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Duggedised12:
see this one, you really are ret@ded lol,so yo see my comment as hate? Lol what will some not see on this forum,a vermin with a useless LovePeddler of mother thinks everyone is like the females in his family. OK come and fix me , since you obviously have online human diagnosis. I am waiting,meanwhile how do you want the thunder that will fire you? Loud or silent?

Yawns. Try harder. You took ten light years to come up with this thrash. Waste of fees. Should have been sent to do menial jobs. You're as stvpid as you're broke intellectually. Nigga's got beta use of time. Now. Stay fvcked. Damaged being

BiggyB242:
They are married Uncle Kunle, once the girl's parents gives you the permission to take their daughter and her bride price has been made she automatically becomes your wife.

No they aren't as they both have not stood before God, but till now have only stood before tradition, parents and men. She wants God's blessings and wants to stand before Him unblemished.

He knew he was dealing with a born again from the onset and should stick by the rules of engagement even obatala,amadioha,sango,oya,yemoje,amadioha,ikenga,Buddha has rules


Don't get it twisted.

Annie001:
It painful to read some comment
So because she wants to remain a virgin till her wedding night means something is fishy
We are in a terrible world nowadays
Op she told you from start and you agreed so pls wait till your wedding night
Do not listen to all this people that will later end up with a prostitue as wife to destroy what you have been patient for
Shalom

Thanks. Another sane comment. What's more weird is seeing females stand against the Op's fiancee like she's responsible for their disvirginity.

StacyO:
Listen carefully @op
I'll only advice you go for a virginity test first( most important) since you want to confirm that claim.
If she is truly a virgin then you have no choice than to respect her decision and fix a white wedding ASAP.

If she is not a virgin as she claimed hmmm I'll advice you take back your bride price not because its necessary but because if that woman can lie and stand strong on something she knows isn't true,WILL DO WORSE.

virginity test first to be on the safer side.
NB:why did you marry her? Because of her virginity? Because you love her? Or because of sex?

If she does a virginity test, it will hurt the marriage even more. Trust will ne shattered completely in the union.He agreed from the onset and was unable to put her in the mood to make her love and crave for sex.

He has to wait. If she fails his test, it equates fraud, he then has the right to call of the marriage. My two cents

Duggedised12:
you mother is the slut

Yawns, fellow woman hater who calls herself posh, classy, elegant and decent but takes offense when another lady SAys the same about herself, woman hater. The Op's chick isn't responsible for your loneliness. Fix your yourself, turn yourself to a mechanical shop to get fixed today, oode

Shirtless on the street not in London

BiggyB242:
Trust me, his spouse is a kind of lady that will stand her ground and wouldn't listen to anyone if thinks she doing the right thing but the problem is what if she is doing something wrong? Na this kind wife they put man for trouble. Good character and submissiveness is what I need.

Good character and submissiveness. What part of submission dissolves a woman of her right to her choice, especially when not even married.

Adabekee04:
Dear future Hubby!
Please don't come and complain here in future. NO SEX UNTIL WEDDING NIGHT I won't see you and alter my principles.
Thank you

Don't let the insecurities of unstable people get to you my dear

ImaIma1:
More like stubborn.

No disciplined. Her life, her beliefs, her freedom, her vagina

LadyHeaven:
So standing on a principle she told the OP of before hand makes her headstrong? What do African men really want? You stay true to your words you are stubborn, you give in easily you are a cheap farm tool, she should stand her ground, I personally don't believe in sex before marriage and if its a convenant she has with God then op is free to take a walk someone else who better understands her resolutional belief would come along.

Oil on your head abeg

Not all lands are suitable for rice cultivation. Whatever rocks your boat.

Duggedised12:
you dont engage in e- fights but you can start one you mannerless oaf . Next time dont start what you cannot finish. If of all the people on this thread you choose to have a problem with my comment fine but when you decide to be uncouth like a typical cretin littering this forum then you are asking for it, go learn manners since you cant fight so you can know how to be civil cos you are nothing but a rude rat@rded mor0n.

K. Says the one that says she's classy and decent using gutter words finding it hateful when her fellow woman says she doesn't want sex till after marriage. Like you're good enough competition for the decent Op's lady, slut

Duggedised12:
kunleweb you don run? Abi you thought i looked like those useless women in your family? This one that claims she is not legally married but willingly stay under the same roof with a man , i bet your sister are worse sef

Busy with projects

I don't engage in such e-fights


But since you claim to be good, why is it then a problem when another woman claims to also be good oh ye hypocrite

Liverpool a word that should be used to replace Triumph

This moniker is Ten years old. Tried, tested and trusted.

Business is consistency, consistency is business

T

This one is strong

Where's DBanj btw

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ogbevireo:
You point is quite clear that you are trying to change the goal post which you agreed to.

You said she is born again.
You said you both respect one another's decisions and opinions.
You said she told you that she will not have sex till after the church wedding - in clear response to your question in that regard.

Now you are trying to play a fast one on her.
You are trying to coerce her by putting your wedding on hold.
You are trying to paint her as someone who is on the wrong.

NB: The issue here is not sex before marriage.
But your inability to honour your own word.

If you were not in agreement with her decision and her response when you asked about this matter, why didn't you say so?
Why didn't you tell her you can't do what she is asking for.

You are now abusing your authority as a man abs head of the family.

Even if she eventually agrees to sex before the church wedding, she will not be happy with you - deep down in her heart, she will not.

You have two options.
1. Keep your word to her and go to church before you at the food.
2. Go back to her kinsmen to collect your bride price - though you would be seriously offending this girl and her family because you broke the agreement not the other way round.

Peace.

My brother may your wisdom never be put to shame. May your head not lack oil


How can a man discount his word and honour just for few minutes sex so the he created a post like his existence depends on it.

I duff my hat for the ladies inflexibility and mental strength.

You hit the nail on the head perfectly where you mentioned " honour " is what's being tested. And even under pressure, it has shown who would remina unyielding even under heat. She's a good catch

Duggedised12:
lol, e go clear for the op eye when he finds out he is being scammed. Just like your sisters do too i guess?

Start by keeping your ish to yourself. Not everyone is as crooked as you are.

Solacemk:
I've been in love with a lady that i'll soon marry. We've never had sex, and she claimed she's a virgin. Pls how did i confirm that on our first night? I don't want to go to the hospital for a test.. please i need your suggestions m thanks.

Start by trusting her and then your instincts

Yes. Anyone can change a name without even giving any one reasons why such a lady needs to effect such a change. Head to the nearest court within an hour he process should be done and dusted

ctleurocollege:
You're making your vows to God during Christian marriage before his alter. It's a MUST for true Christians to acknowledge God before entering into marriage partnership. The guy is marrying someone who knows her religion

God bless you my brother.


If he has his way now he'll turn around and despise her saying all sorts later down the line

obidark:
he is a stvpid man....why come on social media to ask for advice....??
cant he just talk with her....??

The thing dey pain me. Other ladies seeing this thread now go dey say na so men dey think, that's why ladies are turning harder by the day on men cause of stvpid ones

Let's do business

Let's do business

WriterX:



calm down lollz, calm down.

No he needs to know with this mentality he can't manage a marriage for the long haul. He knows his lady better and if she's a good sorry very good lady he should understand her position than let doubts and fears brought about by misconstrued opinions of/from people get sowed into their marriage. Its sickening man asking for counsel on such petty matter.

Cool

Duggedised12:
igwegeorgiano let me get this clear, are you both living under the same roof like husband and wife and she still insists on white wedding? If that be the case then something is wrong somewhere . A typical religious fanatic will not even agree to live under the same roof with you until after wedding atleast for the ones i have seen.

I am only keeping my fingers crossed that more underlying problems are not attached to this just make sure you conduct virginity and fertility test before anything else. All i can say is goodluck.


But i dont know why Africans are like this tho, whoever brainswashed these people to think God is interested in white wedding? Some mumu people will do traditional, do registry and still go
to church for so called white wedding ,smh.

White wedding is the traditional marriage of white people ,when will Africans have sense?this is appalling.

So you call normal relations as being fanatical. That's why your kinds do multiple abortions and yet get dumped. Yeye

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

You should be ashamed of yourself as a man. Marriage hasnt kicked off you're here suspecting uneccasarily carrying your private issues to public for advice. Smh for you. If this is how you'll be behaving in the marriage, then let her be, it means you're unfit for the institution