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Mariangeles:
You mean your brother got your sister the phone or her boyfriend?

My brother!
Which boyfriend!
If she lost the phone today today,he will replace it.Thats why she no get value for other men.

Sis,if she wake up sometimes,she no dey greet am good morning sef.

That one if husband buy her car,she go just do as e no reach to be gift!Shior!

Mariangeles:
I thought I was the only one with this mindset.


A girl one of my brothers was liking was beginning to give him attitude over very petty things, when he was still getting to know her, I told him to let her go, that such a girl will make him miserable when he completely falls for her.
Now, she's trying to get back his attention.

O girl,don't give that girl the chance of being an in law.Not even a breathing chance.Infact,if you have the means tell her to her face she ain't welcome so that she go find her levels.NO TIME.Especially when you know your brother was the one treating her nice till she 4ck up.

My younger brother had an ex who at a point he maltreated despite how nice she was to him.Omo,he called me to beg her on his behalf.After listening to her grievances of his constant cheating,I told her to find a better man.She is married,my brother now is rich but with if you see the kind of see the kind of girls around him ehn,very longathroat kind of girls.Its beginning to neausate him because him don kukuma tire for the _4ck.Fine girls with foreign enhanced yansh don tire am.He wants to settle down with a homely babe

WHERE THEM DEY? .

He sleeps in a king sized bed with no Wife.What a life!Last time I was around,him run go market to buy food ingredients,as I see all the fruits to juice and veggies, I Japa.O boy,you dash me money no be say I go cook for you, I no be ya wife

I Japa!Make the 30 inch slay queens your ex left for you for do the cookings Nna.

cayorday89:
Thanks for the response ma'am, and I love your stance on your sister's character/flaw. And this has made me have a rethink about not meddling in my sisters' relationships, my younger sister and myself are more like you and she takes her leave immediately she sees or observes something she is not cool with, so I am not so worried about her, we both watch out for some traits first before anything while being friends and she is okay with her guy but our last born na rascal and she is dating a guy like that and my immediate sister already told her but na she no wetin she see but it's not close to marriage for her yet so I just try to observe from afar...

Be sure to observe she doesn't end up with a rascal.My sister is very saucy but highly intelligent.That combination ain't good,and my younger brother is always complaining about that behavior.

But you went out of your way to pre order and got a phone for her,a girl of 25 years almost if not more than 600k.Yet she will not wake up and greet you OR your friends.

Iphone 14 is on its way ...If tomorrow her husband cannot afford iphone 15,be prepared to buy her that was the last thing I said before leaving his house.

This one go definitely carry her load go her brothers house go stay if her husband shout for her head.Thats why I keep warning her every time because such behavior might destroy a marriage.

cayorday89:
What an eye opener, now what would you do if it's a sister of yours with a husband of questionable traits? It's an honest question and you can choose not to answer as me as the only son na only sister siblings I pack full house..

Same thing.Look, I'm a very traditional person and being 'sophisticated' will never shadow my traditional beliefs.So a wife must respect and submit to her husband on biblical grounds,as long as there's no form of subjugation.I have a gift,so many people have called it many names.But it's a gift,I see things before they happen.

In the case of my brother.i never saw the wife.Infact my mother was the one who called me to inform me.The next day I called my brother and warned him not to marry her.He asked me why,I told him point blank,that I don't like her ,she will give you problems.

But alas he didn't listen to me.
I say no marry that girl,you go marry am.You ma no dey fear?The fact say you dey 4ck woman no mean say you know her.I never see her but I know her pass you.

My sister,God willing will marry an OK man,as no Man is perfect.I will put all efforts using every means at my disposal to be sure she won't suffer.But then, I have a character problem with her.She is too saucy,very very.I keep warning her about it,so if tomorrow it starts bringing problems in her marriage if she calls me I'll switch my phone off.

Where una dey see this kind of men marry sef?

FREEDOM IS IN THE MIND.Sometimes it goes beyond the locks and chains that holds our hands and legs.To him,the body needs bread and not the mind.

You married a very self entitled,lazy woman who is badly nutured.Her mom is also not well trained.Very nasty upbringing!No brother of mine will ever make this mistake, except he didn't tell me.Them trust me na,I get the mind them no get.If I have an in law like yours,She won't even get pregnant before she is kicked out of the house alongside her mother.Yes!I go EXTRA length when I want something done.

What nonsense!

My elder brother's wife played that game at the beginning of their marriage.I heard rumors of her bullshit,I ignored.Came home during one of my office breaks Alas!I met him too in the family house looking all slim and weary A once vibrant young energetic man.I asked him why he was looking like that ,he laughed and downplay the reasons.Lied,but I Know the rumors already.

Kept quiet....

Till she messed up right in a family reunion.

First I reminded her she is a pauper,her father is a carpenter and her mom is not in the country to protect her as she is remarried.Nobody will clearly fight for you,you don't have the money nor the connection,nor the leverage.I open openly told my brother there that his ex gf is still available,and willing to return whenever he changes his mind.I will single handedly pay a new woman's dowry and bring her home.Her mother had to call me to apologize on her daughters behalf after the fool told me she'd leave with her child.I told her mother point black her daughter will not be alive to take even a single baby socks out of any house belonging to my father's house.Not even a diaper.I will personally bundle you out!

Now,my elder brother is a very quiet, conservative guy who never stay out late.I love him so much, very much and the man he choose to be.Them no born any woman well to run am down AS LONG AS I'M ALIVE.I will bury that woman and order for an expensive black shade for her burial.

The wife is very calm now.Like she went herself to buy humility she lacked from the local market.I don't even call her,no member of the family behaves like she exists when she is around.

QuinModah:
Are you married?

Next month.... Second marriage.

J

You don't have family?

tiswell:
not really,but in a nutshell, what do you think is the best way to handle a cheating partner?

Handle?Why not try walking away?
For those who wishes to handle,like me I employ being highly medically sensitive.My fear ain't the cheating because I can handle that to an extent,but I'm more scared if diseases.i hate medical problems.

tiswell:
in other words, if a man cheats,the woman should also cheat to balance the equation and have her own pound of flesh ba?

I never said that in all my write up.Is that what you're insinuating?

tiswell:
I think you view from hypergamic lenses.

In what way? One man's Kobo could be another's value for naira.Anyone can get high irrespective of the cost or brand of alcohol.So?

tiswell:
they will eventually spend the money on fvck boys who in turn fvck them and the promiscuity circle continues...

To balance the equation,the male also spend money on harlots and then harlotry becomes even more attractive and it doesn't stop

emmaodet:
Infact, to be honest it favours the women most if they have kids. Kids hardly leave a mother behind. - Who cares? men have always been living life solo from ages. We have always planned our lives without relying on children. Women do that not men.

A woman don't need to be in your life for your finances to swing - Likewise the woman who thinks after divorce she will be swiming in money. Her finance can nose-dive too.

Id advice men not to waste their time getting married IF they can't cope with all the negativities they complain about women,as I actually think it ain't by force - Don't worry about this, it will happen naturally. There is gradually a change in mindset of the modern man towards marriage than their predecessors.
Why buy the cow when the milk is free.
Women sell values, men bring resources............and since women have thrown total caution to the wind with values dropping everyday, there are no incentives to make men go into marriage.

It's a free world bro.We complain too much and expect too much.Who no want marry,make he no marry.Who no longer want to marry ,make him divorce.All in all, everyone should live and let others live.

emmaodet:
We always see what we want to see.
All you see are bad marriages, struggling marriages, women who want to run out of marriage and enjoy their lives.
You actually think women being in marriage are doing men a favour with your statement........few years after divorce and they are swimming in money.
That is all you see. You didn't see the ones who are struggling after divorce, you didn't see people who are depressed for being single.
Women pulling out of men's life are just doing men favour because the average woman is a liability to a man. A woman will never come into your life and your account increase, it will always decrease so shying away from marriage is even a welcome development.
Most men will live longer and most women cost of living will go up.

I see all that you see,and even worst even for both.Infact, to be honest it favours the women most if they have kids.Kids hardly leave a mother behind.
A woman don't need to be in your life for your finances to swing.Id advice men not to waste their time getting married IF they can't cope with all the negativities they complain about women,as I actually think it ain't by force.We go dey alright laslas.

O boy! I no go fit get maid o.I go fit pluck the eyes of anyone that molestsmy kids without blinking.Chai!

postmann:
I choose to respond to this particular question rather than the one in the main topic.

You're right about Nigerian women evolving but what you didn't pay attention to is the fallout of such evolution.

With more financial freedom and exposure, women are exploring their sexuality. I like to call it harlotry. They become more unsubmissive and seek to take control of any relationship they may have with a man. Now, except for spiritual and socio-cultural interference, most men are Alphas and won't cede such authority to a woman. So while the woman enjoys her new sets of freedom -- financial autonomy and all the bells and whistles that come along with it, she becomes more rebellious. Her job also has a toll on her as well. Making more fatigued and less sexually active.




These are much an alpha would be willing to put up with for much longer and would naturally turn to younger, barely legal girls, freshly crossing the red gate of adolescent into green shoot adults. These freshies have minimal toxic exposure compared to their older female counterparts and would yield naturally to the male sheer power and dominance, making the alpha to dote on her. She becomes the objects of envy amongst her peers and older ladies alike.


Now, these old, financial independent women being pushed down from the perking order find themselves either as 2nd wives to way older men, or get entangled with a simp their age or become sugar mummies. Most end up getting married eventually but not to the men of their preference and are far more prone to engage in extramarital affairs.

I believe harlotry is for women who get paid for SE.x.Or do you intend your meaning generally for women who have random sex but have good paying jobs or those who are just prostitute? Speaking on the former,I argue that financial freedom in Nigeria in most cases are seen as an attribute for rebellion by women.Funny is how so many men on here cry about a broke cheating girlfriend.its kind of funny and I don't think cheating is same as submitting.

Not in all cases are grown women sexually inactive.Anyone who works hard physical and otherwise may have his/her game affected in a way, sometimes even considerably.There many instances where I just wanna _4ck to relieve the accumulated stress of work.Alas!My partner is snoring in the day after a night of office stress.So while one may be sleeping it off,the other may want to "_fuck" it off.So it depends...

[b]Now,this is not it!I think I disagree with this.Girls unfortunately want to grow big,you know when I was 15 all I do is watch Beyonce, Rihanna,try to wear my aunties stilettos and wigs,and red lipsticks and paint my god damn face.Sometimes I want to kiss a boyfriend and do things matured ladies do.So it may be that the younger girls envy the older,more independent ladies above their teens and more...Again,there are more younger guys, ofcourse I really don't know wtf is happening who look way matured than their age.Till date,I still find it difficult telling the face from the age.Many Nigeria guys will stand next to me and yet would pass for an elder brother or husband.I'm older than my partner,funny thing is he knew I was.He jokingly and spitefully told me more than 8 months into the relationship.For weeks I kept blinking my eyes in utter disbelief! What?!
So you see, I don't think there's any envy at all as long as preferences matters to individuals."Alpha" like you call yourselves don't think age.They play their game.A "small" girl can now slice throat better than an evening "newspaper".Street is a jungle,learn early,succeed early is the code.While the code for the late papers might be to settle and make babies,the younger wants to make money and abort babies.
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Young girls marry old men,it's as old as man.its not new,for financial gains, protection, religious cum cultural reasons and sometimes by choice.Even celebrities from well to do homes still get entangled with older men.Infact being a second or third wife is old fashion now trending...I guess the freedom to still have time to do other "things" while the Alpha feast on other wives shouldn't be underestimate or ignored.There many "unforseen' things going through the tiny brains of many Nigerian wives.Dont be surprised to read they think more about the future than the men.While the men work towards it,they solidify it to their own advantages.
Finally, you'd be surprised why women go into marriages.I don't think majority of Nigeria women marry for love right from the onset.It more often than not what is meritable and available.[/b]

RightToReject:
Maybe you can understand that submission with the following different sentences:

A fair-minded woman (or person) knows that the right to equality/liberty DOES NOT NEGATE/INVALIDATE decorum, therefore understands that adultery is a vice and wrong.

While

A typical opportunistic woman (or person) believes that the right to equality/liberty NEGATES/INVALIDATES decorum with a mindset like "what I choose to do with my body is my right," which gives rise to a vice like adultery.

Well, this was exactly what I explained to a commenter.This equality/Liberty quest is subjective on one's character.It has got different meanings to different characters.While one woman's equal rights means she brings as much as the man brings,and yet still maintain peace and sanity at home,another may think it as an avenue to compete rather than co operate.

talk2hb1:
Big Lie!
If a woman earns equal with her husband she sees herself above her husband,
I am yet to see a woman who is willing to marry a man below her.

I earn more than my man.

There are several men who gets bullied, disrespected and devalued by their own 'housewives'.

RightToReject:
Citing your submission here, it's obvious that you didn't understand my first post.

Explain further please.The discussion is going offline too where I'm as I type,so I'm a bit overwhelmed.

Fresno:
When you tell men that their wives should never have male besties they think we are joking . There is nothing like bestie in any friendship between male and female , 98% of the time besties are usually their fvckbuddies.

It's just so bad that women are very promiscuous this days , I myself have had my fair share of married women, God have mercy on me. I'd still blame the husbands though because when this women narrates what they go through though the narration might be one-sided.

No care, love attention, sexless marriage are some of the things married women go through, their husbands are no where to be found, am talking about well to do women not paupers , but all the same husbands in the house let's love our wives and show them care and attention, if they begin to look outside trust lots of young Guns like me are ever-ready to give them what they want.

I bet you enjoy every bit of it knacking someone's wife .Im not the one to judge as long as it's a mutual affair

But your citations are true with married men's dispositions towards their wives.Lack of love and care tops it all.Many marriages are just too terrible to look at, nothing attractive to make the single get hooked.Little wonder the trend of baby mamaism.I see lots of women who are trying to get out after a kid or two and when they finally do,few years later they are swimming in money they lacked when they were married.

RightToReject:
How you can't find the correlation between someone that believes that right to equality/liberty negates decorum is questionable.

Lol.
Having equal rights ain't a platform that should negate docorum.And ofcourse there are those who sees it as such,but it's not entire the case.Equal rights,especially when it involves a right to play fair ain't bad.A woman who works and earns like a man can still play a good wife and mother regardless.

RightToReject:
It's has always been happening long before this new era. It has only gotten worse in the new era, however, due to the following mentioned and unmentioned factors:

- Easier access to information, contact, and connection.

- Nonsense philosophies being propagated by small-minded elements in the name of wokeness, for example, most men now want to be chosen by a women for a relationship/marriage; wanting to be loved by the women in their lives rather than being the ones to love their women and having them reciprocate through submission as that's where their foretee lie.

- Most women now mistaking equality/liberty for rights to unscrupulousness, while having some men supporting same in the name of wokeness.

Does liberty/equality a platform to commit adultery? Sincerely,I can hardly find any correlation.Like,ok I am equal to man let me commit adultery like my husband doesn't Maje sense to me.I think it's or should character thing, as there are women who just get divorce and decides not to marry again to keep their sanity and focus on themselves and career.

At the bolded.I share same though with you on that

Fiscus105:
I biliv u re op and you talked about married women in ur headline, you also narrated how ur oga smashing married wife of a politician.

If I'm now giving u reasons why married women maybe promiscuous, I dnt think I'm against women.

Wen u know they dnt do it themselves, why you talked about politician wife follow ur boss, did she did it herself too?


Don't be a confused pls and learn how to present argument on a particular post

I'm not confused.
I'm exploring every reasons as to why they do what they do without being biased.When 2 people agree to do something,I think they should share the blame.My only concern is more on the female as to the recent surge in adultery in today's Nigeria.As I speak to you now, a neighbor from TIV tribe is having extra marital affair and it's glaring.The guy comes around even when the husband is around but the husband doesn't know about it.

Now, another question is I want to ask is

"Who sleep with these girls?"

There's this disturbing thing I keep asking myself.Who sleep with this teenagers?I live in a well fenced and conservative environment where kids ofcourse in their teens sit and talk to each other in fields around the estate.They visit each other and go to parties in homes around the estate.

Yes! We see them stroll.While we jug, we can tell they may be dating.Hell, sometimes parents joke with their teens shy display of affection for each other.

But, there's something that's always off at some point.The girls!If a boy of 16 is having sex with a girl of 15,I know.You will still see that juvenile innocence in her.BUT,it's not the case these days.They may be moving with their age but there's a predator who mates them, especially married men who don't care the difference btw a girl who is maturing and one who is matured.The behavior of that teen tells you she is not mating with her age mate even though she moves with them.

Fiscus105:
Many are doing it as a result of nonsense they perpetrated during their teenagers, the immoralities that some ladies committed in the university days, are out of this world, those lifestyles had become addition that it cannot easy let go from head.

Some ladies wen they are in schools did 2some)3some) even sex orgy with guys, how did you expect such lifestyle to just vanish after marriage? Almost impossible.

The lifestyle wasn't done on themselves.This moral decadence was done by both male and female.If the males enjoys 3some, of course there will always be a female who also enjoys it as much as they do.

YinkaOlusesi16:
women dont really know what they want.

Well,our traditional society felt marriage is all women needs.Alas,I found out that Nigeria women are evolving and infact in the most drastic way.
I have a former acquittance, a very very intelligent guy who now lives in Canada with his family who confided in me that his boss,a woman fired him because he refused to sleep with her.She is rich,married and influential.

YinkaOlusesi16:
Every thing is linked to lack of money.

Not entirely true.
In my location here in the FCT, many married rich women sleeps around at will.Infact,my former boss used to sleep with one,a politician wife then in the Estate.She comes around at night,do her thing and drive off.We attend same church and she carries herself well like she does no shit.

EmptyGarden:
They are now WOKE.
As opposed to sticking to a fruit, women now prefer fruit salad.

Hmmm...With cream to taste bro.
But the society is getting really messed up.

Well,it's no news that there is now a surge in women, married women committing adultery in today's Nigeria.Out of 10 adultery cases on nairaland, more than half has got women as the culprit.Infact, only this week on Frontpage,more than 10 cases from nairalanders has been recorded.

Why now?What went wrong? What could be the reasons for the skyrocketing cases of cheating wives?

Revenge?

Bad xxxx?
Economic limitations and the need to keep up financial independence in gender competitive Nigeria?
Domestic abuse and subjugation?
Religious ingenuity by respected clerics?
Age?
Social media and it's larger than life attributes,a platform where disadvantaged persons can paint a picture perfect life and get away with it?

OR?
Has men become really effeminate?

I now noticed this ugly strain in NL, disgusting yet calls for deep reflection.Our men are becoming more and more loquacious than their female counterpart,they complain too much.This bantle of 'bitterness' associated with Nigeria women as been thrown to the men.Its really disgusting to say the least,I think women are supposed to be the talkatives here and not the men.Omo,the rants are getting worst with the males ñot even giving the women chance to express themselves EVEN on threads that are specifically for the women.I believe that it shows there are more jobless men than women in Nigeria.Loads and lot of verbal assault been hurled and women who have now decided to see nothing wrong in being a baby mama or a LovePeddler.Now,many of them glorifies the word.We can see that with the way a lady exposed her white pant in a birthday photoshoot recently.

So many damaged marriages.Single women and men competing in corporations, having illicit Bleep,going home to sleep like nothing happened , resuming next day competing with each other all over again.I have friends in the island who live like this.The married ones still sleep around,the single ones keep late nights with different guys and in all I noticed they value money more than marriage.As long as the money keeps rolling in,Omo _penis no hard to get,na money be de Koko.
And it is what it is.As long as _vagina ain't free,_penis is and so for the women,it's a win win for them You pay to get mine by cash or otherwise,I get yours any damn time I want.So?

Marriage in general is truly overrated.

It will surely get worst.

Lol...
Seems married women are on adultery loose