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meobizy:
Good, now go release twerk videos for his entertainment. I know he needs them.

I'll leave the twerking for you now go and shake what your mama gave you. I'm sure he'll enjoy it.

purples25:
Hi. I actually stated that a woman will contribute. I can't fathom how you've missed this point in all our posts.

Why can't you hustle and accumulate your own wealth?

Eyeness:
thanks for the mention. the issue is even if you pick a poor man, what assurance will you have that he will still be faithful when he becomes rich? wealth has a way of amplifying people's truth character, then there's also the fact that he might never be rich. you become poor by association and you have to pick up his slack. this will naturally create resentment which will threaten the relationship. Its too risky a gamble. the best thing is to work with results, not potential. being strategic about your future is nothing to be ashamed of. This makes me a proud golddiger.

Why can't you make your own wealth? Why don't you hustle for riches then marry a broke man and do all of these things for him that you expect a man to do for your broke behind while he does nothing for you other than sexx you. Would you consider this broke man a gold digger? You wouldn't give such a man a second glance yet you think a rich man should respect you.

Eyeness:
I hope khia sees this

This means nothing if you demand and expect him to do these things while you give nothing in return just because you feel entitled.

meobizy:
Your baby daddy.

Don't confuse me with your mama.

meobizy:
Is Tyrone still up north?

Who is Tyrone?

chiddyok:
Yes. Everyone should go for their class. How often do you hear women complain about gold diggers? We don’t look for stress. I’m not looking for a helper but I’m not going to help someone that is supposed to be the head and still kneel down to worship him. Mbanu. Y’all are eager to be the head of the house but not of the finance.

I'm a woman. Kneel down to worship him? You should only worship YAH.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

I'm a woman and I find you appalling.
Why are some men good to women who shyt on them? SMMFH.

chiddyok:
He actually can’t darling. Only the best for the best. You are your ilk, don’t come close.

In other words, you sell to the highest bidder.

chiddyok:
Then make love to your pets.

Why would he do that when he can purchase sex from you with a simple gift.

jimyjames:
Hope he was a real Nigerian born and raised here before he moved there ?

Well he was raised here but unfortunately he stayed true to his Nigerian upbringing.

jimyjames:
Well I just went through some of your topics but came out with no clue , of that particular Nigerian guy you dated , was it a cyber relationship?

No sweetie he was physically in my life.

jimyjames:
Never knew you dated a Nigerian guy, I mean, thought mr Az is the first

Well, if you read any of my topics you would have known.

jimyjames:
Really ? Interesting tell me more.

Well the moral of the story is he treated me well and it was genuine because he didn't feel he was entitled to me because of the money he spent to get me. We had fun together.

crownedrookie:
We're dying here I tell you. Lol.
Nigerian girls are putting men through so much in the name of relationship, that with all the training we get, we become hot cake once we step out of the shores. Its like a US marine being required to wrestle 4th graders

This is so true. Women in the diaspora seek Nigerian men not because they find them attractive and loving but because they know they have been taught by their culture to empty their pockets on them. I dated a Nigerian man and he started out this way which was a turn off to me(it made him look desperate) until I told him my feeling.

Eyeness:
I do not appreciate the language you use on this thread @the bolded. Kindly desist from such


On to the topic. I understand that we have different opinions, But a man spending on you is not the same as purchasing you. If a husband spends on his household, is he purchasing them?

The thing is this. A man will spend money where he sees value, be it a business venture or his PS4. If he is spending money on you, regardless of motive, you are of value to him at that time. If men are not spending on you khia, then ask yourself why they don't see you as valuable?

If a man sees a person he is spending on as property, that's because he has a twisted orientation, not because you are a bad person or you are not valuable. That he spends on you is not a license to treat you badly or tolerate bad behavior from him.

I would be offended if a man saw me as a woman who has a price tag to be bought. I would rather he give me his respect, time and heart. Special occasions like birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, Valentine's day and just because are things we would do for each other but material things I can buy for myself.

It's your culture that has convinced you that a man must spend, spend , spend on you in order to deem you valuable which is ludicrous. This concept is what breeds entitled gold diggers.

Pickieox:
It really took me more than two days to complete this thread. I salute the OP for his damning revelation but he's being hypocritical. OP, you really nailed the truth I must confess. At the same time, Khia, for her resilence and defence (I'll do more if I were in your shoe). I'll leave with this: "We're just a reflection of what we see". Blacks think black though there're exception to this rule. PEACE!

But he was being untruthful. Instead of posting that he can only describe the ghetto low life women that he associates with because he is the same, he painted the picture that all black American women including the classy ones whom he doesn't have a connection with are all the same. That makes him a liar and a hypocrite.

LastProphet:
I understand how you must feel, you will get better don't worry

I understand that you have been brain washed to believe that you are a subpar, semi human being but repeat after me **I Am Somebody, Nobody Is Superior To Me ...I Am Somebody, Nobody Is Superior To Me.** Repeat this EVERYDAY, 3 times a day for the REST of your LIFE.

You will become unbrainedwashed and realize that you are worthy of life. **I'm hoping for the best.**

This is ridiculous. Just because a man spends on you doesn't mean anything more than him purchasing you like he purchases a who.re, once he gets what he wants he's on to the next new toy. Putting a price tag on a man's emotions is illogical.

LastProphet:
There's no way I can converse with you I don't argue with entitled illiterates. When i was working paid employment I appraised the work of different races so I don't have race issues you are the one with the crap. Keep quiet and you might just begin to learn for the first time in your life. Should be ashame of yourself being dumb in america, you'd be an invalid if in a country like Nigeria

Your jealousy is showing. Nobody showed any entitlement here so I'm thinking in your subconscious mind you truly believe I am entitled. SMH at your inferiority.

LastProphet:
You must be dumb to argue about who is superior, so you are equal to someone that has passed every exam you have continued to fail? Instead of you to acknowledge our past failures as a race then come together to chart new ways of thinking that will truly emancipate our race you are here deluding with an uncouth akata lady. Does Asians like South Korea, Singapore, China have any need to struggle for equality today? No! Because their achievement has done that, so what have us blacks achieved as a race? What? Tell me, another dimwit, watch how he will start preaching those lame self-love theologies now, tueh

Some people hold degrees but are very ignorant about life. Some people are book smart but couldn't find their way out of a paper bag. Some people lack self esteem and feel their race is inferior to all other races. These people are considered educated idiots.

apache22b:
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I agree.

LastProphet:
The Khia lady isn't as educated as assumed by the OP, no college/uni educated person gets confused about credible statistics and not to even talk of attempting to replace such with her personal experience. Don't be deceived about her passable grammar any high school dropout can do that. She's proof of what the OP has been saying. She's the average fairly-educated AA, they think ALL native Africans don't know anything and that nairaland is an online community forum of farmers and goat herders, the sufficiently educated AAs know better. Khia is crap

You wrote YOUR opinions of NL members as being goat herders and farmers, don't put your inferiority complex on to me.

boyjo:
I understand every.

See ehn, e get as you go take construct sentence so that, even though you mean no offence, the sentence go be like say you dey curse person.
I just notice am for some of your posts for this thread.

Just Kam down ehn.
E no really be as you dey read am.

Are you talking about the comment "Most are ignorant about Black Americans" as cursing them? I'm not cursing anyone. The word IGNORANT only means NOT KNOWING, as in Most Nigerians don't KNOW BLACK AMERICANS and don't care to know us. That's why it's easy for people like the op to write rubbish about us and have you believe it.

boyjo:
E yaah....you really Sabi this mind game well well o.
But that time wey you dey give them hot hot, with all those heavy curses wey you dey throway for the beginning of this thread, na lie, no be mind game! You were for reall-a da real-a

Of course I was real in calling the op out for his lies and hypocrisy. That op was using white racist talking points and needed to be shut down. If the op was truly experiencing this drama/trauma with every woman he pursues it tells us that the problem is him.

boyjo:
I notice am too.
As soon as he apologized, all those other guys sef come be like say them confuse one kain lol.

The apology no bad to me o, because I feel say the Op get game plan for mind, but the thing affect all those guys wey the apology affect lol

It's simple. The op apologized because he created this topic for attention and praise. He knew there are a lot of men on this site who have never been to the US let alone met a black American.

Most of you are ignorant about black Americans and believe what the white media portrays. The op feeds on this ignorance and that's why he felt he could get away with this bullcrap.

The mistake the op made was thinking there weren't any black Americans on this site and other Nigerians who know and associate with us. When he realized his blunder he tried to clean it up with the truth but the die hard bigots wanted to remain in their ignorance and started calling him a simp.

The op is weak and couldn't bare being called out of his name so he succumbed to the bigotry and restarted his foolishness again.

boyjo:
Lie lie, me I no gree for this one.
That was no mind game.
Abeg, make we dey talk truth o.

Baby, you've been played.

Tozic:
Babe, all these tantrums you guys throw at one another - can't you guys just forgive yourselves and move on
What's so big there?!

That COW has been stalking me for years, I don't even know it. I wrote a simple post years ago and in it's sick twisted mind it thinks I am one of its dyke lovers from its past.

There isn't a day that goes by without it mentioning my name and creating lies. As long as it continues to mention my name I will continue to humiliate it.

Akuruoulo:
U SIMPLY DON'T KNOW MUCH ABOUT US . WHEN THEY BECOMES YOUR WIFE , THEY WILL WANT THE MONEY TO BE USED WISELY . THOU SOME WON'T STILL CHANGE .


U HAVE TO BE HEAR BEFORE U KNOW US BETTER

Bull, they spend the money on leisure things at their whim.

Akuruoulo:
Okay .

Right , because laws go against men the most .


And.......

Well, it's the complete opposite in Nigeria.

jimyjames:
Hmmm when it comes to my mother I will say everyday is mothers day to me so nothing special with this lockdown I have been around making everyday mothers day for her


But about my little mother hmmm its a special secret hahahah

Aww! You are a loving son, bless your heart. Take good care of the new mother in your life and that sweet bundle of joy.

maxwell530:
I hope you are happily married to your "Nigerian man" that was good to you?

No, I couldn't do it.