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Danmaliky:
Alhmdulillah. Thank U for d wonderful contributions. The task of Jumu'at Gusl (ritual bath), barbing ones hair, Cuttting off ones nails, nd paying visit to friends nd relatives is also recommendable!

Thanks for the input, may Allah reward you too.

aliyuussy:
Jazaakallahu Khair, may almighty Allah reward us with the blessing of the Juma'ah. Ameen.

Aamin!

ladys1:
May Almighty Allah increase you in knowledge. Jazakallah khair.

Aamin! May Allah increase us all in knowledge.

Occurstaem:
I'm not a female so make i park well ooo.
But seriously it should be also be applicable to male too. Because some of us still arrive late to the mosque.
JazakAllahu khaeir.

Though the article is addressed to the female folks but I believe everyone should be able to benefit from it. Waiyyakum

AishyWemsy:
May Allah bless u for the thread. Jumat Mufeedah

Aamin, you too. Especially the Author, may Allah increase her in knowledge.

maclatunji:
It's difficult for people to stick to this or any other schedule although the intention is noble.

It's a once in a week routine... Planning one's Friday (special day) around time doesn't have to be that complicated.

Reading this write-up alone is barakah So Many of us are unaware that those act done with little conscious in our every day life is a source of barakah, this article is a real Eye-opener.

@Op, BarakAllahu feek...

Masha'Allah! I have a challenge though, I don't usually catch up with time on Friday khutbah, I'm 'always' minutes late, after the Imam must've started the sermon.

May Almighty Allah make it easy for us. Interesting piece!

maclatunji:
This thread got me laughing out loud.

May I know why?

1. Dump the bags, be bag-lite
Quite often, I have seen sisters take their shopping bags with them to Jumu’ah and it takes up lots of space that could otherwise be used for prayer. Try your best to go to the masjid ‘bag-lite’. When I go to the mosque, I try to take a small bag with only a few essentials. I also keep my shoes in a carrier bag, which makes it quick and easy for me to slip out after Jumu’ah instead of trying to find my shoes in that rush after prayer and avoid losing time especially when I have to go back to the office on a Friday afternoon.

2. Get the kids ready
We love to bring our children to the masjid to pray on Fridays to show them great examples of community and sisterhood, and expose them to good environments. However, children, especially when they begin to understand right from wrong, should be taught about the special ‘etiquettes’ they need to have in the mosque. Of course, children can inevitably cause disturbance, so teaching them masjid etiquette early will lead to a peaceful Jumu’ah for you and for others. They should even be treated with a gift for their good behaviour, so it instills a sense of excitement for the upcoming Jumu’ah. Additionally, as much as you are encouraged to bring the kids to the mosque, plan your trip beforehand or if suitable, gain the reward of praying at home, especially if your local masjid does not have the facility of a ‘women with children’ section.

Remember, sisters have the luxury of Jumu’ah not being an obligation for them as it was narrated that the Prophet Muhammad said:

“The Friday prayer in congregation is a necessary duty for every Muslim, with four exceptions; a slave, a woman, a boy, and a sick person.” [Al-Albani].

3. Fit in Surat Al-Kahf
There are many virtues and lessons to be gained from Surat Al-Kahf.

The Prophet Muhammad said:

“Whoever reads Surah al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah, will have a light that will shine from him from one Friday to the next.” [Al-Haakim].

Mums and working sisters may find it easier to ensure they recite the Qur’an in the early morning before the kids are up, or the manic work to-dos during the day pile up. Use this time to also reflect on your week and use it to spiritually boost you through to the next Friday. For sisters who are menstruating, you can still benefit from the next two tips.

4. Use the last hour for dua
That last hour before Maghrib on a Friday is very important as it is known as a time when duas are accepted (sa’at istijabah).

The Messenger of Allah said: “Friday is twelve hours in which there is no Muslim slave who asks Allah for something but He will give it to him, so seek it in the last hour after ‘Asr.” [Sunan an-Nasa’i].

So, plan your most desired duas and get away from the desk or kitchen for 10-15 minutes to ask Allah for all your needs during this precious time.

5. Have a special family Friday night
Finally, the end of the week is an opportunity for all the family to come together and catch up, especially as the week may go by with everyone being busy. After Maghrib salah is a good chance to reflect on the messages heard by your family members during the khutbah; it may even be that various members of your family went to different mosques and heard different messages, so this is a great chance to share these important gems with each other.

So these are the top tips to incorporate into your Friday routine, making it a blessed and productive day insha Allah.

http://productivemuslim.com/jumuah-routine-for-women/?utm_source=getresponse&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=ProductiveMuslim+NewsLetter&utm_content=%5B%5Brssitem_title%5D%5D#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=jumuah-routine-for-women

Friday Routine
At dawn – Wake up for Fajr

06:30 – Recite Surat al-Kahf (at least first and last ten verses if you’re pressed for time)

07:30 – Shower and eat breakfast

08:30 – Get kids off to school or get ready for work

09:00 – Leave or arrive for work or complete household duties/tasks on to-do list

10:00 – Pray two rak’ah Salatul Duha and go back to work or other duties

12:30 – Put on your nice Friday outfit

At Dhuhr time – Head to masjid (avoid using a pram if mosque has little space) or prepare a quiet space at home

13:00 – 14:00 – Jumu’ah at mosque or Dhuhur at home in a quiet room

14:00 – 15:00 – Lunch with family or with the local sisters; or head back to work; or school run

Last hour before Maghrib – Make du’a during the hour of assured acceptance or sa’at istijabah (fit in Surat al-Kahf if you haven’t read it yet)

After Maghrib salah – Family time for reflection on Friday sermon

Of course, with hectic work schedules, kids and never-ending household chores, the day is not always this smooth. Here are my tips to make your Jumu’ah blessed and enjoyable:

You guyz sound scared

I'm not the least bothered about such news ! Scientists has predicted worse and yet nothing happened.

Dr Judit Györgyey-Ries claims the asteroid is the size of the Statue of Liberty and will hit us in October 2017.

The astronomer, from the University of Texas' McDonald Observatory, believes the giant rock will create a huge impact when it collides with the planet.

Scientists estimate Asteroid 2012 TC4 is around 40-metres wide and could cause even more chaos than one which hospitalised more than 1,200 people when it exploded over Russia in February 2013.

Dr Györgyey-Ries said: "We could see an airburst maybe broken windows, depending on where it hits."

The giant rock narrowly missed earth in October 2012 when it passed 94,800km away.
“We could see an airburst maybe broken windows, depending on where it hits”
Dr Judit Györgyey-Ries
Detlef Koschny, head of the near-earth object segment at the European Space Agency, said: "There is a one in a million chance that it could hit us.

"The size was estimated from the brightness, but we don't know the reflectivity. So it could be smaller or larger, we assume from 10 to 40 meters.

"A 40m iron object would go through the atmosphere and make a crater, a 10m rocky object would hardly be noticed," he told astronomy website astrowatch.net.

Shock waves from the 2013 airburst smashed windows, rattled buildings, and injured more than 1,200 people.

The shock-wave was so big damage extended 50 miles on either side of where the rock actually hit.

http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/436467/Asteroid-space-heading-Earth-shattering-astronomy

I don't know whether to rejoice over this news or worry about those fowl-like handwriting I'd be forced to be reading everyday

I hope this your topic won't be removed like they did mine. I opened a science related thread some few days ago, on the said thread people complained why science & technology section was abandoned and topic from this section hardly make front page, few hours later the thread was removed.

It really has gotten to the stage where you just stop complaining and go with the flow. Seun is the BOSS and he sure can do whatever he likes...

Chei, this is so unfair o. They gave me just 500MB

Olarewajub:
#Sobing. Took a public lecture and made serious deliterous irrevocable grammatical blunders, and to think project defence is fast approaching.. Chai na me be this? @Everybody, we need to do something before something do us.

Even at that you are still steps ahead of so many peepz! It takes a courageous, bold and confidence person to pick up a mic and address a hall filled with people. Don't worry too much about the grammatical blunders, there's a probability that people didn't notice the error but you did due to self-consciousness... you'd get better at it in no time.

I wish I had that much courage! Working on mine too.

I sometimes wish dreams are real

buccunmie:
Hmmmmmm, my very own type of person............I remember one of my close friends, each time she calls and I say sorry av not bin checking on you, she'll say no problem I understand. I even thought she will stop calling but shez a sure bet to call or ping at least once in a week.

Life becomes more and more peaceful when you have such kind of people as friends.

Double post

pepeyoyo:
honestly its not easy being an introvert the ppl around u who are impatient conclude you are a snub. for instance i noticed that each time i make conscious effort to initiate conversations i talk too much and almost get myself in trouble. but unfortunately i get bored and need company a times.
question: is it normal to crave company sometimes and want your space mostly?

yes, it is normal to want to be in the company of 'friends' at times but when you are at it, try to always be yourself (even if that means talking till the whole world falls by all means do )you'd be surprised by how much other people 'd always crave to be in your company.

fflamingo:
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Yeah, I had same situation, even till now except the boring aspect. I think if they are to place 10 people on ground; 8 will say am the most boring-est and foolish person in this world, 2 will say am funny, jovial and I take life too easy. Now this is it, those 2 were the people I practically spent most of my days with. And those 8 said am foolish because they expect me to take the bull by its horn in every single decision. So to manage friendship, the best situation is to bone their words. I swear their parent secretly wish they should just be easy-going like you.
As for your BF, if he doesn't understand you within six month, am scared he may not really know where your comfort lies. And he would take you for granted. for instance there was a silly time when I don't know how to woõ a butterfly, so I think she take advantages of my always jovial-simple mood that I don't get angry so she start misbehaving, no control and her basic sense flew to the window. She took me for granted; pushed me to the wall. I did the needful which she never expected. Delete her.
To cut the story short most people that said am the most foolish person, later said am a green snake under the green grass.
in summary manage to treat everybody like a friend and be quick to draw the line, always let people to take up that space you really love but never trade it for your happiness.

Oh I hate long speeches but thank God they've left.
I typed this shít stùpidly during awkward situation so this post might be stupìd

Nope, it ain't stupid, you made lotta sense.

classicB:
Please help me o, my introversion is destroying my friendship with friends. They think I intentionally isolate myself from them. One told me that I love to be alone which is true, bf said am boring.
I dnt easily get angry too and I dnt want people to take me for granted cos of that.
As an introvert how do you manage your friendship with friends and lovers

A true friend that understands and cares about you can hear you even when you're quiet. Make friends with such kind of people and you'd have less to worry about.

I don't keep much friends and the few ones in my life are the true definition of friends, they understand me perfectly. We could go on for months without communicating but when we eventually 'd see, we'd relate like we've never been apart and yet we stay miles apart, distance has never been a barrier in our relationship. Those are the kind of friends I keep!

Mzsunshine:
I'm like a chronic introvert get really shy and uncomfortable wen around new people but I adjust with time I prefer staying indoors in my own private space n recently found out my boyfriend termed me as "boring" that I liked be on my own n I was so comfortable with it, very funny.. I have no social life I honestly don't knw why.. People think I'm a snub or too proud but they just don't knw how much I try to be "normal"

For introverts, nothing beats having your 'alone' time. I went on hiatus because I needed that much 'space' so badly . You can choose to either be proud of who you are or conform to other people's standard.

Aamin to all the wonderful Du'as above, may Allah make our marriages a source of happiness and tranquility and unite us all in Jannah.

gistmelove:
Aliamudulilahi i rep happy muslim couple

Barakallahu feekum.

Bowaley17:
Alhamdulillahi... Thanks for sharing...

Masha'Allah.

Davivah:
jazakillah khairan kemiola

waiyyakum

onegig:
very insightful and really interesting topic. Been long i read an article in full. Lol . Jazakum for sharing it with us. The above quoted lines leaves me open mouthed when looking at marriages nowadays.

Number 1 is what i dread most. Why would i want to get used to bad behaviour? Yeah i guess learning to forgive and tolerate is very essential but there are just somethings you can't tolerate for long and everyone has a breaking limit as regards tolerance and partners should learn to improve and work on their weaknesses and not condemn their partners to a life long of tolerating BS by telling them to get used to it.

That line "this is who i am,deal with it" sounds very disgusting to my ears.

As for the second sentence, we all should learn to be proactive and not reactive. Also we should learn to control our actions and not let other people's actions or inactions decide whether we offer good deeds or not.


The third is the blame again. Avoiding to take responsiblity and just say sorry and the last is just plain wicked. I don't get why we just say words we don't truly mean in it's deepest form just to hurt someone you call your partner.
Nice article kemi.

Those words depicts a 'super-big-ego' especially the third part and could only be uttered by a narcissist who thinks too highly of himself. Like the writer has stated, our ego is self-destructive mechanism... We should learn to manage it so that we don't end destroying what we might 've spent years building.

Waiyyakum! May Allah reward the writer... Though the article seem too long but its worth the read.

maclatunji:
JazakumLlahu Khayra. May Allah grant us happy marriages (Ameen).

Aamin. Wa antum fajazaAallahu khayran.