ellaV:
I am also suspecting that he is a gay but I have got no evidence yet, sometimes he goes out and when he come back he is smelling shit shit I will ask him did you poo he will say no..he will go bath n the odours will go away...I don't just know...God should just help me, name Marry I marry I no kee person

AjiBussu:
From my experiences with the women folk, be careful when listening to their one sided stories [No offense intended]. Everyone is right and blameless when they are the judge in their own case.

Nonetheless, involve ur families since it has degenerated this much.

Klass99:


Koto aye is all part of the meddling in/with people's lives and marriages na.

Trying to go to Ijebu to do what? I hear Ijebu is like the HQ of all things diabolical.

Good luck to anyone seeking solace from the devil, las las na you go wound big time.

An entity that already hates our souls for no good reason.

Kobojunkie:
The woman said her marriage is toxic for her. Hearing from the man won't change how she feels about the marriage now, will it?

And you didn't answer any of the questions I asked you earlier... You would rather she remain in what she describes as a toxic marriage, why?

More than half of Nigerians today where raised by single mothers, many of them abandoned in marriage, are the children worse off for it?

Or do you think children raised in toxic environments grow up better individuals or something??

grafixdon:
Her marriage is toxic for her? Really? If they ask your wife about her marriage, she'd use the same phrase 'toxic'.

A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. On a basic level, any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better can become toxic over time.
https://www.verywellmind.com/toxic-relationships-4174665

Kobojunkie:

Go back and reread her complaint to see how and what she described is a toxic situation..
So, now, will you answer abeg?

grafixdon:
E be like say you just get married. You never get to much experience. Proof me wrong, your marriage never reach 4years

Kobojunkie:

You don't seem to care about the OP'S plight at all do you. Your concern is instead using marriage as a sort of reason to cover up for the genuineness of her complaints.

Anyways... moving on now.. whenever you get around to answering the questions, let me know.

grafixdon:
Baba, I asked the op if her husbands foot 95% of the bills and she answered in affirmative. The man might not have enough to set her up (business wise) but she assumed he has millions. Assumption sometimes ruins marriages. No be the man buy her the phone she dey use now?

Kobojunkie:
I don't follow! What does it matter if her husband foots 100% of the bills in the home?

She complained that he attacks her efforts at getting a job of her own and had openly spoken of how he engineers her lack of growth. Essentially, she believes she is unproductive as an individual and her husband is to blame for it. So why ignore the bulk of her complaints only to fixate on what seems meaningless to her in this?,

She is not even a child - not that I believe children should be disrespected in any way or form - so why pretend her complaints are not worth paying any mind?

StPete:


I'd be very willing to divorce a woman like you who would readily go to a pastor or juju in place of proper logic and reasoning

heniford2:
if he opens business for you now u will start overiding him insulting him so baba wan manage u if u feel u can't cope file divorce ungrateful house wife

grafixdon:
OK bro.

ellaV:
lol...your so single, I came here for solution not arguement, kindly check the next topic...tnxs

ellaV:
Can you explain what you mean by "my mother that did omogwo for me was not given the things meant for her..you will not understand"

ellaV:


I have been praying, but it's looking like the more I pray the more he gets worst, a lady Neighbor of mine I told my problems to told me to follow her to ijebu that my case is moi moi... am seriously thinking of going because I have suffered alot

ellaV:
well it's true cos he always goes to her for advise instead of me his wife, whatever she says it's what's he will do, so tell me why I should not believe it's true

ellaV:
I am married to a man for 6 years who goes about telling anyone whose cares to listen that he is not the marriage type and family guy..we have two kids,he doesn't want to set a business up for me,give me money for upkeep,or give me money to start my Masters...this is someone that has millions as savings and I borrowed 20k from access bank since last year March he can't give me money to pay...I decided to work, 3 months to the work,I was dropped I did my findings,someone came to testify negatively about me to my boss and that was it...I apply for jobs,a contradicting mail will be sent to the company and i won't be calledi,I graduated with 2:1...my husband buys my phone and it's only him that has access to my mail,i asked him if he did that he said no, but I know it's him...as am talking to you know everyone in my area has light since 4 days ago because we use prepaid meter,light has finished, he is not moved that we are in darkness? He traveled for a job since 5 days ago and he don't care,there is so much I want to say but let me not bore you...I feel unproductive and stucked in this marriage, pls what should I do? I went to church and I was told his mum is in the water kingdom and tied him to herself that he only listens to her and whatever I say means nothing, all he does is sleep with me , that's all, if you knew me when I was single , you will be in awe to see me now...what should I do pls?

Pierocash:
then I advise you visit another church like winners, or MFM. That your pastor is not a serious pastor.

If you are in Ph, I can recommend one for you

Richy4:

ellaV:


I have been praying, but it's looking like the more I pray the more he gets worst, a lady Neighbor of mine I told my problems to told me to follow her to ijebu that my case is moi moi... am seriously thinking of going because I have suffered alot

ellaV:


I have been praying, but it's looking like the more I pray the more he gets worst, a lady Neighbor of mine I told my problems to told me to follow her to ijebu that my case is moi moi... am seriously thinking of going because I have suffered alot

henmaris:



Lol � � � from pastor to where? The confusion is real indeed

ellaV:
I am married to a man for 6 years who goes about telling anyone whose cares to listen that he is not the marriage type and family guy..we have two kids,he doesn't want to set a business up for me,give me money for upkeep,or give me money to start my Masters...this is someone that has millions as savings and I borrowed 20k from access bank since last year March he can't give me money to pay...I decided to work, 3 months to the work,I was dropped I did my findings,someone came to testify negatively about me to my boss and that was it...I apply for jobs,a contradicting mail will be sent to the company and i won't be calledi,I graduated with 2:1...my husband buys my phone and it's only him that has access to my mail,i asked him if he did that he said no, but I know it's him...as am talking to you know everyone in my area has light since 4 days ago because we use prepaid meter,light has finished, he is not moved that we are in darkness? He traveled for a job since 5 days ago and he don't care,there is so much I want to say but let me not bore you...I feel unproductive and stucked in this marriage, pls what should I do? I went to church and I was told his mum is in the water kingdom and tied him to herself that he only listens to her and whatever I say means nothing, all he does is sleep with me , that's all, if you knew me when I was single , you will be in awe to see me now...what should I do pls?