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[quote author=aisha2]Being open in a relationship solves a lot. When you build a honest open relationship you build trust, trust is earned, and it's hard work to keep it going. Most people expect automatic trust even when they are so secretive and sneaky.
If a man cannot give you a straight answer without so much story there will be doubts.
If you cannot freely leave your phone and always seem to be hiding and locking it there would be doubts and those doubts will lead to the csi mode.




Some men feel it's not macho to be honest and so this can create issues of trust. I believe when you are open and clear there would be less distrust and distortions.[/quote]


On point!

I organised a small surprise party for him and a bottle of his favourite champagne. He was surprised and happy. Incidentally,he bought presents for me too (after all, we are one and by virtue of that,its my birthday too.lol)

Victim one concern them

[quote author=ntbaby][/quote]Tankio

Na you Chika be the proper "street urchin"!

babyosisi: Lay down the rules firmly and tell her that if she doesn't abide by them,she will have to leave
as simple as that
Don't beg or plead or try to reason with her
Lay it on firmly and don't depart from it
looks like she is a spoiled brat

What is the plan by the way
Is she applying to school
Looking for a job
What is she doing just sitting and drinking tea at 19?

And the fears you have about pregnancy say it out to her hearing without any colorations and add HIV to it while saying it
That way if she is sleeping around she could at least use protection

And Ebola too..

There is nothing in those boxers joor.

SAMBARRY:


so how come prosteetutes haven't gotten married then

They are not praying.

wear red panties. Pray, lose weight.

it is well

widowed murderer

Feigning love for a lady twice your age for money and contracts.

Wearing your boxers for months without washing...

Always crying for sex even when the lady isn't feeling you!

Not recognizing when ur lady needs space.

Saying "I love you" on the first date just to sleep with a lady.

bellong: Alright... Just wanted to be sure you are doing fine.

Thank u. God bless u and urs.

bellong: How are you doing? I have been trying to get hold of you.

I dey o. All my phones need deliverance.

Lol...

He prolly doesn't mean it that way...

It cracks me up when my daughter says stuff like "u are no longer my friend" or "I am no longer your daughter"...

But the parents of the boy should tone down the chastisement though...

Izzzalie! Victor osuagwu!

Fine boiz...

Kai kai kai! U people no go kill pesin.

The reason I would leave an unhappy marriage is because of the kids.

Imagine the convo between me and my 4yr old daughter:
"mummy,daddy is always shouting at you". I replied and said
"no darl,his voice is naturally high.so when he talks,u would think he's shouting".
"No mum,that day on grandma's birthday,daddy was shouting at you".
With a silly smile on my face and knowing full well that she was right I said he was shouting at someone who upset him and not me and her final response dazed me. She said:
"No mum!near the gen set. He was shouting at you!" And I kept quiet.

Months later,she heard daddy shouting at me again and says "mum,I told you that daddy is always shouting at you!"

I have never heard my dad raise his voice at my mum and the last thing I want to do is raise my kids in the hostile environment I was living in and make my daughter believe that its ok to be shouted at and talked down on and even assaulted by your husband. Or make my son believe that its ok to be hostile to your wife like dad is to mum.

My husband's attitude was influenced indirectly by his father's hostility to his mum and I want my son to grow up differently with another mindset.

So staying because of the kids is certainly what I don't believe in.

It was because of this mentality that my MiL stayed in her unhappy marriage and developed high blood pressure.

Life is too short to live in misery and unhappiness.

My mum, wonderful woman. Wish I could be like her sef

My dad, I wish my hubby would be like him in all aspects.

funny Peeps...

Na wah oo...

Let his family marry him.....

I would jejely thank my God and pocket the damn cash.. it was just fun

But then, hubby started acting all serious so I stopped taking it..

Lumpyy: Wow.....sounds very scary oo,thank God for ur hubby and b assured she will reap wat shes done!

Its a promise, not a curse... she go reap am because God knows that I have not done any wrong to her to deserve what she did to me simply because I corrected her children.

longjohnsilver: What if...just what if he happens to be the last child and they have him 14 years after their marriage

Do the maths

Looooll... u're funny.

Pls do the maths ooo

Biko kee ihe nwoke a na ekwu ebe a?

5minsmadness: Op no disrespect but how old r u?

His folks have been married for 28yrs. Do the maths...

I swear you people haff finis mi! Hahahahahahahahaha..

So u didn't mention Ini Edo?

Hmmm...i dey look this list with corner eye o...

bellong: What is the meaning of the bolded? That he will no longer allow any female friend to visit him or will not have sex-ual female partner?

I wouldn't understand why any man will make such a ridiculous promise. His being married shouldn't stop him from having friends among the opposite sex except he is known to be promiscuous. If he can't be trusted to make good decision and comport his vessel, then I don't think you need to waste your time hoping and believing he will change.

The bolded in that post meant "away match" with any other female.

What's up you? Been searching for you all over.

Dolce and Gabbana spring/summer collection 2014 had different Ankara prints.

Islie: pls do go and read what the OP said in her write -up
u will see that he discourage his ex to come and visit him...... she said on several occassion she wanted to come but he sail NO,
but, she now decide to come with her friend thesame day she was arround..... thats why i said she should have stayed back.... and let them know she owns the house, she owns the mans heart, she is in control

Isle, her fiancee would have turned them back at the gate.

He went out to meet them.

They asked him to let them in and give them food.

He let them in and had to send someone to go and buy fuel!

Inasmuch as i agree that op would have stayed back,i am also of the opinion that her fiancee should have acted accordingly by firmly insisting that his ex should go home.

It goes to show that his ex still has some hold on him.

Well,i hope you are ready to fight and cry for the man you love for the rest of your married life.