₦airaland Forum

preciousee17:
■ Yh, I just thought I should point it out because the nature of some posts actually spread a wrong notion. The root words from the biblical words that translate into Blessed and Prosperity don't really mean what we think they mean. We tend to interpret the Bible to sound more Juicy than it should be. That Bible portion was even talking about the Soul prospering, not the Body, the body's business was to be in good healthy.

You say that as though the entire religion is not based on just that... wrong ideas and notions. Jesus Christ was specific about the blessings to be obtained by those who belong to Him beginning with the sermon on the mouth. However, your so-called religious authorities completely trash that which was stated by Jesus Christ, to suggest in its place ideas formed in their own minds which they refer to as interpretations.

Johnholt909:
Shut up, I have been to a couple of countries in Europe. I am telling you, women seek for comfort first. That is why a Nigerian lady could reject you if you don't have a car, some would even abandon you and go with a guy that has a car.

Again, stop fooling yourself with this nonsense reasoning. Work on improving your social intelligence and obviously your emotional intelligence skills while you are at it. You will thank me later.

Loveabove:
If you are sure the person will give them good care, please reply PM. Thanks

Don't mistakenly sell those children into slavery oo.. Human trafficking is very much alive in Nigeria there with thousands of kids being sold without knowledge of their guardians each year.

Jazmine10:
Can we continue this conversation some other time by GOD's Grace if you may? I gotta run along now.

Sure!

Jazmine10:
■ The scripture says while we were yet sinners CHRIST died for Us. "For GOD so loved the world that HE gave HIS only begotten SON that whosoever believes in HIM should not perish but have eternal life. There, in these scripture elucidates the unconditionalness of GOD's love. Now, it all is dependent on your acceptance of GOD's Love or not by the sacrifice of the cross, hence free moral agency expressed. GOD is not telling you do this, i'd love you. GOD loves you inspite of you doing or not because LOVE is who GOD is and that in itself has no conditions because truth be told, no mortal can meet up with GOD's laws and Precepts but by HIS Grace and Mercy, HE gave Us HIS HOLY SPIRIT which is the fulfilment of the righteous requirements of the law; hence in HIM we live and move and walk and have our being. Love my dear is unconditional.

In John 13 vs 1 and John 15 vs 1 - 14, the same Jesus Christ carefully explained to you those to whom His love really belongs. He carefully explained how it is only those who love him - John 14 vs 15 - 26 - that will not only receive the Holy Spirit from the Father, but they are also those whom He will do everything they ask for - John 15 vs 5 - 8. So, as you can see, God's Love, as explained by Jesus Christ, has always been conditional.

Jazmine10:
no, it is not. GOD is Love. The Love of GOD is unconditional.

No, God's love is not unconditional at all as it is conditioned upon not just your acceptance but also your obedience to His teachings and commandments, aka His Law. So, when God demands that His love is for those who trust and obey Him, He means that is the condition upon which His love would be revealed to one.

Jazmine10:

Love is very much conditional in all forms of it.

Jazmine10:
Unconditional would be metaphorical in describing Love, yeah? as in shining light so is unconditional love. Unconditional is more like a characteristic of love. And yes, Love is Love and in itself unconditional.

Unconditional can not be a characteristic of love given that love in and of itself is not unconditional.

YoungDaNaval:
■ I don't have any ulterior motives my boss. Her husband is my guy like we're very close....so I'm only trying to be safer side in terms of the car documentation.
■ I no want wetin go cause problem...you know we humans can be funny?

Is your sister an illegal immigrant that it ain't safe to have her as the sole owner of a car you claim you wish to gift her? If she weren't married, would you look for a male relative to put as owner of the car for the safety side of what? I am trying to understand clearly why you claim the gift is for your sister but you feel you need to drag the mention of her husband into it.

2. You are the funny human in this scenario.

kaybams1:
■ The light is on but no one is in the room….I won’t be engaging you further.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣See as him take aptly describe him own self abeg!

Jazmine10:
Love is not a myth. It is like saying Truth or Light is a myth.

Again, what is a myth is Unconditional love. Love itself is not a myth.

YoungDaNaval:
Greetings naira Landers, my only sister is happily married to a lawyer and this guy have been instrumental to me and my family since he got married to my sister. Now I intend getting a car for my sis because her office is a little bit far from their home, the problem now is I don't know how her husband will feel if I use my sister's name for the car papers. Now I'm contemplating between using only her name or including her husband's name to the document which made me to bring the question here. Please married couples in the house,I need your sincere advice.

Note: I don't want to discuss this with my sis and her husband because I want the car to be a surprise

If you want to buy a car for X, shouldn't you put X's name on the car? I mean this isn't rocket science at all since the gift typically bears the name of the one whom the gift is meant for unless you have ulterior motives for presenting said gift.

Rushna27:
■ Hello,see every mallam to his kettle..... When things was so bad I went out with less than two months old baby in search of a job and she started day care at that tender age cos I can't watch my kids cry of hunger....
■ hubby couldn't help as at then but tnx to God now.....I only said to do unto the children as she would do for her biological kids...yes truth be told its not easy cos flesh must surely set in....from her tone of the love she has for them it meant she can treat them as hers if she hadn't shown the love I would have jumped at her option....

So, things were tough but you still had a roof over your head and were able to afford daycare for your baby, abi?

2. You even had a hubby to fall back on even then. Compare what you said and OP's particular situation, and be a bit more honest, please.

Jazmine10:
■ You have a misunderstanding of that statement. We can say Love is Truth,we can say love is kind, we also can say love is unconditional etc. Hence that statement.
■ Love is the embodiment of all that and more.

That love is unconditional is a myth!

2. That only happens in our imaginations though and not reality.

kaybams1:
■ Harm in this context is subjective. You lots like to go around and oversimplify issues through prisms of physical aggression while neglecting emotional ones. Men’s emotional side aren’t so developed like women. So when they hit crisis mode, they sometimes go into default mode of showing aggression just to establish dominance. I’ve earlier said I don’t support this behavior but I can’t even have a conversation with anyone that doesn’t understand mitigating circumstances in the first place. It’s a sign of low intelligence. All those “no matter what…” chorus being sung here are mostly done by the naive lots that haven’t seen the paradoxical side of life.
■ If everyone keeps packing out of their marriages cos of this, probably 60% would be raised by single parents.
■ Have we even considered whether we have an adulterer on our hands here? In some climes these types are stoned to death. Yet you can masturbate over half baked stories that aligns with your cognitive bias. The whole story smells funny and I’m not eating it.

1. Harm is subjective? What the 4ork does that mean?

2. So what? Big whoop! Man, and woman, were not made for marriage. Rather marriage was made for man, and for woman. If the marriage ain't working why cling to it at the cost of your very own life? Would you rather remain in a marriage where your wife could potentially poison you or take your chances instead as a single parent out there somewhere? I hope this isn't rocket science for you!

3. So, what if she is an adulterer? What law allows you or anyone to lay your hands on a woman on the grounds that she has committed adultery or anything? What law grants you that pass?

kaybams1:
■ You keep sounding like a broken record… All over the place spewing thrash. Life isn’t black or white so when someone gives a side of the story an intelligent mind should read between the lines before jumping into conclusions. It’s easier to cast aspersions over a moment of irrationality and wipe off several other untold sacrifices that man have probably done for his family. Bitter feminists like this are all over infesting young women with bile advice that keeps leading to baby mamas and broken homes. Have you even asked what led to smashing of phones. Is it possible that the man have noticed the woman is always on the phone chatting with her lover while ignoring the man. Cos obviously he’s jobless. Is this to justify his actions no. But even in law there’s what is called “temporary insanity”.
■ We’ve all got our breaking point and it’s a terrible feeling to feel disrespected by a woman you call your wife. All these kids sef.

Temporary insanity only works when you are not inebriated, not when you are. The man was drunk. Let's stop fishing for excuses abeg!

2. Indeed we all have our breaking points, but the moment that breaking point results in your inflicting harm on others, you infringe on their rights and so must be made to pay for it. That is why we are carefully trained from childhood to develop self-discipline and self-control, so we learn to respect the social space of others as well as their rights. The world cannot resolve around you and your own issues when we each have our very own to deal with too.

culf:
■ Auntie, its not about cooking, read her post very well, marriage is better for worse for some of us.

Which marriage is for better for worse? If your own sister were being panel beaten every day in marriage, would you also tell her that nonsense?

occfx:
■ Report to who na...? I thought orphanages are government property.
■ Why do we still see homeless children on the streets when we have a place we call orphanage homes? It tells me that the so called orphanage home is nothing to write home about. I am considering the innocent children who may not end well in the orphanage homes.

1. How can all orphanages be governmental properties? By the way, all the more reason why it is pivotal that the citizens make sure to alert the government when something is not going well in any state-run agency, don't you think?

2. It seems to me that you are desperately trying so hard to be as unreasonable as possible. So, I think it is best to leave you to believe as you choose to. This is 2023, and with google at your fingertips, I see no reason why a grown individual should hold the ideas you do regarding the plight of the homeless children in Nigeria.

occfx:
■ OH never knew they have improved. So what's all these children I see hawking on the streets when they should be in orphanage homes? If Nigerian orphanage homes are doing well, we won't be seeing child beggers on the streets.

How many orphanages are you aware of in that Nigeria sef? Most of the kids you meet on the street are actually homeless — not living in an orphanage at all. So, if you know any orphanage that actually sends kids out to beg and hawk, then please go ahead and let us know so we report them.

culf:
Thank God I didn't marry someone like you, may God help your husband to be

STop dragging the many mentions of God into your claims since God never said a man cannot cook for himself even in marriage.

culf:
■ How did you know she called the cops at point of attack, with which phone? the one smashed?
■ This is Nigeria, twist it any way you like, her marriage need serious prayer.
■ even in mediation to lay man, police and court is not the first point of call for someone that want peaceful resolution and stable existing relationship
■ I want to believe its someone like you that misled her.
■ Like I say, the man is very wrong, his action is totally wrong but for the marriage, the woman has complicated everything.

1. So, she couldn't have called the cops with a phone that was smashed and she should not have bothered calling the cops even after the fact? Do you mean the crime shouldn't have been reported at all?

2. Her marriage needs prayer? Which God will answer this prayer you want her to pray?

3. So, when one partner pummels the other, your recommendation is that mediation is the next best approach. Would you also have said this if this had been the case of a wife-beating up her husband?

4. Someone like me misled her to call the cops before her life was possibly snuffed out of her by her attacker.

5. The woman complicated it by calling the cops and reporting the crime committed against her by her assailant. Marriage gives a man a get-out-of-jail-free card as far as crimes committed against his spouse, is that it?

culf:
■ YES, if my sister is in Nigeria and still interested in her marriage. This is Nigeria, This is marriage and this is culture. All these talks would've been avoided if she reported her husband or move out with the kids without getting him arrested.
The man 4ked up but her action put her marriage off completely.

Interesting! So, rather than call the cops to save her at the time of the attack, she should have allowed her attacker to beat the sheet out of her and then if she survived the assault, she should then report him to people(all so the criminal assault can stay covered up), or moved out afterward... WOW... Nigerian culture indeed seems tailored towards protecting culprits and not victims at all. No wonder!

shoboy9:
■ Have you tried gofundme? Reach out as widely as possible and forget pride. Ask for advice. Some will mock. Leave Mata and face survival mode.
■ Also involve God. I don't mean pastors. There is nothing God cannot do. What will you do for God if He gets you out of this? It's personal. If you are desperate enough, you will promise. If it's something you won't do, don't waste your time.
All the best.

How does she go about using GoFundMe?

2. Look around you at the millions of children that walk the streets from morning to night time all over Nigeria. God does not have his hands in these things that men do to themselves so it is probably best to leave God out of this.

culf:
1, what he did is very wrong, very wrong of him. Sorry about all the abuses and violence.
2. For your Marriage, if you're still interested in the marriage, get elders, friends and people he respect to come talk and apologise to him for you, tell him in their presence that you love and cherish your husband that its fear that made you do what you did.
.May God help your home and marriage
Verokeena

This is conflicting at best! He did wrong but she should bring people to apologize to him? How would you feel if your sister called you up after being pummelled by her husband to come beg him?

buchostags:
■ Let me paint a picture of what happened, he lost his job and after sometime you started thinking in your mind that he is becoming less of the person he used to be, you deny him sex, always form busy and serious. Then resentment started building in both parties. He resorted to drinking himself to numb. You stopped talking to him because you felt he should get it by now. Then issues after issues because he has become too sensitive.
■ Now psyche major is: respect him and see him the way he was before. Sometimes it gets a lot worse before it gets better. Something big might be around the corner. But if you want to leave him it's well. Think deep

So, because you imagine she resents him and even denies him sex, you feel that somehow justifies his destruction of her property and violently launching at her in the presence of his own kids?

2. Respect him? Did he respect his own self that you demand he be respected? He acted out like an animal and was treated like one, thankfully. Why are you demanding he be given respect when he did not show himself worthy of it by his own actions? Or are you one of those who think that by paying what you lot call a bride price, you automatically purchase respect for life or something?

true 💯. I saw the Op commenting on this thread I hope she’s not truly cheating

If OP were in fact cheating, would that somehow justify the animalistic behavior exhibited by the man?

Stevedison:
■ You have a point but I think it's rather too early to leave. He too must be feeling remorseful about his actions by now.
■ Don't forget she didn't really say what exactly made the man angry. We haven't heard from the other party although it's not enough reason to hit your wife.
■ But this probably is the only time it's happening so she should take care of her home and watch her back. If he continues like this then she can leave or have him leave.

He is remorseful you say. Did you not read what OP said of his reaction when she took food to him in the prison and how he has yet to say a single word since he got out?

2. No matter how angry you may be, you do not, never resort to destroying property or violently attacking anyone like a baboon. That is animalistic behavior. We don't need to "hear" from the other party to condemn such an act, do we? Cause I am having a hard time figuring out why Nigerians continue to struggle with comprehending this simple bit.

3. Probably the only time? Well, that only applies if and only if the culprit chooses to turn a new leaf. Till then, OP needs to distance herself and the kids from his ilk until he gets his sheet together.

Jazmine10:
Love is uncondional abi? Na you love somebody that lacks common sense. Love the person that way.

There is no such thing as unconditional love since love is conditional.

Chironks:
Love is beautiful, however, it can be challenging to manage. How can one look past the partners' flaws and love them regardless? Flaws in this context is when a partner lacks common sense.

Depends on what you mean by love and what you call flaws. Also, are you married to this person or still considering it?

GboyegaD:
Dinner:

Pounded plantain and yam with peanut soup.

What is your peanut soup recipe?

mukthar2000:
don't walk faster than ur shadow, just keep calm and watch Almighty God we send helper vie this NL, but complete story matter most for clearance propose.

Leave God and His mention alone abeg! Do you know how many Nigerians die each year waiting for imaginary helpers? Many of them warmed seats for years inside una churches and mosques... yet their ends were worse than that of flies, as they waited in vain for imaginary helpers.

occfx:
■ Life is full of challenges... If he cannot figure out how to feed himself at this young age I wonder when he will do that. The same person probably has a girl friend somewhere.
■ Assuming he has accommodation, the 8yr old can serve as "maid" to the younger one while he go out and hustle. Children easily grow tough skin in this kind of situation.
■ I am worried because, o[b]rphanages in Nigeria looks like Nigerian prison and those people make money by giving out children.[/b] If you restrict them from giving out these one's, they expect you to be bringing food ones in a while otherwise, who knows what will be there fate. If op wife dies God forbid, he won't take his children to the Nigerian orphanages. I even suggest he gives them out as a maid to some rich people in the village or town so that, they will be taken care of partially.

What is with the storytelling for heaven's sake?

2. You actually think it is better for the 8-year-old to serve as a maid in someone's house rather than being in an orphanage and likely still in school?

3. How many orphanages do you know that do that? Bring names make we report them abeg!