₦airaland Forum

NiRfreak:
➜How many times did your mother or her generation billed your father for initiating conversation.
➜Foreign women don't behave this way. Its a cultural problem that got worse over time.

I would ask you if you go out there seeking your mother in every woman you are interested in. That is more of a concern to me.

2. How many foreign women do you know of? Let's start with that.

lilsmart:
1. But na her papa go collect bride price
2. Last last, na her action for posting am online show say she couldn't handleo rejection and cant move on because the guy nobuy her food. I can bet that the said guy go don forget about meeting the girl.
3. You call Genesis 25:29-34 that describes how Esau, traded his birthright religious bullsheet lol I leave you for God
4. Na ringworm reasoning be this? Abeg, if person no get value for herself to even remember her mama talk say no chop for stranger, but instead dey tie her own dignity to whether person pay for amala or not, then wetin you expect?
5. Home training fly away, now she dey demand respect from the same stranger wey she dey beg for food from. Abi Na lie.

1. That is only if you want to marry her, which I doubt, so why is that your concern at this point when you never even passed the test to gain her interest?

2. Storyland! Again, stop pretending all women must like you and offer themselves up to you for free. Go find those you can afford, and leave those that you can't. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Again, religious bullsheet! Which God? They god of your poverty abi na which one? 🥱🥱🥱

4. Kai... ignorance is a sickness!

The girl required the man to at least buy her a meal— a base value — before he could access her time and attention. Obviously, she values her time and attention as being above the reach of those men who would not at least pay for her meals. 🥱🥱🥱

5. It is sort of like the same home training that taught you to value women's time and attention as a value for you to freely access on your own terms? That poverty home training that is left you all frazzled by this one woman's temerity that you pay for instead? Seems your hometraining has left you of little worth.

shineeye1:
"✓ The sacked staff claims she was dismissed after refusing to continue intimate relationships with two top executives — the CEO and the Head of Human Resources — relationships she says were initially presented as a condition for keeping her job and progressing within the firm."

Now you know how it takes a woman's butt and the brain to be a boss...

So her performance which shows she was best at the company no be brain?

shineeye1:
✓ No, na proud thing! Omúgó

You really must hate yourself if you really believe sex is something a human should attach shame to. 🥴🥴🥴

kennethesan:
But you just further blocked your chances of return to the company.

Youu don't know the law at all. Chai! 😫😫

Na why I like people in Asian countries — Japan, South Korea, etc. — where people take their employment rights seriously like say their very lives depend on it. 🙂🙂🙂

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜Performance report can very easily be fabricated especially since the boss himself was involved. As far as I am concerned, the millions of Kenyan shillings she brought to the company was in clitocurrency. She used tow-tow to earn it joor!

Whether fabricated or not, so long as the key indices by which performance is measured by the company indicate that she is doing well, she should not be fired by said company because her performance is poor. The company would need to come up with a better reason in this case for why she was fired apart from the one given.

NewLife14:
Exactly, earning that amount without a substantial extra from side hustle is a dangerous recipe 😁. Me as a single conservative NON EXTRAVAGANT guy, I know how much I spend a day.

Whatever extra you bring in that you cannot put together as part of your income is not worth mentioning in this case. If your official income does not exceed the minimum of Naira 670,000 a month for you alone, don't bother marrying or having children.

SAMBARRY:
➜that's what I tell women. You can't use s3x to keep a job.the moment they've passed you around and had their fill,they'll discard you and that's what jus happened instead have value and competence.
➜ be so skilled and good at your job that it will be so hard to sack you or get your replacement. There's a way a woman will be so competent at her job that the ogas won't be able to look at you from a s3xual point of view no matter how beautiful or sexy you are and even if they do they will suppress it because they don't want to take risk of offending you or wanting you to leave because they know the value bring not to talk of being alleged of sexual harassment but if you're a pickmesha or you're using your vagyna to keep your job the day another new babe enter the company your job is in trouble..
➜ See men for who they really are and you won't be enmeshed in all this nonsense. Whether he's a pastor, soldier,teacher,counsellor or Whatever he's still a man and he will do what men do which is to play on your intelligence but many women treat men like women.treating a man like a woman is like playing with a lion and expecting it not to bite you because you are playing with it

1. So long as what she did is not illegal, she committed no crime and so should not be faulted for her choice. She was offered a situationship by her boss and HR manager, and, being that she may also need sex, she decided to say yes to them both. It is actually that simple for some women. Of course, there was also the issue of having a person of higher ranking make an offer that is not easily refused, but apart from that, she did what felt would benefit her the most in the exchange. 🥱🥱

2. If you read the OP, she showed that performance-wise, she was the top-ranking person among all of the employees, as it shows she generated more income for the company than the other employees did for the year in question. So, why then was she fired?

3. Sure! But that is also why she should hopefully use the law, which clearly does not consider her act a criminal offense, to her advantage in this.

essentialone:
✓ See her forcing herself to work at another person's company. Why not start up her own company and grow it to be the most successful company in Kenya?

Wow ... Being a Nigerian does some serious mind job of individuals! ,🥴🥴🥴

By demanding that her rights as an employee be respected and standing on the law to do so, you take it to mean that she is forcing herself to work at another person's company? Let me guess... Are you one of dem tinubu-tincan bots online? 😒😒😒

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
✓ While men used their brain to advance their career, your Kenyan sister decided to use her poo-c, now she has changed her mind but got sacked. Shame.

That's not what the story reveals. Instead the woman had both brain -- the company's performance report showed she brought in the most money to the business for the year in questions-- and body --- the boss and HR managers both initiated the relationships with her. So, why did the rejected lover think it OK for his dick to replace his brain in this?

essentialone:
✓ Was she raped? If she was not raped, then she is a...

Was the boss himself raped by her that he would think to fire her for calling off the relationship? You mean the boss is also a ... since he is the one who initiated the relationship which she later called off, right? 🥱🥱🥱

kiddaz:
Selling her puzzay to secure her job = garden tools. And she's someone's seriousy... No shame. Passed around like a roll of kpoli.

Nothing wrong with selling what you have to get what you want or need. So long as no crime is committed and all involved walk away satisfied, that is no different than your everyday demand-and-supply chain that runs their very world you live in. 🥱🥱

tunapawizzy:
Olosho dun dey get confidence ..these Genz people will not finish us

So, when a man sleeps around that also makes him an olosho\hoe, too. Right?🥱🥱🥱

2elliot:
✓ What of the undue advantages you enjoyed compared to your colleagues who weren't sleeping with the boss and HR?

Assumed advantages such as?

If she caused no direct disadvantage to her colleagues by her sleeping with the bosses, why would she need to worry herself about any such? 🥱🥱

babajero:
shame on her for dishing out herself cheaply.

You means say when person ask you for sex and you oblige, na shameful thing to you, abi? 🥱🥱

Tailorcaesar:
➜Chai. I go explain taya Bro I no dey fold hand dey hold for my salary oooo Me na hustler oooo I believe Igbo guy nwanne,

Again, stop lying to other people to rope them into miserable existence!

Cromagnon:
Nah You are the one disconnected I know ppl married with 50k Just cos you can't do it doesn't mean others can't Just de thank God for your own and move in instead of trying to impose your standards for others. No be everybody de wait for rain to plant seed

. That you know millions of people doing it does not make it less wicked a thing for them to do. Anyone who would knowingly inflict generational poverty on their own lives and that of their children is wicked.

spiSeyi:
➜If she no think am poverty might frustate her (there are lots of married women who don't want to sleep with another man but the poverty level in their marriage led them to such), I still maintain my stand because women mind are flexible and they can easily bend to pressure. A lot of married women are into low level hookup just to put food in the table especially those one who don't like unnecessary drama at home. If your wife doesn't bother you about anything their is a big god somewhere.

I don't blame such women. I can't find it in myself to blame married women who find they have to resort to hooking their bodies to feed and provide for their children.

Lexusgs430:
➜Only for those, who love to twist the narrative or take advantage of others...... 😉 Traditional, Registry or church, they all have same interpretations and applications......

Registry marriages are partnership marriages by default, where the man and woman are equal partners in the marriage. In contrast, your traditional and church marriages are configured as the man as the head(master) and the woman as the subordinate/helper/slave to the man. So, you can see where you are wrong in assuming they are the same.

DelphiOracle:
.......but then. What kind of man was her ex husband? Haba nahhh. I pity the children shaaaa

Start by asking what kind of father sold his own daughter to that man, and you immediately learn much about what kind of man he likely was.

dollypi:
At a point, Wife selling was common in the UK

It is still happening to this day in the UK.

delpee:
➜Great pity that her problem started with her parents giving her out at 15 with no education or skill to live by. The chances of receiving help from them is slim so running back to Lebanon may not work out positively for her.
If there are laws that make men responsible for the upkeep of wives and children up North, she could key into that. I only know of Lagos in that regard.

There are clearly no laws since the result of Sharia up in the north literally litters all of Nigeria( I am referring to the Almajiri system that is enabled by Sharia).

Saladdin:
➜It's what occur in some part of the MENA region. When last have you seen kids been sold in Nigeria this way?
➜ Or should we use the bride-for-sale sham in Eastern Europe to generalize the whole of Christianity (which would be be very inaccurate to do)?
➜Avoid stupid and inaccurate generalizations please

First of all, this sort of thing is sanctioned by Sharia Law, which is wholly Islamic. According to Islamic law, girls are ripe for marriage the moment they are considered mature. (The definition is left to the interpretation of individuals since some consider even 4-6-year-olds mature for marriage. Worse, Islamic law also allows some of these girls to be sold into what is referred to as temporary marriage — muta'a.

2. Second, I am of the mind that religion is just barbarism carried over into what should be a civilized era. You gain absolutely nothing here from making this a my-religion-vs-your-religion exercise.

Also, the video you posted says nothing of the scheme being linked to Christians, as the reports instead link them to bridegrooms of African and Asian descent living illegally in the EU and in search of European-born brides from poorer places in the EU to give them access to EU papers they need to remain in the EU.

3. This is literally linked to Islam — Sharia law, and Muta'a allows for the sale of women in Islam from one man to another man. This is literally taking place even today in the UK where Sharia law has appeared on the streets of cities in that country.

Dpsychologist:
➜In my experience, some of the most dependent women I’ve known — emotionally, financially, and physically — are also the loudest self-proclaimed feminists.
➜ Let’s be honest: knowing the vocabulary of feminism isn’t the same as living by its principles. True equality is not in slogans or hashtags — it’s in the choices and responsibilities one is willing to share. And maybe that’s the uncomfortable truth, that beneath the labels and ideologies, most women still crave structure, leadership, and the security that comes from a man who provides. Perhaps the problem isn’t that they don’t believe in equality… Maybe it’s that equality is easier to demand than to practice.
➜ This is what i term the Feminism Paradox. What do you think?

1. In today's world, there are lots more men out there who find themselves as stay-at-home husbands in the provider-type relationships. Such men are rightly not described as submissive, dependent, or under their wives. That's because these men are equals in such relationships to their working wives. Their situation can be likened to that of two business partners who share the dividends of the marriage, including the paycheck brought in from the one partner being able to work outside of the house together. The same applies to women who seek equality in those semi-traditional roles — stay-at-home wives.

The same way being dependent on your boss for your salary DOES NOT make you less of an independent human being, is the same way a man or a woman who decides to be a stay-at-home parent/partner can be in the type of relationship you described while maintaining even his/her financial independence. (In such settings, financial abuse, along with every other kind of abuse, is unacceptable.)

2. True equality can also exist in Provider-relationships. (This is removed from the traditional configuration where the woman is subjugated— expected to submit and have the man as her leader.)

3. No paradox here, just so many wrong assumptions made on your part regarding the relationship type you seem to pretend can go only one way.

Dpsychologist:
➜You are here again Just like MTN.

Oh! So, you created a thread, and I am not supposed to post a comment? Let's all try to stay focused, OK!

Juoflife1:
Good old days. The men we have now are nothing to write home about.

The good old days when your ancestors would literally kick out a woman and her children— render them outcasts in the community — at will when he is done with them?

Jman06:
➜You are very much right, Ishi! Those who missed out on getting good spouses and those who have passed their prime without being married would tell lots of bad tales to demonize marriage and get young people scared of getting married.
➜There are good marriages around but nobody talks about them! Me I'll be very happy to meet and marry my soulmate soon and enjoy marriage

WOW... you think the tales of bad marriages out there are told by people who wish to demonize marriage? 😩😩😩

Also, do you think telling these unbalanced stories of what you consider to be examples of good marriages—many have rightly pointed out that these tales in the OP read more of tales of men doing all the sacrificing — is right as it seems more an attempt to invalidate the fact that the vast majority of marriages out there are bad? Why

2. Sure, there are good marriages, but they are only a handful when compared to the numerous examples of bad marriages out there. So, what exactly is your purpose for trying to claim that there are those out there demonizing marriage when married couples are all the evidence for why marriage is not for everyone?

pussyphilia:
➜You had serious misunderstanding with your husband or boyfriend and later he finds out he was at fault. And you're very angry and pissed off with him. Then having realised his mistake, he comes to you and kneels to apologize profusely to you. Is this something you'll love and readily forgive him or is it a turn off that would piss you off the more? Guys, can you kneel to apologize to your woman or do you consider it "unAfrican" and makes you less a man? Remember it is a very serious misunderstanding! Perhaps she caught you cheating or something like that.

Is it African to insult or hurt a woman, but un-African for a man to kneel to apologize to a woman?

If abuse is involved, I would recommend, they both go their separate ways immediately. We have seen and learned enough to know that people mostly only think to properly process their faults in romantic relationships after an extended period of separation from the ones they hurt.(This is assuming they even care to learn or change their ways.)

Shaketable:
It is always the man sacrificing time, money, resources, energy, what is the woman sacrificing? Where are d stories of women sacrificing for men, all these men r simps

. You are absolutely right to question the goodness of the tales told by the OP of those marriages being good, as it does seem that those particular marriages instead showcase the man having to do much of the sacrificing rather than it be bought couple doing for each other. That is one of the reasons why I didn't bother to indicate any of them as good since I am well aware that the typical Nigerian image of a good marriage, good man or good woman... most of the time depicts a one-sided view, never really balanced.

Gerrard59:
OP has been a long time Nairalander, that is the only reason I could believe the tale. So after all the attitudes by your wife, you both relocated to the UK? Wow!

Should he have left his wife back in Nigeria while moving abroad or something? For what purpose? What gain would there have been for him if he had left his own wife back in Nigeria to permanently move abroad alone?