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Hier:
dude, leave them, get a new apartment

Thanks, same thing I'm thinking

Hier:
Before you rented the house, who did you pay the cash to? Whoever you paid to is the legit owner of the house and speak to a neighbour about it. They would know better, but wait, I pray peace upon that house in Jesus Name

The both were present and they struggled the cash from me

desse:
candid advice schedule a meeting to meet both of them ask who shall u pay to since both of dem are requesting dat u credit their accounts,,,,if dey insist u bring d money in cash refuse until dey both reach an agreement i believe if u delay their payment they will reach agreement soonest.Nd if eventually dey reach a compromise pls donot make transfer u may forget d day u transfer d money take ur time walk into d bank make a deposit keep d teller slip ,,u can easily rememba d date from d teller nd more so u hav physical evidence of payment in case d wife chose to delay issue of receipt if she find ur action not too cool wit her.

Thanks a lot bro

Jen92:
Have they settled?

Not yet oo

Jen92:
Just ask in style if the banks are different. Ask the man that the wife sent her account, and seems her bank is more convenient for you. Just be diplomatic like is not your business and see his response.

The man must have known the wife will come to me that's why he privately asked for transfer, I'm sure he doesn't want his wife to know, same thing with the wife.. guess that's why none is asking for cash payment

Craziestgirl:
If the last payment you made was to the 'landlord', without any written/witnessed evidence instructing you that ownership has changed, you should pay to the same landlord.

The day I went to make the payment in cash, I stated earlier that the both were present and they struggled for the cash from my hands, so I can't outrightly say I paid to the landlord, but the landlady was the one who gave me receipt

I'm sorry to bring this to the romance section, I don't know the appropriate section to post it so I presume it will garner more viewers here.

Guys pls I rented a self con last year and when I went to pay for it, the landlord and his wife were there, the way they struggled the cash from me made me wonder who was the owner of the house. Just last week, prior to my renewal which is next month, the landlord told me he will send me his account number to make the transfer for the renewal, and just two days ago, the wife also told me she will send her account number to me for the same transfer. Now I'm so damned confused on who to make the transfer to, as this might result to enmity btwn me and either of them.

NB: the husband doesn't know the wife requested I transfer the money to her likewise the wife.

@lalasticlala mynd44

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Headlesschicken:
Stop generalizing sh!t young man, just cos u got d chance to hit an office puna,n yuh now feeling like a bad guy,we all know that d pucci x for everyone n for someone,buh d everyone comes first n d someone comes last for a reason...

k headlesschicken

lilmax:
this even proves why your topic is entirely useless

k

rs172:
I'll advice you and your guy, to go to the hospital to know your hiv status, I'm suspecting foul play..

I'm okay. The guy got infected sha, but he's treating himself(not HIV)

lilmax:
then cancel the line "she's not yours till marriage"

it's clearly useless

standing ovation for you for ignoring the part I said there's a 100 percent chance the married ones will still be hoeing around. Boy, read every goddamn thing

lilmax:
here we go again with the "she's never your woman till you marry her"

who says married women don't cheat?

and when we check the girl out now, its the MONEY DRIVEN FLASHY GIRL you had

the ones that don't have sense

read again, I said there's a chance of married women cheating too

lilmax:
here we go again with the "she's never your woman till you marry her"

who says married women don't cheat?

and when we check the girl out now, its the MONEY DRIVEN FLASHY GIRL you had

the ones that don't have sense

the girl didn't request dime from me. The only money I knw she asked from me was 1k to complete a payment for one cloth she wanted to buy. So pls...

jakandeola:
guy shut ur mouth why put this blog is wrong ur saying girls cant be fateful. are u a dog DAT will like to marry a girl others are banging. am a mature guy wen am in a relationship I dont sleep around

ure drunk, wen u get ursef, read the post again and comment

When a hear a guy say "she's my woman alone", I get amazed and laugh out so loud at some guys ignorance. This might be long but it's worth reading. This happened on Monday, earlier this week.
There's this girl I met last yr at my work place and boom, we started off. Tbh, she initiated the so called relationship cos she sent me the text message immediately I gave her my number. This girl acted so innocent, claimed I was her all in all, claimed she never had sex since 2015 she broke up with her last bf, claimed she had no other guy in our work place, bla bla bla bla bla... Came to my house severally and we went down severally, always played the victim card that I don't love her whenever I don't call or send her text. Mehn, I felt like I was the bad guy then treating a good girl wrong. But fast forward Monday this week, my guy queried me on why am always seeing his gf, I asked him who, and he said my so called gf, I laughed. Then I realised this girl was and is dating my guy before she came to me. My guy nearly fainted when I told him everything that went on between us.
Then he also realised that the girl used same message she used to toast him on me. Almost all the text she sent him, she sent to me. My guy went sick immediately. I chilled him out and apologised that I didn't know.

So I want to advise you fellow guys out there claiming she's your woman alone, it's a lie. Nothing like that ever exists. She's never your woman alone until you marry her, even after marriage, there's a 100percent chance she's still sleeping around, so wise up guys, wise up. This is why some guys commit suicide when similar thing happens to them, don't kill yourself cos of a woman. Just don't let a woman make you sad, it's very inappropriate.

@lalasticlala @tosyne2much @toks2008 @mynd44

My God. So cheap.. leme go withdraw all my life saving, both past and future savings

tamethem:
Your response shows you are at fault and she has the right to get mad. So when she said she was quitting , if truly you loved her , you should have said sorry and tried to explain. If afterwards she was still adamant then if you acted the way you did , you are on course.

well, I tried.

Brownhypo:
Are you an introvert?

yes, I am

Shugargal:
You mentioned you just quited your relationship of five years, how have you been in that relationship till up-to five years? that means your gal has been the one suffering it, you need to learn how to be a little bit emotional, don't be too proud of what you can do, learn to have human feelings, show care and sympathy and forget about being cold cuz you can't live alone, like me that am very emotional, I go just die be that having your kind of person around. I know people can Bleep up but give them second chance.

I stay in Abuja and she in aba. I was actually on my wat to Abuja from aba when she sent the WhatsApp text. She said cos i didn't tell her I was leaving and yes I didn't tell her

lalaray:
u have a high sense of Independence, find ur self spiritually. U have high moral standards, can't stand people who pretend, u can also see through people and their lies. Contact me for more

u got me

Mankosi:
For you to post this here shows u are still thinking about the person so what's ur point? U said u have deleted the person from ur memory but posting this shows u have not.

k

ChiefSweetus:
Why are you dating a 5yr old

lol my bad. I meant to say a relationship of 5yrs

Daeylar:
I'm confused.

How can you say you quit people easily when you kept a relationship for 5 years.
I'm sure through out the 5 years you were with her you've had multiple disagreements but you didn't give up on her easily or clear her memory from your head.






I can do this

I stay in Abuja and she stays in aba. Though I met her wen I was in aba

MissRaine69:
It is a defence mechanism. You have learnt to cope with life disappointments and other unpleasant things in life by choosing not to deal with them in a confrontational way or process the emotional aspect that would be associated with such things instead you compartmentalise and behave as if it never occurred. This leaves you vulnerable and also makes people think you are callous and cold. It’s not easy to find a way around this because this is the way you cope with things unless you can afford to explore other ways via psychotherapy for example . I would not be so hard on myself if I was you.

Sometimes, I do think I'm never gonna have friends, I'm never gonna keep friends. Other times I do feel I was created to be cold, stoned, and not depend on anyone

Toks2008:
Read this.

https://www.nairaland.com/3610005/before-fire-shots

Thanks a lot

Toks2008:
Just learn to see the good sides of people and understand that you are not also perfect.

this doesn't even occur to me, the idea of quitting them overshadows every other thinking

Hy, sorry to bother you, I don't know if anyone of you here is peculiar with my situation. I tend to give up on people easily, like a minor misunderstanding with the person, I clear their memory from my head instantly and it never comes back.

My 5 yrs old gf broke up with me earlier this year and I acted like nothing happened, I didn't even reply her breakup WhatsApp message.

I have a friend today and next day, I quit them and it doesn't even bother me. Since I'm growing older, it's started to bother me and I'm deeply worried prior to my relationship life.

I met a girl last week and cos she couldn't reply me on time on WhatsApp, I deleted her number and everything. It happens to me every time.

Pls I don't think this is normal, I need help.

There were a lot of things that happened or decisions you took or things you ignored that made you have regrets in 2018? Can you talk about them?

I regret ever dating that girl that was only a parasite to my relationship last year. I regret ever meeting her. I've taken a decision to leave anyone who will add nothing to my life this year behind.

@lalasticlala mynd44