9jaflave: I’m Bukola Ayinde, Founder of P4:13 Foundation and author of Diary of a Special Needs Mum.
Getting a diagnosis which says your child has Cerebral Palsy is a parent’s worst nightmare. I had my period of living in denial; wishing the problem would go away, like it was all a dream, but the reality stared me in the face.
My husband and I decided to face the challenge before us squarely.
We engaged different specialists; Neurologist, Paediatrician, Physiotherapist, Speech therapist, Occupational therapist, Special Needs Care Givers. At one point we were scouting for a very good physiotherapist.
A parent of a special needs child recommended a young lady to me. I mentioned her name {Bisola Anthonia Abayomi Ojo} to one of my daughter’s therapist who confirmed that the lady was very good at her job. However, she also confirmed that the lady could be arrogant. I spoke with another therapist on the field who also confirmed that the recommended Physiotherapist was good at what she does but she could be rude.
Well, at that point of my life, I didn’t mind if she was going to be rude to me or arrogant as far as she was as good as everyone had said, I was fine with that. All I wanted was to see was my child’s improvement, I could take any sh*t in between.
She came on board as my daughter’s physiotherapist. She was very professional and dedicated, but she didn’t come cheap. She didn’t come cheap at all. My daughter attended a mainstream school that allowed her to use the sickbay as her pullout room for her physiotherapy session.
In June 2016, my daughter’s school proprietress requested that my husband and I should make out time to see her. When we eventually did a week later, she told us that the physiotherapist had manhandled our daughter and she was going to show us a CCTV recording to prove it.
At the back of my mind I felt the woman was exaggerating because therapy could be demanding at times. My child may cry, if she didn’t like the exercise or if the exercise was tasking. However, when I watched the video, I was shocked beyond words that someone I trusted with my daughter could treat her worse than an animal. I believe that even an animal shouldn’t be treated that way.
I mean, she came highly recommended; she is a Masters degree holder. She is not an illiterate. Apparently she didn’t remember that there was a CCTV in the room or she felt nobody would be checking the TV at that particular time.
It was heartbreaking to see my daughter treated by a health worker in such a barbaric act. I watched my daughter as she fell down several times hitting her head on the tiles. There were times she hit her head on the edge of the wooden bed before falling to the ground.
Her Physiotherapist slapped her three times; the third time with her cell phone. She left her head hanging upside for 5 minutes. She twisted my daughter’s hands several times; at a point she sat on her hands, at another point she tied her hands behind her head. I watched as my daughter fell from her chair while her neck was stuck in between the space at the vertical back rest and the flat wood used for sitting down. I watched on as this lady typed on her phone 90% of the time only taking some time off to torture my daughter. Did I mention that she took out time to take her selfie? Up to five times.
After we watched the recording, my husband could not control his tears. My heart bled. My daughter’s Neurologist said we cannot ascertain the level of damage to her brain because we did not bring her immediately it happened. He said an MRI would have been done to ascertain any damage. I got her arrested. She said she was sorry She claimed depression and ill health I didn’t believe her then, I don’t believe her now.
I had to make a decision, to leave my daughter in the hands of her nannies at home (which may be another source of abuse) and follow through to ensure the physiotherapist was duly punished. (Bearing in mind the justice system in Nigeria) or drop the charges lodged at the police station and allow Medical Rehabilitation Therapists Board at Yaba to handle the matter.
I dropped the police charges. I decided to stay with my traumatized daughter. I handed the Physiotherapist over to the Registrar at Medical Rehabilitation Therapists Board at Yaba.
Her punishment: • Three months withdrawal of her practicing license. • Three months work in a general hospital under supervision without pay • She was to undergo a psychiatric test Like seriously? Are you kidding me? She had been practicing for a year without renewing her license and all you could do was to withdraw her license officially for a mere three months?
She went back to the Registrar at Medical Rehabilitation Therapists to ask for permission to travel to USA to get treatment.
I called to check on the case, and I was told she had travelled for treatment I was told not to worry as she cannot practice anywhere else in the world without a letter from the board. Some months later, I was told by a reliable source that she was not taking any major treatments but attending a Masters programme in US.
So she got away with child abuse, assault, battery, in fact attempted murder. This is only possible in Nigeria right?
I went back to Medical Rehabilitation Center, I was shocked to find out that the case had gone cold. What stops her from coming back into the country and working with other children? How many Nigerians ask for practicing license before employing a professional?
I strongly believe that the least the board should have done was to declare her unfit to work with children. In respect to my daughter, the signs were there: She had been withdrawn for a while in fact she had stop smiling, interacting with anybody in the house or attempting to answer questions in school. I kept asking the care giver that followed her to school about the sudden change. The caregiver said she had no idea. I came up with my own theory and I brushed it aside.
How would I have known that a health worker, someone I trusted with my child could be so cruel? The Physiotherapist had been with us for over two years. I can only imagine….
Well, I pulled my daughter out of school and started her own mini school at home. I let go of my current caregivers for good reasons and got new ones. With care and love, she added weight, came out of her shell and got better. Right now she attends a school three times a week and we are making progress.
Child abuse is real…from the people you least expect. Protect your children.
Humility017: I fear for the future with the likes of your kind ridden in tribalism and sectionalism Nigeria is in this mess today because of these menace of tribalism.... the right people are not placed in the right office because of these cankerworm our elders did same and now we the youth are toiling same path... it is so painful we see ourselves as first belonging to our tribe than our nation...as such the reason for primordial sentiments against civic or national sentiments.... a man can steal from the nation treasury and he is so sure his people will back him up .... it is good we learn to avoid tribalism if we really want a bright and glorious future as youths you really need to pray for yourself.... because one ridden in tribalism can't love much because tribalism will forbids the Love of God from finding an expression.... God sees no skin color neither does he see tribe but our hearts....
caleboxylic: Thrash. Delta/Asaba igbo indeed. Do we have nsukka/Enugu Igbo too?. So egbema people are not Igbo again rather they answer Igbo names. Talk about only Ikwerre people that have denied their Igbo origin which we the great Igbo nation have accepted because they have nothing to offer Igbo nation both in human and natural resources.
Don't ever use that term delta Igbo again. Igbo is Igbo starting from umuezekohe in Benue down to Opobo.
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Frm pogba to benzema to martial and now mbaby.
Buying mbaby for over 40mill pounds is a waste of resources.
Sad that this is a semi final of the prestigious Champions League
my dear receive sense! Mbape is a very good player.
babe4wealth: IF THERE ARE NO EVILS AND TRAVAILS IN DS WORLD, DEN SUGGEST WAYS TO GOD HOW D WORLD CAN TURN TO HIM 4HELP...... LEMME TELL U A LITTLE SECRET,,,,, GOD IS LIKE A COMPUTER PROGRAMMER THAT DEVELOPS A COMPUTER VIRUS AND D ANTIVIRUS AT D SAME TIME SO DAT PEOPLE CAN TURN TO HIM FOR HIS HELP,,,, D MOMENT U UNDERSTAND THIS UR PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED
So god creates problems in order to bring people to him, that is inferiority complex. It has an ego problem.
OK UR AN ATHEIST,,,,,NO WAHALA!!!!!! * BUT U 4GET DAT THERE ARE SOMETHINGS U CAN'T CONTROL AND THERE ARE MANY THINGS THAT MEN CAN'T CONTROL, LEMME ASK U SOMETHINGS, IF U CAN GIVE ME AN ANSWER DEN I WILL CONCLUDE TOO THAT THERE IS NO GOD * 1. Y HAS MAN NOT BEEN ABLE TO TURN BACK TIME? Y CAN'T WE DECIDE THAT TOMORROW MUST BE JANUARY 2010 OR Y HAS MAN NEVER BEEN ABLE TO ACHIEVE 24HRS DAYLIGHT, Y MUST THERE BE NIGHT ?? * 2. Y HAVE MEN NOT BEEN ABLE TO MAKE ANIMALS LIVE 4REVA * 3. WHERE DOES AIR (OXYGEN) ORIGINATE FROM. Y HAVE MEN NOT BEEN ABLE TO BLOCK D SOURCE OF AIR IN A BID TO COMMERCIALIZE IT? * 4. TELL ME WHY TILL DATE SCIENTISTS HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO DEVELOP A HUMAN OR ANIMAL HEART THAT CAN NEVER DIE OR FAIL ?? * 5. TELL ME WHY A MAN MUST MEET A WOMAN B4 HE CAN HAVE CHILDREN? Y IS THERE NO OTHER MEANS TO REPRODUCE ?? * ABEG GIVE ME ANSWERS OO, I DEY WAIT
Well what if I ask you to show me your god? Why has your omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscience god watched the evils and travails of the world, without doing anything, read the so called holy books very well. Then you will run away from religion. I never advertised atheism I am more interested in helping a persecuted atheist. A god that committed genocide, supports slavery, racism, etc. Religion is just popular because many people are afraid of people like you. We have a debate group on Facebook I don't want to disturb people here. This is why I invited the original poster to our group.
anonym0us: I'm from a Christian home but since my childhood I find it hard to be in any religion..i was always forced to go to church.sometimes my mum will invite the pastor and prayer warriors to conduct a deliverance section on me but still I'm always skeptical about religion..now I'm old enough to decide what I need and the kind of spiritual or non spiritual life I want to live but my parents always treat me like an outcast whenever I'm around . They even threatened to disown me if I don't get baptized...
plus other things I wouldn't like to mention please how do atheist in the house cope with this kind of situation
I am a secular humanist, a proud and refined atheist, add me on Facebook let me put you through, we have our global and national groups. JUST SEND YOUR WATSAPP NO. OR MESSAGE ON THIS NUMBER
Na so all those motivational speakers dey use us sell their books dey hammer! We self tire to dey buy their books, na so-so mouth dem dey make, nothing tangible to offer.
No be last 2 yrs that guy wey write Rich dad, poor dad broke sotey him declare bankruptcy?
Abeg leave matter for Mathias.
dmanj: Oga Ymodulus, na lie ooooo, u must bless me too ooooo if not no sleep oooo, tyms are critical, 5k na wet in I need oooo, 0012541427 Access bank
Na so all those motivational speakers dey use us sell their books dey hammer! We self tire to dey buy their books, na so-so mouth dem dey make, nothing tangible to offer.
No be last 2 yrs that guy wey write Rich dad, poor dad broke sotey him declare bankruptcy?
Must ignorant people claim knowledge?? I am a proud final year law student of the National Open University of Nigeria, that school really a pillar of excellence. What does the poster mean by corruption. Is it the bribery and exam Mal practice in the conventional schools you want for us? Or is it the cultism and thuggery? Talking about experience, 95 percent of us are employed, about 40 percent of us are entrepreneurs and and self employed. I have never given anyone any money since I was admitted, I pay online like everyone else, no extortion. Please stop displaying your ignorance and arrogance.
CHINUA ACHEBE IS OVERRATED AND SHOULDN'T BE ON THAT LIST. THE ONLY FAMOUS BOOK HE WROTE WAS "things fall apart" AND IT WAS A FLUKE COS HE NEVER REPEATED SUCH. HE IS AN AVERAGE WRITER WHO DOESN'T DESERVE SUCH RECOGNITION
you are gay! your sexuality is not your problem, your religion is the problem. It is not compatible with your nature. My case is same with yours except that I don't wallow in self pity. If you must marry, let her know your real nature.
bros abeg park well! there is nothing wrong with masturbation, we who masturbate are far safer than the people having sex indiscriminately! abeg free that girl! abi you wan Bleep her? Nonsense!
Archmed: Laminate your certificates @ ur own peril.It wont last 5yrs until d prints on it starts to fade off..Kindly keep dem in a well secured file bag..and it'll last till thy kingdom come.
na lie joor! all My certificates are laminated and intact, for over 10 years.
[quote author=lalasticlala post=29121951]. Pastor Kumuyi said he prayed through the phone and the prayer was answered by God who healed the Ebola patient in another country
Over the weekend, General Superintendent of the Deeper Christian Life Ministry, Pastor William Kumuyi revealed how his prayer healed an Ebola patient in one of the Ebola infested countries.
Speaking at the National Deeper Life December Retreat, the man of God said he would not disclose the name of the country where his prayer healed the patient.
According to him, he prayed through the phone and the prayer was answered by God who healed the Ebola patient in another country.
. Hear him “The National Overseer of that country had told me of how a woman was struck down with Ebola and was being isolated in a certain location in the country, so I asked him to give her my number. When the woman called me on phone, I prayed a simple prayer of faith for her, and days later called to tell me that the woman was healed of Ebola immediately after the prayer.”
He said a test was conducted on the woman and it was discovered that she no longer has Ebola and was discharged from the quarantined centre, telling the congregation that if God could answer the prayer on phone, then he would do more when they see him physically at the Retreat.
Health › Re: My Daughter With Cerebral Palsy Was Battered By The Therapist I Trusted by kendological(m): 6:51am On Jun 02, 2017
