of Homo Sapiens feel happier when sharing their day-to-day's with another human being. What may be holding you back is your mind-set. Here is our dating advice that may change your success rate when it comes to finding your ideal mate.

If you're telling yourself that you can't function without a man in your life, or that you seriously can't survive one more weekend without a date, there is a very good chance that you are giving off that vibe in very subtle and perhaps not so subtle ways. 93% of all communication is non-verbal! Did you catch that? 93% of what we convey to others comes from body language, facial expressions, the tension in your body, the way you hold your arms, the tone of your voice, eye movement, licking your lips repeatedly, swallowing over and over, nervous mannerisms like sniffing, clicking a pen or tapping your foot. That leaves only 7% that is verbal! Pretty mind-blowing. We spend so much time thinking of what to say while our body is giving us away.

Our dating advice is to start by getting rid of the negative self-talk that has been your constant companion instead of a caring, significant other. You know the voice I mean... "Are you serious? You're really going to wear that? You look like a beached Walrus!" "You had to get Dad's nose instead of Mom's, didn't you? No amount of make-up is gonna' trim that honker down!" "Why would he want to go out with you? The last three guys almost didn't stop to let you off at the curb."

We are much harder, crueler and WRONG about ourselves than any enemy could be. And when you enter the dating game, or try to work on a current relationship with that kind of mental harassment, you will come off as damaged, desperate and derailed. Those three D's add up to one thing: That guy you have in your crosshairs is going to bolt like a stalked deer. The only thing you are going to see in your binoculars is his backside as it disappears into the foliage.

These feelings of "having to be in a relationship or I will die" are based on one thing: Fear. Fear of being alone, fear of what others think of you (I'm 38 and not married... I am a total LOSER!", fear that you aren't good enough, fear that because the last relationship didn't work out, this one is also doomed to failure... fear, fear, fear! Any guy giving out dating advice will tell you that they can spot a desperate female at 50 paces.

As soon as you realize you are just fine without a relationship, and you enjoy your life and embrace each day for its abundance, that's about when the partner you've been hoping for will arrive. Lose the desperation and the "I HAVE TO be in a relationship" mentality. Many people in unhappy marriages would envy you your freedom. It's all a matter of perspective. The minute you realize you are great on your own, that's when others take notice and want to be part of that super life you have going on. Work on appreciating each day for all the blessings in your life and the Universe will dump more of that in your lap. It just may be the partner you've been dreaming of.

Go through any check-out aisle in a grocery or department store and you will see dozens of gorgeous women smiling back at you from the covers of fashion, beauty and gossip magazines. They have perfect teeth, porcelain skin, and the latest make-up tricks and trends playing up their already flawless features. Their hair is blow-dryed, hair-sprayed nirvana. They are wearing the latest designer clothes and they are... NOT what most men consider beautiful. Curious? Read on...

The female demographic spends billions each year on products and clothing that quite frankly are a shrug factor to men. Magazines and beauty franchises spend even more selling us on the latest trends in eye make-up, lipstick, foundation, hair products and skin care regimes. We see the ad and the happy pretty model with the perfect features and glowing skin and we want to be her. The problem is, most of us are "enhancing" ourselves to please men, not women, and unfortunately, we are playing to the wrong audience. Our female friends admire our new hair style, eye shadow or designer clothes. But for most men, they could care less if you are wearing Vera Wang, and most are happier with a woman who wears less make-up. So, with that confusing dichotomy in mind, what is it that men find beautiful in a woman?

"Most men like a woman who exudes femininity and a fresh, sparkling look," I was told by 85% of the 2,000 men I surveyed. "Remember Farrah Fawcett from Charlie's Angels? She didn't wear tons of make-up and her hair bounced and looked natural without stiff hair spray.

Her sex appeal was the perfect white teeth, flowing mane and little girl femininity," said J. Banks from San Diego, California.

Mr. Banks was not alone with his assessment of what makes a woman beautiful. Most of the men I surveyed said that women today wear too much make-up, too much hair product and obsess about their wardrobe. Men tend to favor the girl next door look with clean, fresh skin, minimal make-up and soft hair they can run their fingers through. Beautiful smiles were listed in the top 3 things that make a woman lovely. Someone who smiled and laughed often was listed as beautiful. When shown photos of models done up in cosmetic perfection, the men chose the women who were smiling every time.

"A smile says "I love my life", and it makes a woman more approachable," 98% of the men told me. They also said that when it comes to make-up, less is more. Globs of lip gloss and bright red lipstick tended to be a turn-off. They stated that kissing someone with all that on their lips was like kissing a blob of grease. Plus, they were tired of it staining their shirts when they hugged a girl.

Eye make-up was listed as "nice", but again, toned down was preferable. Men could care less if you are wearing the latest "smoky eye" or the "cat eye" trend. Their only desire was to look into sparkling eyes that were looking back at them with interest and approval.

"Tell you what," said Mark from Texas. "Know what makes a woman beautiful? Confidence! Not conceit, just that eye contact, smile and posture that says, "I like who I am... I have a full life."" Guys want in on that. A happy woman equates to low maintenance and excitement.

Clothes were brought up over and again as something most guys really don't notice in the terms of designer labels. Most men love a woman to look a little tom-boyish at times with a ball cap, white t-shirt and shorts. Form-fitting clothes that were not to the point of street walker were, of course favored. Feminine colors and styles beat out tailored, office-style looks. The Grunge look left men cold, as did piercings and most tattoos.

So ladies, it would seem men just want a woman who looks healthy, fresh and sparkles with happiness. To them beauty IS more than skin deep. It is reflected in a woman's confidence, her joy with life and her comfort with her own femininity. Save the magazine model look-a-like for special evening occasions when you want to make a dramatic statement. Most of all... be yourself. THAT'S beautiful!

Are you the kind of woman who finds herself waking up one day to realize that she is completely out of control in her relationship? Does your boyfriend, husband or significant other make every single decision every single day? Are you sick and tired of eating Chinese food when he wants to eat it, seeing an action movie when he wants to see it, or staying home for the night because he doesn't feel like going out? Well, there's one thing you absolutely have to realize before you can rectify this situation: it's probably your fault.

You see, in the beginning stages of relationships, precedents are set. A lot of women are so desperate to have a man like them that the stifle their own wants and needs, their own opinions and ideas, because they think being agreeable will make a man like them more. Well, whether or not it had any bearing on him liking you more or less in the early stages of your relationship, it set a precedent for your current relationship: that he would be calling all the shots.

Now, recognizing that you are (or were) a part of the problem is only the first step. This issue CAN be addressed, and it should be. You are perfectly capable of making your own decisions and arguing your own preferences when necessary. Start with baby steps: if he chooses a restaurant you don't like, suggest somewhere else. Chances are he won't even notice that you're being assertive and will just agree with you -- after all, you haven't challenged him before so he may just assume that you prefer it when he dictates all of your daily activities.

If he is resistant, then it's time to sit him down for a little talk. Explain to him that you need to have some control in your relationship and that you feel like he is always making your decisions for you. If he cares about you, he will understand and will try to make an effort to include you in the decision-making process. Keep in mind that you have been in a pattern for some time now, though, so it may take a little while for him to get used to asking for your opinion on things when he used to have permission to just make choices on his own. If he doesn't respond to your talk, it's time to move on and start fresh.

Wouldn't you love to have the stereotypical Cinderella story? Would you love to go from rags to riches? Have you always dreamed about marrying a wealthy man who would be your knight and shining armor? Many girls who know me, whether through real life, or through my online blog, have asked me many questions about my relationship with my older wealthy man. The biggest question I receive on a daily basis is how I managed to meet him and then keep a long lasting, loving, and committed relationship with him for years. Well, here I am today, sharing my best kept seven secrets for dating a wealthy man with all of you. These tips worked for me, and I am sure that they will work for all of you.

1) Love Yourself

The saying is actually true. You must love yourself before anyone else can truly love you. Trust me, and this is from my own personal experience; it is never okay to find your self-worth and self -satisfaction from any man, including a wealthy man.

2) Be Confident

Wealthy men are no different from any other men that you have dated. The majority of men are attracted to women who are confident in themselves. Being confident in all facets of your life, including your personality, education, career, appearance, and abilities will draw the attention of wealthy men.

3) Be Independent. Or At Least Attempt To Be.

Although you're probably seeking a wealthy man in order to find yourself in a life of luxury overnight, it is always a good idea to fulfill and achieve your own educational/career milestones in the meantime. I really think that this is a key point in finding a successful and wealthy man. Wealthy men are often weary of women who they date and begin relationships with. Many wealthy men believe that the majority of the women that they date are only with them because of their wealth and are purely looking for financial gain. Being independent at the beginning stages of your relationship will show your wealthy man that you are capable of providing for yourself and that you are with them for more important reasons rather than just their money (which should be the truth!).

4) Get involved in different charitable organizations within your area. Wealthy men, especially those who have close roots and deep connections within their community will more than be likely be somewhat active in charitable organizations. This tip will help you not only make a difference, but make connections as well. Trust me, I have many girlfriends for who this method has worked extremely well for.

5) Attend functions and other events where well noted and recognized people will be. Don't be afraid to mingle and definitely do not be shy. This is the perfect time for you to use your charitable connections to gain access to events that your perspective wealthy man will be in attendance of.

6) Dress for success. Okay, okay, I know it is a cliché but it is true! Let your confidence come through in everything that you do; especially in the way that you dress. Appearance is not everything, however, looking well manicured and put together will surely help you in your journey to find a wealthy husband.

7) Put your best smile on and enjoy dating! Make sure that you have fun! With patience, you are certain to find the wealthy man of your dreams!

Do you ever wonder what it's like for those women who can get anything they want from men? Do you long to be the kind of woman that a man would fall all over himself to please? Imagine walking into a room and catching every guy's gaze -- and then taking your pick of the available bachelors. Believe it or not, this is actually possible! There are certain attraction secrets that will virtually turn your dating game on its head. Read on to discover what you've been missing out on.

First of all, the number one rule women need to follow is to have confidence and respect in yourself. Don't let him take advantage of you and don't ever compromise your own desires or opinions for his. While you may feel like you are being more agreeable by conforming to his preferences and needs, you are actually setting a precedent for any future relationship that you will come second to him.

How will this make him more impressed with you or attracted to you? It's simple: men love a confident woman who can take care of herself. When he knows that he won't have to make every decision or be embarrassed to introduce you to his family and friends, he will realize that you are a real catch worthy of keeping around.

Secondly, you need to make sure that you lead your own life and that you don't just stand around waiting for a man to come along and marry you up. Very few guys out there actually want a wife who has no social life or interests and lives to serve him. How boring does that sound? Get out there and live your life the way you want to, and it is more likely to bring men into your life. If you're spending time doing things you love, it makes it that much easier to meet a man who might share the same interests. Don't sell yourself or your personality short -- if you don't have one, he won't want to be with you.

Last, you have to be in control of your emotions. This one can be tricky sometimes, as we women tend to be emotional creatures. It's imperative that you think situations through logically, though, and don't make rash decisions based on what your heart is telling you. In the end, a woman who is capable of rationalizing is far more attractive than one who acts on instinct.

Have you always wondered why do kids resist their parents even though they have their interests at heart? This happens to me when I am young. I find that I am attracted towards my friends and buddies in schools than towards my mentors, teachers or even my parents.

I never really explored the reasons why, until recently, and this important realization can be applied to any kinds of human relationships. Years of being in a relationship with my partner has made me realized that more often than not, my reality is not HIS reality (the same goes to men). Conflicts, arguments, quarrrels, misunderstanding and disagreements often come about if neither party in a couple relationship understand this. Now, what can we do to understand, or even, to get into his/her reality?

Everyone of us, whether you are a man or woman, need to feel genuinely needed and understood. I find that I can create a better relationship with my mate just by creating a sense that he (she) is being understood, by echoing his thoughts back to him! Yes, you may disagree with your partner's beliefs and thoughts; but always remember this. His/Her reality is NOT your reality at times, many times! When my partner learn I think just like he does he feel validated and soon attraction and connection begin to develop.

Kids are very often attracted to particular groups of friends; and these are not just any kinds of friends. These are friends who truly understand them and accept them for who they are. They satisfied their most precious need, the need to feel validated and needed. If you realize your kids, or even your partner, has changed or transformed drastically in his lifestyle or even his character, loves to hang out with some particular groups of people, or even suddenly abandoning a particular way of life for another, the reason is often nothing more than the person finally able to find someone who will notice him (her) and accept him for who he is.

This need is what made us feel normal, and human.

If you have problems making a connection with your partner, or even reading his/her mind, understand that you don't have to be a psychic for doing so. The secret is to learn the art of paying highly focused attention to the other person. This is the secret shared by many writers or speakers who often have to speak on stage to large groups of audience. They are able to create the sense that their audience is understood by echoing their thoughts back to them!

I once attended a seminar where the speaker shared with us his secret of success on stage and how he had been able to capture the attention of so many people quickly and certainly. He said, "Ask them what they want you to tell them; and tell them what they have told you!"

If you cannot get "into" their reality (and get this, it is not necessary to do so even though being able to do so is definitely an advantage to you), realize that nothing is more compelling to a person than having someone totally focused on and intently listening to them.

We can't resist the people who are really "into" us! We can't help it. What most of us want is to feel needed and validated! Would you like to know the secret to makeing yourself resistible to your lover, your partner, or even to your friends, in all your personal relationships? Here is your tip for the day. People need to feel genuinely needed and understood.