₦airaland Forum

EngGandalf:
■ I’m just surprised you referred her to a mental health institution, just because she can’t date a dirty boy. That’s RUDE. Where’s the delusion in wanting a clean and well organized man….no one is perfect. But there are things we all can tolerate ..
■ being dirty is a CRIME to yourself and everyone around you… How would you say being dirty is not a crime?

1. I see you are simply here to argue meaninglessly. I just took time to explain that was not the case yet you continue to insist that it is. If you can't read abeg Waka pass me..

2. I see you already believe the world is ruled over by your private delusions. I gladly leave you to it.

Pauliaette:
■ Ego, pride! As u are walking away from him now based on class, who will clean him up? I was learnt that women are help mate or something.
■ U are a gold digger naha, keep looking for Ur class until u have extra year. inwang

You better go unlearn all that ignorant preprogramming before your life is totally fk-ed by it.

2. It is not a crime in gold digging. Considering the situation in Nigeria , gold digging is commonsense.

illicit:
■ I can fvck her
How will a dumb woman be my woman, she ain't that smart. If u know any dumb beautiful woman, holla

You think because you can have sex with her means you are not just as dumb as she is? Seriously!

EngGandalf:
■ Why she go visit mental health counselor.. no b everybody go tolerate uncleanliness… she’s right to not move on with the relationship. You fit date girl wey no clean? You fit date girl wey no dey wash her undies? You come here dey talk rubbish… dirty human being

The moment you start to believe everyone who does not subscribe to your same delusions is a lesser quality or character, something is off and it is a good time to run to the closest counselor for a checkup. We are all different and unique for a reason...

She is indeed right to have moved on but pretending herself better than the boy she dumped, she is wrong. I no fit date anyone wey dirty doesnt mean I spewk for everyone out there. Also, being dirty is not a crime neither is squeezing toothpaste from the middle..

illicit:
I can't love a dumb woman. I like em smart

But you will have her as your woman? You sure she be the dumb one?

illicit:
Why won't I love my woman if she deserves it

You folks say some of the dumbest things.

Otunski:
This is how some of you ladies miss your opportunity. You couldn't even put in effort at correcting some of the issues you noticed and wait for feedback u just concluded the guy isn't your kind of person.

Oya, answer !

UyaiIncomparabl:
What or who exactly is an "opportunity"? Since when did a man become an opportunity for women to behave desperately to get? Is marriage or a relationship a reward for being the most virtuous woman?...

Geovanni412:
■ You are the one living in delusion Even in the Bible , it is written in Isaiah 4: 1
In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!” Man wey get im life in order or wey dey desirable to women will have many women at his beck and call

Now this one also resorts to spewing bullsheet! Jeeezzzz!

komzy589:
■ You’re making my point for me. When it comes to her children, perseverance happens naturally for a mother. OP is not a mother, hence her actions. Ps: You giving a flying Bleep or not!
What is that? Are you trying to be courageous!😁
There’s no need to show fortitude when I’m just having a faceless conversation with you.

I told you already to stop spewing bullsheet!

Presstar:
Tragedy as bride slumped on wedding eve, in hospital on wedding day, died next morning in Ogbomoso(Photos)

Poor gal! She probably had a medical condition but didn't bother to pay much attention to it.

DaddyCoool:
■ Not true AT ALL. The first type there is no quid pro quo - the recipient of the meal is under no obligation to do anything. Not everything is transactional. Just the other day I tricked a beggar into thinking he found a substantial amount of money which I intentionally dropped. Straight charity - no transaction involved whatsoever.

DaddyCoool:
It is NOT about the sex, it is about the payment. There is a huge difference between preparing a nice meal for your neighbor in hopes of later borrowing his lawn mower, and asking him if he'd lend you his lawn mower in exchange for a nice meal!

The first took a risk and made an investment with the hope it would pay out in the future. If the neighbor refuses to reciprocate, does that change the fact that the one who offered him the meal hoped for a meaningful transaction to follow?

benqo01:
■ Tell me how many women wants commitment all dey want is a man that will buy them gift,give them money that is their love language dey re too blind to see!!!!

Kai! See as useless preprogramming don destroy this one abeg! So, none of the millions of women out there wants or desires commitment because the handful of women whom you targeted and chased rejected you?

If this is what is still obtainable as far as reasoning at this point... which way Nigeria ooo.

maxoemmy:
■ Unfortunately for you, the effects body count and mileage is applicable to only the the FEMALE gender. Men and women are not the same 🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾😂😂😂. Women are born with their value, while men have to work for it. So once men get that value they can do pretty much all they want.

It is 2023. You ought to have realized, by examining the world beyond your fears and delusions, that the real world does not even begin to function according to that thing you have clogging up your brains abeg! Pick up a book on critical reasoning and social intelligence to read for Pete's sake.

nairanaira12:
■ You've brought your toxic life here again. This your toxic nature will drive all responsible men away from you.

Look at this self installed monitoring spirit talking about another having a toxic life. Na. WAoo!

obinna58:
There’s nothing good in your name, how can you literally justify breaking up with someone bcoz he press toothpaste like an illiterate, is that even a reason and what effort did you make to correct the situation? I didn’t see
Well I just hope you’re catching cruise sha

She is right to break up with him over anything including the length of his pinky finger. What is irksome and even rude is she pretendjng she is better than him because she is clean and he isn't and also because he doenst squeeze toothpaste the way she prefers.

superemmy:
Even after using a toothpaste, I still blow it up with my mouth to maintain its form factor.

I hate seeing it compressed and squeezed.

I’ve been doing this since I was a kid. That’s just me though. Maybe I’m weird

That is disgusting !

Geovanni412:
■ That's not the way it works Every celeb has his pick of ladies anytime any day of the week Even if their body count don reach 200. If Davido or Tuface are looking for another lady to give belle, you sabi how long the cue go dey? Dey play...

The world does not revolve around the delusions in your tincan there. If you visited reality more often, you would have realized this at this point in time.

udemzyudex:
■ Na there you go know say every gender get their own advantage for this world.

That only makes sense inside your mind.

Dididrumz:
■ Sex before marriage is wrong, yes. You can't say it's illegal.

Wrong based on standards set by whom?

lalabrother:
Hello,
A friend is in love with this lady who apparently has a low libido and mostly refuses sex or conditions him to a once-a-week sex routine. He loves her so much and wants to know from people with similar experiences.
Can this be managed and if it can, how? Thank you

How did your friend work out this low-libido diagnosis for her partner? Na doctor tell am this story abi she think say because he no fit control him urges that means he don become a sexual health expert put?

If one of his major goals in the relationship is sex, the best bet would be to find himself someone whose current sexual appetite syncs up with hers. That doesn't mean it will always be that way though.

UDUJ:
For an unmarried lady it falls. Now be quiet.

And you base this claim on what exactly given that the same sexual instruments are employed by both the married and unmarried during sexual acts?

Please, go back and review your pre-programming so you don't continue to sound like one of those with screws missing.

UDUJ:
■ You have serious issues. You better work on yourself before your bodycount gets to 100 and your value falls below zero. Pathetic.

You folks are ridiculous. If her body count reach 100, na your body she use? And what do you mean her value falls? Does your value as an individual equally fall each time you engage in sexual activity as well? Mind your own body's business.

Preservedfish:
I'm getting absolutely desperate. I'm in my 50's, I have high libido, and both of our timetables are getting slightly less crammed since we both respectively got promoted a few months ago, and yet she has completely estranged me.
She only lives for our daughter, and every time I suggest we do something - even the two of us - she gives me excuses
I've talked to my colleague, whom I am good friends with, about this matter, and he told me that this is normal, that all women become like this after they have children, and that i should just get a mistress to drain my balls and ensure emotional support. He told me he has three that he sees on a regular basis. I've also talked to my wife, she is categorical that she still loves me, and that she just "needs time" to fully raise our daughter and then she will give me some attention. Should I follow my colleague's advice?

Sigh! Every Tom, dick, and Harry without a sense of self-discipline and self-control is always quick to diagnose self as having high libido! Op, you sure say you are a senior lecturer true true cause your write-up reads like what I would expect from the mouth of a vulcanizer or your average Nigerian with no sense of left and right about him.

So, at 50-something, the best you can do as far as tackling all of that energy you carry around with you is to go carry another woman? Your mates dey invest that energy into learning a new trade or skill, joining a gym somewhere, building something or even solving a puzzle or problem in the community. A good father would even look into using that time to teach his child new tricks, or even volunteer at a local community center to coach a children's soccer club or even create one for local kids and whatnot. But here you, a whole senior lecturer at that you claim to be, dey think say na another vagina you suppose to dey look to enter? Anyways, I do hope you will also agree that your wife should consider a side-dick when she gets bored visiting salons and all the rest. Nonsense and eegrident. I wish I could unread that dumbfuckery ... I was trying to get to bed early tonight but now I have gone and clogged my mind with nonsense.

komzy589:
Haba🤨! Learn to speak responsibly. You don’t even know who you’re talking with.
If I was standing in front of you, can you speak like this to me?😊 I was only implying that you obviously don’t have a child. The only way you will understand is when you do.

I don't give a flying 4ork about your private ego issues. Stop rambling! and focus on the topic!

There are millions of abandoned children on the streets of Nigeria each day, the majority abandoned by those who had them, left to fend for themselves. OP, is not a mother to any of the kids yet she at least has the heart to try to find them a place to stay while she is out on the street herself trying to make ends meet.

preciousee17:
■ If you sit down and look well, you'd observe that I'm one of those that believes my religion is balancing on a very faulty foundation filled with misinterpretations
■ My religious authority is Christ actually — hence the name Christian! I don't reverence the people that other Christians reverence.
Infact, I'm almost on my own, if not that I've found a Church that openly attacks all similar wrong doctrines.
■ My point is: Don't attack me cos I'm just like you, only that I claim the name Christian and I speak a bit more calmly.

1. Your religion is balancing on a very faulty foundation filled with misinterpretations yet you cling tightly to it pretending that faulty foundation is connected in some way to the Almighty God of Heaven and Earth, the infallible one? Do you even bother to preprocess these things before you spill them onto the pages?

2. There again you go linking Jesus Christ to what you admit is a faulty foundation filled with misinterpretations as if to insist that Jesus Christ has a part to play in the lies that are your religion. Wake the fk up already! You insult God's integrity with these claims of yours!

3. I am nothing like you abeg as I would never insult God as you have done here.

Kingosytex:
As you dey date dey break up, ensure that you've got the trinities on or before you clock 33+.
It's unjust for someone to have a body count of 20 and mileage of over 1000 and expect an innocent man to accept her like that

Same as it is unjust for someone with a body count of 20 and mileage of over 1000 to expect an innocent woman to accept him like he is, abi? Cause from where I sit, it is both males and females suffering all of that together.

correctguy101:
Hahahaha.. My younger sister always calls me lazy until she got together with one bank worker and visited him. She came home and was praising her elder bro to high heavens.... Me was like wtf did this girl eat outside?
Me wey even algae coated walls dey irritate. As lazy as I am, I can't stand uncleanliness. That's why I have to pay for someone else to do the cleaning. Even if there's no money, I don't believe it's an excuse to be dirty and be producing offensive smells. Unless you be werey .. But Princess GoodLady, you could've tried and change the guy na, you jhus left him like that for another to face same same. Does that seem fair to the other lady? You no good abeg..

Why should she "change" him? Is she a counselor or a maid or something? She is right to leave him as he is so the next person who can love him as he is can come along and have him.

Savagedan:
To love is to trust and to trust is to love.

That is recipe for disaster abeg! Humans by nature are fallible and hence untrustworthy. So, the moment you put your trust in another human being, you essentially open yourself to a trainload of hurts and pain.

Padipadi:
Feminist!

A simple Google search would enlighten you on how very wrong you are to consider using that term to qualify OP.

Goodlady:
There was a time I dated a baker for two weeks. I knew the relationship ll die prematurely from day 1 cos the first outing he took me to was a sub per restaurant which has dirty environment. As in someone that bakes should v basic knowledge about food and have class. So what does he take me for? Na test?
I had to take only water after much pestering cos I no fit chop anything there else na diarrhea!
Within 3 days, I noticed the guy was just too clumsy. I think he blvs he's showing me love by showing up most times but he became too bossy with his questions. And what broke the camel's back was when I visited his place and saw that he's not neat. His house has litters of baking ingredients, unwashed pan, bowls etc. He's also someone that press tooth paste like an illiterate, pressing it from the middle as seen in the picture below.
I just can't see myself getting further with a man like that so after two weeks, I just avoided him and summed up courage to tell him he's not my type.

Lady, you have issues... Tackle them. If you are like this with a baker, what happens when you date one of those creative types like artists? Visit a mental health counselor as soon as possible to help you get past those hang-ups of yours before you go pointing and denigrating others abeg!

ade4real2016:
■ They will never see sense in this epistle at all...Let them continue nah... Consequences await anyone that does not listen....

Consequences indeed...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Look at this one wearing blinders on one eye. Your very culture encourages such relationships. As a matter of fact, a woman is meant to sell her self in marriage to the highest bidder who then, after paying up her bride price, sits as lord — head— over her for the rest of her life. No be una culture be that? Dey there dey look for consequences for practices you probably already submit to without much thought.

Kholiwe:
As usual the Nigerians on this thread lacks sense of reasoning. So you cannot see he was comparing both countries when it comes to reporting crimes and having a database. Does your country have any reliable database talkless of knowing statistics of reported domestic abuse?

Unemployment in Nigeria is reported to be at 4.1%. Imagine such a joke!
The official divorce rate as of 2016 still stood at less than 2% when any Nigeria you ask knows that cannot make sense even if you rewound time back to the 80s in that country.