Mzsunshine:
I'm like a chronic introvert get really shy and uncomfortable wen around new people but I adjust with time I prefer staying indoors in my own private space n recently found out my boyfriend termed me as "boring" that I liked be on my own n I was so comfortable with it, very funny.. I have no social life I honestly don't knw why.. People think I'm a snub or too proud but they just don't knw how much I try to be "normal"

For introverts, nothing beats having your 'alone' time. I went on hiatus because I needed that much 'space' so badly . You can choose to either be proud of who you are or conform to other people's standard.

classicB:
Please help me o, my introversion is destroying my friendship with friends. They think I intentionally isolate myself from them. One told me that I love to be alone which is true, bf said am boring.
I dnt easily get angry too and I dnt want people to take me for granted cos of that.
As an introvert how do you manage your friendship with friends and lovers

A true friend that understands and cares about you can hear you even when you're quiet. Make friends with such kind of people and you'd have less to worry about.

I don't keep much friends and the few ones in my life are the true definition of friends, they understand me perfectly. We could go on for months without communicating but when we eventually 'd see, we'd relate like we've never been apart and yet we stay miles apart, distance has never been a barrier in our relationship. Those are the kind of friends I keep!

fflamingo:
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Yeah, I had same situation, even till now except the boring aspect. I think if they are to place 10 people on ground; 8 will say am the most boring-est and foolish person in this world, 2 will say am funny, jovial and I take life too easy. Now this is it, those 2 were the people I practically spent most of my days with. And those 8 said am foolish because they expect me to take the bull by its horn in every single decision. So to manage friendship, the best situation is to bone their words. I swear their parent secretly wish they should just be easy-going like you.
As for your BF, if he doesn't understand you within six month, am scared he may not really know where your comfort lies. And he would take you for granted. for instance there was a silly time when I don't know how to woõ a butterfly, so I think she take advantages of my always jovial-simple mood that I don't get angry so she start misbehaving, no control and her basic sense flew to the window. She took me for granted; pushed me to the wall. I did the needful which she never expected. Delete her.
To cut the story short most people that said am the most foolish person, later said am a green snake under the green grass.
in summary manage to treat everybody like a friend and be quick to draw the line, always let people to take up that space you really love but never trade it for your happiness.

Oh I hate long speeches but thank God they've left.
I typed this shít stùpidly during awkward situation so this post might be stupìd

Nope, it ain't stupid, you made lotta sense.

pepeyoyo:
honestly its not easy being an introvert the ppl around u who are impatient conclude you are a snub. for instance i noticed that each time i make conscious effort to initiate conversations i talk too much and almost get myself in trouble. but unfortunately i get bored and need company a times.
question: is it normal to crave company sometimes and want your space mostly?

yes, it is normal to want to be in the company of 'friends' at times but when you are at it, try to always be yourself (even if that means talking till the whole world falls by all means do )you'd be surprised by how much other people 'd always crave to be in your company.

kemiola89:
A true friend that understands and cares about you can hear you even when you're quiet. Make friends with such kind of people and you'd have less to worry about.

I don't keep much friends and the few ones in my life are the true definition of friends, they understand me perfectly. We could go on for months without communicating but when we eventually 'd see, we'd talk about everything in the world. Those are the kind of friends I keep!

Hmmmmmm, my very own type of person............I remember one of my close friends, each time she calls and I say sorry av not bin checking on you, she'll say no problem I understand. I even thought she will stop calling but shez a sure bet to call or ping at least once in a week.

Double post

buccunmie:

Hmmmmmm, my very own type of person............I remember one of my close friends, each time she calls and I say sorry av not bin checking on you, she'll say no problem I understand. I even thought she will stop calling but shez a sure bet to call or ping at least once in a week.

Life becomes more and more peaceful when you have such kind of people as friends.

have i visited this thread before? olarewajub, yh. i am. But i really don't want to be.

gloriaz:
have i visited this thread before? olarewajub, yh. i am. But i really don't want to be.

Don't want to be? I read your diary and decided to tag you. Anyway, was not aware you've been here. Cheers!

kemiola89:
For introverts, nothing beats having your 'alone' time. I went on hiatus because I needed that much 'space' so badly . You can choose to either be proud of who you are or conform to other people's standard.

I agree with you intoto. There is definitely nothing wrong in being an introvert, you only have a problem when you're Shyly introverted.

No, i don't want to be an introvert. I want to be able to initiate a conversation in life, not just online. I want to be able to talk to a person, and keep.on talking, not just stop talking awkwardly when i have nothing to say. Sometimes, i just cut the phone when i don't have anything to say and let you assume i have network issues. When am travelling, i want to be able to talk to the person beside me, and not just be on my phone all the time. And talking to boys is even a no go area for me. I don't want to be an introvert. I will need people sooner or later...

gloriaz:
No, i don't want to be an introvert. I want to be able to initiate a conversation in life, not just online. I want to be able to talk to a person, and keep.on talking, not just stop talking awkwardly when i have nothing to say. Sometimes, i just cut the phone when i don't have anything to say and let you assume i have network issues. When am travelling, i want to be able to talk to the person beside me, and not just be on my phone all the time. And talking to boys is even a no go area for me. I don't want to be an introvert. I will need people sooner or later...

;Dyou are you my sister. Each time I travel as much as I feel like chatting with the next passenger I realise I just cnt, no matter how I try
Even when I do its just a short convo
Youcant change yourself

kemiola89:
A true friend that understands and cares about you can hear you even when you're quiet. Make friends with such kind of people and you'd have less to worry about.

I don't keep much friends and the few ones in my life are the true definition of friends, they understand me perfectly. We could go on for months without communicating but when we eventually 'd see, we'd relate like we've never been apart and yet we stay miles apart, distance has never been a barrier in our relationship. Those are the kind of friends I keep!

I have friends like yours too. These new ones just dnt wanna understand

#Sobing. Took a public lecture and made serious deliterous irrevocable grammatical blunders, and to think project defence is fast approaching.. Chai na me be this? @Everybody, we need to do something before something do us.

Olarewajub:
#Sobing. Took a public lecture and made serious deliterous irrevocable grammatical blunders, and to think project defence is fast approaching.. Chai na me be this? @Everybody, we need to do something before something do us.

Even at that you are still steps ahead of so many peepz! It takes a courageous, bold and confidence person to pick up a mic and address a hall filled with people. Don't worry too much about the grammatical blunders, there's a probability that people didn't notice the error but you did due to self-consciousness... you'd get better at it in no time.

I wish I had that much courage! Working on mine too.

kemiola89:

Even at that you are still steps ahead of so many peepz! It takes a courageous, bold and confidence person to pick up a mic and address a hall filled with people. Don't worry too much about the grammatical blunders, there's a probability that people didn't notice the error but you did due to self-consciousness... you'd get better at it in no time.

I wish I had that much courage! Working on mine too.

Thanks for the word of encouragement. Its only going to get better.

classicB:

;Dyou are you my sister. Each time I travel as much as I feel like chatting with the next passenger I realise I just cnt, no matter how I try
Even when I do its just a short convo
You cant change yourself

Did you just say it is impossible to initiate a conversation as an introvert?

Hurray! Made my second public appearance (public speaking) and it was okay, at least better than that of Wednesday.

kemiola89:

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Olarewajub:
Hurray! Made my second public appearance (public speaking) and it was okay, at least better than that of Wednesday.

OK, now you make the jealous I haven't even make one public appearance I knew you'd eventually get better at it... I'm taking this as a challenge, time to go face the world

kemiola89:

OK, now you make the jealous I haven't even make one public appearance I knew you'd eventually get better at it... I'm taking this as a challenge, time to go face the world

You better do o. I had to join the ushering department in my church to build my self esteem, now i can stand in the front of the church without any itch. Its a process.

Olarewajub:
You better do o. I had to join the ushering department in my church to build my self esteem, now i can stand in the front of the church without any itch. Its a process.

Will do.

The act of public speaking coming up soon....

No doubt it may be quite difficult living as an introvert in an 'extrovertic' society like ours but I see autistic individuals have the greater challenge and most times we're just categorised as introverts.

classicB:

I have friends like yours too. These new ones just dnt wanna understand

then ignore them if they dnt wanna understand. Its beta u hav few frnds dt wil mak u hapy dn many frnds dt wil mak u angry due to dia ignorance. Up til date i only hav one frnd and its beta dn havin 20 useles ones

gloriaz:
No, i don't want to be an introvert. I want to be able to initiate a conversation in life, not just online. I want to be able to talk to a person, and keep.on talking, not just stop talking awkwardly when i have nothing to say. Sometimes, i just cut the phone when i don't have anything to say and let you assume i have network issues. When am travelling, i want to be able to talk to the person beside me, and not just be on my phone all the time. And talking to boys is even a no go area for me. I don't want to be an introvert. I will need people sooner or later...

Same here!

#SayingNoToShyness.
1. Try to be friendly to those around you and always put on that amazing smile when you exchange pleasantries with others. By the time you are able to interact with individuals effectively, you can then move to addressing a clique before attempting to address a public.
If for example you're to give a speech in your school fellowship meeting, you gotta first of all know your materials very well because you might end up saying only 65% of the things you intend saying and that's the reason you must be overly prepare.
Do you know it is important to practice your speech on the podium you'll be using for your presentation? It does really help.
Happy Sunday... More coming...

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Never knew a thread like this exists really nice to know there are people like me and I'm not weird afterall...was beginning to think being able to stay alone at home for weeks makes me a zombie

Olarewajub:
#Sobing. Took a public lecture and made serious deliterous irrevocable grammatical blunders, and to think project defence is fast approaching.. Chai na me be this? @Everybody, we need to do something before something do us.

Errr...yours was just grammatical blunders made(preferable if you ask me) mine, I totally forgot my lines and was just staring at the crowd like someone who had just experienced electric shock...thank God for my co-host who bailed me out that day

I'm New Here:

I'm really introverted, but I talk much amongst my friends.

I usually find it hard to talk with the girls I meet and most times some of the girlfriends I have dated, I've broken up with me because of that.

eipreel:


Errr...yours was just grammatical blunders made(preferable if you ask me) mine, I totally forgot my lines and was just staring at the crowd like someone who had just experienced electric shock...thank God for my co-host who bailed me out that day

Lol, i can imagine how your heart will be beating. A lecture i later took was okay because i made sure i was prepared. Hope you've improved on your speech delivery mechanism? If yes, you can share with us. Practice makes perfect they say and its true.