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ebabsuoires:
Hey everyone, its been 2 weeks since my boyfriend broke up with me.
I can still remember the look on his face as he stared blankly at me. His eyes gazing deep into mine as he said those words to me
"I don't love you anymore"

I cried for days, went fasting for hours just because of the breakup. And just 2 days ago, I saw him with his new girlfriend. She is beautiful yes, but was that enough reason for him to just leave me?
The truth is I hate this woman so much that I can't control it.
We both work in the same firm and anytime I come to work I just can't stand seeing her

Please what should I do to her or say to her. Should I confront her or should I just leave her?

He got tired of your crazy behavior, and stop posting to me with your insanity.

ebabsuoires:
When you see a black object, do you also need explanation to understand the color in front of you

Look, I know you are a liar and a hypocrite and that's the truth

Please don't annoy me this morning!!!
Alright
Nonsense

I can see why your boyfriend dumped your sorry butt, you aren't only dumb but you are also psychotic, please seek professional help.

ebabsuoires:
Because that's what you are.
Please don't deny it. You will only complicate matters for your sorry self

You hypocrite
Rubbish

Please repent

Atleast be intelligent enough to explain your opinion of me and how you came to your conclusion, nut case.

ebabsuoires:
What do you gain by being a hypocrite
What?

Why do people just take pleasure in decieing others
Why!!!
Why!!!

You are a liar and a deceiver. Please repent

Why must I be a liar and a hypocript, and why must you be a nut case?

Does it really matter what tribe a man is from? Being a loving man of God should be the main priority, everything else will fall into place.

iKillzz:
[color=#000030]Lol. The trick is finding one that'll love you for who you are. Most of those guys date african ladies cos of their big asses and nothing more. [/color]

lol... Most of those guys don't even like black/african women and prefer the flat behinds of white women.

Raiders:
Miss Khia, This is one of the evidence that Nigerians/Africans are the most educated in US.

I have read that article before, that doesn't prove Nigerians to be the most educated in the US, that is only one Nigerian. Do you actually think she is the only person in America that Obama has congratulated for good achievement, get real, show me the write-up on you, I doubt you even went to college.

L2CD766:
He got the best of your emotions online. ..... you need to accept that America is a dysfunctional society, and blacks have been perpetually dammed to the bottom of the food chain.

If that were true he wouldn't have left Nigeria to come to America now would he, and I hope you realise that Africans are black.
PS ... He didn't get me emotionally, I used reverse psychology on him and held a mirror to his face to let him see that everything he was saying about the people where he lived was a reflection of himself. Mission accomplished once again.
LMAO.... You live in Nigeria and you have the nerve to call America or any other country on this planet dysfuntional, aren't you the pot calling the kettle black.

Raiders:
I don't hate Africa Americans. I have had bad dating experiences with an African American lady so that was the reason I said AA ladies are not good in terms of dating but I agree with you that it was wrong for me to make that general statement. I don't mind dating an AA lady again if she is nice and educated. Like you said, there are good and bad Africans, whites, blacks.

I didn't know there are African Americans active on this forum. Its really nice that you are learning Nigerian culture on this forum. You should know alot about Nigeria now and I hope you will visit Nigeria one day when its a little bit peaceful and safe.

I'm done with you, my mission is completed, once again a success, just stay away from AA women, they don't need guys with your mentality.

Raiders:
I never said all Africans living in US are rich or better than Black Americans. I said Africans are the most educated blacks in America according to stats. Besides why do you talk bad about Nigerians when you have African blood running through your vains.
How the hell you expect me to live in SF * the most expensive city in US* when I just move to US. I need to start from the bottom first before getting to the top. I am going to leave the "hood" one day and I don't intend on raising my future family in the "hood". Besides most blacks in California don't live in SF, Beverly hills, west LA.

I am not a racist against black Americans because I said African women make better wife than Black Americans. It was just a general statement and I am taking the statement back. I know there are good AA women who are great wives to their husband just like there are African women who are horrible wives. Like I told you before, I don't hate black Americans, I only hate ghetto people. Anyway, I think folks like you believe all Africans hate AA. I am going to get married to a black Queen one day and I don't really care if she is African, Caribbean or AA as long as she ain't ghetto.

Besides what is wrong in living in Stockton, Oakland, Compton, Watts, Inglewood and south central LA. No one is going to harass you if you mind your own business. You must be a "soft" black lady because you are scared of living in the "hood" . I hope you are not like those black girls who act "white". Lol. Sista, You need to experience the hood life.

About FREAKING time!!! I have nothing against my brothas and sistas living in the hood, I love my people, if I didn't, your racist, stereotyping remarks wouldn't have offended me.
I wanted to hold a mirror to your face to let you see that you are in the same circumstances as the people you are comdeming, you are not better than them.
There is nothing wrong in living in those places you named but in your prior posts you comdemed everyone who lives there to be ghetto, thugs, baby mamas, baby daddies, dead beat dads and since you are living amongst them you would be considered the same. The same way that you stereotype them, others will stereotype you, because you are THERE, do you understand? The thing is you thought you could come to this site and spew all of your bullcrap and there would be no black Americans here to call you out on it, but we are here. I hope those AA relatives, friends and ex girlfriends who by the way, you claimed to be the worst relationships you have ever had could come here and read what you really think of them. Leave the GOOD AA woman for GOOD AA men, stick with the ratchet ones that fits you better.
Now you think I don't like Nigerians because I told the truth about people like you, well if that were true I wouldn't be on this site and I have been here since 2010, I just despise hypocrites. Here is a little message I would like you to always remember.
*If you are living in a glass house don't throw any stones* which basicly means get that speck out your own eye before you criticise others.

Raiders:
Ok Miss Khia, you won the argument. I take whatever bad stuff I said about AA female back. Stereotyping is wrong and I never really meant all AA ladies are ghetto, loud. Some are ghetto but I have also met some educated and smart black ladies.

I know you would also agree that the problem of unwed teens having kids in the black community is a very serious problem. Yes, the problem of single motherhood happen in other community but its rampant in the black community. Also some black men don't get invovle in their children live which is very wrong. I live in Oakland and I have also lived in Compton South LA . So I see a lot of ratchet stuff everyday.
Stereotyping is wrong but if you don't admit that there is a serious problem of single motherhood and ghetto stuff in the black community then you cant solve the problem.
I am not a "Coon" or "uncle tom" that hate black Americans. My cousins are AA and 90% my friends are AA and my Exs are AA. I just feel like AA need to do more to improve themselves. AA are doing badly in all areas compare to other races.

We all have different stereotype for different ethnic groups. Some months ago, An AA female told me that white men make better husbands and fathers than black men. I didn't argue with her because thats her opinion and she talking from experience because her baby daddy is a deadbeat.

Africans are the most educated blacks in America. Africans living in US have a higher college degree rate than AA and Caribbean living in States There are stats to prove my statement .

Anyway, Oakland is not really a big ghetto like you think. Oakland is much better than the hot desert retirement town you live at. West Oakland is safe and really nice. However, East Oakland has some bad neighborhoods but the city of Oakland is improving in terms of crime rate every year. All towns and cities in California has good and bad neighborhoods. I also know your town has some bad neighborhoods too. You should move to oaktown. Lol

LMAO You said stereotyping is wrong yet you continue to do so.
You lived in Compton too, well that says a whole lot about you, no wonder you keep stereotyping, you have never lived outside of the hood.
Your problem is that you think the black community only consist of the bad neighborhoods that you have lived in, you just don't know any better. There are black suburbs *Baldwin Hills* and many others in America but alot of Africans like to come to America and complain about the black community which they know nothing about because they can't see past the hood which is probably better than the place they came from.
You need to stop lying to these members on this forum with your pretense that all Nigerians/Africans are successful because they are not, some of them are very poor and homeless, especially in LA. I have been to Oaktown and I know it is a dangerous place to be *Scared the hebe jebees out of me* and it is no comparrison to Palm Springs. You have only been here for 3 years yet you have expert knowledge of the black community all across America.
I tell you what, you let me and other black Americans worry about the problems of Black America and you concern yourself about the corruption, brutal rape of women and children, abortions, homelessness, unwed mothers, dead beat baby daddies, lawlessness, lack of education, hunger, children without homes, blood rituals, in Nigeria because your problems are much worse than Black Americans. You are a hypocritical *Jiggaboo* You are just like those white racist rednecks who make negative stereotypes about black people and then say they aren't racist because their best friends are black, do you see the connection. It's amazing what some delusional Nigerians in America will do and say to make themselves feel superior.
You are African which automatically means you are successful, lol I would like to know what the hell are you doing in Oaktown and Compton, why not San Francisco, Brentwood, Beverly Hills, Baldwin Hills, heck even the San Fernando Valley would be better.

Raiders:
I am not an uneducated thug because I live in Oakland. Oakland is not a ghetto but a great place to live at with wonderful people. There is nothing wrong for me to date AA women because I am not stereotyping AA. I think you should blame the media and AA men for stereotyping AA women. Go to YouTube and other social media, you will see thousands videos of AA women been stereotype by AA men. I got my stats that 70% of black AA give birth to children out of wedlock from a black website.

Also Nigerians are not loud and are the most educated blacks in America. When I was in college, 90% of the blacks in the science and engineering program were Africans or AA with African parents. Its very rear to see an African man not supporting his kids in America. Its part of African culture for a man to always be in his kids wife and this is why the rate of deadbeat father among African is low in the US.

I am attracted to only black women and I am not going to stop dating black women and it don't matter if she is AA, African or Caribbean as long as she ain't ghetto with multiple babydaddy. You don't know much about Nigerians because you say negative things about Nigerians.

Oh stop your lying bullshyt, Oaktown is one of the biggest ghettos in Calif with a very high crime rate, you couldn't pay me to live there.
You said that you don't stereotype AA women, you are a liar all across the board, reread your posts *Most AA women are loud, ghetto, ratched, can't cook, uneducated, with tatoos and peircing all over their bodies with multiple baby daddies*, now how is that not stereotyping when you don't even know most AA women?
Stop making ignorant statements like *Africans are the most educated blacks because in your college 90% of the black students in the field of engineering and science were African*. Are those the only courses that were offered at your college and is your college the only college in America?
It is not rare to see deadbeat African babydaddies, it maybe your culture to provide for your child in Africa but some of you forget about that part of your culture when you are in America, and there are Nigerian men who abandon their kids completely, especially mixed race ones, once they get that green card they don't give a ratz azz about those innocent children. I have seen so many of them.
There are alot of positive and negative things to say about Nigerians, they are no different than anyone else, you have the good and the bad, and yes some of them are very loud.
When it comes to dating just stick with African and Caribbean women, leave ratchet AA women for ratchet AA men. There, problem solved.

PS..... Yes you are an uneducated thug because you fit the STEREOTYPE, *Young Black Male Living In The Hood*

unamama:
she probably feels u r going to dump her after a short while just like u did to the other 2 gfs u had in d past.
so my dear, don't blame her. she has to guide her hrt wit all diligence, for out of it are d issues of life.

The other 2 dumped his lame azz.

Raiders:
lol. How is SoCal? I never said AA are scum of the earth. I said uneducated AA female are always ratchet, ghetto and loud. I only date educated AA with college degree or in college, trade school. I have nothing against AA women because I only date black women.

Please stay away from my sistas, they deserve better.
Some Nigerians are very loud, ghetto and ratchet also.

Raiders:
Moderators: farano, Rocktation, Ishilove. Please move this post to the front page so I can get more response.

I hope she isn't AA because those women are the scum of the earth according to you.
@topic... Op just leave her alone, go and stalk someone else, it's obvious that she knows you aren't good enough for her.

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Diamby:
The poster is male not female.The issue is he closes from work by 4pm gets home around 5.Goes out again from 7 and comes back by 11.This person doesnt drink or smoke.This happens from sun-mon everyday of the week.My question is can a lady make one loose his senses to an extent where he has to go to her everyday.

@op, when you say that he stays out late from Sun-Mon that would imply that he only stays out late 2 nites in a week, or did you mean from Mon-Sun?

I don't understand what your issue is maybe you are in-love with the lady.
Are you married?

This is one of the most lamest protests I have ever heard of, why are they blaming the husbands for something they aren't responsible for when they should be protesting the company to shut them down and file a law suite against them.

all4naija:
Asshole!

Why are you crying? Ok I will leave you alone for now, atleast until you talk smack to me again and then it's back on.

all4naija:
It's you that is mad! You're mad, b i t c h!

Oh the profanity, the sign of a weak, ignorant mind trying to express its self.
Girl don't run your blood preasure up, this is only Nairaland.
I hope you feel better, maybe you are going through menopause, go see a doctor or therapist.
Anyway good luck with that.

all4naija:
PTUI!

LMAO You mad!!!

GoodFaith:
"Some AA women make wonderful wives"-- lot of AA wives are better than your Nigeria import

You are right Goodfaith, some are.

francizy:
LoL, dear you don't have to generalize that all Nigerians think like that. We're all different folks you know. You can ask your man.

By the way, you should have known from time that I share different opinions from the lot here, so I don't judge people by what I see in movies.

Truth is, I don't really know why we Nigerians are always quick to compare our people with others. Its like hereditary, deposited there by our ancestors. Though I always love to stare clear of biased and sentimental discussions like this..

What's up with the new moniker? Hope you weren't banned or suspended?

You are right Francizy and you are one of the few nice ones on here, I can name 10 that I really enjoy conversing with.
lol, no I wasn't banned or suspended.

Raiders:
I am not generalizing. I live in Oakland which has the highest black population in CA so I see a lot of AA women. A typical African/ Caribbean woman make a better wife than a typical black American woman. Black American women have the highest abortion rate in America. They also have the highest single mom rate with about 70% having kids out of wedlock. African/ Caribbean women don't usually act like most African American women. However, like you said there are also good AA women that I have met but those are in the minority. Even some black American men complain about AA attitude.

Still bringing up bogus statistics that were created 10 years ago. Someone put those statistics all over the internet so it has to be true right, well I guess those statistics about married Nigerian women being the biggest cheaters in the world with 60% of them cheating has to be correct and true after all it was on the internet and we all know that people couldn't possibly make up statistics.
Please don't get me started on
the abortions in Nigeria and America by the ladies nor the unwanted babies in the orphanages of Naija.
Wait a minute, AA women are having all these babies but at the same time we have the biggest rate of abortions in America, something isn't adding up here.
And you know that African, Carribean, hispanic, white and some asian women have children out of wedlock in America especially with you black/african men. There are alot of African baby daddys here who do not support their out of wedlock children.
You live in Oakland, a big time ghetto, get out the hood bro.

You live in Oaktown so I guess you must be a sagging, baby daddy, drug dealing/using uneducated thug. See I can generalise and stereotype also it doesn't mean it's true. So what if AA men complain about women attitudes, Nigerian men complain about Nigerian women attitudes all day everyday, men will be men and women will be women we all have our complaints. AA women complain about AA men attitudes and Nigerian women complain about Nigerian men attitudes. smh
You have only been in the states 3 years *a newbie* and all this stereotyping and generalising. You know what you are talking about because you had the experience of 2 women, 2=most, some, alot. LMAO You must be a child.
Please do AA ladies a favor and never date them again they deserve much better than you.

Raiders:
I am not lying and I am just talking from experience. I think most African women make a better wife than most African American. Some are good tho but are in the minority. Anyway, what city in California do you stay at?

The lie is when you said that most African women make better wives than AA women which is an untrue statement unless you know most African and AA women which you do not.
Some AA women make wonderful wives and some African women don't and vice versa.
Stop generalising. I live in Palm Springs. Francizy this is what I'm talking about with your brothas.

Bamz:
So thoughtful of you, Khia.

Many thanks.

You are very welcome.

[quote author=all4naija post=30768863]Filthy b i a t ch! African hole! It is written all over you[/quote

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lol I'm not African, but you are.

soulglo:
I don't know were NIgerians get this idea. Come to middle belt America (the heart beat of America) and you'll find that in most homes the man brings home the bacon and the wife handles the finances. The men do not automatically interprete that as "this is my house" or "I'll send you packing". As for NIgerian men being better lovers........ rotflmao. Please abeg. I can't laugh.

So so so so true!

fesnge:
You're very correct, I was there and won't advise anyone to marry akata either but, African based here (US)

You are a liar also, I guess you know every American girl and every African girl in Amerca to make that statement. SMH

Raiders:
its better to import a woman from Africa than marry an Akata. The most important thing is to make sure you take time to know her before importing her to US. Most African women I know that were brought to the US behave and treat their husband well. I wont advice anyone to marry an uneducated Akata because they are all ghetto with many baby daddy..

Stop lying, just say the girls you hang around are like that.