ericsmith:




whatever d world is gonna evolve into or change into .... thank God i am a man

lol abi... women don't want to accept the fact that nature favours men more.. nobody likes it but you just have to accept it

ericsmith:





No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

the primary role of a husband is too provide and protect for his family... he does that while he chases his dreams... can a woman chase her dreams while she fufill her sensitive role in the family as a wife?.. i pretty much doub that... in whose hands would you leave your 2 year old kid while you go to work?.. is it daycare?, in the hands of someone else, for proper development the child needs his mother at all times.... if you knew you weren't ready you shouldn't have gotten married... isn't it just here on nairaland were i saw several posts of nannys/househelp beat up toddlers because the mother was at work... see the divorce rate is just starting, the amount of people that would comeoff marriage ehn...

ericsmith:




I do agree some men see women earning as threat or feel threatenes buh some men are not like that ... my concern is these so called career or job not gettin in the way of her primary duties to our home. a woman can work as long as it won't she doesnt let it distort her primary duties as a well.
now lets me put you in a not tew tight corner, does ur hubby do house chores occasionally or regularly.

threat to what kwanu.. what are they afraid of?

ericsmith:





No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

lol do you get.. if you wonna work, go ahead but you must fufill and perform your role as a wife well.. not situations where your husband comes home and there's no food...if you're so focused on your career, you should have stayed unmarried... now you wonna eat your cake and have it..

ImaIma1:


What you are saying is different from what the OP is saying that a woman should not even think about a career.

Still, why should a woman be a t a disadvantage because she wants to get married. I have always worked right from before I even entered university. For a man to now come and say I should sit at home will be impossible.

Thank God I met a sensible one who doesn't feel threatened by a woman's success so much that he has to try to suppress her to make himself feel who and manly.

lol are you married?.. hope its not boyfriend

olabrinks:
Lol please tell that to my husband who is a certified chef. I’m so blessed and grateful. My respect for him will always be on 1000.

every little detail has to be explained to you people.. he is a certified chef.. thats his profession, thats what puts food on the table... do you need me to explain to you thats a different circumstance... na wa

ImaIma1:


And the traditional style has less divorce rate? Because women enjoy slavery? Who are you kidding? Women are not fools. Which woman will completely phase out her own life just because you want to feel complete as a man. Work on your insecurities and stop allowing a woman pay for your issues

lol maybe you should compare the divorce rate in 1920s and now. Go check stats...

Women are happy taking traditional roles.. conservative women i mean.. not you spoilt feminists brats..

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife

ImaIma1:


Which nature? Or you mean it's your own idea of marriage? You think all the couples you see practise this archaic idea of marriage? It is peculiar to you and some few other that happen to think like you..

You think marriage is supposed to be a disadvantage for women and an advantage for men?

You obviously don't know what marriage is about. You are just using some traditional mumbo jumbo to make an excuse for you to intimidate and suppress an unfortunate woman

yes you are not in support of the archaic style of marriage but the modern style of marriage... the same modern stylenof marriage with high divorce rate... wow

I'm not a religious person but there is wisdom in the bible.... take the story of Samson, do you think delilah would defeat samson physically... you can't find joy in the eyes of a man with gra gra.. why don't women act as women, why do you want to compete with men... (a race you obviously cant win).. the only way you can get to a man is acting like "women"

ImaIma1:


What about her duty as a human being? Or her own dreams and ambitions? You think being a wife is a woman's only duty?

Is being a husband your only duty? Don't you pursue your own ambitions? Why do you now think you can suppress a woman's dreams because of marriage? Isn't that slavery?

then dont get married, the moment you go into marriage you become part of the man... I'm sorry its just the way nature has programmed life to be... men and women aren't the same.. if you cant drop everything then don't get married as thats the sacrifice women have to take if they ever want to get married...

ericsmith:



Times can change ,the world can evolve and every thing it can change as well buh humans can't change,becos we ddnt decide our roles nature did. we all are programmed to run in a certain ways.
God wasnt stupid or dumb when he shared the roles ... he ask us to be of help to each other, literally when necessary. one of the many reasons i respect God is he gave each gender distinctive strength that compliment our roles.so
A man can help if she is sick or travelled, once in awhile buh it must not be consistent or on regular basis.
How can you be livin in iyana ipaja n yu let ur wife work in lekki, a competent man won't even allow that, we either relocate to lekki she pays d rent or she looks 4 another job in mainland n i keep payin d rent.

thats what i say, people think because there's civilisation then gender roles have to change... haven't we tried to change gender roles?.. what's the result... high divorce rate.. you cant cheat nature

Tough men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create tough times...

Peacefullove:


Good you are not totally against it. Sometimes issues like pregnancy, sickness or her well being can make a man assist

yes i agree thats an exception.. but a situation where the wife would start saying you both have to share chores is appauling

ImaIma1:


Because you brought her into this world or created her? And so you decide her future because you think you bought her because you paid an inconsequential amount for bride price. You think that is enough for a human life?

So you kill her dreams and aspirations because she is unfortunate enough to be your wife. I see.

the duty of a wife is to be a wife and perform her duties with pride while the husband performs his .. that is what the traditional marriage is all about. If you cant follow the rules, you have no business getting married, stay unmarried

Kingsteve:
I'm a domestic guy.
I love to cook...a good cook for that matter.
I see absolutely nothing wrong helping your woman once in a while in the kitchen, or doing other domestic chores.
It's all part of the bonding.

yeah once in a while

prettysassygirl:

I pity your future or present partner,hope you know if u want it this way then no financial contribution from we female folks as well,if u want us to go back in time then we have to go there fully,you would go out,go do all the work and get all the money, enough money for the family why the woman performs all the chores at home.

if I'm going into a marriage , my wife is never working

ubunja:


This is from the BBC website:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-51113371


‘Submitting to my husband like it's 1959': Why I became a #TradWife

# TradWives is a growing movement of women who promote ultra-traditional gender roles.

Search the hashtag ‘#tradwife’ on social media and you’ll see images of cooked dinners and freshly-baked cakes with captions like, “A woman’s place is in the home” or “Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman”.

The term ‘tradwife’ is particularly controversial because of its associations with the far right, especially in the United States. But many self-described tradwives reject that association.

Alena, who lives in the UK, says it’s about “submitting to and spoiling her husband like it’s 1959” - as well as supporting a return to “traditional English manners, lifestyle and values.”

Produced and filmed by Alex Gatenby

Executive Producer: Rob Brown

Commissioning Editor: Nisha Diu

17 Jan 2020

lol exactly.. all this modern marriages ends with divorces and then alimony which leads to ripping off the man

ubunja:
lmfao. Good question. Who asked her to work?

thats why i like conservative americans.. they believe in the tradition of marriage and what it stands for today.. conservative women derive pleasure and joy in her wifey duties... thats why divorce rate amongst rednecks and conservative Americans is low

AwkaetitiBabe:
OH well, things are changing so better get updated. If you don't wanna share chores, then provide 100 percent.

i never said any man going into marriage shouldn't provide 100%.. thats the man's department

helen4:
wow! You're so backward

yes thats why the divorce rate is high now

AwkaetitiBabe:
Guy also preach men shouldn't expect woman to contribute financially or split bills. You know in d traditional sense, it's d man alone that bears d financial burden in marriage, even down to money for sanitary pad

i never preached against that..

Heloct:
I don't know why you guys always think the only house chore is cooking. If I have my way when married, anybody entering my kitchen would be intruding.


What happens to doing the laundry. Or helping to clean the house when the children mess it up and the maid isn't around. If as a man, you'll just be folding your legs in front of TV and see house chores as abomination, then, you are not ready.

not ready for what?

helen4:
But it's not an abomination when she works and support her family right? Or is that not the man's duty. Oruwhe!

who asked her to work

desvi:


no wonder you wake up with NL and go to sleep with NL
nothing productive can be expected from you

my bank account is productive, thats the only production i need

desvi:


own business but spending time on NL like a jobless desperado
good life indeed

lol yeah.. i work just 3 hours q day.. I'm not like you that work 18 hours a day

ednut1:
u clearly know nothing

lol ok oo

JONNYSPUTE:
.. I have to disagree with on some of Ur points.
If one can cook as a bachelor and enjoys doing it, there's nothing wrong if as a married man he still does it.I'm only against a situation whereby the wife sits and orders the husband to do the cooking.
In my house for example there are some delicacies I love cooking by myself and most times on weekends if my wife is out shopping for foodstuffs,I can prepare something for myself and my kids to eat before she gets back and they love me for that.Or if she is not feeling fine.
So bro, does that make me a simp?

no thats an exception, I'm saying some women would take that for granted

ednut1:
growing up there were times my mother was the breadwinner so also many of my friends. When companies sack staff e.g uba wey just sack 4000 staff na men dem dey sack pass. There are women today who demand husband do chores. Marry your kind. Abroad there is no bride price so if they do things equally fine. 9ja here i get ya point . But do u know some igbo ladies pay thier own bride price these days?

all this thing yiu mentioned happen only on rare occasion.. its not rampant, men have always been the providers... even in america, there are conservative americans / rednecks who still go with the traditional marriage, they expect thier husbands to be the breadwinners while they take care of the home.. thats why conservative americans marriages lasts...

ubunja:
men must protect and defend. That role is non negotiable. Providing though can be worked out. I have my sights on a lady with moola. Wanna gold dig these independent women.

lol but if anyone agrees to take on the traditional marriage role, providing for your wife is non negotiable, that is the foundation... thats why i choose not to get married.. if i do, then i have no choice but to take on that role cos its what i signed up for

ednut1:
in this nigeria many women are now breadwinners . Is that allowed under ur imaginary laws

lol how many women..? Even when nigeria was good and petrol was 65naira, sardine was 90 naira, women in nigeria where never breadwinners.. its now that everything is cost.. we pay high for things but the income is the same... but no its now that you claim women are breadwinners, how do you guys on nairaland lie like this

Rhaspody:


I've had a girl get angry at me because I didn't beg her to cook for me. as she was forming tiredness, I entered kitchen and cooked my own concoction.

you did that to make a statement.. which is she is useless to you if she doesn't do her duties as your babe... next time na she go rush go kitchen

ubunja:
lol find a woman who loves to make money and you switch roles. Lmfao.

men that are meant to be strong and the protectors of the home are eager ro drag wife duties with the wife.. what a world we live in.. no wonder the divorce rate is higher than the days of our mothers where there was no divorce because everyone played the role nature had assigned...