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horsepower102:
Number of kidnap victims per State from July 2022 to June 2023

Source!

dreamxhaser:
I am not saying she should stay and let him continue beating her. Thats wrong of him.
What i am saying is l, instead of locking him up like some random street thief, why didnt she explore other measures like leaving the house and taking the kids with her?
■ If she leave am stay with her parents while issuing concrate warning him for 2months, himself go feel guilty.

She, the victim, shouldn't have locked him up. She should have instead allowed her attacker to beat the living day lights out of her so she can take bloody pictures to post on Facebook and show her kids --- assuming she survives the beating ?

By the way, the police came and determined that there was grounds to have the man arrested and then took him away. But you ignore all of that to assert that it was the victim is to blame for why her attacker was arrested. Abi?

2. So, the victim should have allowed her attacker beat her to a pulp that day, then assuming she survived till the next day, escaped to her parent's home where she should then have proceeded to threaten her attacker for the next two months. And according to you, that always works magic?

And this is what passes for critical reasoning from you in the year 2023?

PastorFire4Fire:
■ Nobody is asking her to leave her marriage but the question is, was the man like this from the onset? He lost his job and he is depressed. Why not help him talk to people about getting another job and let him see your effort on that.

The average Nigerian is truly incapable of logically reasoning issues.

So, are you insinuating that this man's destruction of property and also violent attack of his wife, in the presence of her kids, was an attempt to resolve his frustrations, depression and joblessness?

Dmacqh:
2 wrongs can't make a right.
1. He has wrong attitude after his downfall. Can he rise , Yes. He lost job not his senses. He lost his pocket not talent. He should start from somewhere. I think he has ego. He wants to return to his former lofty heights, which isn't bad but he can start somewhere.
2. If you are buoyant, you can given him a loan to start a business.
3. What's your reaction and action to him since he lost his job ? Men ego are bruised when they feel inferior
4. He beat you. So does he deserve cell, Yes. But in this our part of the world, it will be somehow.
5. If you can , change location with him, so he has new environment.
6. Take him to his family, and plead your cause there, do the same as well to your family.
7. Pray to God, and keep your voice low when he's angry.

How was he, when he was feeding you ?

A man Jobless for two years uses the little money he has to smoke and drink, yet you think it makes sense to give such a man a loan to start a business with?.... Many of you folks will say just about anything to keep yourselves from outrightly condemning this man's actions as reported. But the same will not hold back from trying to level all the blame against the woman. Na waooo

sonofElElyon:
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Loveabove:
■ Can it work this way? I would find out.

Even if you can only show up to help wash clothes or dishes or read books to the kids at the orphanage, try to make yourself visible and available at the orphanage from time to time to help keep an eye on the kids. Let the kids know that even though you are not able to take care of them, you have not abandoned them and so they do not need to love anxious in the orphanage

adelafe2019:
■ O.P. is not truthful yet he is asking for our honest advice.O.p. did not disclose her age and occupation which would have helped us in giving advice.
■ People asked about the children's father(s) but she keep mute and still expects readers to give advice.
It seems the children had no fathers due to promiscuity of her sister and that is why o.p. wrote that she did not want to explain how they were born.
■ O.p. has made up her mind to drop them at an orphanage and only want your endorsement in order to justify her consent and for future reference.

Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore?

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something?

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day?

Luckysbab:
■ The marriage is over. Bring in your perfect UnAfrican man to marry her.

The way some of you think amazes me. So every marriage in Africa now abides by African culture, abi?

Verysmart101:
■ U are referring to the west but why does the same west have the highest divorce rate across the globe? Do u think something's about the west are better than our culture? Am not against op trying to resolve her marriage but u can't take a fatal step and not expect a fatal wound in that marriage.Since u are ready to accept the ways of the west in regards to marriage as perfect or better than our culture's,u should also be ready to accept same -sex marriage too since the west are perfect in handling marital issues that makes them have the highest divorce rate on planet earth

I am at all referring only to the at the West. Many couples right there in your very Nigeria were joined not under traditional ideas but in the courts. So, it is safe to say that culture does not rule over every Nigerian marriage as many of you here would rather like for us all to believe.

So, again, if a man and a woman were to decide to, after this sort of hiccup in their marriage, move forward with the marriage, why do you believe they should no be allowed to do just that?

Stevedison:
[color=#550000]Please what do you suggest she do? Being jobless for 2 years doesn't mean he wouldn't eventually ever get a job. Are you saying she should run away and leave the kids with him knowing fully well that he doesn't have the financial capacity to cater for them at the moment? Or are you suggesting that she takes the kids with her away from the husband?

The man's joblessness is not the reason OP created this thread. I get the sense that she would have continued to support her family as she has for the past 2 years had remained jobless for even the next 5 years. The problem is the violence. The man she has been caring for has turned violent against her and she is confused as to what to do next after the traumatic experience.

Sadly, she would need to take the kids with her because there is no stopping him from taking his anger out on the kids if she isn't there to take the beatings from him. But, yes, she needs to leave or have him leave so he can go tend to his frustrations elsewhere where he does not end up hurting them more than he already has.

Verysmart101:
■ Did u ever see me support domestic violence? Stop being emotional here. If Ur husband calls police on you no matter wat u did to him will u still live with him? Someone suggested she should have maybe take the kids and stayed with a relative or friend till the matter is settled. My ex who is married with 4 kids had similar issues,she took the kids and went back to her parents house. The husband later went there and apologized and assured his in-laws that nothing of such would repeat it's self. If u really want a marriage against all odds,u must be prepared to solve problems with wisdom not with police.Abeg have sense biko

There are many marriages world over that have recovered successfully after even such an intervention by the cops. But here you seem to think it impossible because of some stories you have heard or experienced in your own life. How come? Last I checked, it takes two — not culture or society — to make a marriage work. OP wants to try resolving her marriage even after this. Her husband may decide in the near future to get back his marriage. Why do you think or feel your culture should play a role in deciding for them what they can or cannot have in their marriage?

Verokeena:
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It is indeed not a crime as no one deserves to exist in a toxic environment or carry toxic marriage for head.

I cite Osinachi as an example to all women out there in Nigeria land who think to rationalize violence and foolishness in marriage. That woman must have
● prayed and fasted her brains out
● asked every third-party her husband respected, including pastors, to intervene
● persevered for so long under very violent conditions yet all the while submitting
● sung her brains out to God to get Him to come down and fix the relationship
● taken on the role of breadwinner so she could be superwoman in her marriage
● made certain her family was aware of the problem in the marriage
● had in-laws who were aware of the conditions in the marriage, even though they did not care to do anything about it

where is she today? She did not do anything to her man as she was busy being the "good woman" yet where is she today? Wormfood and she was made that by that same man she did all that to keep.

Verysmart101:
■ Auntie I asked her a simple question and Ur here typing unnecessary things here.Before u ever call police on your husband,be prepared to leave the marriage period.Its as simple as that

So, the same marriage can continue even after the man violently assaults the woman. But the moment a woman — or even the same woman decides she has had enough — and calls the cops to rescue her from her bully, there is no longer hope for the marriage. I don't know about you but that clearly reveals a problem in the mentality of individuals. Do you not see it?

Persephone1:
■ Kobo, I have made more than 5 posts on this topic and none of them suggest what you think I meant. No one is telling Op to remain as a punching bag in her marriage. If you read well, you will know my stance here is : Separation.
Unfortunately I'm not Op who wants to remain married, I can only tailor my advice towards her decision. In Nigeria culture you don't arrest your partner, they don't use law to settle right but put an end to a marriage, Op did that but regrets it. That's what my submission is all about.
■ On choosing to remain in marriage as a punching bag, I really don't know where you read that from.

Did OP state somewhere that her marriage to her husband is based on your assessment of Nigerian culture? Why do you keep insisting on examining it from that angle when OP never even said she subscribes to any of that?

Verysmart101:
■ Madam i hope u don't nag or insult him because of his condition? Cos women broke shaming or nagging at their husbands mostly pushes them into taking alcohol to avoid over-thinking. Well Ur husband will be more desperate to make it than ever before because the line was crossed.U need patience cos he will never forget wat happend trust me.I pray he will forgive you if he gets back to his feet because this thing really hurts his ego.Keep showing him u are truely remoseful so he would calm down.He would be fine it's just time

This attempt at a tale by moonlight reminds me of Osinachi

Osinachi is an example to all women out there in Nigeria land who thinks to rationalize violence and foolishness in marriage. That woman must have
● prayed and fasted her brains out
● asked every third-party her husband respected, including pastors, to intervene
● persevered for so long under very violent conditions yet all the while submitting
● sung her brains out to God to get Him to come down and fix the relationship
● taken on the role of breadwinner so she could be superwoman in her marriage
● made certain her family was aware of the problem in the marriage
● had in-laws who were aware of the conditions in the marriage, even though they did not care to do anything about it

where is she today? She did not do anything to her man as she was busy being the "good woman" yet where is she today? Wormfood and she was made that by that same man she did all that to keep.

Persephone1:
You see where you got it all wrong. I really hate it when people throw tantrums on baseless assumptions. Is this all you can deduce from all my posts? oh lawd! Are you saying Op should keep on arresting her husband if she wants to remain married?

Clearly, you did not grasp my response at all.

Again, you keep insinuating that OP's desire to have her marriage back means she now has to live as a punching bag in the marriage. I obviously disagree as I don't believe there exists any reality — or cultural excuse for that matter — where a sane woman who knows to call the cops when attacked, would consider settling into a toxic relationship as her only option.

Ilekokonit:
■ He now sees you as capable of killing him 'cos a lot of men have been beaten to death in prisons by hardened criminals and convicted murderers and you also never know if he was sexually assaulted in prison or almost beaten to death in prison.
I have a friend in London who told his wife before marriage that the day she calls the cops on him is the day the marriage will end because he is quite stubborn and will not go with the police quietly and in the ensuing struggle, they may end up breaking his neck or killing him in custody and he also told her that for her to call the cops to arrest, handcuff and bundle him down and out in front of his kids means that there is no way he will continue in that marriage as to do otherwise would be to set a bad example for his son in what he should tolerate.
Your only option is to get someone from your family that he respects to plead with him on your behalf 'cos if you try telling his family, they will blame you for jailing their son.On another level for him to feel that its your phone or nice clothes that were making you feel untouchable, there may be something about the way you argue with him or look down or talk down to him that is making him feel less of a man. If so, please make amends IF you still want the marriage.

Hogwash!

Persephone1:
While you have been on all pages ranting on and on without paying half attention to Op's desires. Worst enemies indeed

You keep insinuating that OP's desire to have her marriage back means she now has to live as a punching bag in the marriage. I obviously disagree as I don't believe there exists any reality — or cultural excuse for that matter — where a sane woman who knows to call the cops when attacked, would consider settling into a toxic relationship as her only option.

Jackanda1:
I'm shocked that you didn't condemn the husband who assaulted the wife. Instead, you're worried about her appeasing the husband and even begging with elders.

Why most of you women like to tolerate maltreatment is what i don't understand.

Nigerian women are their own worst enemies.... I don talk am many many times for here.

Blazebond:
■ Your husband did wrong by destroying your things and then also hitting you,you don't have to feel guilty about the issue that much, but I seriously advice that you sit your husband down and have a honest discussion with him as per what his next steps of action in life is and you also have to ask yourself if you want to stay with a man that beats you up whenever his is drunk and I fell that your husband might be jealous of you from the way he was speaking to you while destroying your phones and clothes.
Think about your safety and that of your kids,this might just be the beginning of abuse from your husband towards you.

After his violent beating of her, I would not recommend she be in the same room alone with that man unaccompanied by some other as a witness. The last thing she should be thinking of doing is giving him the opportunity to finish the job he already started. Again, the man remains unemployed and possibly even more frustrated after his dastardly act against his own family.

Samidecking717:
This issue at hand has gone soar,@op you can never turn back the hand's of time.
The damage has been done, if your mother in-law is still alive and you are in good terms with her and your husband siblings(f) take yourself and your kids to beg them for forgiveness.i guess he has not discuss these issue with his family and please note that your marriage can never be the same again with or without job.

Beg them for forgiveness for avoiding getting pummelled to death by their son? WOW....

albert2512:
■ You want to help her to brake her home? Not all cases of assault is habitual ma.

Just talk say na my attention you want!

Wodu89:
■ Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature?
Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not losing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality, you have failed Heaven

Wait a second...OP is about to be homeless. Do you want OP to go homeless with the kids or what?

Loveabove:
■ Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point. My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month. Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me. God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.
House rent has expired and problems everywhere. Since nowhere else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me. Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge. Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing. Please advise me on what to do.

Please endeavor to learn from your sister's mistake. Children are a burden that no one should think to have or take on lightly. Sadly, taking the kids to an orphanage may just be the best you can do for them at this point since as you said you have nowhere else to take them.

Scientists Discover Genetic Secret of Virgin Birth
By UNIVERSITY OF CAMBRIDGE AUGUST 8, 2023

While the concept of virgin birth has been historically linked to religious narratives like the birth of Jesus Christ to the Virgin Mary, researchers have now discovered a genetic trigger for virgin births in fruit flies. Once activated, this ability can be passed down to subsequent female generations. When devoid of males, these flies opt for virgin birth, a survival tactic ensuring the species’ continuation.

For the first time, scientists have identified a genetic cause of virgin birth, and once activated, this ability is inherited by subsequent generations of females.
Scientists have managed to induce virgin birth in an animal that usually reproduces sexually: the fruit fly Drosophila melanogaster.

Once induced in this fruit fly, this ability is passed on through the generations: the offspring can reproduce either sexually if there are males around, or by virgin birth if there aren’t.

For most animals, reproduction is sexual – it involves a female’s egg being fertilized by a male’s sperm. Virgin birth, or ‘parthenogenesis’, is the process by which an egg develops into an embryo without fertilization by sperm – a male is not needed.

The offspring of a virgin birth are not exact clones of their mother but are genetically very similar, and are always female.

"We are the first to show that you can engineer virgin births to happen in an animal – it was very exciting to see a virgin fly produce an embryo able to develop to adulthood, and then repeat the process,” said Dr Alexis Sperling, a researcher at the University of Cambridge and first author of the paper.

She added: “In our genetically manipulated flies, the females waited to find a male for half their lives – about 40 days – but then gave up and proceeded to have a virgin birth.”

In the experiments, only 1-2% of the second generation of female flies with the ability for virgin birth produced offspring, and this occurred only when there were no male flies around. When males were available, the females mated and reproduced in the normal way.

Switching to a virgin birth can be a survival strategy: a one-off generation of virgin births can help to keep the species going.

The study was recently published in the journal Current Biology.

To achieve their results, researchers first sequenced the genomes of two strains of another species of fruit fly, called Drosophila mercatorum. One strain needs males to reproduce, the other reproduces only through virgin birth. They identified the genes that were switched on, or switched off, when the flies were reproducing without fathers.

With the candidate genes for virgin birth ability identified in Drosophila mercatorum, the researchers altered what they thought were the corresponding genes in the model fruit fly, Drosophila melanogaster. It worked: Drosophila melanogaster suddenly acquired the ability for virgin birth.
https://scitechdaily.com/scientists-discover-genetic-secret-of-virgin-birth/

Honchoslim16:
■ you reside in the kingdom of God 😭😭😭 Bro, you are mentally unstable... Kindly visit the Doc!

It may not agree with you mentally but that is how to simply consider these things.

The idea is similar to that which applies say to Americans. It is generally understood that the Constitution travels with American citizens whenever they are abroad meaning they are to abide by the U.S Constitution even in the foreign land they reside in — though, in a foreign country, they are really not of that foreign country. In a similar manner, though I am in the world, I am not of the world.

LeyeWrites:
■ You're the one confusing heaven for the kingdom of God.
■ Jesus never mentioned hell for once.
■ It's simple. Man soul is made from dust. From dust it came to dust it shall return. Even though I'd like to think dust is a separate universe on its own. And that the dust man was made from wasn't what we call dust today.

1. Now this seems scattered. Heaven(Eternal reward) was never available to men until Jesus Christ arrived on the scene with the Kingdom of God. And He too made it clear to you that the only ones who can enter into Heaven(Eternal Reward) at the end of the day are those who are His sheep in Matthew 25 vs 31 - 36. He is the King and Judge in the Kingdom of God where Heaven(Eternal Reward) and Hell(Eternal Damnation) are under His jurisdiction. So, are you saying that you are not even aware of this?

2. As for Jesus never mentioning the word "Hell", are you certain, you have ever read through His Gospels for yourself?

29 If your right eye makes you sin, take it out and throw it away. It is better to lose one part of your body than to have your whole body thrown into hell.
30 If your right hand makes you sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. - Matthew 5 vs 29 - 30

Have you ever actually read a book of your own?

3. And so what rule stops the one who made man from dust from transporting that man into a Heaven/Hell which He also made?

LeyeWrites:
■ You made a lot of things up like: The soul and spirit are inseparable. Are you saying spirit and soul are the same? A question: is it the soul or the spirit that goes to Hell? Given, according to you, they're inseparable.
■ How can a soul go to hell or heaven when it didn't come from hell or heaven, but from God?
■ And lastly, when you say spirit, what do you mean? We know that the body is made up of organic and inorganic materials that forms a hand, eyes, legs and the rest. So what constitutes a spirit? What constitutes a soul?

1. If you are referring to Heaven and Hell in the Kingdom of God, then according to Jesus Christ it is the man ---- mind, body, and soul intact--- that goes to either Heaven or Hell - Matthew 25 v 31 - 46.

2. Where do you get this idea that a soul can only go where it comes from though. That is one problem you may want to resolve for yourself there. According to Jesus Christ, all those who are born-again become a part of the Kingdom of God with an end either in Heaven (Eternal Reward) or Hell(Eternal Damnation). So let us know where your idea that the soul cannot go where it did not come from is from.

3. What do you think the Spirit is?

TradingGod:
■ Was man with his soul and body in existence before creation? Yes or no. Was the Spirit of God in existence before creation? Yes or no?
■ Giving Glory to Yahweh is what man was created for, the possession of that young rich ruler was his glory, he refused to give it to Jesus and till today no man knows his name
■ In case you dont know, the greatest Glory that follows a man is an eternal name that will stand the test of time e.g King David, Abraham, Moses, Joseph, Isaac etc. When You Give God Glory, He gives you His eternal Glory that stand forever
■ It is the principle of the Kingdom of God, if you go to heaven today, that is what people in heaven do, they constantly Give God Glory and that is the will of the Father in Heaven that our Lord Jesus came to establish on earth. E.g all of Lord Jesus prayers was to Give the Father His Glory unlike others that pray to God for money or for death of their enemies

Matthew 6:9 This, then, is how you should pray:
‘Our Father in heaven:
May your holy name be honored;
Matthew 6:10 may your Kingdom come;
may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

1. No need for the meaningless back and forth please. Creation of man means creation of all that is man and again, that passage of Genesis 2 vs 6 - 7. Already more than states all there is to know about far as that.

2. Where in scripture is it stated in Scripture that giving Glory to God is what man was created by God for?

3. Where in Scripture is this claim of yours stated in Scripture?

4. Where is this principal which you claim stated in the Gospel teachings of Jesus Christ?

By the way, according to Jesus Christ, there are no people in Heaven today. Nor will there be people in Heaven until after He returns and judges the goats and sheep in the Kingdom of God. And no where is it written in the Lord's Prayer that we are to give Glory to God. I don't see how what can be interpreted as wishful statements in the Lord's Prayer amounts to actually giving Glory to God.

By the way, according to Jesus Christ, you are to pray the Lord's Prayer every time you wish to pray. Do you also do this?

Anyway, so where exactly do these ideas you hold really come from?

delkuf:
I wasn't talking to you

You don't believe nor abide by that which is taught by Jesus Christ Himself yet here you are pretending you are right to push that standard which you clearly reject at another? Care to take a guess at what this called?

delkuf:
you don't know anything about the bible. How can you have the holy spirit without believing in the Lord Jesus Christ and obeying God. When I said you having the holy ghost in you, I taught you will know this. Bro thank you

Jesus Christ in Scripture equally says that only those who are confirmed Holy/Perfect by Jesus Christ Himself can have the Holy Spirit aka the Spirit of Truth, so how can you claim to have Him?

TradingGod:
■ before God made man with his body and soul, was man with his body and soul in existence?
■ The mind of the man is the consciousness that came when the spirit of God enter into the nostrils of man with his body and soul
■ And if you dont Give Gid your Glory you will enjoy the Glory of God because for you to receive the Glory of God you must first of all Give God your own Glory. Take example the young rich ruler that ran away when Christ told him to sell all he had to follow Christ, if he had giving Christ his glory at that time, he would have received a greater Glory that will make his name popular in the bible just like Barnabas ( the son of consolation) that sold his only land and gave the money to the church, today his name is beeing mention in chruches, that is what the Glory of God will give you if you give him your Glory but the question is will you obey his command and give him your Glory against the oppinon of the world?

1. I fail to see the essence of your question here. According to Genesis 2 vs 6 - 7, we are informed that God made man— mind, body, and soul — before God then breathed life into man's nostrils. The passage does not say God made man partially or halfway, rather it says that God first made man(whole) and then God breathed life into man's nostrils.

2. Consciousness or life? Given that the same breath of life was equally breathed by God into other living creatures, are we also to assume, much as you do, that the consciousness of a virus, for instance, equates to its mind which is the spirit of God?

3. Please desist from making things up abeg! The rich young man who refused Jesus Christ simply went on to perish in the grave is all. Nothing big about that. God never said your life is some sort of glory and he does not promise that if you give him your glory, you will get more glory, so I am not certain where your ideas come from. Why no instead stick to doing only that which God in fact asks of you, which is rather than you submit yourself to and obey only His teachings and commandments in Jesus Christ, rather than pursue these meaningless attempts to convoluted the simple things of God?