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Shegzdave:
How you choose to understand my point is non of my business cause that’s up to you

Aunty, please leave me and my submission on the topic before you accuse me of being a misogynist

Sorry

Magnoliaa:
Please, ask again for me.

because I don't understand lol.

GloriousGbola:
Take it or leave it gender roles exist.

It is why the men stayed behind in Ukraine and the women and children were evacuated.

It is why a man has significantly higher upper body strength than a woman.

It is why you expect the man to put in work in the bedroom.

It is why you will forward the school fees bill to your man rather than pay it yourself

It is why majority of soldiers are men and majority of nurses are women

There's nothing a man can do that a woman can't do. Gender role is a farce. They are also men who left Ukraine and they are also women who didn't leave. They are women in the Ukraine and Russian army. They are women that will beat up a man like nothing. They are women that pay their fees themselves. They are male nurses. I repeat gender role is a farce.

Shegzdave:
If you don’t pity yourself as a man to marry a lady who can cook healthy meals, at least have mercy on your unborn kids so they can eat home made healthy meals...

Shikena

so you have been eating unhealthy meals before you married?

GloriousGbola:
Who are these men please?

Most of us on this thread grew up in middle class households where mum and dad worked

We went to school with girls

We work with women in ghe workplace in all roles.

Most of us have female siblings who are working

We have daughters we are striving to provide the same opportunities as our sons.

Look around you carefully. Raumdeuter already said it, so I will reiterate. This is not the romance thread with sexually frustrated boys shouting red pill. This is a thread where most of us are responsible adults raising families to the best of our abilities. Our arguments here are about politics.

We are not interested in silly gender wars because we like pussy and will not pretend otherwise. We also like consensual enthusiastic knacking.

Save your aggro for the romance threads and the redpillers. You are clearly transferring misplaced aggression

You are typing out of point. This was your post below that I replied to. Patriarchy already set down the gender roles of women belonging to the kitchen which explains your post below and I said when feminist tries to eradicate those gender roles they are hated.

GloriousGbola:
The Irony of your argument is that women across the world, brought up in different cultures from hyper conservative to Uber liberal have been and still are being taught to cook.

The target market of designer cooking utensils and accessories are not men, they are women. The stars of the cooking threads in this platform are women and no one is bothered with it.

A woman who can cook is as important to a marriage as a man who can knack properly. Yes you can do without either, but a lifetime of this will be pretty grim.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Yes, for my sister,my cousins my mum, the ladies i have dated, and all i have as friends.

Do you want to argue my world with me?[/color]

Then specify about those you are talking about. Don't say women like you are referring to all.

Why do you people like lying and saying false things. If you want a woman that cook then find yourself a woman that cooks. Nobody is stopping you from doing that. They are also women who cant cook and are happily married. The point here is cooking is not important and doesn't add value to a woman in a relationship/marriage.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]You can be shocked, surprised, anxious, etc

That's on you, not me.

It is your responsibility to comprehend what i typed, not mine[/color]

You statement is clear and obvious. Cooking food is a thing of pride for women lol.

GloriousGbola:
The Irony of your argument is that women across the world, brought up in different cultures from hyper conservative to Uber liberal have been and still are being taught to cook.

The target market of designer cooking utensils and accessories are not men, they are women. The stars of the cooking threads in this platform are women and no one is bothered with it.

A woman who can cook is as important to a marriage as a man who can knack properly. Yes you can do without either, but a lifetime of this will be pretty grim.

A lifetime of patriarchy setting down gender roles is the reason for that. There's a reason why men hate feminist for speaking out and trying to eradicate traditional roles and stigmatisation. Their fragile ego cannot stand a woman not conforming to traditional roles.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]It is a thing of pride for women..

Like GloriousGbola said, they will fiercely defend the kitchen; complain when you put a spoon where it shouldn't be, or even scoop the food in a shape they do not like.

I no dey believe all these things for here[/color]

One moment you are saying women don't belong to the kitchen then another you are saying making meals is a thing of pride for women. Cooking food is a pride for women lmao. The African man at his core is sexist by nature so am not surprised.

Unlimited22:
My well respected elder sister in Christ, please do what works for you.

But you will not expect me to applaud a woman who cannot cook and isn't willing to learn.

T for gracias.


Na only you sabi how you relate cooking to self esteem and inferiority complex

The only reason you think a lady must know how to cook is because you were brought up in an African misogynistic culture. A lady not conforming to that setting is seen as unacceptable to you which makes my argument for me. It's a shame you cant see it.

Unlimited22:
Omo If person wey wan marry you go accept you if you no sabi cook and y'all are happy, good and fine

No come dey tell other people how to live their lives abeg.

It doesn't affect you in any way. Let them be.


Say na threatened. LMAO

How does sexism and stigmatisation of gender roles not affect everyone? It affects your gender as well but society pressure won't allow them speak up because they need to keep the facade of masculinity up.

African men have prejudices against independent women because they are suffering from inferiority complex and a low self esteem. This is bred from male-dominated cultural norms that have been teaching them that a woman is of a "weaker sex". We see it in marriages were the woman earns higher, we see it when a woman is successful outside marriage, we see it when a woman is thriving after a divorce etc

Magnoliaa:
A woman must know how to cook, but comes a first date and you ask what a woman brings to the table and she responds exactly that, it's all crickets and judgment. 🤡



If a lady legitly tells you "I can cook" as one of the qualities she's bringing to a relationship, you people will accept it without question? 😂

Tomorrow, you will say they are dumb and cannot intelligently contribute to a business plan and yada yada yada.


Like, goddammit, is cooking a thing of value, for a woman, or not?!

Let's face the fact. African men are threatened by an independent woman who doesn't conform to traditional gender roles and stigma.

BlaqFaze:
women are meant to be pampered

"Wokeness" and "equality" is what is leading to misogyny

The African tradition and culture are sexist and misogynistic to the very core.

Segedinho:
Funny enough..love isnt the most important thing in a marriage but respect .


There is a reason man owns the house and the wife owns the home....

A man is tasked with the responsibility of providing the home needs why the woman manages everything the right way.....

Cooking is actually one of the most important techniques in managing the home's resources and this responsibility falls in the hand of a woman,The man is supposed to render "help".

If a woman provides for the home..it is termed "help" or supporting the man n not just her mandatory role.


It is irresponsible on the part of the woman if she can't cook or performs home duty.

Shedding this Barbaric mentality of yours is going to be hard work. I would have loved to try, but the problem is sexism and misogyny is rooted at the core of almost all African men.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]I did not say you belong in the Kitchen

I said a woman SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COOK.

Instead of applauding ladies that can't cook, encourage them to learn.

If not for anything, because it is the healthy way to make your meals[/color]

Anybody that wants to learn how to cook should do that irrespective of Gender. Anybody interested in cooking should learn not just women. The idea that women must be good in the kitchen only propagate the wrong Idea that they belong there. It also creates a situation where the man is okay not making food because he believes it is the job of the woman.

hopefulLandlord:
It appears to me like you're personalising the question which might not make this discourse go the proper way.

I'd still answer the question though to see where you're heading with it although I have a good guess. No I won't dump her, I would encourage her to learn how to cook and if she seems not willing to learn I'd definitely dump her without much thoughts unless there's some "selfish" reason I want to keep her around for the moment. No woman I've ever dated in my life hasn't had her life improved in one or more ways through their dating me and if I observe a resistance to good change that I know will definitely benefit you I'd dump you, no matter how much I like you



I ask again though. what should be the biggest factor in a spouse?

Biggest Factor in a relationship is Love. .'It is not compulsory to know how to cook. Lack of culinary skills does not demean a woman or make less of her. Cooking is trivial and any man willing to let a woman go because she lacks culinary skills is a man-child.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]If you fall in love with a man who doesn't know how to work and provide...r u telling me that you'll dump him because of that?

All these lines we draw in a bid to look equal and competitive is baffling

Everybody should know how to cook, and yes, A WOMAN SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COOK.

Everybody should know how to work and make money, and yes, A MAN SHOULD KNOW THAT.

Nobody was born with a spoon and pestle in their hands. Everybody learnt it.

If a woman does not know how to cook, she should go and learn, instead of explaining why it is not important.

It is.[/color]

You are going off the rails here. Knowing how to cook is not an added value to any relationship. Breaking up with a woman because she can't cook is bilge. We don't belong in the kitchen.

hopefulLandlord:
I'm of the strong opinion that a woman should know how to cook. honestly your post shocked me to the marrow

I'm curious though. in your opinion what should be the biggest factor in a spouse?

If you fall in love with a girl who doesn't know how to cook..r u telling me that you'll dump her because of that?

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
How can u guys be applauding a lady who doesn't know how 2 fry odinary egg? Championing equal rights & opportunities for women is good. But a lady shld know that she's a potential wife & mother. I no hate woman. Why shld I? wen i have a mother, aunty, & cousin sisters who I pray they marry good men who will treat them nice.

For the insults, you can do better.

So your biggest factor in a spouse is cooking? Get a darned cook dude and stop being petty. If you truly love a woman, whether she can cook or not will not be an issue.

Reminderz:
Ani oponu niè... alainironu 🤡

Coming from a fool that worships a Jewish white man as God 😂😂

Reminderz:
you must be foolish... I just sent through your threads and I can see you've been constituting nuisance all over nairaland since 2018... since you claim to be an internet nuisance, let me leave this mention for you to bleat on... ode

mumu oponu Omo alaileko

Shut up your nonsense mouth. Fool that doesn't know his culture. You are worshipping a Jewish white man yet you have the audacity to talk about what is and what is not African culture. Get lost from my sight before I descend on you.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Exactly, Christianity is now very westernized

When was Christianity not westernized? Is Christianity your culture you slave to a Jewish white man.

Reminderz:
it's also in the Bible, but few people even read the Bible... to bury the dead in the same day and without necessary wahala is in the Bible.. we left our culture and adopted the west's.. just like we left polygyny for homosexuality.. just make it make sense to me

Shut up your mouth. Is the bible your culture ? Is worshipping a white Jewish man your culture? When has African culture not celebrate the dead by throwing a party. You don't even know your culture yet you are here typing nonsense. Nigerians and stupidity are 5&6.

Berrityga:
Everybody has his/her own perception about things. If your employers don't like leg Chain and you can't remove it. Them look elsewhere for a job. They are certain people I can't employ to work with me.

Mr man shut up. If you need surgery urgently and the most qualified doctor to perform that surgery has tattoo and anklets will you reject him? Nigerians are always foolish.

IyaTola:
Before you adopt anything, especially fashion or lifestyle. Check the societal and cultural value, attitude, acceptance, interpretation or representation of such thing.

Please shut up and stop disgracing yourself all these stupid christians worshipping a white man's God. Your ancestors have been wearing anklets for generations before those white men came with their deity.

chccho:
Then just insult him back simple..

I did just that.

AntiChristian:
Actually my parents are enjoying now!

I doubt it

chccho:
How can u just insult someone's mother like that? Nawa ooo!!

But the idiot can insult me just like that right?

Freshtruth:
This country be somehow olurun
Your citizens are crying for the past 2weeks now here the government that is suppose to print more Naira notes are busy doing eye service the Angel wey post me come Nigeria thank you sir. You did well

Don't mind them.