₦airaland Forum

They know what to do , they won't just do it. Their gods needs blood of the masses

Justicemelvin:
Na now dey break. Yeye pple

The ladies knows, but they like toxic relationship

brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!

What product are you selling bro

Zee0007:
God when? Even 1 thousand naira I no get for account but see person net worth. Kai! When will I boast of even 100k naira for account?

anything you do , don't stop dreaming

Sonofgod1990:
He's not advertising it for the poor.
2.8 million dollar is not much for the property. Just that you don't have the money


I'm getting a property for my in-law there. I have called ovia already

My brother what can we do? see how they are syphoning money to our face. 10 billion as how now ? have you set up 100 million for the kidnaped ibadan student, Have placed 50million bounty on kidnapers? Have you setup 1billion naira security fund for teams that would get them back home ?

omo!!!

ndudiogeleka:
They quickly set up 10billion for their cronies to share by forming task force but a critical insecurity issue is there no action nor task force ..

Have you heard of boredom ?

brain54:
I wonder why grown ass men would lift pictures from the Internet and create tales from it...

Get a better job, PR for APC is not cool

helinues:
The 2027 election will be so soft like pap as it's one way direction

Nigerians don't have any issue with replacing president, but make opposition sha no mention Atiku or Obi as the replacement cos they might see the other side of the Nigerians

They can only say that to gullible Nigerians , the first person in the picture is Dangote, that is a private jet way back before people can even afford to own a car... the private jet has datata boldly written on it.

Even Otedola's father was former Lagos state governor

Emeskhalifa:
Exactly but anytime they want to do awon motivational speaker, they will start telling us of how they started from the scratch with nothing

Africa self , not west Africa, I read somewhere that his grandfather was the first man in Africa to deposit 1million naira in the Nigerian bank

Emeskhalifa:
Na so your friend Dangote told us he started from scratch

Person wey hin granpa was the richest man in West Africa as of their time

Allow them , they are adults. I only pity the innocent citizens

You are right, but I've noticed one thing in relationship, if your friends and family talk down about someone you want to marry, it could affect your judgment to a great extent. But lets face it , there's no perfect human anywhere, no perfect marriage also. In fact, marriage is all about fight and unlimited forgiveness.

intruder15:
Your tale is quite different. In your case, you ended the relationship due to family pressure. In his case, he is acting like a control freak. My guess is that he hasn't done a 9 to 5 job. If he has, he will know that some companies are very dramatic to approve leave in December.

Irrespective, he is acting like her opinion doesn't count which is a very big red flag. Even if she forgives him and moves on with him, she will see premium tears in the marriage.

So, family's myopic mindset can affect his thinking.

I'll share a quick story of my own similar situation.

Some years ago, when I was still a Muslim, I wanted to marry a Christian lady. She was everything a man could pray for in a woman. Since I wasn't deeply grounded in Islam, I decided to explore Christianity. But coming from a Muslim home, you have to ease into it because telling a Muslim family that you're becoming a Christian can be very risky.

Ironically, my mother would occasionally visit churches whenever she heard about a pastor performing miracles, but my late father and my four elder sisters are deep Muslim.

Back to the story. I loved this lady dearly. I was her first boyfriend. She was an accounting graduate, had a good job, was beautiful, decent, and a devoted MFM member. She introduced me to her church, and I loved it. For the first time, I found a way to pray to God without feeling burdened by ablution. In Islam, you must perform ablution and maintain your prayers consistently before feeling worthy enough to ask God for anything. But in Christianity, I felt I could simply pray, and I felt fulfilled. I was ready to become a Christian and marry her.

At the time, my mother lived with me. She knew this lady was good for me. She knew I loved her. Yet she decided to play the religion card.

Once the family heard I was planning to marry a Christian, everything changed. Even my younger brother, who hadn't stepped into a mosque in five years, suddenly remembered he was a Muslim. Everyone turned against me, and in no time, I had to let the lady go.

It broke me.

She got married about a year later, while I spent several years without another relationship. I made sure I became a full Christian. If for no other reason, it was partly to prove a point to my family: I may not have married her, but here I am; a Christian. Do your worst.

Then something interesting happened.

About two to three years later, when I still hadn't brought another woman home, my mother started telling me almost every day how much she regretted letting that Christian lady go. She would sing her praises, talk about how good she was, and remind me what a decent woman my Christian ex girlfriend had been.

That is family for you.

Would you blame me for ending the relationship, or would you blame my family?

The lady had already seen all the signs that my family didn't welcome her, yet about three years later, the same people wished they had acted differently.

What I learned from that experience is that families sometimes care so much about us that they begin to see us as a prize that can always attract a better bidder. It's like owning a precious stone you think is worth ₦100,000. Then someone comes along and offers ₦500,000. Suddenly, everyone around you starts insisting it's worth ₦1 million.

So my advice to you is this: if your fiancé doesn't share that same myopic mindset, you may want to reconsider the marriage before making a final decision.

AdisGlobal01:
SHE_NEEDS_YOUR_ADVICE

My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.

His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.

I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.

Then his mother called.

She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.

When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:

"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"

I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.

That was when he dropped the bombshell:

"No presence. No wedding."

I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.

I was wrong.

The wedding was officially cancelled.

My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.

It broke me, but I did.

Months passed.

Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.

What he said left me speechless.

According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.

Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.

Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.

As if the breakup had never happened.

As if my feelings didn't matter.

As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.

Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.

His response shocked me even more.

He said:

"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."

I blocked his number immediately.

But that wasn't the end.

A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.

My father told him clearly:

"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."

Still, he refused to accept it.

Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.

Now I'm beginning to wonder:

Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?

What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.

I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.

My question is:

If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Foreign companies keep making huge monies from Nigeria, since the government won't fund small scale business to grow into large scale.

Naso, she might even be the bread winner of the family

where is your shop in berger so i can be patronizing you

Watianoengineer:
I started September last year with a capital of 800k.


Fire extinguisher as at then 25k.

I bought two tokunbo 62kg cylinders called bottles for 170k each.

Scale 100kg 80k.

Hose and tap and verve for filling 6kg and 3 kG cylinders cost me 70k.

Shop rent per year 150k at ojodu berger.

Fire permit.... 10k

Association levy 10k.


Total cost plus other miscellaneous expenses got to 750k.

As for now things are for more expensive than before. If you are starting with two bottles budget close to a million naira.

May God help u

Apparently, Tinubu can't safe this country. We need a transformation ASAP

You don see millions now , the boy don cute

Boladogailese:
See cute baby boy pray he becomes the new welbeck

Okay here are the reasons: 1. Have you heard of wickedness? 2. Its cheaper 3. You don't have to buy beans .

It will even taste almost the same

dawnomike:
What kinda madness is this again!!!

What exactly could be ger reason for this if not an act of evil!!!

I can count one thousand things that this government can do to stop this nonsense, but they won't do it. They also know what to do, they have intelligent people in their cabinet.

Everybody can communicate if you promise them good money.

All skills are still very valuable you just have to me top 10 percent to make money these days

Me I just hate when Igbos think yorubas can't do business and we won't survive with their trade, go and check the multinational businesses driving the economy and work force they are majorly occupied by yorubas and hausa

udeh3:
Is there an iota of truth in what he said? If we can't accommodate ourselves in same country which suppose to be for Nigerians, why then do we complain about how we're treated overseas?

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere

He's looking for controversy to revamp his music carrier

Dangote built close to 1k mega watt within 1 year. The entire Nigeria can't build up to 5k maga watt since 1960. How can anyone defend this

To be honest I've met some coppers that doesn't know the difference between is and was

I can bet 1million naira , she already have someone she's dating.

No just dey waste your time. If she ever comes back to start acting right , it is because her relationship with the new guy didn't work.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Get ready for a permanent increase in fuel price.

put it back into where you got the 7million except its a gift. You are not ripe enough to start doing stocks ...

Roseodd:
Should I use my 7 million to buy mini bus or I should buy Treasury bill please
I need urgent advice please

what's the name of the app

MONEY247:
I walk more than 10,000 steps almost everyday. I deliberately do this to born excess sugar and excess calories....

Downside is you get kinda slim...


You should try it

You no dey over look things

Parachoko:
Abeg wetin the Governor mean by the bolded?

Na Africa be their dumping ground.

erico2k2:
them go face Africa and Asia market only lol

Go and get a better Job bro, doing PR for Tinubu is not sensible regardless the amonth they pay you. Your children will ask you questions one day

PulaPower:
You people claiming opposition are just not brilliant at all. Same lame empty story. How’s he not bothered? Nah by words dem go recover those kids? The kids you're referring to would soon gain freedom, no be by making noise..

That being said, are you not happy that states are no longer borrowing to pay salaries? I won’t be surprised if you’re sad that states are no longer paying salaries, but that’s your own personal problem..

All of una propaganda towards tinubu never worked out till date. Why? Cuz you people are just empty. Una go try taya and nah still failure go end ham!