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End of the road

Please man of God don't leave us. Please sir!!

Nairaland is encouraging hatred, tribalism and ethnic bigotry among Nigerians. It's no longer funny.

Raine80:
You can't seek a cure by entertaining a relationship that sent you to such depths of despair. She is not your salvation, you are. You need treatment but not just the pharmacological kind. Some intense psychotherapy in addition to this would make a difference. This problem started before she left you, she manipulated your weakness which was your self esteem. This I believe has always existed. You need professional help to assist you reset how you view and approach relationships. This will help you in the future. That is what you should be trying ton focus on , hope. I wish you well.
Ps. Why do you still have her number?

Not anymore. I have since moved on. I am just sharing my experience with those battling depression. Read through the post again. And understand that I won the battle.

shestrong:
I thought you wr sending a message of hope,I was happy opening this thread,I thought I cld brighten up a bit...disappointed

read through the post again. I learnt that suicide is never an answer. There's light at the end of the tunnel.

kanzjude:
If you are in portharcourt, we can team up on my business idea. Very real and innovative.

Am in Lagos

joshkke:
Or you invest 3-4M in a good A list Nigerian movie. You won't be the sole investor cos budget will be about 20M, but your funds can get you 20%-25% equity. If yous carefully choose the right project can bring in 30M-100M in profits. You get a share according to your equity. It is risky, true, but if you choose the right project, the results are astounding. 9-12 months gestation.

I don't really get this sir

dennisworld1:
let's discuss it open plsss. what's your location

Gbagada, Lagos state

dennisworld1:
everybody with his own suggestion. I bought fairly used and I know what I saw

are you into the business too?

WhistleB:
Open a Bet9ja betting shop with class. My brother you will make 100k a week. What part of the country do you want to set up?

Thanks bro. I am already considering that.

dennisworld1:
with 1.5million roughly calculations. u can setup a bet9ja mega/VIPs shop. rent a big shop close to the road maybe 25k monthly rent of 1year which is 300k make sure that no bet9ja shop around you. buy 10desktop, about 3 40inch plasma TV. 6.5kva deasil self wed gen which can carry 1.5hp A.C and your desktops computer with no wahala, don't buy fuel if you don't want to spend more, deasil cost is cheaper if you buy from the black market which is 1k for 10litres. maybe new one worth 300k. or fairly used worth 100k. look for super agents to approve your shop. buy 4g router. subscribe monthly like 10k. furniture and banners of about 150k. slide window and doors of 200k. load your account with 100k each in the 4 account given to u, also buy A.C and fridge to sell can drinks, hire 3sales cashiers with a guarantors form attached salaries of not up to 15k-20k to resume by 8am and close by 7pm. don't look the business and say it is for the agberoes. look for the profits u will get. Do you know how much all this betsites owner eg Alabi makes weekly. I will those guys make moneys out of punters roughly 40million naira I may say that is a lot to become a millionaire. just be their agent and get your little bonus. this business is hotcake everywhere. cyber cafes owners dun port to bet shop owners. that's all maybe. your profits will be massive if people start trooping in for visual games. also buy 1small corolla to run around. the remaining 1 u can buy a plot of land with C of O depending on how cheap it is and use your profits to starts your foundation. U can as well give me inside too.

Thanks so much for your candid suggestion. Am so grateful. I will be needing your contact. Am a novice in this betting business

WhistleB:
Open a Bet9ja betting shop with class. My brother you will make 100k a week. What part of the country do you want to set up?

Am based in Lagos state. I am seriously considering Uber and betting shop. Can 5m handle both biz comfortably?

Hello nairaland. I am a graduate in my mid twenties. I recently resigned from my place of work after saving up some money to start up a business. The big dilemma here is the business to venture into. I honestly don't know any business that can guarantee me about 100k monthly. I have been able to save up over 5m. I need your sincere advice. Help a friend please. Thanks.

A little over one year ago, I shared my devastating battle with depression on Nairaland. I remember how the singular act of faith saved my life. I was lucky enough to reach out to the public, before my next phase of suicide attempt. One year after I shared my story on Nairaland, my life has changed for good. The words of encouragement I got from Nairaland went a long way at healing my pains. I have comfortably settled down. Have got my business, my apartment and now enjoy those luxuries i never thought of beforehand. I have got all I thought was never possible in those gloomy days.Here is the story as shared on Nairaland 22nd of June 2016. I believe most of us still remember this story. I pray it gives hope to those battling depression. Tomorrow holds something better for you.


I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise.

This is the story as shared.

Now, my message is this, Whatever you are passing through at the moment, just know that time is the greatest healer. Suicide is never an answer and never an option. My attempted suicide left my family with so much pain, talk more of a successful attempt. Read motivational books, and I recommend these series FORGETTING YOUR PAST, STARTING ALL OVER AND DISCOVERING YOUR POTENTIAL, all written by BOB GAS. Be positive minded and don't allow circumstances around you to swallow you. Be open to people (loved ones) about your ordeal. Do not keep the battle to yourself while allowing your inner demons to eat you up. Get your body and soul busy. Always remember that whatever cannot be cured, must be endured. There's certainly light at the end of the tunnel. Cheers!

The youths constitute over 60% of our population in this country, but our voices are never heard. Have we not tried old men enough? Is it not about time we take our own destiny in our hands. It's about time we fix this nation as youths. Can't we create a political party ahead of 2019 presidential election? If We can rally round our own candidate, just the way we rallied around Efe, don't you think we have saved this country? All the big companies in Nigeria are owned by these old men. Have you ever seen any of these old men as suicide bomber? It's only our youths. Look at how much we love our football clubs (Chelsea, Man u, Arsenal, Barcelona). some can die for their football clubs, but we don't have the same passion for out country. We can start with a hash tag #youthfor2019. Nigeria is not yet a failed nation, our youths have the final say.

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Lalasticlala come and see you. It's a front page material

MrFuckallday:
Use it for Australian study visa ASAP. You'd triple it in less than 2 years.

How can I go about this

okenwa:
Start a distribution chain business

How lucrative is this business please?

TheDriller:
Shine ur eyes o and beware of those who will want to scam you of your money, remember, the ultimate decision rests with you.
If I were in ur shoes and I have 5million to invest, I will not put all my eggs in one basket. I will go for Uber with one car, and then put the remaining money into another business.

I am grateful. Uber is a very good option. But how lucrative is the business please?

Hello nairaland, Please I really need an advice as a matter of urgency. I have 5m Naira to invest but as the saying goes "money is not everything", I just can't think of where to invest the money, or any business that I can set up at the moment. Considering the economic condition of the country, I need sincere advice and suggestions on where to invest the money, or any lucrative business that I can set up, which will guarantee me substantial monthly returns. Help a fellow please..

Whatever happens, just succeed. Success will bring back those that walked away from you when you needed them the most..

alignacademy:
OK

I assumed you had worked for maybe 20 years or so

Cheers!

I can't possibly be starting life after working for 20 years as assumed.

alignacademy:
"The plot thickens..."

With all those years of work behind you, I'm assuming you now have a family and dependants.

That's what makes taking the plunge very difficult.

Because nobody wants to know that your monthly sales have been a bit slow; you still have pay your kids' school fees.
And the landlord will still want his rent paid.

Your case seems deeper than at first blush. I advise you get competent advice before you make any major move.

Peace.

Am still a young boy in my mid twenties

alignacademy:
Hmmm

That motive may not help you pull through the rigours in business.

Being "exploited" involves many factors, including not taking responsibility for one's life. Y'know, the old "Massa-will-take-care-of-me" mentality. That is the major obstacle that wastes people's lives.

Perhaps you could look into getting a steady career and then if business is your thing, do it on the side. If the business grows, no one will tell you when you need to commit full-time

I have worked so hard that at this point in my life, all I wish for, is to be my own boss, or have people working for me

alignacademy:
Your question seems broad.

Everybody is different, however the key costs you'll face will include

- Accommodation
- Transportation
- Feeding

Since you're starting out, you need to find ways of keeping these costs to the barest minimum. That is, until you can generate enough cash flow to "upgrade".

How to generate cash flow?

Remember the proverb about the lizard and the rat. The lizard dived into the pool, swam to the other side and quickly shook off all the water on his back. The rat copied him...and then tried to shake off the water, but couldn't, as his fur was deeply soaked...and the rat died of cold

In short, you'll have to find income-generating activities that will "rhyme" with you as a person, based on clear motives.

By the way, why are you thinking of "running your own business"?

Don't want to exploited by someone and at the end, I will have nothing to show for the time, energy and resources wasted.

Lalasticlala please help me out.

moblix:
Try to invest with it,it will b OK 4 a good start up investment

What sort of business please?