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Good question! Who would be responsible for the damage?

Maybe its a loss the car owner would have to bear.

^^^ 'Never despise or think bad of a fellow believer, no matter the sin they are doing. Hate the sin and not the person'. The best you can do is to make du'a for them, you can as well talk to them to desist from the act.

^^^^ Solat is a part of FAITH.

No doubt, the article is come off as beautiful and inspiring but... You could've done so well by spacing your work.

Each day comes with a brand new package of surprises/discovery.

Aamin. Masha'Allah!

5) Send each other ahadith

Whenever I read tips for healthy marriages, I often see advice about leaving cute “I love you” notes in his lunchbox or on his desk for him to find. During Ramadan, do this by sending each other text messages or e-mails. For instance, send him ahadith about jannah and tell him you are reminding him of the beauty that awaits you, to motivate you both to work hard in this dunya, so that you both may meet each other in jannah one day:

“Kauthar is a river in Paradise whose banks are of gold and its bed is of rubies and pearls. Its soil is more fragrant than musk, its water is sweeter than honey and whiter than snow.” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

Receiving beautiful ahadith like this during Ramadan will remind you both of the beautiful gifts that you will receive for your sacrifices in this life, In sha Allah.



6) Encourage each other

Encourage each other to read the Qur’an daily, to memorize surahs and duas, and to pray on time during Ramadan. With every soft-spoken word of sincere encouragement comes plentiful reward. And with every word of encouragement exchanged, is a reminder of your love for one another, for only loved ones encourage each other to be the best they can be in this dunya in order to make it to jannah together!



7) Prepare yourself for his return from i’tikaf

If you’re like me, I’m sure you like to get dressed up for those fun Eid celebrations with family. This Ramadan, try and take some time out to glam yourself up a day early, just for your husband, if he has gone for i’tikaf. After 10 days of not seeing you and spending every moment in the worship of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He), your husband will appreciate that you made an effort just for him. Again, with the intention of pleasing Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) through pleasing your husband, this will ensure enormous reward for you, and guarantee a happy husband!



Make dua in secret

Ramadan has countless opportunities for dua to be accepted. So, for truly lasting happiness, make ample dua that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) blesses your marriage and increases the love and understanding between you and your spouse2. Abu Dharr reported that Allah’s Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said:

“There is no believing servant who supplicates for his brother behind his back (in his absence) that the Angels do not say: The same be for you too.” [Sahih Muslim]1

I know life can get busy, especially during Ramadan, but all of your sincere efforts towards keeping your marriage healthy and alive in Ramadan will be rewarded, In sha Allah. Remind yourself constantly of the reward attached to keeping each other happy, and build the foundations for a happier marriage this Ramadan!


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May Allah make this coming Ramadan an easy one for us all and may all our prayers be answered. Wish you all a blessed Ramadan in advance.

1) Make time for your spouse

You may be asking, how do I even find the time for myself during Ramadan, much less find the time to spend with my husband? Quite frankly, life can be a tornado during Ramadan, especially with young children, where everything is flying in a circle of mess right in front of our eyes. However, what often calms this tornado is ample preparation and the thoughts of what really matters: our final destination, jannah. And how do we achieve jannah? One of the ways a woman will enter Paradise is by pleasing her husband, as the Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said:

“Whichever woman dies while her husband is pleased with her, then she enters Paradise.” [At-Tirmidhi]

Taking the above into consideration, it is no wonder that the thought of pleasing your husband refocuses your thoughts on the final destination of jannah. Creating time for your husband is a goal every wife should strive for, especially in the holy month of Ramadan, as rewards are innumerably multiplied. Make multiple intentions when you set out to please your husband: to increase your patience with his shortcomings, to control your anger, to be kinder; so you get multiple rewards for each of these intentions, In sha Allah.



2) Eat suhoor and iftar with your husband

One way in which you can spend time with your spouse is by eating suhoor and iftar with him, for this is a beautiful way to connect with one another during Ramadan. Furthermore, these times provide a great opportunity for each of you to discuss your progress in terms of your Ramadan goals and to remind each other that you are both fasting for the sake of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). If your husband breaks his fast at the masjid, then try and set a time later in the evening for a light meal to compensate. Even if this is not manageable everyday, try and plan it for two or three evenings a week, and you can even get the children involved in these discussions. The aim is to have a stress-free and calm environment in which to connect emotionally and enjoy each other’s company.



3) Have your husband help out

A great way to show someone you care for them is to help them out during their most stressful times; you will know this firsthand if you are a mother with young children! With that said, there are many ways in which husbands can assist their wives during Ramadan, such as loading the dishwasher, watching the children, or helping to prepare suhoor and iftar. Certainly, having a helping hand is very much appreciated and increases the love between a husband and wife because they are doing something together. Before Ramadan begins, have a healthy discussion with him and suggest tasks he can complete before or after work when fasting starts, reminding him of the great reward attached to helping others, especially during Ramadan.



4) Increase your knowledge as a couple

Another effective way for couples to increase their love for one another during Ramadan is to tune into Islamic lectures together about marriage in Islam, the rights of husbands and wives in Islam, and so forth. Listening to Islamic lectures or reading Islamic material from books can be done together any time throughout the day, and is a great way to not only gain knowledge, but to also spend quality time together. YouTube is an invaluable resource for short, imaan-boosting lectures, so you can ensure you have a few minutes together for precious reminders during Ramadan, which you can discuss later, especially during iftar.

Last Ramadan, I looked forward to eating the fruit salad prepared by my husband’s hands for iftar. Even though the fruit pieces were not cut exactly the way I would have cut them myself, they were cut with love – and that’s what made my Ramadan extra special! Sitting together with him, my iftars with my husband were simple: just a date, some water, some fruit salad, and each other’s company. And that’s all we needed.
Although married couples are not permitted to be intimate to the level which may lead to intercourse while fasting, there are many other ways to express your love for one another during Ramadan.

Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says in the ayah:

“It has been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He accepted your repentance and forgave you. So now, have relations with them and seek that which Allah has decreed for you. And eat and drink until the white thread of dawn becomes distinct to you from the black thread [of night]. Then complete the fast until the sunset. And do not have relations with them as long as you are staying for worship in the mosques. These are the limits [set by] Allah, so do not approach them. Thus does Allah make clear His ordinances to the people that they may become righteous.” [Qur’an: Chapter 2, Verse 187]

Therefore, it is important to remember that while sexual activity during the day is strictly prohibited, after Maghrib and until the beginning of Fajr the next morning, resuming sexual relations with your husband is not forbidden. Although you may probably be tired from the long days of fasting and may be getting ready for taraweeh and qiyam-ul-layl during that period, it is worth knowing the boundaries and what is allowed for the month of Ramadan.

In this article, I will be sharing my tips and advice that will allow you to create time for your spouse, help you bond with your husband, and assist in strengthening your iman as a wife during the holy month of Ramadan. Striving for a happy marriage even during the busy days of Ramadan will cement the foundations for a blessed marriage throughout the rest of the year, In sha Allah!

Subhanallahi! This is a very good and clear illustration of how the Qur'an works, I can especially relate with the point #3... Some of the verses of the Qur'an translation are not self explanatory you can't rely solely on the translation but with the help of a more comprehensible tafsir and as well reading the stories of the Qur'an can help further translate for a better understanding.

May Allah make the Qur'an the spring of our hearts, the light of our chest and the remover of our sadness. Aameen. @Op, thanks for sharing.

obinrinrere:
Asalamualaykum
@nene you need to take things easy.I used to think polygamy is the last thing I will want to hear from my husband but as it is now,I don't mind sharing him, especially with a widow.
As for me,Allah is sufficient for me.

You have a heart of gold ma'am. Women like you are rare. May Allah bless your marriage

macof:
you are the only person here who has comprehension problems one of which you already admitted but stil trying to defend yourself rather than take simple correction.

and you boldly listed some yoruba names so please don't lie to yourself. but then whatever culture it is. ..respect the culture, your comment was an offensive accusation

btw must you comment on every thread?

You still ain't making any sense. All I keep seeing is 'accusations' talk repeatedly, is that all you've got?

And to your silly question; yes I can comment on any thread, this is a public forum. If my comment gives you sleepless nights then brace yourself up for more.

macof:
here's your own words trying to downplay the yoruba culture



you obviously don't know a thing about naming culture in Yorubaland
best you don't speak on a topic you don't even understand unless you seek to understand and ask questions rather than make bold accusations like that

You do indeed have a comprehension problem and I am not responsible for that. In fact I made a mistake by replying you.

Even the quote you made didn't state any specific culture as I was talking from a general perspective. My comment was a response to this post

Tycyborg:
am not saying not to change your name but change to a nice one not a beefy name like a sentence used in churches or mosque but something more cultural and nigerian

If you still don't get it after typing it out this clear I guess there's nothing more I can do. Please quit quoting me if you have nothing reasonable to say.

macof:
This is the dumbest shit I've ever heard concerning Yoruba names

what kinda thing would make you think yoruba culture propagate nonsense names?
if you understand yoruba culture you would know that "Ile l'anwo k'a to somo l'oruko"

Who said anything about Yoruba culture propagating nonsense names or are you just making that up? How does me not understanding the cultural names I listed above translate to being 'nonsense' as you claimed? You obviously misunderstood my post.

Ori la a ba bo, a ba forisa sile.

A pictorial evidence would do a much greater job in convincing us.

Hausa! I love the way they twist their tongue when speaking.

Tycyborg:
am not saying not to change your name but change to a nice one not a beefy name like a sentence used in churches or mosque but something more cultural and nigerian

You mean names like
Asake
Abike
Arike
Alabi
Adigun... Seriously, I don't even know what those cultural names stands for but I keep hearing them.

Our people are just being careful about the names they pick for their kids, some of those cultural names have negative connotations which in turns affects our behavior, thats why you see so many people going for a more religious name. Our names indirectly influence the way we act.

Seriously, you don't have to make a big deal out of it. If you ain't comfortable being sired this is what to do, when next someone address you with the term 'sir' return the gesture. That's what I do always.

zinachidi:
i know a girl hu has vowed to marry only a last son in a family....

But seriously, most last born are tagged immatured and spoilt because of the so much attention and care showered on them.

I gat one 'last son' I wouldn't mind dashing out if she's truly serious about it.

That's the difference between being brilliant and being smart.

And to think he's also celebrated all over the continent for (making corruption look attractive) that.

Seriously, how does anyone feel comfortable in that?

I thought this woman would retire after marriage, guess I was wrong. She's indeed a blessing to Nigeria! Continue to soar higher.

Seriously, you all need to stop all these emotion-ladden speeches, we are tired of hearing them. I am too damn sure they wouldn't have accepted responsibility if the Party wasn't defeated in the last election.

Nothing would be more pleasing to the average Nigerian than seeing all these corrupt politician/official go to jail. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time, but in their case, the only 'time' they are allowed to do here is refreshment time, instead of them to seat back and enjoy it they are busy looking for other ways to get back to power. I hope they don't succeed come 2019, Nigerians are wiser now.

Seriously? All I see is a psychologically disturbed lady. She needs help!

I don't think we're ready for that yet...

Seriously?

Masha'Allah.

^^^ you're right.

This article is one sided, should've been addressed to the both gender to bring balance. Nonetheless, it does reflect a pure intent.

Ahmad, Al-Albaani - Saheeh]
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Guarantee six things for me and I will guarantee Paradise for you: tell the truth when you speak, keep your promises, discharge your trusts, preserve your chastity, lower your gaze, and restrain your hands.”

4. Minimize distractions
Let’s face it, we live in a world of distractions. All our emails, texts, social-media notifications can distract us from what truly matters.

Now, I am not suggesting we give up all our gadgets. Not at all. But when we answer all the calls and notifications, in a way, we become slaves to our devices. On the other hand, if we choose to take charge, we decide not to let them distract us. When we put them on silent or airplane mode, we use our phones and all kinds of electronics to their intended maximum potential. As a result, they become great tools to assist us in our daily tasks and can help us maximize our productivity.

There are some great apps that can help us track our time, memorize the Qur’an, or give us a daily hadith to ponder over. These are all great tools. However, we need to learn to use technology to serve us, instead of us becoming servants to it.

5. Plan ahead to simplify your life
Whether it is about preparing your meals or gifts for Eid, planning ahead will save you much needed time.

Spend less time in the kitchen. From samosas to grape leaves, everyone wants to make something yummy for their families, which can be great! However, if you and your family are spending a huge amount of time at the supermarket or in the kitchen preparing a feast every single day, you are really missing out on the true meaning of Ramadan. So, a little simplicity can go a long way.
Make a menu for the entire month. Make sure to keep it healthy and simple. If you know you will have guests on certain nights, you can make those Iftars a little more elaborate if you choose to. Otherwise, think of easy-to-make soups, salads, and plenty of hydrating foods to break your fast.
Cook ahead. It really does not take much for one to feel satisfied. Think of meals that taste great the next day so that way, you can cook enough for two days, hence saving your time and energy.
Prepare by freezing. Many casseroles, pasta dishes, and other meals freeze wonderfully. This can save precious time that should be spent in worship rather than cooking.
The key is to remind yourself of the true meaning of Ramadan every single day to help you prioritize your activities.

As for getting ready for Eid, something that works really well for my family is to get ready before Ramadan. Yes, do all your Eid shopping before the moon is sighted.

Why spend any precious second shopping at the mall or browsing for hours online? Get all the gifts for your loved ones ahead of time, preferably wrapping them and hiding them. Now, if you are buying something really big and hard to hide, then you just have to be creative! Shopping ahead also includes those special Eid clothes. Make sure you get them ahead of time as well. Just make a list of everything and get it done.

Trust me, it is possible to be all ready before the month begins, if you are strategic about it.

6. Dedicate yourself to service
This one is huge! It is all about using your talents, skills, and resources to make a difference in the lives of others, which can be accomplished in many ways.

You can bake some goodies and deliver them to your neighbors with a kind and caring note. Action is the best form of da’wah to show how beautiful Islam is. You can visit the sick and elderly in the hospitals and nursing homes. You can cook some food for your local masjid for people to break their fast with.

The options are so abundant, all you have to do is be willing to make a difference and take action.

7. Make the Qur’an a top priority
I saved the best for the last! Having touched upon the idea of prioritizing our time in step 5, it is very important for us to keep the focus of the month of Ramadan on the Qur’an and remembrance of Allah .

Allah tells us very clearly:

“The month of Ramadan [is that] in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion.” [Qur’an: Chapter 2, Verse 185]

We need to block the time to recite and study the Qur’an. We need to ponder over its meaning. This is the month in which it was revealed. So, we really have to get serious about learning about the greatest miracle of our beautiful religion.
I wish you and your families an amazingly productive and meaningful Ramadan. In sha Allah, these tips will help you prepare to make this Ramadan your most productive one yet.
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Here are 7 simple yet effective steps you can follow to make this year’s Ramadan stand out from all the previous ones, In sha Allah.

1. Make the intention to make this your best Ramadan ever
Most of us are familiar with this hadith:

“The deeds are considered by the intentions, and a person will get the reward according to his intention.” [Bukhari]

However, sometimes it is very easy to overlook this simple yet profound act of making the intention. I mean, with all our heart. I really believe that the first step to having an amazing Ramadan is by taking a sincere decision to do our best in every single way.

This is also true for everything we do in life. We have to first decide and make the intention to do something. Once we make the intention, Allah will help guide our steps, In sha Allah.2

2. Set clear goals
Last year, I was invited to conduct a Ramadan workshop for a mixed-age audience. When I asked what their Ramadan goals were, an energetic young woman raised her hand and remarked: “I want to be more organized this Ramadan.” Even though from the onset that sounds like a great goal, and in essence it is, however, it is not a clear goal.

When you set your Ramadan goals, you want to be as specific as you can get. For instance, instead of putting down on your list “get more organized”, you may want to say things like the following.

Read 5 pages of Qur’an after each Salah.
Prepare 15 freezable dishes to cut down cooking time.
Take a rejuvenating power nap in the afternoon to be alert during taraweeh.
You get the drill, right?

Now pause your reading, grab a large index card or piece of paper, and write down 5 specific goals to make this your best Ramadan ever.

One of my specific goals last year was to read the Qur’an along with its meaning. I do not know about you, but for me, as someone whose native language is not Arabic, knowing what I am reciting enhances my experience of reading the Qur’an cover-to-cover.

Remember to choose goals that you were not able to accomplish last year. So, if you always manage to pray taraweeh every single night with no worries, then do not put that down on your list. Choose new things. Remember, we want to amp it up this year.

3. Block the time to achieve your set goals
Now that you have set your very specific goals, you need to make a daily schedule and make sure to block the time to achieve your goals. Remember, only the things that get scheduled are the things that get done. That is just how it works.

Therefore, simply recording your goals on a flash card or notebook will not enable you to get them done. You need to make the time for any activity in your schedule and actually write it down.

I encourage you to make a schedule of your entire day, with half-hour to one-hour blocks to do whatever you need to do on any given day. It may sound very rigid, but it really is not. On the contrary, scheduling your day will free up your time because when you get things done in a timely fashion, you will have more free time to rest and rejuvenate yourself.