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No matter how hard the economy is a deek will still rise that's why poor men have more children and despite the poverty in the north, they are the most populous region.

JetApartment:
Trash advice especially when it is coming from a man and not a woman. Only a woman can explain better not a man, op,pack well.

Some of you people need to learn how to read and understand. It's not that hard.

sonofthunder:
To your original post, I feel you are speaking from a place of limited information. The people who advocate for this have "scientific data" to back up the claims and I have often observed same to be true. Not that I support it but that's just the science. Typically that's how attraction actually work. You have to give the other person something to miss but people are using it manipulatively to support their promiscuous desires

Great scientists have had their facts falsified time and time again. The theory only works when the girl is emotionally invested in you. Using it to gain attention doesn't work. And that's where I stand. How can a girl who doesn't know you be interested in you just because you are not giving her attention? It drives curiosity not attraction. When the curiosity eventually leads her to you and she discovers you're probably shallow what happens next?

Now I really feel sorry for them. I wish they can settle and return as Psquare. They are the most talented duo in Africa. These guys can release an album of 15 songs and there will be no bad songs. All hits. Not these ones Wizkid, Davido and Burna Boy are doing. In an album you can only find 2 hits. The rest are gibberish with beats.

Jorussia:
Abeg leave the ignorant guy abeg.Me i nor tall,but every where i went for work or higher institution for the past 18years,the prettiest women always flock around me.I remember in my department then for school,I dated the prettiest girl.Even the finest girl for computer science then wanted me,na fear come dey catch me,because every senior confra man wanted her.I have never ran after any woman in my life,because i generally nor dey send woman.

When men brag like this, if you check well, it's usually lies. Anyway, you're derailing from the topic. Women wanting you is not new. Every guy has that story. I can agree with women love bad guys and hate nice guys on a contextual basis, but on this one, I have tangible proof. I can send screenshots.

Konjiboii:
I have a girl that has been with me for the longest time I can remember, she let me get my way with other women and never questioned me but still respect me, she is physically beautiful and God loving, her cooking skill is unmatched and she do enjoy cooking. her head game is amazing, her soundtrack when I give her oral is the sweetest song I have ever heard. her kuntus is tight and always wet. I just want to announce that I will be getting married to her soon.

😂 congratulations bro. If I were you I would be worried. Because a lady that allows you have your way with other women doesn't really love you. You could be marrying a LovePeddler who's feelings have been seared.

greypencils:
Women want men other women want. Understand that, understand life. They love a challenge, they love competition. They love a high flyer not a low lifer. You can't be a high flyer and not have women chase you. That is who they want. Give them attention as a high flyer and they would drool after you until you cross that line of chasing them. They don't want to be chased. They want to chase, catch, tame and domesticate what they've caught until their catch loses relevance and they are on turned by the next high flyer. Because they are married to a high flyer doesn't mean they don't get aroused by the next high flyer.

Those women that want what other women want are semi-thieves. Why would you want something that's not yours because everyone wants it? And then, wanting someone that everyone wants shows she's unstable, she's easily triggered by public opinion and trends, the feeling to be among, no substance, no ingenuity, no sense. It means when she follows you and sees another man that's more successful and more wanted by other women, she'll jump ship because she wants the trend. That's a sign of a low resolution babe - no authenticity. You just want the man because he's rich and a high flyer. You don't want to know the stuff he's made up, just because of social acceptance you want him. Oh please. Women are bigger than that.

DamnnNiggarr:
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This is strictly for married men.

If she's not your wife yet, try this with her at your own peril.
Ignore a career woman, who's still just a "girlfriend" and watch her dump your ass for real.

At first, she'll try to find out what the problem is, but if she finds out that you're just being silly, she'll kick your ass out of her life.

It can only work with your wife, to an extent.
For instance, if I want to get my wife on her toes(which I wouldn't just start unnecessarily, unless something prompted it), I'll just reject her food, busy her calls and keep late hours. Then, come and watch her go gaga, but for the sake of your family, don't let it continue for a longer time, but I can't try this with "a girl friend". But do not suffocate her with your attention.

ADDENDUM:

On the other hand, when you're always available, it also scares women away, to them(women), it can mean many things like joblessness, broke etc, just as I have carefully compiled a list of them below through my research.


Over availability and attention from men to women can lead to;

1. Loss of challenge: When a man becomes too available or eager, the thrill of the chase is over, and the woman may feel less motivated to pursue the relationship.

2. Fear of suffocation: Excessive attention can feel overwhelming or suffocating, leading the woman to pull away and seek space.

3. Decreased sense of autonomy: When a man is too attentive, a woman may feel like she's losing her independence or freedom.

4. Perceived lack of mystery: When a man reveals too much too soon, the mystery and intrigue are gone, making the relationship less captivating.

5. Overemphasis on validation: If a man's attention is solely focused on validating the woman's worth, she may feel like she's only valued for her appearance or charm, rather than her substance.

6. Different attachment styles: Women with anxious or avoidant attachment styles may feel uncomfortable with intense attention, while men with secure attachment styles may not understand this discomfort.

7. Fear of intimacy: Some women may struggle with intimacy issues and pull away when a man gets too close or attentive.[/b]

You're absolutely right bro. It works when you've already locked the woman in. If she's still considering to date you and you disappear, she can easily forget you. You must have created a sense of intimacy and ensured she's into you then use the technique to build her cravings. But using the technique to win her love is ridiculous. And yes, choking a woman with attention can be downright unreasonable unless she's into you. If a woman loves you to stupor, she wants you to call her 3 times daily, she wants you always be around and because you have a life, you can't always be around, so it's a balanced game. I'll never endorse chasing a woman even. I don't chase women. But thinking a woman will run after you because you ignored her is silly. How many women even ask men out with their pride and ego, let alone a man that shows lack of interest. Most ladies will rather die and I did my survey before opening a thread.

maasoap:
You should have asked whether there are men who are living testimony of the this theory?
I think the one who loves you will chase. The only thing is that the chase will eventually stop when all the hope is lost.

Yes there are men who are living testimony of this but did it last? Or the girl simply moved on and they came to establish it as a fact. Why don't we do the test in 2024 and see what works? Rather than depend on theories that have lost their salt.

rickleye:
This is an OG theory. Tried and tested. It is not the norm but rather a below average percentage.
Back in the day before social media and Internet cafe and feminism . When I say back in the day I am talking before 1998. When there were no mobile phones and over population . The air was cleaner and you thought Naija had a chance.

To be honest it still happens now - but on much a lower percentage.

Lol Naija actually had a chance then for real 😂

EBEk101:
Op this is what I have to say 😀😀

let's wait for that time 😂

maasoap:
You should have asked whether there are men who are living testimony of the this theory?
I think the one who loves you will chase. The only thing is that the chase will eventually stop when all the hope is lost.

If you read my post in between lines you'll see where I mentioned it works for ugly, low self esteem, and jobless insecure girls. A man who's busy with his life and she sees that he's busy but still find times to check up on her will make her feel valued and loved. And she'll in turn reciprocate unless she's evil. But where a man disregards her completely with the hope that it will create an air of mystery around and strike up curiosity is completely fallacious. Women don't have that time again unless of course she's jobless.

Akinpresident:
From experience it works, you just have to do it sparingly and effectively.
Women thrives on attention and when you starve them that, they go crazy. And it pushes them to find out what exactly that's making you not to have time for them and they pest your life with calls and texts.
You don't do this to a talking stage. She'll simply disappear. You do this to someone who just fell for you.
I think the whole thing is about ensuring the lady likes you as much as you like them.

Exactly, you do this when the lady already has a thing for you and even at that it's still very risky but safer than doing it when you're not sure she digs you.

SuperOnyi:




I will be happy to go on this challenge but sadly, I'm currently working on a lot of things.

However, it is important to understand that humans are attracted to things that are scarce. Even in the market, you'd see how people automatically regard anything expensive as the best. But I digress...

You only have to partially ignore not totally, learn from online markets like Amazon and Jumia; they sell things for the full price but once in a while, they give the customers promos. You ignore her partially but when it's time to give her that attention, you give her what she wants 100%.

It took me a while to figure out I subconsciously do the "ignore thing" and I was surprised seeing red pill threads on Nairaland for the first time. I reflected on myself and found out that was 80% my default state. I'm still trying to figure out what makes people attracted to me...

So, what am I trying to say? You gotta have something they find valuable or mysterious to make the 'partial ignoring method' work. You have to understand how to make proper use of your silence and words. Communications between humans is deeper than just talking, sometimes silence pass a message.

Remember when your parents would look at you in a certain way and that's all you'd need to know you've fúcked up?

If you work into a restaurant dressing and acting on a particular way, and you keep doing that for a week; all attention will be on you. When you disappear and appear a month later, you'd successfully create some kind of mystery in the mind of those who would remember you.

You gotta have something they think they've not seen in others but in reality, you're actually playing with their mind. Even if you're ugly, she'd still wonder why you keep acting that way—curiosity can also kill a monkey. Haha

Until the challenge is accepted which doesn't have to be time tasking since you'll be ignoring and not focusing your attention, the only place we'll find a common ground is if you say it's subjective. It can work for some low self esteemed women and you have to be extremely attractive and irresistible for it to work. There's no mystery behind an ugly face that's easy to forget. You ignore and be ignored forever. However, I'm not a proponent of choking a woman with love unless you both are officially partners and there can't be enough choking. But completely ignoring a woman with the hopes that it cause her to be attracted to you is laughable and delusional but I can accept that it's subjective - works for some women, some category of women. Peace bro.

Meedon:
They work like magic

They don't. Women are mystery creatures.

FahBuLous:
E plenty die.
It works everytime unless you dont have value for yourself.

I see you have a comprehension problem. Enjoy your village girls.

FRANCISTOWN:
It's either you are broke, ugly and short or you are 2 of the three.
I guess you've been experienced how high class women with high self esteem lose their steeze and went cuckoo for some guys.
You see, women only have self esteem around guys that are common.

Some guys are so rare that when a woman ever get the privilege to be with them. They begin to act like a baby , like a teenager in love.

Though you will never experience this if you're any of the aforementioned.

It's okay to assume but thankfully you don't know me. And I'm glad you mentioned men that are rare. So it means the man has special qualities no other man possesses and that's something that can make a woman go mad. Not an average Joe distancing himself from a woman when the woman can easily do away with him. But if the man is rare, how will the woman find out when the said rare man is barely available? Or the rare you're talking about is external qualities like 6feet, handsome and rich? In that case that is not rare. There are many of them all over the world and a beautiful woman who's being chased daily can pick anyone.

FahBuLous:
chief of the SIMPson community don drop quote..

Share your story of how the beautiful girl you ignored kept running back to you and begging. She has to be beautiful, classy, working, and have a ton of admirers before you share. Non simpson rolling with village girls who would die for a guy that speaks English.

SuperOnyi:




You're partially right but when we say "ignore her," we do not mean you should keep ignoring her to appear strong — there should be a limit to how you give her attention. You don't keep texting and calling her all the time, the "mystery" that drew her to you will shatter.

It all depends on the kind of person you are, I'm very introverted but confident enough to face anyone, so there's actually this strange aura around me.

And yes, I remember how I started ignoring the first girl I asked her out, her father was strict and I was under him—I tried to play safe. I literally forgot she agreed to be my girl, she agreed to date another guy years later, and I went back to her. I wasn't jealous, humans will always be humans.

She still gave me her attention, love, and everything. If we had stayed for long, she would have left the other guy but she was scared I will break her heart again. Humans partially lose interest in what they feel they can't get but when they do, they grab it.

It was okay for me to flex around but not okay for the other guy. That's the power of mystery.

I like your perspective. Quite thoughtful. However, this reverse psychology hardly works for a couple of reasons.
1. Women have ego, especially the beautiful ones with a ton of admirers.
2. Unless they love you to a fault and that's because of something you possess that none of her courters have. Even at that, the ego in her won't allow her return the attention you didn't give.
3. I believe a woman can love you and crave you after she's known you for who you are not what you're not by distancing yourself from her. You only create an aura of mystery and if she's interested in you because of that, it's because of curiosity not attraction. When she eventually finds out there's nothing special about you she'd leave.
4. If you must roll by the scarcity and ignoring principle, then you have something special about you that when she draws close she gets glued.
5. Also, you have to be lucky that while you're creating scarcity another guy doesn't emerge from the blues and sweeps her away.
6. This theory of ignoring is brazenly dumb and doesn't worth even the sheet of the paper it's written on. I've put out a challenge let's try it. We create a WhatsApp group and share our results let's end this sharade and deception once and for all. It'll be fun while it lasts.

Omoawoke:
Bros, when you are desperate and broke, you go call tire, you go chase you go tire.
The higher you go, you will see how girls will beg for your attention. Your dm will be things like “oh you just forgot me, you don’t have my time, you are always busy, all these other girls won’t let you have time for me, na wa for you oo” etc

So when a gurl tells you all these and sees a better guy who's giving her attention do you think she'll still come for you? She may even dump you and settle for less. You see why I said girls who do this don't have admirers. They're hardly chased after and that's why they cling unto guys who are clearly rejecting them. What caliber of women are you guys dealing with? I roll with women who believes they are the prize and any man that's too busy for them should be left alone to continue his busy life. We can do an experiment to end this argument once and for all. Who's game?

oz4real83:
Just continue "simping lacasera" with a girl that doesn't love you so that she won't lose interest in you . Some Simps are just irredeemable, they will always event reasons to defend simping

I'm not a simp and I don't need redemption. You're the one who needs it and you're only realize it when it's too late. I repeat, those girls who chase you when you ignore them are either doing so probably because they want your money since they're broke and shameless, lack self esteem, and have a face only a mother will dig. Try it with beautiful working class who's too busy with work and replying dms from richer handsome men and see if she remembers your name. When you guys experiment with low lives you come up here and draw baseless conclusions.

DaddyCoool:
OK, if you have a girlfriend stop picking her calls and pretend you're no longer interested in having sex with her (instead of always begging sex), see what happens.
I just topicked on this:
https://www.nairaland.com/8187192/experience-ignoring-girl-game#131537318

This is your girlfriend already and you've even started having sex with her. But trust me when she notices the attention is becoming one-sided she'll give another guy a chance. After all she offended you and she's a girl with a conscience, she's only trying to make amends and there's only so much she can take. If she keeps simping for you, bro your chick is unattractive and perhaps no other man wants her.

Omoawoke:
Bros, when you are desperate and broke, you go call tire, you go chase you go tire.
The higher you go, you will see how girls will beg for your attention. Your dm will be things like “oh you just forgot me, you don’t have my time, you are always busy, all these other girls won’t let you have time for me, na wa for you oo” etc

The higher you go means you talking about improving your life and status which is great and is something that can attrac t women. Not ignoring her and acting too busy. Even wives cheat because their husbands are too busy they go for men who have their time. The female is wired to be craved for and given attention. I'm not talking about choking her with your presence. A decent dose of attention can do the trick. But starving her is a recipe for losing her.

DaddyCoool:
Of course it works. Works with all humans not just women. That's human nature. If you suddenly start ignoring someone you were paying lots of attention...
Problem is after it works then what? Once you back talking to them again you're back to square one

It can never work with me I'm human news flash. Ignore me and I ignore you. I have a healthy self esteem I don't even chat with women who take more than an hour to reply let alone not giving me attention. I'm the prize I know my worth, I don't simp. I show you attention once and you reciprocate, we hit it off and continue the cycle. I can't chase a woman who's running away from me.

MrBrownJay1:
it works with "some" women, and certainly doesnt with others. some women will simply believe that you are not interested and they will move on with their lives.

Yes, the broke, low self esteem, insecure women without a life. Unless they've been with the guy for years and have had many sweet experiences. It may be difficult to let go. But not meeting a new girl and starving her attention, she'll just forget you exist. When several men battle for her attention daily why will she care when you don't.

Sonnobax15:

Dey there dey look while pant dey wear you...

Bannies with brains know that responsible men are scarce these days....So when they luckily meet anyone,they prefer to rather die there by chasing him than to sit down and be looking while another banny will steal him away.

Then she's insecure and battling low self esteem. Period. Ignoring a woman can't be a pathway to make her crave you more. If you say something like improve yourself, your speech, your dress sense, look groomed and stuff like that, it's understandable. But ignoring a woman? You sef try it. Once the girl calls you twice in one week and you didn't return it, she may never call again because girls always have this mentality that I don't want to disturb him. If she even texts you it's to let you know that she's gone since you don't have her time. Only a jobless, broke and insecure girl will chase me n.

Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

They say you'll ignore her, don't reply her texts, don't call her often, even when she calls you form busy and promise to call back but don't call back, keep yourself busy with other women, pretend like you can thrive without her and see her chasing after you like her life depends on you.

Really?

In what world is that?

The truth is, a woman that loves you or is attracted to you can easily lose interest when she notices you don't have her time or starve her attention. Women thrives on attention, they do everything to get it, and when they don't get it, they find it elsewhere. So, even if the woman loves you to your poo, and you starve her attention, you cause her interest in you to decline. She feels "okay great, this guy doesn't like me and I don't want to disturb him, let me focus on this one that has my time".

Secondly, if the woman doesn't even like you, she'll be glad you stopped calling and texting and you gave zero chance of winning her back if you like surround yourself with multiple women to create the illusion that you're highly sought after. She'll only wonder how dumb these women are that they're flocking after you.

I conducted this survey on about 30 different women and all gave the same reply

"If a guy keeps ignoring me and starves me attention, I feel he doesn't really want me and I'll move on because I'm beautiful and there are other men who want me too, so why chase after one that shows disinterest?"

Lastly, I think the only girls that will chase a guy who ignores them are low self esteemed, insecure, less attractive, broke, without-a-life, sociopaths, and mentally unstable girls.

No real girl with beauty, brains, steeze, curves, charms, small money and high self esteem will chase a guy or crave a guy that is showing lack of interest in her. She believes she's the prize and should be chased, not the other way round.

So, I wonder again, who thought men this?

Modified.

If you hold unto this fallacious theory so strong you're willing to experiment with it, then I'm game. It will be fun while it lasts. We create a WhatsApp group to share our screenshots of chats.

We approach beautiful women online or offline, chat them up, inspire some vibes and ghost them, then see how many will chat back or call and become interested. 10 girls each. We can finally put this theory to rest and dispel the deception.

Most of these red pill advise do not work in real life and I wish I could create a thread to fault all of them.

Reno Omokri will say he's declared war on the FG now.

He should be an ambassador to Chad. Fits him well.

Throwback:
How many poor men have become Senators?

Is Orji Kalu's lifestyle dependent on Senator Salary or that of the late Ifeanyi Ubah, or Gbenga Daniel?

Many of you believe the miseducation and reject the actual education because of your anarchy mindset.

Actually poor men don't become senators. It's mostly for the rich. And for the rich to crave such a venture, you know it's not one million naira plus stuff. The rich don't go for lower checks, they only go higher. While some like Kalu may go for the influence and popularity that it gives, some others to for the money. Now you have to wonder why Kalu who became a billionaire in his 20s ran for Senate and what he intends to do with that peanut. There's something there.

This looks false. If this is their true allowance how come they can afford lavish lifestyles? An average Senator has a duplex and several luxury cars even when he was poor before becoming a Senate member.