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solonubinho:
Ever heard of the word hoovering? Google.

Wow! we truly learn everyday and here I am thinking I read a lot. Just Googled it...

What is hoovering?
Hoovering is an emotional abuse technique used by narcissists and other manipulative personality types to suck their victims back into a relationship with them because they're running low on their narcissistic supply.
It's named after the Hoover vacuum cleaner, and it makes a lot of sense because the hooverer is basically treating you like dirt.

The "hoover maneuver" usually begins after the narcissist has left you and after a period of silence.
Here are 12 signs of narcissistic abuse known as hoovering, plus how to deal with a narcissist's behavior so you can move on and get over your breakup.

1. They send you messages pretending nothing happened.
One day with no warning you get a message that says, "Hey stranger, long time no talk" or, "What's up?"
Do not engage.

2. They use the pretext of a special occasion to make contact.
Just translate "Happy birthday" or "Happy New Year" to mean, "I need some attention."

3. They ask you random questions.
"What was the name of the sushi restaurant we went to in Santa Barbara?"
Feel free to answer any way you want, but they don't really want to know the answer; they just want to get you to focus on them.

4. They make a fake gesture of caring.
"I was thinking about you" means "I was thinking about me" and "how I can use you to distract myself."

ETCCCCC..........

chinchonglee:
As in ehn!
The smelll is now rampant.
I can't remember the last time i fvcked an odourless pussy.

Girls shuld be taking care of themselves na. Whats all these nonsense sef?

Lol..... But have you tried or should I use the word tasted a northern girl... like better Malo babe. Yall can fvck from night till daybreak and instead of odour you will be perceiving a nice scent. Walahi! Amina...

But on a more serious note, I have observed that this odour of a thing occurs amongst fat girls more than it does with slim girls. Any body noticed that too? please come support this motion honourable.

CrescentMoon:
Once debe, always debe.


Once you fvked a gal, it's easier for them to remember you again and again.


All my exes regretted leaving me. I later fvcked one for free.


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I remember this from the movie, Okafor Law.
Well, it seems to be true to a large extent. Atleast in my own experience.

Pancakeey:
What does this have to do with the post?

E shock me! Swears!

I guess he probably wanted to do the whole FTC shii

Calmblaze:
Never give up! Better days ahead! It is well.

Na me dey Cancel bottles here, na you de high. Ogheneme biko! Lol

Calmblaze, calmdown read my post again bro. Even you go shock!

Funkyswagzz:
It's kul i did my foundation engineering at abbey college at malvern, worcestershire before goin2 London South bank uni at elephant and castle. I know pretty much everywhere in london.. it's not proper to come here to show off. I just love the platform that y I'm here. I do less of facebook and all

Honestly speaking, I love how you address issues. Sorry once again if you felt offended?!

South Londoners with their special kinda accent, had some really crazy Crystal Palace football club fans as friends way back.

Ehhhn! Come pay for all this bottles I don drink for hia oh! Before, I fly through this lounge toilet window.... I don't have power for bouncers!

Recently, I got a text of this nature on WhatsApp. I was surprised because she is happily married with kids. Discussed this with some friends and some insinuated she is about to ask me for "2k urgently" .... Well, she is not that type of lady thou. Some suggested maybe she was Hot or lonely.

Then, today i stumbled upon a similarly story...

[b]My ex (31M) and I (26F) are 5 years broken up. It’s a long time. He has a serious girlfriend. He was my first love and I was the love of his life until I wasn’t. He wanted to stay friends and I initially agreed, but after all that he said, I walked away for good even though I was completely in love with him and we were best friends before. Not once did I initiate contact from that day and I focused on healing. He texted me every now and then for no real reason since, and I always gave brief, polite responses.
I got a text from him when I least expected it today, an already rough day, on the anniversary of my grandma’s passing. He was with me when she died and helped me grieve, so I’m grateful for that. The last time I saw him was 2 years ago at a mutual friend’s birthday party. I don’t understand this, what’s the purpose of consoling me suddenly, after FIVE of her passing anniversaries and no such messages since our breakup? I obviously won’t deny I still love him but I’m not delusional or acting on it in anyway, I have accepted it yet even a text from him hits me hard.
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So, My Nairalanders help me answer this question - Why do exes text you years later? What’s the purpose of sending a “thinking of you today” or I miss you message after so long?

Funkyswagzz:
So how do u know I'm not a man of my words.. we've not even seen each and u already know everything about me..

I asked u if stay in London buh u ignored. All of a sudden u jump out of nowhere callin me audio. Mehn get da fvk off. Focus diz energy on who push ur button I'm just havin a laugh

Lol, Chill bruh! Never refered to you as Audio. That would be myopic of me. Wasnt even refering to you but rather your Lol response to the person you quoted. You 'LOL' is an endorsement of his statement... and i stick to to what i said and you know i am right. Alot of dudes who act all tough online aint shii.

Didnt see the Uk, London queston. Pardon me, Yh! Did my masters at Leicester Uni, stayed in London for a bit.

Push button ke?! Me wey don start my own thank God is Friday here! As i don make you laff... come give your boy one bottle... even if na Kentro or Agbo jedi jedi.... i dey game..

Funkyswagzz:
U just showed how petty u are

Nah! Been laughing with y'all... or have I not? Said what I said because it is always easy to form Macho or RedPill on a faceless forum like NL.
Baba! to talk is one thing, to practice what you preach.... another game entirely. Ask the preacherman bruh!

Happy fun filled funky friday to you. (Pun intended)

Funkyswagzz:
Lol

Audio Macho men everywhere!

chatinent:
Did you understand what you posted?

Lol, I believe I do. But I am always open to suggestions yh?

Even skinny people have their own issues!

Imagine my grand mum calling me " the Ambassador of World Hunger."
or Friends lifting me up to show how easy it is to do so and when you tell them to put you down and they joke about dropping you.

The worst of them all is Having to make extra holes in your belt. Obviously a first world problem, but kind of a pain in the ass nonetheless. To find my waist size ehn!! No be here fa! ... Always seeing 32 upwards.... I have got to give the tailor to resize it and they end up spoiling beta trousers for me


Kindly share your funny, weird, and everyday experience being a skinny person.

debbydams:
smiles

Do you by any chance sch at Unibuja? From your dp... That looks like permanent site.

Kiss and tell?

Night crawlers wey dem dey always sleep 10pm.

nurain150:
imagine I messaged a girl since 2014 till 2018.Not sequentially.maybe once in 2 years late 2018 I sent a random recharge pin she replied what for?

Bro, been laughing over here like crazy. Hahahahaha!

See ehn! This your post just off'ed me.

A lot of Nigerian girls are wired a certain way... Especially the need to depend on me.

The idea behind my post is this... Realize women are a certain way... Realize men are a certain way and use this knowledge to your advantage.

nurain150:
please always separate work and redpillers issues.We have female excelling in various fields ETC.When it comes to the issue of using opportunity against men.Any woman who does that irrespective of what they archived needs red pill

Your motion is seconded honourable! Truth is the basis of my post was based on my observations on NL. Women naturally are devious and cunning, you don't need a red pill or something to realize that.... Common sense can guide us alot

moyosore32:
he knows and he already stated before in the write up that he's one

Thanks

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When I'm settled, I will respond.

My people! Urhobo Wado!

From Udu LGA. Based in Abuja... And Lagos primarily.

Glad to see a thread such as this.

Seems we have a high number of urhobo peeps in Abuja. Never knew.

realokopi:
Alright bro... Drop your email, I will send them through there.

H eyb rume (at) gmail.com

No space in the mail bro. Just to prevent spammers et al.

I am guilty of this! Especially on weekends when i go clubbing, partying or any outdoorsy event. Most times, i only request for number because its the polite thing to do or i just wanna prove to myself i can get the number.

But i wouldnt advice you to call him. Rather, whatsapp him and feign a nonchallant attitude towards him. If you show too much interest.. A good guy is normally irked off by that.

December don reach shall... Plenty boys dey run away from too much stress and urgent 2ks and I'm not feeling fine people.

realokopi:
I am very fond of people that read though. Incase you need interesting books to read I could recommend some and probably send pdf of some interesting ones too if you're interested.

Hey. I'm interested please.

apatheticme:
They'll soon tag your dad a simp!

Many of them have called their own Hardworking fathers struggling to train them simp all for nairaland likes!

So beware.

Good job you're doing tryna conquer evil with good! Good luck!

You insult my dad, 2 seconds..... give your location and details. If i dont Bleep you up.... I dont do Audio. Who no wan sleep for better bed this Xmas. Just try your luck... so, una go start to talk say force people are evil.

Personally, them calling me a simp doesnt bother me. I just feel its totally wrong what is happening, we are shouting endsar, corruption and several societal ills. But we dont seem to see what is in front of us.

ReluctantAdult:
To the red pill movement, MGTOW, Involuntarily celibates aka incels , Religious boys etc, I write this day.

We the honourable Playboys aka fvckboys aka players aka FWBs aka Sugardaddies forever... today admonish you to...

Let women be women for us who need them to be!! We love them looking sexy, beautiful, needy and vulnerable.

A woman shouldn't be shamed into shying away from exploiting her sexual longings and urges. This isn't the 15th century.

A woman should stay slutty and enjoy life. We love it when women are open to letting their hair down and having great, memorable and spontaneous sexual adventures with us. Shaming them makes them fold and shy away and that's not good business for us playboys

All you MGTOW and red pill boys stand down! Retreat! Desist from shaming women! Women were meant to be vulnerable, dependent, flirtatious, sexy and slutty. Let them stay that way!

Honorable you are doing well Sir. I hereby allocate 30b for your constituency project and personal enjoyment. hehehehe

No mind all this boys stressing demselvs on how a lady wants to leave their lives.

Funkyswagzz:
U speak as if your world is a perfect 10. Your level in life might not the same with another person. The moment u took ur time type this post or read comments on nl shows that u equally have spare time. U don't try to bring other ppl cos u have a perfect life. What any guy put out there is their real life. What ever they put out their is real emotions so u can pass when u see such. Your life might revolve around girls but I must tell Nigerian girls are very secretive. Some of them don't even like talkin about there private life's to there fellow girls. So when u see a guy cursing girls just move on bro. Most ppl are not perfect like you

Hey Bro. My sincerest apologies, if i sounded like my life is perfect. It most definitely aint. Yes, I do have spare time after all i aint no work horse... but too much spare time is the devil's tool for creating mischief.

Yes! I know alot of guys put their emotions out here and to the female folks in their life. But my grouse is this, if i dont know you from ADAM... why would i see a post of yours no matter how different your opinion is from mine and start insulting you? Calling you names etc.... Aint that deranged?!

My life revolve around girls?! I wish, It actually revolves around my laptop, football and my guysses. I know girls are secretive and they have been the down fall of a great many men. But my Dad told me something while growing up, being a man doesnt mean beating a woman, enslaving a woman.... that every action i take against a women i should sit down and ask myself if it was done to me will i like it, if it was done to my sister and mom would i be okay with it?!

Truth is, i actually loved the way you replied me without any insult. We can gist, we can debate and we can agree to disagree about our differences.... Not the typical NL way of starting a fight when they have no valid point.

timebomb02:
the way this ladies feels about themselves over men really baffles me. many of them probably got disvirgin by one nerdy dude inside an uncompleted building or under the staircase. but wen they got fully mature and guys started chasing them from every corner they begin to feel on top of the world. calling themselves different names like, princess, queen , priceless, sweetcunt, cococandy, whereas we all know they have nothing to offer......

Burst my head! Lol.... Baba i dey suspect you oh! This one u know all their names.

adg98:
Most active romancelanders are depressed, sadists, jobless and poor
They see this forum as an avenue to rant their frustration

Discussed this with a psychologist neighbor of mine few weeks back. Social media et Cyber bullying tend to serve as an escape route from all the drudgery, hard ship et al of the physical world. When people act this way all we can do is show them love and not use curse words on them.

SILENTandSMART2:
OP dats an amazing way to be noticed,




Eleribuu you sha don get noticed abi ?



More girls sha don view this thread,




Abeg forkk off



Werey boy



Ode , alainilakai



Fool



Anyway God nogo shame us

Thanks Bro.

AdeQuate18:
I think this post should be moved to the front page. Nairaland is an important online platform with more than 2.5 million members and if many posts and comments on this platform openly bash women then that should be a huge cause for concern.
Folks, it's not just about who they are, it's about the fact that preaching hate against a certain group of people who do not identify as a societal threat is plain wrong and inhumane ! We were all clamouring for an end to police brutality and oppression and here we are supporting the abuse of the other gender .
Mods on nairaland really need to do something about it because nairaland is almost becoming a forum for just spreading misogynistic messages.

You just summarized my entire thoughts @AdeQuate18 , The Mods have decided not to do anything about it because it generates contents, views, traffic and conversations. That is a key difference between it and Reddit.

The threat and hatred against the female folks is so glaring and so much that when a guy like me post my concern i am termed a white knight, a simp... Even saw one.. Pussy licker .

Hatred is Hatred! if you as an Igbo man or Muslim or black don't want to be hated by other people of opposing entities. Why should we hate on others? Having emotion, Love empathy doesn't make anyone weak.

Dapcity007:
Dont be fooled by Leftist media CNN who seek to promote radicalized feminism , homosexuality, gay marriage, LGBTQ, abortion under the disguise of supporting End SARS look at their DJ Switch media talk and compare to their news of female celeb Adele divorce from her spouse, who after the divorce she will be feeding as their culture support female hypergamy creating broke emasculated men , my fellow youths let's not be deceived , the ends protest has been hijacked

Obviously its expected she married an emasculated Simp(a potential gay**t), because their society is so progressive and allows for female hypergamy hence the rise of weak nonvirile men , homosexual men, non binary men, She Male,Bisexual men,and other aborminations we see openly in these society,I commend her success as an individual , attaining these height in her music career based on her own merit but I'm against their society killing natural masculinity in their men via queerness,sexless,and genderless notion

The African Man is a natural redpiller , our conservative culture alone produces Alpha male,and also strong independent women who don't see men,babies,marriage,family as threats to achieving their personal set out objectives eg Mrs Folorusho Alakija(richest woman in Africa),Mrs Awoseka of first bank , Arch bishop Mrs Idahosa , Mrs Tara of house of Tara, Former senator Mrs Florence It's Giwa, Rev Mrs Adejumo, Aisha Yesufu of Endsars protest, Mrs Stella okoli the founder and current CEO of Emzor pharmaceutical,and a host of others

These compared to what the leftist american media who want to promote single motherhood,divorce,queerness and other progressive ideologies and we see in some of our female celebrities Toke Makiwa (divorce),Vanetta of big brother(divorce),Genevieve Nnaji (single mother),Waje(single mother ),INI Edo(divorce),Tiwa savage(divorce and single mother) and a host of others

Note I'm not against single women or men Apostle Paul was single,Jesus was single,Mother Theresa was single, you can be single and still fufil destiny, have peace of mind, attain happiness without needing the institution of marriage or family,what I'm against and I now see in some women is that they now see that marriage, family, .men, babies all as threats to attaining women right,and women independence hence the wave of radical feminism, toxic feminity ,progressivism,LGBTQ, genderless and queerness notion

An example is an NGO called feminist coalition that was headed by modern feminist kiki mordi and a host of other ladies who where one of the major sponsors and organizers of the End SARS protest specifically in Lekki toll gate protest under the guise of fighting for police reform,end to police brutality ,end to extra Judicial killing, were actual fighting for radical leftist ideologies like LGBTQ,abortion,gay marriage, etc which are against God and Nature, they were verified by progressive twitter owner Jack Dorsey to gain popularity and donation for these so called purpose

We are all complaining about Buhari today , his bad economic policies as we are seeing rise in fuel,food,transportion costs etc. poor govt educational policies keeping youths from school because of ASUU strike, dictatorial tendency by trying to ban social media,corruption by holding covid 19 pallatives ,etc. We see former pres Jonathan as a weak, incompetent , corrupt politician who could not handle the Boko Haram terrorist insurgency ,people don't see the reason for these was his refusal to accept progressive Obama Gay marriage policy,Jonathan not only refused these satanic leftist feminist ideology but also penalized homosexuals with new legislative bill of 13 yrs imprisonment of homosexuals,Obama punished Nigeria by refusing us the money and arms to fight these terrorist hence leading to countless loss of lives and properties,human displacement into IDP camps,violation of women body and right in the case of Chibok girls , and now these tribalist bigot incompetent president Buhari.

Seen your post on some threads on NL. FYI: I am not a leftist politically speaking and otherwise. I dont do CNN. I am more of a reader, so i do The Guardian (UK)

I love and agree with some of the points you raised, honestly speaking when i saw the post i was truly impressed.

I remembered yall call Pres. Jonathan a simp?! My believe is this, treat people how you would want to be treated. No matter the color of their skin, religion, tribe, political views and ideologies.

The things we are embracing and enjoying in this modern century where once castigated and snarled at as early as even the 19th century. I am sure if you where in the early 19th century you would have be in support of the disenfranchisement of the female folks yh?

GuyWise:
Nna mehnnnnnnnn


Seeking women validation=simping pro max

Lol. When a post doesnt cater to the whims and caprices of NL cyber bullies they tend to tag the OP as a simp. Only Pro max?

BABA, yall can say shiii..... I dont mind.