₦airaland Forum

Bar1941:
➜Hmmmmm!
You still find a way to defend your Israeli gods. Based on what you wrote, you stated the local Christians were in conflict with the Muslims, but now, are the Christians in conflict with the Jews too? This kind mentality of yours is pathetic.

Local Christians are literally being murdered by Islamists. How does that compare to a Jewish soldier breaking a statue? 😒

jaxxy:
➜u didn't read to understand u read to reply.
Halal food is not about any rituals based on what I know, it simply organic based veges and meat rather than the ones produced by biochemicals and additives and initiated for healthy alternative by muslims nations like dubai, saudi its basically a brand. . I am unaware of any rituals but will verify.
EU have their own strict policy for only organic foods be it halal or any other healthy options.
if u have a problem with the brand name I can understand but its about healthy food and that why EU approved it.

For the umpteenth time, ignorance is not bliss! 🥱🥱🥱

letskeeptalking:
➜I'm exhausted from reading some of the replies here.
➜ the sad part is that this is the reality in most marriages.
➜ Most men refuse to take accountability, because they think that somehow, it rests on their wives to make them! I don't get the rationale!

It is what happens when you have ignorant and immature people pretending they are capable of raising other human beings well. 🥱

2. Indeed! The vast majority of Nigerian marriages are merely weapons fashioned against the woman in the marriage, and many of them are too scared to leave; many more have been indoctrinated through tradition and religion into believing that there is no life for them outside of marriage, even now that we all realize that is far from the truth.

3. The society, coupled with a terrible upbringing for many of these men, does not give them a clear picture of themselves, let alone how to take accountability for their own decisions and actions. 🥱🥱

Thazard:
✓ You definitely don't know how it pains to be from a broken home.
Don't hurt your kids.

A marriage is broken then moment one of both partners are no longer invested in the success of the relationship. Most people from such homes think divorce is the worst that could happen, not because they are happy with the damage that is their particular family. It is because they have been made to believe divorce would make their fears and anxieties,which they already have from being in a damaged situation, much worse than it already is. 🥱🥱

Divorce does not damage people; what does is living in a broken home while pretending all is well, yet living in a heightened flight-or-fight mode literally every time you have to be in that damaged home. 😩🥱

FuckYeyeMods:
Wetin I know be say, I can't heal with my wife still leaving together.
I made a very big mistake but I sincerely know that my children need her right now. I won't give her custody of the children or any of them. But I also know that I'm not really ready to take that responsibility alone right at this moment. What about my career. Will I shuffle between work and cooking, bathing and taking full care of the children. All those question keep coming up in my mind.
I won't give my parent any of them and she can't go with any of them.
✓ She can't make a man out of me, how on earth will I allow her to have my children.
Sincerely, my wife is a case study and not a good woman. She's a very bad example of inter tribal marriage.
Unfortunately, her family are no different from her.

The answer you need is shared custody. You get the children 50% of the time each week. That way, she can care for them for sometime and you can too. 🥱🥱

2. What the f-k kind of statement is this? Why make a woman you are meant to be in a romantic relationship responsible for making "a man" come out of you? That job belongs to both your father and your mother's job and your wife is not your mother. If your parents did a terrible job raising you in the way you out to be, then the onus is on you to re-parent yourself well so that when you decide to go into a romantic relationship with anyone, you are already what that person wants in a man and not some fixer up mission or whatever it is you have there in your head. 🥱🥱

If you realized how derogatory such statements are to men, you would never even air it in the open. 🥱🥱

desireoge:
✓ You are very correct my queen . I don't really want to be selfish that's why I have put the children and a lot of things into consideration.
✓ Somedays we are good, some days a resent him, because his lack of empathy and selfishness is 2nd to none and he doesn't even notice it.
✓ I have accepted his character and I'm dealing with it in a way that will not be detrimental to my health again, because a lot of things have really gone south.

1. But you are actually not putting the children first but last. Children learn about relationships and marriage first hand from their parents. And as it is, you are teaching your children that not only is marriage a miserable partnership between a man and woman, but that the best way to live their one life is to live it in fear of the unknown. 🥱🥱

2. Either a marriage is good or it is bad. It can't be both. That you are willing to lower yourself to tolerate more than you would have had you loved yourself and your children more, does not mean those good days are actually good in the sense of the word. Study after study have proved that relationships are not meant to be balancing acts. Either two individuals are working together to the good of it, or both individuals are better off not together at all. 🥱🥱

3. A lot of things have already gone south and you continue to hold on ... meaning you might need to expect more and more of the same downturn in the marriage, right? And this is the best example you want your children to learn from you about what it means to live and love in life? 🥱🥱

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SIRTee15:
So your friend don't have 250 dollars per month for health insurance but can blow over 5000 dollars flight ticket just to fix his teeth in naija.
If he has health insurance, he will see his dentist within a week.
And most standard hospital that will give him satisfactory service in naija are private and don't come cheap. For dental extraction he may be paying upward a million naira, which is rightly 1 thousand dollars.
CS in Reddington is 5-10 million and kidney transplant is over 20 million.
So what exactly is the penny wise, pound foolish trip your friend embarked on.

You dey mind Nigerians and their many fantastical tales! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

desireoge:
✓If you leave, you will be lonely o. I don't know what he has been doing to you anyway but if he's not physically abusing you or cheating with abandonedment, please stay.

You already confessed to being lonely right now in your marriage. Isn't the worst kind of loneliness the kind where you are surrounded by a crowd yet living like one who is unseen and unheard, the kind that married people experience? At least single folks have options to change their outlook, environment, attitude without worrying what anyone else would think or say, unlike married lonely folks who are chained to the part they are to play in the marriage? 🤔🥱

letskeeptalking:
✓ Wow . . this is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing, and I'm glad your marriage has been restored!
Do you think things would have changed if you, as the man, did not make the first move? What happens that when the other person sees your forgiveness, not as a grace, but as a acceptance of bad behavior?

Don't let people deceive you with their cock-and-bull stories. 😂😂😂

The long and short of that ridiculous tale that his wife cheated and the he cheated back in revenge and the suddenly, all those who must have known of his wife's cheating began to show concern and boom..wife began to change ..she suddenly stopped cheating and he too suddenly found marriage books on how to be a better husband ...reads like a very bad Bollywood script if you ask me. 🥱🥱

Face forward and pull your head out of the clouds. Do you plan to cheat in revenge or something? Are you suddenly thinking that you cheating might resolve your marriage? Don't do it! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Patented:
Feelings are fleeting. Una two suppose go see thrapist before una finalise divorce. cos most times na 2 people dey damage the marriage.

. A man who is having affairs in the open does not need to visit a marriage counselor with the woman he is cheating on. He already played his card for her to see. It's up to her to decide if her life is worth more than continuing to play house maid and baby mama to him. He has already move on from her though. 🥱🥱🥱

Cherryediva:
No one is an island of knowledge. I want advice from people who have more experience than me.

A man who has no dream or ambition of his own will drain you of all of your energy and vitality like a vampire in to prop himself up and make himself look better than he really is. You on the other hand will not come out without many regrets. Better take whatever regrets you may already have and leave now, not wait to rack up a whole load more before running. 🥱🥱

Shedrack777:
✓ kobo, I just dey look you.
Ok! We listen, we don't judge. But please as a woman, if you are tasting the waters, please just make sure you don't pin another man's pregnancy on an innocent unsuspecting man

No woman owes you anything, not even her body or her time and attention. If you don't want to be pinned with another man's child, find yourself a woman who you will treat well enough for her not to want to do that to you. And keep your fingers crossed even then. Men are polygamous, so are women. 🥱🥱🥱

Shedrack777:
✓ I don't have a problem with a woman testing the waters as long as she don't take another man's pregnancy and pins it on another man, which is very bad. Let her avoid a community preak so that she should become a community p****. but let her not just take another man's pregnancy and pin it on an innocent man that's my only problem.
✓ And my reason for making that comment is that if you find out now, you will see that her brother is also a community preak

1. You don't have a say as far as a woman's choice to test waters or not. She gets to do whatever she wants to do with her body... And if the man does not want another man's baby pinned on him, he can as well leave the woman. Every one is free to live and love as they each choose. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Her brother can be a community dick; that don't mean his sister has to settle for one herself. 🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
3. Acts 1:3-4, 12-14 (Disciples wait in Jerusalem for 40 days)
Context: After the resurrection, Jesus appears to the disciples over 40 days and instructs them to stay in Jerusalem.
Related Verses:
Acts 1:3 (ESV): "[b]He presented himself alive to them after his suffering by many proofs, appearing to them during forty days and speaking about the kingdom of God."[/b]
Acts 1:4 (ESV): "And while staying with them he ordered them not to depart from Jerusalem, but to wait for the promise of the Father, which, he said, 'you heard from me.'"
Acts 1:12-14 (ESV): "Then they returned to Jerusalem from the mount called Olivet, which is near Jerusalem, a Sabbath day's journey away. And when they had entered, they went up to the upper room, where they were staying, Peter and John and James and Andrew, Philip and Thomas, Bartholomew and Matthew, James the son of Alphaeus and Simon the Zealot and Judas the son of James. All these with one accord were devoting themselves to prayer, together with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers."

Note: The disciples remain in Jerusalem for 40 days after the resurrection, awaiting the coming of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost.

Problem is that the mention of the 40 days is of the period after He was raised from the dead, insinuating the period before his eventual ascension. 🥱🥱

1. The first book I wrote was about everything Jesus did and taught from the beginning
2 until the day he was carried up into heaven. Before he went, he talked to the apostles he had chosen. With the help of the Holy Spirit, he told them what they should do.
3 This was after his death, but he showed them that he was alive, proving it to them in many ways. The apostles saw Jesus many times during the 40 days after he was raised from death. He spoke to them about God’s kingdom.
4 One time when Jesus was eating with them, he told them not to leave Jerusalem. He said, “Wait here until you receive what the Father promised to send. Remember, I told you about it before.
5 John baptized people with water, but in a few days you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit.”
6 The apostles were all together. They asked Jesus, “Lord, is this the time for you to give the people of Israel their kingdom again?”
7 Jesus said to them, “The Father is the only one who has the authority to decide dates and times. They are not for you to know.
8 But the Holy Spirit will come on you and give you power. You will be my witnesses. You will tell people everywhere about me—in Jerusalem, in the rest of Judea, in Samaria, and in every part of the world.”
9 After Jesus said this, he was lifted up into the sky. While they were watching, he went into a cloud, and they could not see him.
10 They were staring into the sky where he had gone. Suddenly two men wearing white clothes were standing beside them.
11 They said, “Men from Galilee, why are you standing here looking into the sky? You saw Jesus carried away from you into heaven. He will come back in the same way you saw him go.”
12 Then the apostles went back to Jerusalem from the Mount of Olives. This mountain is about a half mile a from Jerusalem.
13 When they entered the city, they went to the upstairs room where they were staying. These are the ones who were there: Peter, John, James, Andrew, Philip, Thomas, Bartholomew, Matthew, James (the son of Alphaeus), Simon, the Zealot, and Judas (the son of James).
14 The apostles were all together. They were constantly praying with the same purpose. Some women, Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers were there with the apostles. - Acts 1 vs 1 - 14

The above passage does not suggest that they waited 40 days in Jerusalem after Jesus Christ of Israel ascended. Rather, it suggests that Jesus Christ of Israel stayed around for about 40 days before he eventually ascended into the heavens.

otherway:
✓ Talk to him and recommend products.
Sometimes sef, Nigeria economy can't make a responsible man lose sex cravings.
Tell him to give you head nah, at least if gbola no work, make tongue work. Abi you go kuku dey use intimacy gadget

Recommend products to a man old enough to be her father who refused to help himself before she showed up? What is she? A savior to this man who refused to save himself? His mother and father? 🥱🥱🥱

Antichristian2:
➜All these are irrelevant to the thread!

If I asked you the question, "Can God die?" Your response may come back from your religion regarding your Allah, who is just a god to me. So, yes, this is actually quite relevant.

P1PrinceKT:
✓ I am a Muslim I agree that every parent/guardian should train thier children in their presence or else government should prosecute the parents.
Or I forget that most of the parents will be willing to serve jail term to have access to free-food.

No one will be willing to do it if both the man and woman would be subject to hard labor while serving the jail term without access to each other. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Chilipepper:
There’s a married woman in my compound who does this thing; anytime her husband comes home late or they quarrel, she changes the padlock and refuses to open the door for him.
”Yesterday, the man stood outside for over two hours. All of us came out, begging her to open the door. She refused. Eventually, another neighbour had to accommodate him for the night.
This morning, the man went out and came back with a truck. He packed all his belongings and left.
That was when the woman started shouting and begging, calling all of us to come and help her plead with him not to go. Nobody answered her.
Me: She’ll learn the hard way. Who locks a man out of his own house? Spoilt brat".

Useless stories... where are the pictures?

Biodun556:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqpeEp02qXQ?si=nBhGtZUqRtji5eAy
Almajiri children I met in 1980s now bandits, Says Ex-Naval Chief, Vice Admiral Samuel Afolayan Olajide

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1AMkaMaCWD/

What do we expect when a religion encourages men to have children and then absolve themselves of responsibility for their care and the raising of them? 🥱🥱🥱

Donsilase:
✓ Good day family,
As far as I could remember my issue started when I was in secondary school, back then I use to crush on this particular girl, for the 2 years i was in the school I tried my best to make this girl fall for me but this girl kept rejecting me. That made me felt less of myself and killed my confidence to approach a lady because of fear of rejection. To make matters worse I managed to have a girlfriend after my secondary school but the relationship which lasted for 3 years but didn't work, It was as if I was forcing the relationship to work until I finally heard the girl was about to get married to someone else. That event made me isolated myself from women and focus on building my life. Now I'm in my early 30s and I need to settle down but my love life is so messed up that I can't even keep a regular communication with a lady for straight 1 week before getting bored let alone a relationship. I tried a couple of times but its not working, I have lot of female numbers on my phone but I don't chat with any of them, I don't even have female friends except the old ones.
How do I help this

What you need.is not a romantic relationship but to focus your energy on your emotional and social well-being. From what you wrote about your past relationship, you seem to be going at relationships in a forced manner, and that there is indicative of issues at your core that are yet to be resolved. Please, invest your time in instead building your emotional and social intelligence along with learning to (healthily) love yourself. 🥱🥱

Shedrack777:
✓ the more she keeps testing the water makes her a community p***y

But you are ok with someone's daughter spending her life strangled with just one of the numerous community dicks out there? 🥱🥱

Yeah, women should go with testing the waters since men aren't serious about keeping to one woman. 🥱🥱

Adonispco:
Women like free things while men don wise up to the reality in the dating world today.
Only my mama love me no other woman love me na survival tactics to enter any willing maga purse.

Women out there are not trying to replace your mama. If na your mama you dey find, then go date her or her mates. 🥱🥱🥱

Also, women like free things same way men like free things. If you no fit pay for woman time and energy, again, continue with your mama instead. 🥱🥱🥱

Belurved1:
If this girl no con see another suitor, she go ves for her brother o.

Na! Her brother got her back... that is more than enough happiness to last her. 🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
Will end up marrying a chronic cheater... Women don't like outright true. That's why playboys get more cookies than guys who are real.

Hopefully with this she knows to divorce him immediately and move on to the next... Rinse and Repeat. 🥱🥱

A woman gains absolutely nothing from saddling herself with one community dick for extended periods when she too can be sampling them as she goes. 🥱🥱

Rilwayne001:
✓ Dated a girl that told me checking her phone is a no no, even in marriage.
Na tthere I know say this can’t work.

That does not mean the girl was wrong for having boundaries nor are you wrong for having yours. It simply means you both were not compatible and that is 💯 OK. 🥱🥱🥱

ElGenio39:
Ok, her lost another lady,'s win.

And is that other lady comes complaining of his cheating, you lot would swear she knew he had no issues with cheating before going in, right? 🥱🥱🥱

sandra2025:
✓ I bet you, the lady is not ready for marriage because of ordinary comment. Even her brother that screenshot the comment for her, is also cheating on his girlfriend/wife. Men are polygamous by nature.
✓ The best thing she would've done is to caution her guy and make him reaffirm his love for her. She would soon turn to evening newspaper with a childish mentality.

Ordinary comment? Your ordinary comments on nairaland tell us a lot more about your character than any other curated speeches can. 🥱🥱

Anyways, the man is single so run go catch am since you are desperate for marriage.🥱🥱

3. Caution a man not to cheat? Was your mother and grandmother able to get that to work on their husbands? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱