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U seem 2 b a very nice guy, but u too dull... Sorry 2 say this broh.... Some pipo are telling u 2 gather evidences of her cheating and take it 2 family.. That 1 no be advice ooo, they will only tell her 2 stop and she won't, she will just be more carefull when cheating on you.... I don't know uя type of man sha may be God bless u with a lot of Patience..... But if I were d 1 in uя shoes I would have divorced her long time ago, I don't even need any evidence 2 proove 2 any 1 that she's a cheat, 1nce I m sure that's all... Pipo divorce just like that @ times with no cheating between them.... There is nothing that will make her stop she's been doing it and have been getting away with it.. B4 I Forget take uя kids for DNA test 2 be sure weather they are urs..... U need not tell her uя going for DNA for uя kids.......... u deserve a better wife...

AstuteJ:
I need your candid advice on how to handle the various cases of infidelity against my wife. We have been married for 10 years with kids and I have never had any reason to doubt her until the following incidents began to unfold;

1. Sometimes in 2012, I took her to the market on a Sunday morning. She left her phone inside the car while she went into the market. A message dropped and I picked her phone to check, what I saw was a joystick sent by one of her BBM contacts. I dropped the phone aand pretended I dint see anything. When she came back, she checked the phone, saw the picture, deleted it and pretended nothing happened.

I waited for like 5hours to be sure she wasn't going to talk about it before bringing it up. She claimed it was sent in error and went ahead to call the guy to register her displeasure. I believed her and laid the matter to rest.

2. About six months later, I was out of the country. She called about 6pm that she needed to drop some items for a client at City Mall, little did I know she went to meet a man at Swe bar. I got back some days later and noticed she was all over her phone chatting and smiling while I was talking to her. I took the phone from her to see whom she was chatting it. All the previous chats had been deleted and I continued chatting with the guy. I could not flow well because the guy was coding and suspected he wasn't chatting with the right person.

I went through her phone for any prior message between them and I saw an SMS she sent to him at about 11:45pm the day she went to City Mall; "I just got home, please call if you can"! I did further findings before she confessed she went to meet with the guy at Swe bar and had to call to lis to me in case she runs into one of my friends. She claimed the guy is an old friend and had issues in his marriage, so she turned a marriage counsellor overnight to go solve the issues.

3. While I was still with her phone, the guy that sent his joystick pinged and I started chatting with him. The guy went very romantic and I cautioned him not to put me in trouble like he did when he sent an unsolicited pix of his joystick. The guy went "Ah Stella, but you asked me to send it na, have you forgotten? That you even sent me a pix of your laps taken in a dark room when I asked for yours"! I was speechless! He went "and you said you told your hubby it was sent in error and he believed you". I confronted my wife with all these and she still had some "stories" to tell.

4. We were at her Mum's place two years ago and she got a call, she told the fellow to come see her there. Her ex came in some minutes later to the warm embrace of the mum. We greeted and he wasted no time to settle in and joined the discussion on ground. The last time I saw him was before we got married and she claimed they never dated. The guy talked about his wife, how poor she is in home keeping, in the kitchen. on bed etc. My wife cut in "and this lady is supposed to be enjoying Andy o, cos I remember Andy knows how to take care of a woman, each time he came visiting in the university days, he always came with bags full of goodies". She even suggested seeing the woman to advise her and the guy said "no you are not in the best position to do that, you know she is not too comfortable with you".

All these happened right in the presence of my mother in law and I kept my calm all through. We left there after the show of shame and I warned her to cut all communications with the guy.

5. Few weeks later, same guy came to our church to worship. After the service wifey told me his kids would like to follow us home to meet our kids; I did not respond. Her mum and aunt was also in the church same Sunday and I drove them and my wife straight to my house. The guy drove behind. We got home, wifey went to the kitchen to cook, her mum and aunt settled in to a good gist with this guy in my own very living room. I picked my keys and left the house for them. I returned late in the night when they had all left and you can guess what happened afterwards.

6. I was with her phone few weeks later and another ex bumped in. "My baby, how are you doing, I have missed you bla bla bla". He requested they meet somewhere on the mainland two days later! After taking a second look at the unsaved number, I remembered the number had sent her an SMS; "can I call you now" about twice in the past. the second time I saw the SMS, I called the number with her phone but the guy refused to pick all thru the day!

7. Last Christmas dat, she gave me her phone to check something on her whatsapp and a chat came in from a guy I have been monitoring his number for a while. The excerpt of the chat is below (I took over the chat from the line he asked for her pix).

5/12/2015, 7:51 am - sy: May d joy of Xmas be for u and ur family IJN
25/12/2015, 7:52 am - sy: Enjoy ur day
25/12/2015, 11:08 am - Jimmyeatery: snap i wanna see yur Sexy look
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: I hope youre alone
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Lol
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Yes
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM alone here too
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - sy: That's good
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM deleting it immediately
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Where is the one you have
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme snap
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:14 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0006.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Pls delete it quickly
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Nice
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Why should I delete it
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Tnx
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: Someone can misplaced phone
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - sy: That's true
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: I dont want yur man to one across it as well
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: To be on safe side
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: I wanna see u babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: You have my pix already now
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme see yur Sexy body babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Nope
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Very not seen it
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Is it even new to you
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - syt: OK o
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Till we see again
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Ive not
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - sy: Why are you in a hurry
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Dont be shy dear
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: IM just lonely here
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: Soo lonely
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - syt: What about your wife
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London with my kids
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: Good
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: I av 1% left
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: What?
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme see you
25/12/2015, 11:22 am - syt: You will see me when I change my dp
25/12/2015, 11:23 am - syt: You there?
25/12/2015, 11:43 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0009.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:45 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0008.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: My ba3 low N phone went off
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: Im using my laptop to charge now
25/12/2015, 11:46 am - syt: OK Sir
25/12/2015, 11:47 am - sy: Was wondering why you kept quiet
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - sy: Can't talk please
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: I tot u said youre alone before
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: My kids are here now
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme know wen youre free to talk
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Oook
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: Let's chat, say whatever you wanna say here
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - syt: My hubby is out
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Are u Sure?
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: 😃
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: Yeah
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme be sure if youre d right person IM chatting with................

Please advise me in how to handle all these.......

Thank you.

BeClever:
Yes I know understand that we are of the same opinion and we share the same view on this issue, but the difference between us is that I stand to condemn in all its form the attitude of the Zoo soldiers on innocent civilians and this the same attitude they extends to the IPOB and every other person that stand on their way any day anytime to tyranny especially under this current regime.

The military is very right, they're only doing their constitutional duties backed by law, for uя belief on the shiites I don't blame u, uя probably living in the south and u don't even know much about north.. Ask uя brothers that have been 2 d north they will brief you more...
For the Biafran protest what ever the military do they are also right, they swore to protect the entity Nigeria so any person protesting that he wants Biafra is doing nothing but a crime against the state
All those ppl instigating the jobless youths to be protesting biafra are only doing it for their selfish gains, 2ndly 95% of igbo population doesn't know anything called war, any 1 with the experience of war will never call for it even in his dreams...
There is no any Igbo Man that is more than Ojukwu on the Love for Biafra, despite his father being the richest Nigerian then, he still sacrifice that for Biafran war... But @ the end what happen? He abandon the war and gave up everything....

So tell me any average igbo man that can sacrifise his wealth for Biafra! Talkless of 2 say the big shots in igboland or 2 even say an Igbo man will be Dangote of 2day 2say he will sacrifice all his wealth for Biafra

nike4love:
;DWhat do u mean by piss


What do you mean by piss?

it can only nbe religion of piss not peace as they say

How can you justify religion of peace that where their. Inhabitants are its only problems opon problems..... Countries with Muslims population of less than 10% are so peaceful look @ Ghana, South Africa, japan, china, australia name them... But where ever. They are troubles here and there, look @ India. Kai Chisos Islam can't be religion of anything close to peace@ all

BeClever:
And you opinion sound Stupiddo!
What about his fundamental rights to freedom of assembly...

Anyway can't argue with goat like you from the north.. U guys don't know what right are.. .

What do you know about them, I mean the Shiites, other than what your useless Imam said in the mosque.

so u think. Every. 1 is a terrorist hmm? From religion of piss huh? Funny... The God that I serve through his Son Jesus christ is great... When Boko haram was bombing. Only churchs u pipo were celebrating it, calling them islamic soldiers..... We Prayed Lo and behold God answed our prayer andconfused them... They don't target churches any longer... Or you think this is natural? Its not ooo... The confusion has even gone beyond. Boko haram now its the shiite sect against the state not christians again... Funny drama..... 2maro it will be Izala against the state, next darika...... God have mercy on religion of piss filled with terrorist

Ginaz:
It almost got her eye, thank Jesus that it didn't. That woman eh

are u sure it didn't damage the eye?

God have mercy on the poor girl... It might be possible she didn't even know the man is maried, an orphan for that matter, will this stop her hubby from cheating? No

May God give some women common sence

Freiden:
Well, I guess the four overstepped their boundaries.


RIP anyway

exactly bro...

If not a lunatic who will see a military man with a gun and he will stand in his front arguing with him over just road to pass? Even the a lunatic that knows what a gun can do won't even try that

Serves him right.... I m even begining 2 start doubting the authenticity of that PhD, how can an educated man of his cadre take his lovely kids to people like that shiites? Haba...


Sorry 2 say this but an illitrate northern christian have common sence more than majority of Highly educated northen Muslims...


#My opinion#

Details

Its much but take your time and read.

https://www.thecable.ng/undercover-investigation-nigerias-customs-of-corruption-bribery-and-forgery

Better @least respect should be given 2 elders..... Even if Momodu was wrong David u have a lot of fans that will bash him on uя behalf while u just keep mute.... Good boy, I like uя courage

Next time don't be in a hurry to reply issues like this

That woman should go gefe pls

If this story is true then I seriously think you need your brains examined by a psychiatrist..... Anyways u think uя still a young girl coz uя 26, God bless the day that God will open this Man's eye to know that you really don't love him that's why u don't want 2 have a baby for him...... Just pray to God this childish behavior will leave you b4 the young man will know and kick you out of his life, uя life will end up with bitter regrets...., if I were. Him I'll just take uя best friend and make her my mistress by the time uя sences are back. Then I'll divorce you, give u all the money. You need 2 go and marry the guy u love...... I can't imagine this wickedness in my life

Trendition:
Got married two years ago to a now 34year old man, and I am 26. Met him through my mum when he came into the country 3years ago, so we dated for about 9months. We got married but he had to remain in canada while I stayed back.


Truth be told, I never loved him. He's rich, okay-looking, charming and all but I just do not love him. I married him cos I kinda saw him as a clean slate, a chance to start anew cos I have lived life, done things that I am not proud of, gotten heart broken. And I just don't want kids with a man I do not love. They say u can fall in love after marriage but not here, I just admire my husband.

Hubby comes home in December and stays through to february. I kept d pills in an empty bottle of multivitamins but never thought he'ld look closely at d inscriptions on the tablets cos I had gotten away with it the past years. No one has been on my neck about getting pregnant though.


He was so angry I thought he'ld throw me out that night. He's been sleeping in d guests', doesn't eat my food, he says I am a selfish and wicked woman. I'm sooooo scared he'll call my parents, I'll just die.


Do I just walk out now and risk my parents knowing what really happend? Will I find such a gentle man again? Do I get pregnant? will I love my kids? He's such a wonderful man but I don't love him!!!



PS: I never cheated on him

Aren't you proud as a nigerian 2 speak uя own language or pidgin instead of English? English is some 1ns Languge ... Make them include. Pidgin for our learning Curriculum self,

I be proud naija guy..

Naija made....

That thing wey you dey yarn say oyibo man language English is superior 2 our naija made pidgin na lie.... I be proud naija padi

Yes nothing do me

Any 1 that that sow a seed in my life will be blessed with a sweet lovely wife.... 1st come 1st serve o


Better Rush while I still dey ground

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What do I do pls, I am confused

Should I Report to EFCC?
Report to Nigeria police.
Hold on 2 my peace and keep mute
Withdraw and run abroad?
Withdraw and enjoy in naija

Sincere advice pls Lol

Lol

He lured you to sow uя 2014 savings on him so that 2015 will be uя year of Prosperity and things only got worse